#SafeShipping

[bunny-lovers]

Imagine your f/o hugging you after a long time of not seeing you:

They missed you so much, spending so many days, weeks, months or maybe even years of longing to see you again, that when they did they just couldn't help themselves.

They swept you off your feet into a tight embrace, squeezing you so tight that you make a little noise from being deflated. They bury their face into crook of your neck and murmurs quietly, just for your ears alone, how much they missed you.

Your f/o loves you so much having you gone was like having a piece of themselves misplaced, it made their heart heartache to not have you by their side. They love you so very much. even if they're normally expressionless, the relief of having you back is too much to contain.

They're home now in your arms!

proship/darkship/neutral DNI

[luv-n-chaos]

December 20th Is Upon Us!

Since Sonic 3 is coming out today, I'm going to be blocking all the Sonic 3 tags so I don't get spoilers. Looking forward to discussing the movie with you all when I get the chance to see it after Christmas! I'm super excited! :D

[emceescha]

i ❤️ f/os who " dont get personal " (this does not apply to me though because i am the exception and they love me sooooo much forever)

pr*ship c*mship etc dni

[fitzselfships]

They always seem to know just when Wafflez needs to be reminded that they Are loved <3

Proshippers/adjacent dni. 100000 shark attack 🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈🦈 also Zooble self ship doubles dni

[stanfordpinesenbyhusband]

I fall in love too easily I keep adding so many characters to my f/o list

Pro.shippers/com.shippers DNI please

[sophisticatedheart]

Dude I fucking love gay people

🎨 — jeremy__exe

[selfship-confession-void]

"Isn't Enemies to Lovers proship" Nope! Here's Why (+ Explaining Strawmen)

Proship/comship/neutral/darkfic DO NOT interact!! This post is not and never will be for you, stay away from me.

So I got this question as an anon but the ask just disappeared 😭 anyways I feel like this is a good topic to tackle because this shoddy argument is thrown around a lot

Short answer: No, but it can be depending on the execution

Long answer: Enemies to lovers as a trope isn't inherently toxic, but if it's handled wrong then yes the relationship would be abusive and ergo would be proship. But just because it CAN be handled poorly doesn't mean it's AUTOMATICALLY toxic and bad on principal

More under the cut:

I've had people I've hated who I later warmed up to. Happens all the time, that's life, you're not gonna like everyone. But that doesn't mean we abused one another or made one another's life a living hell. If you're thinking about ETL (Enemies To Lovers) in the context of the Enemy being this ruthless tyrant who tears down the MC at every opportunity, ruins their life, and overall makes the MC severely harmed from their actions: yes, that is abuse. THAT relationship would be proship.

But that's what I call BookTok ETL, cause BookTok is where it's most normalized (and let's be fr, they normalize proship stuff ALL THE TIME). BookTok ETL is specifically different from general ETL cause most interpretations of the trope are written by people who know there's a line between flirty angry banter and actual harmful interactions. Any sane person who loves the trope will tell you there's definitely a limit and that it becomes gross and uncomfortable when that line is crossed.

And, what I find important to emphasize: every trope CAN be toxic if done wrong. Childhood Friends to Lovers can be unhealthy if the childhood friend in question is a thoughtless shitbag and torments the MC. Coffee Shop AUs can be toxic if it's someone harassing an essential service worker the whole time. I've experienced media that's made me love tropes I usually don't care for just as much as I've seen media do a trope I love so badly that the relationship is a cesspit mess that I wouldn't ever dream of supporting.

My point here is judging a general and inherently harmless trope just based off of the idea that it could sometimes maybe be portrayed as toxic, doesn't mean the trope is on principal bad/toxic/gross. "But what about hero x villain?"— same rules apply. If Villain is terrorizing Hero or the ones they love so badly that it gives Hero trauma or deeply negatively impacts them in a scarring way, that is abuse and no one should argue that it isn't. But the trope can also be lighthearted and sweet, depending on the way it's handled.

Now onto my second portion:

What is a strawman?

A strawman is directly defined as "an intentionally misrepresented proposition that is set up because it is easier to defeat than an opponent's real argument". The very question of attributing harmless tropes to abuse romanticizing proshippers is a strawman. An argument that's meant to seem like a "HAHA GOTCHA" to people who don't sit and think for more than two seconds on how you're literally grasping at straws. This ties into a common trend of proshippers trying to worm their way into everything.

Let me be blunt: proshippers did NOT and never have invented shipping, selfshipping, fandoms, or anything of the like. They like saying that as an imaginary "gotcha" card to the rest of us, just claiming with zero proof or evidence to have invented online spaces because that's easier to argue over than the fact that they're supporting actually disgusting things. 9/10 they just wanna piss people off and then flood them with harassment when the person points out the obvious holes in their argument (pretty ironic coming from the "we don't support harassment!" crowd by the way)

So, to reiterate and be as clear as possible; no, enemies to lovers and hero x villain aren't proship. They can BECOME proship if specific portrayals are done in a very toxic way that make the relationship abusive, but any trope can be represented horribly, so no it does not automatically mean the trope as a concept is proship. Claiming it is is a strawman argument largely used by proshippers because they're deflecting from what they're actually doing wrong and trying to grasp at straws to "epically own the stupid antis" or something like that

Ty for reading

[bunnys-lil-hideout]

Things that your F/O(s) do(es) NOT hate you for:

being unemployed/barely making money

not having a drivers license yet/being too scared to drive

not having any friends/only having a small group of friends

having no social life/being physically or mentally unable to have a social life

being homeless/having to live with roommates to make ends-meet/still living with your parents

being a virgin/not being that experienced

having been with multiple partners

your past/current trauma

your looks/weight/height

your disability/illness

your bad habits/routines/boundaries

your life

you

[bunny-lovers]

Shout out to self shippers who:

Have headcanons about their f/o that goes against fanon! Your perception of your f/o doesn't need to be tied to other people's interpretation, just go with whatever feels right for you!

Have headcanons about their f/o that goes against canon! Your ideas won't erase anything in canon, no harm done in having fun and creating your own perspective of your f/o!

Have overly specific headcanons for their f/o! Your attention to detail and ideas are wonderful and your f/o feels so very loved every time you add your own thoughts into their existence, because they're carrying something that makes you happy along with them!

Project onto their f/o! Your f/o will always be honored to share traits with you, regardless of how you may view them on yourself. They love being embed with your essence and care!

Your headcanons are valid and your f/o absolutely adores each and every single on of them, because you make them feel special!

proship/darkship/neutral DNI

[ponyuyu]

I don't know who needs to hear this right now but

That fictional old man does love you

He has such a soft spot in his heart for you

(Not for pro//shp stop touching this or i'm gonna tell the feds to check ur hard drive)

[kynibyou]

if you think it feels embarrassing or cringe to get excited and giddy about ur f/os… you shouldn’t, because ACTUALLY— i saw ur f/o giggling and kicking their feet while looking at pictures of you SO…

[selfship-stamps]

Purple Fictional Other Stamps!

Free to use, no credit needed!

["Pro/com/dark"shippers and neutrals DO NOT TOUCH. These are NOT for you. Do not steal them either. Go and make your own. Be original for once, please. I'm begging.]

[stagshipping]

how are you going to self ship with fictional slashers and serial killers but still have proshippers in your dni? does that not sound like a conflict of interest?

[stanfordpinesenbyhusband]

I love finding fanart of my f/o and immediately having to look away from my phone because aaaaaaaaa

Pro.shippers/com.shippers DNI please

[platonic-qpr-selfshipping]

your f/o would love you in every universe btw

[dragon-in-the-woods]

Imagine your caregiver/parent F/O cuddling you to sleep. Maybe they have you on their chest like the lil baby you are. Or maybe they're the big spoon holding their little one close. Whatever way they cuddle you, you can feel safe in knowing that they love you and will always protect you.

Proshippers/variants DNI. Ageplay/ABDL/DDLG DNI.