#SEXLESS

[love2bebeta]

[beta-therapy]

How to Deal with Sadness/Frustration from Rejection

We’ve all been there. We’ve all had a crush on a beautiful woman and wanted to give her the world, only to find out she has no sexual interest in us. Maybe she puts you in the friendzone; or maybe she makes it clear she wants nothing to do with you at all. It’s normal to feel frustrated in these situations, knowing that she probably has a vibrant sex life with other men, yet doesn’t have any sexual interest toward you.

When this happens over and over again, it can make us question our own self-worth: how come so many women have decided that sex is an activity which is off-limits to me? Do my sexual needs not matter? How come a woman can be salivating with excitement as she begs certain men to engage her in the most personal of ways—whereas with me, so much as asking if she’s single gets me permanently labelled as a creep?

As society becomes more and more accepting of personal freedoms, (especially regarding women) like allowing people to dress how they want, freely express themselves, do what they want in their own bedroom, etc., there indeed looms an increasing mental health crisis among those men who don’t get included in all the sexual fun. They can feel inferior and isolated. In this blog, I’ll discuss how to handle these emotions.

Although it might bring you feelings of shame, insecurity, and jealousy to find out that women consider you unsuitable for sex, it is important to understand that these feelings are rooted in misogyny. It is an outdated, oppressive idea that the goal of a man’s life is to acquire dominance, status, power, and wealth; and use this prestige to seduce beautiful women. This idea is so evil because it views women as beauty objects rather than equal human beings. Women are not trophies.

Women are full human beings with no less intelligence, leadership abilities, creativity, and dignity than the men who forced them to be quiet and submissive for all human history. A lot of men still refuse to acknowledge this today. They want to keep seeing women as less intelligent, less capable, submissive homemakers whose value comes from their sexual beauty.

That sexy woman you know probably does have a passionate sex life, but you should strive to admire her as a person: smart, strong, kind, witty, dignified. She can still have all these great qualities to her even if she has zero sexual interest in you. Considering her a “sexy woman” is—in and of itself—toxic masculinity at work. Why is “sexy” the first trait that comes to your mind when it’s clear that her sex life is off-limits to you? Maybe she is sexually submissive in her bedroom, but why should that concern you? She’s allowed to explore the “feminine” part of her existence in her private life without it subtracting from her value as an interesting, fascinating person in her public life.

You can still be a happy, nice, and fulfilled person even if all the women around you would prefer not to have sex with you. Just because the female community around you doesn’t want you as a sexual/romantic person, doesn’t mean you have been rejected as a person entirely. Sexuality is just one component of the human experience, and it’s very common throughout history for people to be deprived of it.

We have evolved for survival and reproduction, not necessarily to have good morals and be happy. For example, racism is part of our DNA. In prehistoric times, racism helped us stay away from warring tribes, so it was positively selected-for with respect to evolution. But in modern times, we can recognize that racism is a huge problem if we want an inclusive, happy society, and so we must actively denounce this artifact of our DNA.

Our sexuality is much the same way. Throughout history, the evil, abusive, tyrant was always better able to protect his children due to his status and wealth, in comparison to the poor, harmless, gentle, and caring man. That doesn’t mean the evil tyrant was a better person, but it does unfortunately mean that women would evolve a sexual attraction toward higher status, dominant men even if it meant overlooking their moral evil.

As a result, the things women are sexually attracted to are not necessarily the things that are good. You can take solace in this fact. Being sexually undesired by women does not mean there’s something wrong with you, it just means they see you as more harmless and submissive rather than powerful and dangerous.

[footcuck210]

[schizoid-hikikomori]

Nothing turns me on quite like....

Nothing.

[olivescales3]

I still have more pride flags to make!

• Unnamed maned lioness → lesbian aroace

• Longtooth and Leonidas → MLM aroace

• Voomvoom and Vornon → MLM aroace

• Li'ella → AroAce demi-partnering

• Phoenixes → non-binary/agender/sexless

• Lundor → MLM aroace

• Eris → aroace

• Rinona → bi-partnering aroace

[love2bebeta]

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Asexous Pride Flag

Asexosity (asexuation) or asexuous (asexous or asextrous): sexless; without sex; asexual; genderless; agender; not involving sexual intercourse; sexual lifelessness.

Based on asexué (French), and bisexous/bisexuous.

[footcuck210]

[strangebossyuri]

The only thing I like my boobs for is crop tops

[dreamdropsystemarchive]

hey Void i am a sexless genderless gendervoid nonbinary. i consder myself to be trans because i am sexless intersex

[confessionofaboredhousewife]

The damage it does to a woman's psyche to know she's just utterly a slut but trap her in a sexless marriage.

I love sex. Unashamedly. I love the sound of it. The smell of it. The feel of it. The heat of it. The taste of it. The passion of it. I love it.

I haven't had it since May 31st 2021.

DH I'm pretty sure is Ace. The Other has played around the edges but hadn't crossed home.

Meanwhile I'm slowly losing my mind.

[cocoa-tartan]

no idea what that means

[footcuck210]

[confessionofaboredhousewife]

So DH update. We went on a little staycation on Monday and visited a cute little seaside village we've both never been too. It was fun. Did some shopping, had lunch at this over priced seafood restaurant and just kinda acted like tourists. Nothing spectacular.

When we got home DH asked if we could use one of the sex toys that night and I was like caught off guard bc nothing had been remotely romantic or sexual all day. I asked him where this was coming from and he was like well you know we've been together all day. Ummm huh? He genuinely thought that us walking around this village and him telling me I looked pretty at lunch was getting me aroused all day. We held hands crossing the street a few times but that was about it for touching. A couple of quick pecks here and there and he thought he was invited to pound town.

That's how completely removed he is from sexual intimacy and female sexual desire. He thought him saying I looked pretty was going to ignite my fire. Us crossing the street holding hands was gonna make me want his dick. A couple of quick pecks and it was about to be a whorehouse up in this place. He genuinely thought that and was hurt and confused when I told him I hasn't thought about sex at all the entire day. Keep in mind he heard me masturbating the day before so I am thinking about sex.

That's why I know that our marriage is broken and over. I want a man to actually come on to me and know wtf that means.

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