#OpinionTime…. please don’t come for me

[dykeishh]

can’t take fics where ellie is being toxic and disrespectful as fuck…. and when the reader finally breaks things off, ellie comes back and apologizes ONCE (1 time) and the reader IMMEDIATELY forgives her 😭 like STAND THE FUCK UP!!!! 🫵

rare are the fics where ellie shows actual character development to prove she can be a good girlfriend… but alas…

[boyslaveandcatmaster]

hello phandom it’s #opiniontime

You know what I dislike in our community?

How some of the phandom members make everything friendly Dan and Phil do to be Gay and Romantic.

I’m not saying that our boys aren’t gay and romantic, because I don’t know if they are platonic or romantic or both or neither or something in-between. Only People Who Can Confirm The Nature Of Their Relationship Are Dan And Phil, and I’m not comfortable speculating other people’s private lives. 

I’m saying that sometimes friends look at each other, touch each other, compliment each other, tease each other, and live domestic life with each other, and it doesn’t mean that they are secretly dating.

I’m not saying this because I judge shipping though I’m not personally a fan of shipping real people or to protect Dan and Phil from shipping. I’m sure those two adult men can speak for themselves if something bothers them. I’m saying this because the idea that two adult men can’t express their feelings towards their friends without people seeing it as romantic is extremely toxic, and I wish that people would stop spreading that attitude.

Many adult men are touchy and loving with their friends publicly because they don’t care about what other people think (and I support them). Many adult men are touchy and loving with their friends privately because they don’t want to be judged by the society that enforces hyper-masculinity and No Homo attitude (and I support them). Many adult men are never touchy and loving with their friends because they aren’t comfortable with that (and I support them but also encourage them to express their feelings).

I’m not saying that we should all stop joking about their relationship and never have fun shipping. I joke about them being like a married couple as much as I joke about my best friend and I being like a married couple. It’s fun. I’m just saying that some people should take a closer look at their views and actions and recognise the fact that the idea of men not being allowed to seem close if they aren’t More Than Friends is extremely harmful.

And, because someone is surely going to think “I don’t act like that with my friends”, or “They seem more in love than me and my significant other”, I’m just going to add: different people have different kinds of relationships. My best friend and I look way more like a couple than DnP do, but one of my closest friends and I never even hug. Different people, different limits, different preferences.

That’s all I had on my mind right now friends, tell me what you think.

If you disagree you are welcome to fight me (on tumblr, please don’t come to fight me in real life, i’m shamefully out of shape and would probably hurt myself before you had the change to hurt me), see you in the comments or in my ask box.