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theresgloryforyou · 7 years ago

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Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you? Everyone “knows” this. Even children. Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.” She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying. Fast-forward three years, again in a car. This time a 13-year-old refused to believe that when the newly appointed pope was 12 he’d written a “love letter” to the girl living next door. The child insisted stubbornly that the woman, now in the news, had to be a liar because the pope, even as a boy, would not have written a love letter. In both cases, to my children’s bottomless pool of chagrin, I pulled the car over so I could ask the girls why they were so sure that the women’s accounts were not credible. We talked about their assumptions, about who gets to be believed, double standards regarding sex, and how culture portrays women. Fun times with Mom. No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incidence of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact? It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, in doctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, economically crucial labor. ***** So how exactly are we teaching children that women lie and can’t be trusted to be as competent or truthful as men? I mean, clearly, most people aren’t saying “girls and women lie, kids, that’s just the way God built them.” First, lessons about women’s untrustworthiness are in our words, pictures, art, and memory. It’s simple enough to see how we are overwhelmingly portrayed as flawed, supplemental, ornamental, or unattainably perfect. It’s also easy to find examples of girls and women routinely, entertainingly cast as liars and schemers. For example, on TV we have Pretty Little Liars, Gossip Girl, Don’t Trust The Bitch in Apartment 23, Devious Maids, and, because its serpent imagery is so basic to feminized evil, American Horror Story: Coven. The lessons start early, too. Take, for example, the popular animated kids movie Shark Tale, which featured the song “Gold Digger,” a catchy tune that describes women as scheming, thieving, greedy, and materialistic. There is no shortage of music lyrics that convey the same ideas across genres. It’s in movies, too. Consider, for example, the prevalence of untrustworthy mad women, or the manipulative women of Film Noire, and the failure of most films to even allow two women to be named or speak to one another about anything other than the male protagonists. But pop culture and art are just the cherry on the top of the icing on a huge cake. The United States is among the most religious of all countries in the industrialized world. So, while some people wring their hands over hip hop, I’m more worried about how men like Rick Santorum and Ken Cuccinelli explain to their daughters why they can’t be priests. I know that there is hip hop that exceeds the bounds of taste and is sodden with misogyny. But, people seem to think that those manifestations of hatred are outside of the mainstream when, in reality, it’s just more of the same set to great beats. Sometimes, however, there’s a bonus, synchronous two-for-one! Delilah, a renowned biblical avatar of female untrustworthiness, made it into the lyrics of JT Money’s “Somethin’ ‘Bout Pimpin’”: I got a problem with this punk ass bitch I know Ol’no good skanlezz switch out ho An untrustworthy bitch like Deliliah Only thing she good for is puttin’ dick inside her In other words: “Amongst all the savage beasts none is found so harmful as woman.” — John Chrysostom “What she cannot get, she seeks to obtain through lying and diabolical deceptions. One must be on one’s guard with every woman, as if she were a poisonous snake and the horned devil.” — St. Albertus Magnus “Women were made either to be wives or prostitutes.” — Martin Luther “I fail to see what use woman can be to man, if one excludes the function of bearing children.” — Augustine While most religious leaders aren’t going around spouting overtly denigrating opinions about women, many, through default and tradition, casually and uncritically expose children to religious texts that are fundamentally misogynistic. I have to believe that most Sunday school lessons are not concerned with deconstructing, say, the creation story, a seminal text in our culture whether you are religious or not. Religious misogyny is tied to institutional power that ends up in children and women being impoverished and dying. Ideas about women, credibility, legitimacy, authority and—notably—Catholic and Evangelical “priesthood” are important and have deep roots in religious thought and philosophy. And those ideas have contemporary expression (see links): Tertullian: “Women are the devil’s gateway.” Thomas Aquinas: “As regards the individual nature, woman is defective and misbegotten.” St. Clement of Alexandria: “Every woman should be filled with shame by the thought that she is a woman…the consciousness of their own nature must evoke feelings of shame.” St. John Chrysostom: Women are “weak and flighty…For what is a woman but an enemy of friendship, an inescapable punishment, a necessary evil, a natural temptation, a domestic danger, delectable mischief, a fault in nature, painted with beautiful colors?” St. Jerome: “Woman is the root of all evil.” There’s Origen, one of Christianity’s greatest thinkers, a man who castrated himself and who considered women worse than animals. And, not to be left out, St. Augustine. Why focus on these musty, long dead theologians and philosophers? These thoughts are alive and well and have a super long tail outside of religion—think: domestic work, pay discrimination, and sex segregation in the workplace. Every time a young girl can’t serve at an altar, or play in a game, or dress as she pleases; every time she’s assaulted and told to prove it, it’s because she cannot, in the end, be trusted. Controlling her—her clothes, her will, her physical freedom, her reputation—is a perk. Conventional Abrahamic religious thought cannot escape the idea that we have to pay, as women, with lifelong suffering and labor and be subject to the authority of men lest our irrationality and desires result in more evil and suffering. Until religious hierarchies renounce beliefs and practices based on these theologies, these long-dead men, creatures of their time, might as well be the ones repeatedly showing up in Congress to give their massively ill-informed opinions on women’s health and lives. Especially in our political lives. Is it really surprising to anyone that a Santorum staffer said, in the run up to the last election, that women shouldn’t be President because it’s against God’s will? What about the “news commentator” who thinks women shouldn’t be allowed to vote? The Senate candidate who thinks rape is a gift from God? Or the Senator and presidential aspirant who thinks it’s just another form of conception? Or the doctor who thinks women deserve to die for having abortions? How about the nominee for lieutenant governor of Virginia who thinks fetal birth defects are punishment for parents’ (read: mothers’) sins? If women die bearing children, so what, that’s what we’re here for. Even if we insist on not talking about the degree to which legislators’ religious beliefs inform their political actions, it is obvious that they do. An entire political party’s “social policy” agenda is being pursued under a rubric that insists women need “permission slips” and “waiting periods.” The recent shutdown? Conservatives holding the country hostage because they want to add anti-abortion “conscience clause” language to legislation. Whose consciences are we talking about? All the morally incompetent and untrustworthy men who need abortions? It’s no exaggeration to say that distrust of women is the driving force of the “social issues” agenda of the Republican Party. From food stamps and “legitimate rape,” to violence against women and immigration policy. “We need to target the mother. Call it sexist, but that’s the way nature made it,” explained the man who penned Arizona’s immigration law. “Men don’t drop anchor babies, illegal alien mothers do.” I could do this ad infinitum. The pervasive message that women are untrustworthy liars is atomized in our culture. There is no one source or manifestation. It fills every nook and cranny of our lives. I find it sad and disturbing that children learn so quickly and normatively to distrust women. Any commitment to parity means challenging the stories we tell them. It means critically assessing the comforting institutions we support out of nostalgia, habit, and tradition. It means walking out of places of worship, not buying certain movie tickets, closing some books, refusing to pay for some music, and politely disagreeing with friends and family at the dinner table. It’s not easy. But, really, what’s the alternative?

Soraya Chemly, How We Teach our Kids Women are Liars (2013)

#L #she's one of those not radical feminists you could still organize with #she also isn't a sloppy thinker or writer

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grahamfinch1990 · 4 years ago

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molovesvintage · 5 years ago

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This is a continuation of how I moved out of my sharehouse and into my very own apartment in Tokyo. Click here for Part One.

September 2019:

The month of September was spent thus: Every Monday, I’d wake up early, eagerly awaiting a LINE message from my agent. We’d meet up, hit the streets and check out two or three apartments. None of the choices were bad per se, but I guess I was looking for the Goldilocks apartment: I wanted it to be just right. There was a quirky apartment in Shibuya with the largest room but the tiniest bathroom, a chic one in Higashi-Shinjuku that was just outside my budget, and a gorgeous one in Harajuku that was snatched up before we had a chance to apply. Finally, when we met for the fifth time, we headed out to see an apartment in residential Medaimae. Upon stepping inside, I knew it was the one. Maybe it was the charming green wallpaper, the light-filled corner location, or the fact that it was 30 m² and still within my budget. We applied, and I waited, this time not picking up the phone when the guarantor company called. Three anxiety-filled weeks later, I received the news that I had been accepted, and I could move into the apartment in mid-October.

The beautiful green wallpaper in my new apartment

When it came time to fill out the paperwork, I met my agent at a Jonathan’s restaurant (an “American” diner), for what he said would be an hour-long meeting. I didn’t see how something straightforward like signing a contract would take that long, but I blocked out my schedule.

When he arrived, he pulled a huge stack of papers out of his backpack. It hit the table with a dull, heavy thud. This would take a while.

There were multiple contracts, and multiple copies of each contract. The contract with the landlord, with the management company, with the fire insurance company, more contracts than I can remember. Everything was in Japanese, which my agent translated for me. After the contract terms, there were the rules of the apartment: don’t make noise, no pets, no instruments.

“While living in the apartment, you are not to become a member of an underground organization,” he translated.

Don’t join the yakuza while living there. Got it.

October 2019:

When renting an apartment in the United States, one can have certain expectations for what will be included. Usually, the apartment will come with a fridge, oven and stove top, and blinds on the windows. Bonus points if it includes a dishwasher, microwave, or parking space. And if it includes a washing machine and dryer, it is the holy grail of apartment rentals.

But in Japan, “unfurnished” means exactly that – nothing. No furnishings of any kind. Your apartment is essentially an empty box. And if you are going from a furnished sharehouse to an unfurnished apartment, like I was, you will need to find things to fill your empty box with.

While this is a daunting and expensive process, modern living thankfully provides us with a lot of convenient ways to get things to put in the box. And one of those conveniences is in the blessed form of IKEA, which will ship any amount of items in a certain radius for ¥3000. So although I was planning on getting a ton of stuff secondhand, I figured that there were a certain number of items that it would be nice to have delivered upon move-in day, and off to IKEA I went.

Japanese IKEA

Sometimes, life in another country feels like constantly messing up, having to swallow your pride and just go with it. I would have thought, three years into my Japan journey, that this phase would be over, but no; it is a lifelong struggle.

My trip to IKEA was exemplary of this: I got on the wrong bus, and managed to ride it to the end of the line before I finally figured it out. I was pissed off at myself for doing something so stupid and wasting so much time, but what could I do? I figured out which bus I needed and got on, but the 3 hours I’d set aside for my IKEA trip that day was now reduced by half. Have you seen the size of IKEA? 90 minutes is not enough time, but I had to make it work.

Under this time crunch, I attempted to sprint through IKEA, but there were just so many options for EVERYTHING. It was while trying to pick out some cups, that I started to feel truly overwhelmed. There were so many choices to make: what color? Which size? How many? It occurred to me, then, that I’ve never made this many decisions before at one time in my adult life. I’d never truly started living some place from scratch, on my own before; and I’d always had another person to help me decide what I wanted. What did I want? What was I doing here? I grabbed the 6 pack of green cups.

After similar mini-crises over mattresses (foam or spring?) and curtains (length? material? color?) I would eventually make it out alive, only to discover that I’d messed up and bought the wrong type of duvet for the fast approaching winter. I would later return to IKEA and buy another duvet. This one would also be wrong. It was the appropriate one for winter but too small for my duvet cover. I ordered a duvet off of Amazon. It arrived three days later, and was perfect.

If you don’t want to (or can’t afford to) buy everything new, there are some useful life hacks, brought to you courtesy of the wonderful connectivity of Facebook. In Japan, it can be difficult and expensive to get rid of items like furniture or electronics, so foreigners leaving the country are stuck with the quandary of how to get rid of these things. And, say what you will about Facebook, but literally everyone is on it, and it’s a great way to connect with others. Thus, sales groups such as Sayonara Sales Tokyo and Mottenai Japan were born, both of which I used to source second hand furnishings for my new digs. On these groups, people leaving Japan are able to sell or even give away their stuff. Usually the buyer has to figure out transportation and things like that, but the enterprising gaijin can find great household goods for quite cheap or even free. Of course, it requires a good amount of legwork sifting through posts and if you see something you like, you have to act fast – IKEA as a one stop shop is certainly more convenient. But from these groups, I was able to get my fridge, washing machine, dining room table and chairs, a bookcase, laundry poles and racks, and a myriad of assorted kitchen supplies for a fraction of what they would have cost new.

Move-in day was perhaps the smoothest day of this whole journey. I met my agent to get the keys, and walked into my shiny new apartment. I waited around for the gas man and my IKEA delivery. The gas man told me I was beautiful and the IKEA delivery man complimented my Japanese. On the weekend, I rented a tiny Kei truck for a day to pick up my secondhand appliances and move the rest of my stuff out of the sharehouse. I was nervous about driving the rickety little truck, but it was actually pretty fun! Probably the most fun I had during the entire moving experience.

At last, I was in the apartment, but was the journey over? Not quite. . .

Happy Travels,

Tiny Kei truck!

Loaded up with my furniture and appliances

My Moving Odyssey, Part Two This is a continuation of how I moved out of my sharehouse and into my very own apartment in Tokyo.

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aretia · 5 years ago

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Divorce Rates in the US

In this fast-paced, dynamic and high socialized 21st century, social media has penetrated even the highly discrete locations. 86% of the population is on social media implying that 86% of the people have a virtual identity of which how much is authentic, who knows? According to reports, 68% of the communication has shifted to the internet and another way of looking at this is that most of our conversation happens to a social media profile having a virtual existence and its legitimacy is a big question. Now can you expect to find your soul mate amidst such uncertainty and in the United States of America, the people who think they have found there soul mate with whom they will spend a big chunk of their life with, 35%-45% of them end up in a bad marriage and the end result is a miserable Divorce.

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By the middle of the 1960s, the incidents of divorce started to bloom at an extremely terrifying rate and almost doubled in the next 15 years to reach an all-time high record in the history of the United States of America in the 1980s. Even though the long-time trend of divorce rates had been soaring new heights decade after decade from the colonial period, the divorce rates were level for about two decades after the World War 2, throughout the time period of high fertility known as Baby Boom. Since then, it has been on a constant decline from the time period when it peaked to an enormous amount in the 1980s. This trend is described by many experts as ‘levelling off at a high level’. The decline in divorce rates represents a slight increase in marital stability. The probability of divorce has varied considerably among different segments of the American Society, being comparatively higher for the blacks than for whites or even higher in South America than in West America.

Legally, a divorce or dissolution of marriage is a legal process in which a judge or other authority dissolves the bonds of matrimony and terminate the marriage that requires a petition or complaint for divorce. But a divorce is when two love birds come down from the fairyland they created, in which there were only the two of them and lots of love all around. The true test of one’s relationship is when they face adversities and still stick beside each other to support them.

The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

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• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

In 2008, a study conducted by Jenifer L. Bratter and Rosaland B King to examine the risk of divorce if the marriage was cross-communal and they found out that the likelihood of having a divorce for cross-racial couples to the same race couples was comparatively higher due to the added stress of what the people would think and resulted in a higher chance of divorce in particular, this trend was observed in the late 1980s.

In the United States of America, the old psychology of the people to marry, divorce and then repeat led to the unusual growth in the divorce rates to such an extent where 50% of the marriages were doubtful to last more than 5 years. However, times have changed and the modernization of the psychology of the people to think about the rest of their lives before committing and being practical regarding financial issues, communal issues, etc have completely changed the face of divorce rates from upside down. Due to this, the divorce rates have seen an ever so positive downward trend since its all-time high in the 1980s. In 1992, the divorce rate was 68 per 100 couples and since then it has only decreased for good to 46 per 100 couples in 2019. A huge credit goes to this new thinking of the millennial. Unlike the adrenalin junkies who married young regardless of their circumstances, millennials are choosing to marry once they are well educated and have achieved some satisfaction in their respective careers.

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

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• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

However, the financial conditions of the male, post marriage play a determining factor in the occurrence of a divorce or not. Reports say that more than 53% of the wives want the man of their house to be able to support them financially and be financially well off. Therefore, being financially unstable has been proven to be the catalyst to all the matrimonial crashes and reports show that in 66%of the cases, it is the woman who files a divorce case against their husband. Studies also suggest that most of the divorce cases occur in poor families than in rich families. 68% of all the divorce cases are filed by poor families who have lost all hope and want separation, indicating that most divorces stem from the roots of financial instability and unsatisfied desires.

Over the year, the divorce rates have immensely decreased in the United States of America mainly because of the boom in the level of education the citizens of the country. 3 in every 5 US citizens has a Bachelor’s degree and the US high school completion rate reached its new peak last year with an astonishing rate of 9 out of 10 of the adults of the United States of America having a high school diploma. This has immensely benefited the post-marriage conditions and resulted in lowering of divorce rates as the couple are highly unlikely to encounter tremendous financial stress that forms the basis of a long lasting relationship and adding to this, an individual who is under the age group of 35 and without a college degree has only a 1 in 4 chance to stay married for more than 5 years.

All matters related to divorce are under the jurisdiction of different state governments and not the federal government. Hence, different states may have different laws and regarding child custody, Child support, spousal support, distribution of property and debt and the law of the state in which the couple is residing at the time of divorce is taken into consideration. According to the American Law and Economics study, Nevada has the highest rate of filing of divorce followed by Kentucky, West Virginia, and Florida.

Apart from this studies conducted show that 81% of the women with a bachelor’s degree and 67% man with a bachelor’s degree had a chance to make their marriage last up to two decades but if the women had a degree higher or lower then they only had the probability of 40% to make their marriage work.

Also, a fun fact is that the women who lost their virginity before the age of 18 i.e., before they can call themselves adults have a very minimal but a 28 in 1000 chance to be divorced within 7 years of their marriage due to various reasons regarding the wives’ past relationship.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

Marriage rates of youth in the United States of America have plummeted and young Americans are not so keen on tying a knot. Studies show that the average age of a male getting married in the United States of America is 29.5 years and the average age of females getting married in the United States of America is 27 years which is increasing constantly. Complimenting this is the high level of life expectancy that allows the citizens of the United States of America to get married at an older age. While earlier, an older man outnumbered women among married adults in the US, this gap has reduced recently. Now, for every 1000 married men above the age of 60, there are 880 married women compared to 660 women in 1960. Therefore, the marriage rates in the United States of America amongst middle-aged or old males and females has been on an upward trend for the past 50 years and is continuously increasing, which is a testament that all the American are thinking more practically before tying a knot which in turn, result in better companionship from both the husband and wife as soul mates along with marriage for adults after they retire (65 and older) is witnessing a rise from 28% in 2002 to 48% in 2019 and hence, the divorce rates are declining

Another contributing factor to the declining of the Divorce rates is the amount of Americans who have decided to spend the rest of their lives alone without a partner and stay unmarried. This figure has jumped from 25% in 1990 to 38% in 2019 and this gap between the married and unmarried, aligning with the United States of America’s class divide, will keep on growing deeper in the coming decades.

In comparison to the whole world, the divorce rates of the United States of America are on the high end of the list. The United States of America stands 5th amidst other countries in respect of the divorce rates with a 46% divorce rate. At the top of the list stand Luxembourg (87%) followed by Spain (65%), France (55%), Russia (51%) and then the United States of America (46%). The countries that have the least divorce rate include India (1%), Chile (3%), Colombia (9%) so on and so forth. Along with this piece of data, another data justifies the relatively high divorce rates of the United States of America that is, the divorce rates of various major religions in which Christian top the charts with 37% divorce rates followed by Buddhist (30%), Jewish (28%), Islamic (20%) and Hindu (2%). Since, the United States of America is the home to approximately 240 million Christian, the largest population of Christian in a country that makes up almost 62.5% the total population of the United States of America. Hence, this clearly puts more light and logic in the fact that the United States of America has a relatively high divorce rate.

Therefore, the hideous practice of marriage, divorce, and repeat sets up the society for a truckload of unwanted stress and negativity that has large scale implications on the coming generations and the society. Moving forward, more practical and thoughtful decisions regarding marriage needs to be given more value as this doctrine of divorce needs to be curbed for moving forward with positivity.

A well-planned marriage will last for more than a lifetime and will provide the love and respect everyone deserves. Divorce is a serious issue with major implications for spouses, children and the society at large. If we do not prepare our young Americans for marriage and help couples to stay together we will be building trouble for our society and children. Therefore, a new direction needs to be adopted while going forward and partners need to be more carefully chosen. The United States of America needs to work on educating the youth about proper marriages and needs to take serious actions regarding the high divorce rates. The divorce rates have considerably declined over the past decades but there is a long path ahead to be covered to reduce the divorce rates even more.

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Divorce Rates in the US

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The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

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• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

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• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

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When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

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Divorce Rates in the US

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The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

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• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

youtube

• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

Divorce Attorney Free Consultation

When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

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Divorce Rates in the US

The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

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When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

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The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

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• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

youtube

• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

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When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

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Divorce Rates in the US

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The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

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• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

youtube

• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

Divorce Attorney Free Consultation

When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

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Divorce Rates in the US

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The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

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• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

youtube

• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

Divorce Attorney Free Consultation

When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

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Divorce Rates in the US

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The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

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• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

youtube

• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

Divorce Attorney Free Consultation

When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

Ascent Law LLC 8833 S. Redwood Road, Suite C West Jordan, Utah 84088 United States Telephone: (801) 676-5506

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Divorce Rates in the US

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The attributes that may instil divorce are –

• Timing of first birth of a children

• Violence

• Financial Stability

youtube

• Medical History

• Race/ Ethnicity / Caste

• Infidelity

• Weight gain

The millennials are making better marriage choices that those in the past and the following studies are a testament to that-

• Love is the key ingredient for American marriages

About 88% of Americans cite love as a key reason to get married ahead of religion, lifelong commitment or even financial stability.

youtube

• A new wave of thinking regarding remarriages are on the rise. In 2016, 3.56 out of 10 new marriages had a spouse who had said “I do” at least once before.

• 56% of the Americans are 18 or above when they get married which increases their maturity and practical analysis of their soul mate for a long-lasting marriage.

• Love knows no boundaries when it comes to race or ethnicity as one in six newlyweds was from varied backgrounds.

The current trends in the United States of America regarding marriage and divorce rates paint a clear picture of the reason why divorce rates are declining.

Divorce Attorney Free Consultation

When you need legal help for a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

Ascent Law LLC 8833 S. Redwood Road, Suite C West Jordan, Utah 84088 United States Telephone: (801) 676-5506

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Navigating Nordic student life

MBA student, Madelene Johnson shares her experience studying in Norway and explains why everyone should experience a semester abroad.

Why Norway?

Scandinavia are world leaders in a number of areas including happiness, human rights, gender equality and prosperity, which is why I decided to apply to study in Norway. As a young woman in the MBA program, I was curious to learn more about why the attitudes towards women in leadership and gender equality are so positive in Scandinavia. Additionally, Norway has a good reputation for their business practices and are one of the leading countries in sustainability.

The university experience

BI Norwegian Business School is a highly regarded and leading business school in Europe. Like much of Oslo, the BI campus is quite modern and is very different to the Bond campus. I’m taking five elective subjects (equivalent to four at Bond) that are all based around marketing, communications and strategy.

In my experience thus far, the professors are of a very high quality and many of them are well known in Norway for their research and work in the industry. I would be lying if I said that the workload isn’t intense. Generally, I’ve found the academic expectations to be very high and it is quite difficult to get really good grades. My courses are challenging and most require substantial class participation, where we are required to engage in discussions on numerous articles and current affairs related to the course topics.

Settling into Nordic life

Norway is a really beautiful country. It’s much quieter and more peaceful than a lot of the other European countries that I have visited.

There are very few native English speakers (and even fewer Australians - I’ve met one in two months!). Very few people have visited Australia or know where the Gold Coast is, which can make Oslo feel like a very long way from home. The Norwegian people can take a little while to warm up to you, but once they do they are very kind and helpful. Almost everyone speaks at least basic English (and is happy to speak it with you) and generally it’s relatively easy to communicate in everyday life.

One of the upsides to living somewhere that has so few native English speakers is how entertaining it is when people use English words that have a completely different meaning to what they’re intending to say (although usually I’m laughing on my own because no one else realises that it’s incorrect). I have had to explain (more than once) that being congested (referring to a blocked nose) and constipated mean something very different, requesting a favour and a pleasure cannot be used interchangeably, and that in Australia, we wear thongs on our feet.

The accommodation situation

I live in a student village that is about ten minutes by bus to my university. There are many options for student living, however in my apartment I have my own bathroom and bedroom, and share a kitchen and living area with my five roommates (who are also BI students). We are all from different countries but get along very well. Everyone in the student village is really friendly and I have already made many friendships here that I know will last a lifetime. Many of the students on exchange are bachelor students and are younger than I am (around 21), and this is their first time living out of home. Watching them try to cook, do washing and clean for themselves can be very entertaining.

Adjusting to the differences

The most challenging thing about living is Oslo is how high the cost of living is. Food is really expensive and we are spoilt in Australia (I didn’t realise how much) with the quality and quantity of fresh produce available. As Norway has to import most of their fruit and vegetables, the quality is quite poor (and substantially more expensive) than what I’m used to at home. I can recommend that you NEVER take a taxi in Oslo unless you want to fork out $250 for a 20 minute cab ride (I nearly died!). Thankfully, the public transport system is very good so using cabs can generally be avoided. Luckily, the student accommodation rent (for shared living) is comparable to the Gold Coast (however non student accommodation rent is significantly higher).

Something else I’ve found really challenging is the weather (and it’s only going to get worse). It’s only autumn in Norway and it is already very cold, rainy and windy, which makes me realise just how lucky we are on the Gold Coast. Don’t be deceived by the occasional sunny day indicating that it’s warmer outside, because in fact those are the coldest days (as the clouds act as a ‘blanket’, keeping it warmer).

New experiences - personally and professionally

Right now, I’m just over half way through my Exchange program and already I feel that this has been such a beneficial experience for me. I have gained confidence personally and professionally and it has opened my eyes to just how differently Australia operates to other most countries. I think in Australia we are quite isolated from what’s going on in the rest of the world and it’s easy to become ignorant. I’ve always felt very lucky to be an Australian, but it was not until engaging in discussions daily with other students from all over the world that I realised how fortunate we are in so many aspects. This experience has also allowed me to identify things that we don’t do so well in Australia and inspired me to adopt some of the attitudes that other countries use in business (and a number of other areas).

My advice to future exchange students

Finding your feet in a new place takes a while but it’s really worth it once you do. You’re going to have moments where everything is completely overwhelming and you miss the comforts of home, but those moments pass. Be prepared for hurdles, it’s not going to all go smoothly, but it’s all part of the experience. Don’t isolate yourself if you’re feeling homesick, socialising and having fun with your new friends is the best way to get through it.

I would actively recommend participating in an Exchange program and am incredibly grateful that I have had the opportunity to do so.

Studying internationally provides opportunities for you to create a global network of friends, expands your cultural awareness and ensures you will make lifelong memories of your university experience. Discover more about going on exchange as a Bond University student.

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25 Things You Need To Know About Manhattan Before You Move There

Thinking about moving to the City That Never Sleeps? Pack light, grow a thick skin, and prepare for the ride of your life.

Kristin Norton

1. It’s A Proven Fact That Manhattan Is The Center Of The Universe Everything you’ve heard is true. The egos of most New Yorkers are bigger and more inflated than the Yankees’ salary cap. But they’ve earned it. So just deal. If you live there, you’ll end up with one, too. After dealing with all the downsides, it’s only natural to take advantage of the perks. And that’s a pretty big one.

2. Never Call It The Big Apple Go around calling it something lame like the Big Apple and you might as well have a “Kick me, I’m a tourist!” sign on your back. Brooklyn, Queens, Staten Island and The Bronx are all part of New York City, too, but Manhattan is the only borough that is referred to as just The City. Because, again, it’s the Center of the Universe, so there’s no need for further explanation.

3. No One Really Cares About What Everyone Else Thinks The people in Manhattan have heard their share of opinions about their borough and themselves. And they couldn’t really care any less. You don’t like New Yorkers? Join the club. Don’t like New York? Good. Have fun in your small town in Idaho that just got a dial-up connection and stay out. It’s already crowded enough.

4. Welcome! Now Get Out Of The Way If you’re good to their city, Manhattaners will welcome you with open arms. It’s the beauty of living in such an open, diverse place. Everyone is welcome. But while you’re taking everything in, they’re also trying to get to work or get home from work or get to an appointment. You know, life. So, stopping for no reason or taking up the entire sidewalk with a group (keep it single-file, people) is more than mildly irritating and might get you run over.

5. Better Yet, Speed It Up Manhattan has one speed and that’s running late. Living in the City That Never Sleeps means that everyone is overworked, sleep-deprived, and habitually up against a deadline. As this has just become the status quo, everyone is always in a rush, even when they don’t have anywhere in particular to be. You don’t have to win the marathon overnight, but know how to order your coffee before getting in line is all I’m saying.

6. The Neighborhoods Are Like Mini Countries Midtown. Upper East Side. West Village. Chelsea. Greenwich Village. SoHo. The list goes on, but you get the idea. Manhattan is huge –it is an island, after all- and broken up by different neighborhoods with very distinctive demographics. Depending on your personality, you’ll come to visit certain neighborhoods all the time and avoid others like the plague.

7. Don’t Take Any Attitude Personally You’re probably catching on that Manhattan can be a bit bipolar. It’s nothing personal. Have you ever seen how many people are there? It’s difficult not to get annoyed sometimes. But overall, Manhattaners are nice people and perfectly willing to be helpful. If you need directions, ask anyone and guaranteed you’ll get a detailed guide. Show them respect and they’ll give it right back to you.

8. Make Sure The Sticker Shock Is Worth It However expensive you think Manhattan is going to be to live in, double it. Everything is more expensive here, and not just the rent. Make sure you’ve got some padding in your budget for unanticipated expenses which will absolutely occur. Like replacing the soles on your shoes, or going through shoes three times more frequently than you used to and paying a city income tax.

9. Be Prepared To Consolidate So, you think your small house has no closet space? Wait until you see an apartment in NYC. Prepare yourself for maybe one closet that could barely hide Slenderman. And get ready for no dishwasher, and no washer or dryer to clean your clothes. It’s hand washing and Laundromats from here on out, kid.

10. Vet Any And All Potential Roommates Well If you plan on offsetting the cost of Manhattan rent with a roommate, make sure you either have one lined up or you find one right away. If you don’t know your potential roommate, definitely be sure to ask plenty of questions and stalk them online before allowing them to move in – check their profiles, their updates, their photos and work history. Chuck anyone who has readily available pictures of their hangovers posted on social media straight in the trash bin. Chances are, their rent check isn’t as reliable as you need it to be.

11. Sex In The City Is A Bunch Of Bull As is pretty much every other movie or television show based in Manhattan. Your apartment will will probably never be as big as you see, especially based on the jobs that are shown. You most definitely won’t get that cool balcony. And you and your friends will never have available hours in the middle of the day at the same time all the time to grab lunch and cocktails together because you’ll all be, you know, working.

12. Your License Will Essentially Just Become An I.D. Don’t bother trying to keep your car. The traffic alone is enough to send you into the deepest depths of the Pit of Despair. But even if you could bring yourself to fight through the gridlock every day, parking the car might as well be a second rent. Tack the inevitable court-mandated anger management classes on, and it just doesn’t make sense financially.

13. Save Your Feet And Ditch The Heels Since you won’t have a car, you’ll have to get used to walking. And since Manhattan is a rather large city, you’ll be doing a lot of it. But that’s all part of being a New Yorker. It’s great exercise and the best way to get to know the city. Just leave the heels at home. Flats are your best friend in The City.

14. Learn The Subway Quick When it’s too far to walk, the subway will get you there. It’s not without its faults, of course, but it’s an easy, comprehensive, and cheap way to get from one end of the city to the other, including the other boroughs. And the smells eventually wear on you. Don’t worry, tomato juice takes it right out. When you hear the words “It’s showtime!” on the train, it’s not a joke. You really are about to get a show. Whether or not you’re happy about that is up to you. Some people love the subway performers. Other people find them unbelievably irritating.

16. Hailing Down A Taxi Is So 2004 If you do need a car, forget the old taxi system. It’s still fine in a pinch, of course, but it’s outdated and no longer necessary. Sign up for an Uber account where you can request a car right from your phone that will pick you up within minutes, providing you with a tracker of where your driver is and the ability to pay digitally.

17. It Takes A Special Talent To Get Lost Here Manhattan might be big, but it’s one of the easiest cities to navigate. You never have to worry about getting lost if you hop on the wrong train or miss your stop. The streets are laid out in one of the most awesome grid systems in the country consisting of mostly all right-angles and a fool-proof numbering system. So if you’re phone battery dies, all you need to know to get home is simple math, no long division required.

18. You’ll Rarely See Times Square The most iconic sights of Manhattan – Times Square, Broadway, the Empire State Building – these are the places you will more than likely see the least of in the city unless you happen to work near one of them. That’s because they’re congested tourist traps filled with obnoxious people and blaring horns. It’s impossible to get anywhere efficiently near any of them and just isn’t worth the hassle. And Times Square on New Year’s Eve? That’s hilarious.

19. But You Will Be At The Bodega Quite A Bit Bodegas are small convenience stores where you can load up a bag or two of groceries and necessities. You’ve also got Whole Foods, Trader Joe’s, and some great farmer’s markets to shop from, but bodegas tend to get a lot of business because you can find one anywhere and they usually carry a little bit of everything. Walking back to your apartment and up your steps with bags of groceries isn’t everyone’s favorite pastime, surprisingly, so you also have the option of getting an account with FreshDirect and having your groceries delivered right to your door.

20. It Really Is A Concrete Jungle Growing herbs on your windowsill is about as close to a garden as you’ll ever have here. Make sure you’re ready for a future with no yards, no lawns, and very little green in general. Sure, Central Park is huge, but commuting every time you want to see some kind foliage isn’t for everyone.

21. Just Ask The Locals When in doubt over anything, ask a local. You don’t have to have been born in the city in order to be considered a local, although lifelong Manhattanites will argue that point to the death. But really, it’s all semantics. Just find someone who has lived there for a while and they will be more than happy to give you the inside scoop on everything you want to know, including the best coffee spot and where to go if you need new shoelaces.

22. The Bad Is Outweighed By The Food Sure, Manhattan living is no picnic. But you’re free to stage a picnic at any time and, as luck would have it, you’re in the city with the best food in the whole world. Although a bit opinionated, that statement is filled with only slight hyperbole. The restaurants, bakeries, farmer’s markets and food trucks here are some of the best and most diverse you can find anywhere. And perhaps you’ve heard of New York style pizza. It’s like a Ron Burgundy big deal.

23. Leaving The City Feels Like Leaving The Planet Once you have lived in Manhattan for a length of time, you’ll be amazed at how strange leaving feels. It does actually feel like you’re traveling to another world. You become so accustom to the crowds and the noises, the fun and the liveliness, the good and the bad, everywhere else could ever compare.

24. You’ll Know About Everything Before Everyone Else Manhattan almost always knows what’s up before everyone else in the country does. It’s just another perk of being the Center of the Universe. Fashion that is trendy in The City will be the same fashion trends that are picked up in Boise a year –or more- later. You’ll rarely be behind the times, earning you an infinite level of cool points to make up for that time you tripped over the cat sleeping on the floor of the bodega and sprained your ankle.

25. All Your Out-Of-Town Friends Will Use You As A Free Hotel And Tour Guide All your friends who told you that you were crazy for moving to Manhattan will be the same people who will be calling you up, eager to visit. And when they do, they’re going to want to crash at your pad and expect you to take them everywhere. Literally, everywhere.

26. If You Can Make It Here, You Really Can Make It Anywhere Manhattan is an eclectic, amazing, overwhelming and sometimes tiresome city. Sometimes you will want to yell that you live in the world’s greatest city from the rooftops. Other times, you’ll feel defeated by it and wonder why you ever wanted to be a New Yorker. It’s normal. But the feeling almost always passes and when it does, it builds a little more Manhattan character. And that’s when you can officially call yourself a New Yorker. Maybe even Superman.

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