#OH. and goofballs. but lots of overlap again

[ducktracy]

I NEVER POSTED THIS but in April i made a favorite character bingo for fun. some spaces i feel i was just trying to find something to fill in but i think this accurately reflects my tastes

alternative:

[aaronbleyaert]

How do you build enough confidence to know that you deserve someone amazing? I'm worried the reason I'm alone is because deep down, I don't deserve anyone.

I have a lot of friends who are women. One of my friends - my good GOOD friends - is very attractive. She could be a model, if she wasn’t also a SCIENTIST. Crazy, right? She’s also fucking hilarious. Total package. I mean, holy shit. 

Except.

Except.

Except that she’s never alone. She hasn’t been single since - maybe 8 years ago? For like a week? She’s always dating somebody. She goes from guy to guy (sometimes with a bit of overlap) - which would be fine, except no guy ever makes her happy for long. Why? Well, because she always ends up hating one person in the relationship: Herself. We have had mannnnny drunken nights where the two of us pour out our hearts to each other, and her thing is always exactly how you feel: She doesn’t think that she deserves anyone. So if SHE doesn’t have the self confidence… Why should any of us? Right? I mean, I’m an awkward dumb goofball who, literally 10 minutes ago when I was ordering an omelet just had a girl say “I like your watch! It’s… Weird.” and then as I was saying “Thanks” a tiny bug flew right into my nose and I went to hit it out of the air and fucking SLAPPED MYSELF IN THE FACE.

It hurt. But I digress.

There’s this great 80s movie called “Say Anything”. The movie is this classic Cameron Crowe coming of age tale starring John Cusack and Ione Skye - well worth a watch. John Cusack’s character Lloyd Dobler is this kind of ultra positive loser who’s trying to, against all odds, date the hottest girl in school, Diane Court. The movie is great showing how both of them, independent of their social status at school, have the same kinds of fears and insecurities and life problems. Anyway, there’s one scene in particular that always sticks in my mind: Lloyd is talking to his older sister (played by his real life sister, the amazing Joan Cusack), and she’s being super shitty to him. Finally, Lloyd just says “How hard is it to decide to be in a good mood, and then just… Be in a good mood?”. And she replies, through gritted teeth, “Gee. It’s easy.”

Boom. That’s it. 

Happiness is a choice. Sure, sometimes great things happen that make us happy, but for me, day to day happiness comes from me choosing to be that way. Most of my job is to give notes on videos and pick apart jokes and tear things apart to make them better - so believe me when I say that I can find the smallest fault in literally anything. It’s what I’m great at. But that’s not how I want to live my life. I think a lot of people think that happiness is this big pink cloud that kind of floats around, and if you’re lucky enough, it might drift over you from time to time and rain down kittens and lollipops and oh gee whiz you might get to be happy once in a while if Life decides to work out that way. 

Fuck that.

*I* will choose when and where I get to be happy, thankyouverymuch - and I make that choice to be happy as often as fucking possible. Why wouldn’t I?

Real world example: I am currently sitting at a cafe typing this (after slapping myself in the face in front of a hot girl, remember), and I just got an omelet delivered to my table. It’s kind of cold. Now, am I going to be upset that I paid something like 10 dollars for an omelet that’s not as hot as I would like? Or am I going to choose to rejoice in this DELICIOUS piece of thick ass toast that I’m treating myself to this morning? The toast, obviously. And that’s choosing to be happy. 

There are a thousand little moments every day where you can choose to be happy. These are all opportunities to make your life great. Take them. By empowering yourself to be happy, by choosing to see your life in a positive way, you will build your self confidence. Start doing it. It’s like a goddamn magic trick. Fuck the pink cloud.

I wrote this on here a while ago, but I’ll write it again: Here’s something I do every day that’s EXTREMELY STUPID AND EMBARRASSING, but it’s great and it works: Every morning, I’ll say something nice to myself in the mirror. I change it out about once a week, but it’s something I do every day. And it’s small: recently, it’s been “You smell pretty” (I got this new deodorant that I’m really into). Last week it was something I’m not going to repeat on here about my arms looking good. Getting into the habit of being nice to myself has been a great thing. So try it! You will feel fucking stupid as hell, and the first dozen times you will probably laugh at yourself for being a dumb idiot, but it WORKS. Eventually the nice words will sink in. Being happy is a choice, being positive takes hard work, but it all pays off. Trust me. You’re a dope person with a lot to offer - so realize it. And once you realize it, and believe it, you won’t be able to keep the suitors away.