#My sister has entered her I'm an empath phase and it's sad

[ruthfully]

Actual serious question: why is it specifically people high in narcissism/poor with theory of mind reasoning that describe themselves as "empaths'? Like it's not just average people, it's people who are actually pretty bad at empathy. I keep seeing this. Is it an insecurity thing? Are there other phenomena where people who are really bad at something defensively start identifying as being really good at it by focusing on their rare successful moments? Are people mistaking hypervigilance or poor emotional boundaries as empathy, while the traumatized development of hypervigilant people tends to negatively impact their actual theory of mind?

I feel like the most insightful replies are going to come from people who previously called themselves an empath and grew out of it.