#Male Dominate Culture

[trektown]

I was at a Wrath of Khan 40th anniversary screening in cosplay, and an older woman came up to me and said “I love your costume, I used to dress up with my girlfriends to watch Star Trek when I was your age” and holy shit. It hit me. I’m part of the FOURTH generation of female Trek fans. I’m part of their legacy. Anyways I got really emotional

[fluorescentbrains]

it doesn’t “seem correct” because of the sexism goggles hope that helps

[hadesoftheladies]

one thing the barbie discourse really highlighted for me was how men equate having humanity as being dominant, hence, whenever women are dominant and men subordinate, men insist that men are being persecuted, hurt, or oppressed.

that's why they think that matriarchy would be violent. that's why they're so offended and vitriolic when women dare to assert themselves in any way (or denounce femininity and subjugation). to be a human man is to be dominant. there can be no other definition. so if a man isn't dominant then he is suffering and his humanity is under attack.

women cannot suffer in subordination because that's what being a woman is. so if women are beaten, raped, humiliated, barred from education, women cannot feel injustice because to be woman is to be inhuman. like animals, we do not recognize or feel things like suffering. we do not crave things like dignity. so men haven't done anything wrong by subjugating us. not really. they can't do anything wrong because we don't have a developed sense of morality, so their morality cannot be applied or meaningful to us.

but what men fear isn't women dominating them, they fear men dominating them. because they know what dominance does to a man. it may complete him, but it also makes him dangerous to his competitors. that, and their entire world is male-centric. so when they view women in power, they view them not as women, but as women becoming men.

that's why barbies ignoring kens is egregious and the idea of matriarchy frightening. they cannot imagine it outside patriarchal and masculinist culture. they cannot believe that a woman would not want to rape or kill or pillage once in power. human, after all, means male, so if a woman became human, it would have to mean she thought, acted, dressed and behaved as men did.

they are too afraid to admit to what that would mean about themselves. if the woman, the animal, can feel and have a moral sense, if they can understand and experience suffering, then the humanity of the man is in question because as someone with a supposed moral sense and enlightenment, he has been the one oppressing them, cruelly cutting them down without thought (that is mind). he is the inhuman one. now the man must question god, he must question his integrity and sense of innocence and identity, he must begin to wonder if he or any man is truly even redeemable.

and then they'd have to face guilt. and with that guilt torment. and with that torment, they would see that the only way to begin to live with themselves is rebel against the system, side with women, and that would mean marking himself as woman, as animal, to other men.

as viable for the slaughter

for if he is rejecting dominance, he is rejecting male humanity, divinity and authority, he is forfeiting his right to be treated as human by other men.

and not many men in history have ever been willing or brave enough to do that. so instead, they insist that animals are bloody and violent and mindless (despite the fact that there are no animal-created human farms) and that women would be just as bad, just as wicked, once they had power, once they became human.

in other words, once they became men.

[aggressionbread]

the problem with competitive gaming spaces is i want to be treated like a person, not a woman, and unfortunately there is a distinction that i've been made to feel

[ohwolfling]

analyzing a possible root of the Dudes Against Astarion movement

[maretriarch]

rereading chobits again.......one of the most unfairly hated animes of all time!!!

[gaybaseball-fan]

[xrosevoidx]

thinkin about trent crimm and roy kent parallels.

[pinkfey]

me trying to explain to cishet men that playing video games is a boring baseline interest for them because all men play video games and they need to develop a personality beyond being a gamer if they ever want to be taken seriously or considered their own unique person and not just another part of the male hivemind that is gaming

[aspirationalpeony]

I have some silly nitpicks about the show and its writing, but one of my frustrations is season 2, episode 15, "Fire."

I really love a lot of the episode, but I found it really frustrating the way that Melissa's experience of misogyny was treated as inauthentic or outdated. She grew up in the 60s and 70s when the barriers for women entering male-dominated workforces, like firefighting, were even higher than they are today. And even today, as of 2021, less than 5% of United States firefighters are women.

I thought it was very good that they showed Jacob empathizing to a degree and wanting to do something to help Melissa feel included. But the way that their conversation during the fire safety meeting played out left me with a bad taste in my mouth, especially because this is one instance where their typical roles are reversed: in this conversation, Melissa is treated as the excessive, overly-political one, whereas Jacob is the voice of reason.

By casting Jacob in this role, the show was saying, "Look, even crazy, super-political, hyper-sensitive Jacob thinks Melissa is exaggerating and absurd!" It seems to me that this was done in order to suggest that misogyny is "over" to some extent, and that Melissa is holding an unreasonable grudge, rather than being accurate in her assessment of a 95%-male workforce and culture. Even male firefighters have pointed out the massive problems with misogyny and sexism in fire departments, and the fact that that <5% of women deal with deeply embedded sexual harassment and gender-based discrimination.

I love and value the show very much but this was one situation where it felt very off. In essence, it set Melissa up as a straw feminist, making unreasonable, inappropriate comments, so that she could be batted down and dismissed, and kind of thrown a treat in the end, to make her shut up. It was disappointing. 😔

[theresa-of-liechtenstein]

man i’m still so hung up on the way that this professor handled music in the philippines. there were Choices made and though i agreed with a few of them, i found most of them straight up fucking baffling and it was disheartening to not feel heard or invited to contribute to the discussion despite this subject matter being uhhhhhhh my fucking lived experience just because i didn’t pay a twenty dollar membership fee to the fil-am org

[stephantom]

what didn't you like about it, out of curiousity?

Hmm I’m gonna have to think on it it some more and come back to you when I’ve managed to articulate something

[timelesslords]

Played FIFA again for the first time since 2020 and maybe Barbie has just filled me with feminine rage but the fact that you can only do one major function of the game (tournament mode) with female players and it only has national teams, whereas the men’s side has tournaments, career mode, street mode and a million more things with like 70 different clubs is genuinely so painfully infuriating to me. It’s so obviously an afterthought. You lose 70% of the functionality of the game if you want to play with female players and the only mode you can use is so repetitive and gets old so quickly. And their excuse being that “there’s no consumer demand” is such bullshit!!! If you actually put effort into developing the female side of the game maybe your consumer base would expand to include the people you’ve been ignoring to the point of insult this whole time

(I know they’ve improved somewhat in FIFA23, this is mostly my experience playing FIFA20, which is only a few years old so I feel like my frustrations here are still valid. Also you still can’t play career mode in FIFA23 with women teams, just manager mode and kickoff which is a step up from before but barely)

[gaybaseball-fan]

“If it be your will that I speak no more. From this broken hill all your praises they shall ring”

I’m not shutting up it’s ironic juxtaposition of radical song with a radical feminist reference!!!

[blackvahana]

Ugh. Honestly? Lev asking (emphasis on ask.) me to veil when we go out in public as a sign of claiming and being one of his spouses... the territorial "you're my (partner) so you should veil for me"... one of the most beautiful instincts. I'm wearing a hell of a lot of black now with the veil that kinda borders on victorian widow aesthetic, but there's something insanely. beautiful? Really no other word for it. about being veiled for him

[kingfeet1]

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