#Like too many of y'all are comfortable denying Black women love interests and it shows on the daily.

[thatspookyagent]

It always gets me how like when it comes to ships that specifically include Black women in them, white folks especially white queers will always search for a reason or scene that proves that the other person who isn't the Black woman and is involved in the ship is actually gay or for some reason wouldn't want to be in a relationship with said Black woman or just Black women in general.

Basically white people will try to pull out every headcanon or in reality, excuse that they can out of their assses to convince other fans n such that the relationship between a Black woman and white man is actually just wlw/mlm solidarity, or that they're just platonic friends, or worse yet that the Black woman doesn't need a relationship cause she so strong. And before y'all whine, I am all for platonic relationships and queer solidarity. And no not EVERYONE wants to be in a relationship. But this is different. The intentions behind why white people will do this in fandoms with relationships that specifically include Black women in them is fueled by misogynoir and anti-Blackness.

Y'all are stripping Black women of our right to have our own relationships and love interests, y'all also can't stand seeing us in m/f relationships (which aren't inherently a "cishet thing" btw) that aren't purely white centric and (depending on the ship) are actually portrayed/written in a healthy, non toxic, and non fetishizing manner. Black women aren't even allowed to fall in love and g-dforbid we fall in love or show any sort of affection towards a hot white man, cause y'all will lose your collective shit.

Also I'm not even getting into how y'all will perpetuate the "This Black woman is so strong that she doesn't even need a man!" stereotype to the point to were seeing a Black woman being vulnerable is something that leaves you absolutely flabbergasted cause y'all are so used to seeing us in a masculine and strong light. Especially with brown and dark skinned Black women. As if we don't have emotions, don't struggle, don't have breakdowns, or even have emotional issues like the white characters who are allowed to have all of those things and gain development from them.

And on top of that, we also get erased from fanfiction, from headcanons, from otps, gif sets, edits, I mean you name it. Meanwhile literally any random white girl or even white man who breathes in the direction of the white man who's obviously with said Black woman, is suddenly in an overwhelming amount of headcanons, shipping theories, fanfics, etc, that are dedicated to a white man and (essentially) a stranger or worse yet, sometimes an enemy meanwhile neither of them even have an ounce of chemistry with the white man nor do they have literally any interest in one another.

I'm just so tired of it. And personally I'm all about platonic relationships and queer headcanons as much as the next person but NOT at the expense of dehumanizing Black women. Besides where is that energy when it comes to headcanoning the Black woman as queer? Where is that energy for upliftment of relationships when it comes to a Black woman finding a man she loves and he happens to be white? Where is that energy that makes you cry "I ship it!" or makes you want to make gif sets of them whenever the Black woman and white man are flirting with each other or healing together from past emotional scars? Don't think that I and other Black women within fandoms don't notice this. We do and we're tired of the bullshit. Tighten up.