#Like sometimes I ask myself such stupid questions istg I feel so so so stupid

[mylove-thresher]

Sometimes I think I’m just fucking stupid 😭

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

hello aryan! do you have any tips on making friendships in general? especially with other queer people? thank you so so much :DD have a nice day!! - 🧶 anon

Hi anon :D

In general:

literally just be yourself. i know it sounds stupid but i’ve learned, if you have to fake shit to be around “cool” people then it ain’t worth it. people u can be yourself around are the people who will make you happy.

say hi. reach out. i used to be closed off and shy but then i realised that we are all desperate for love and the only way to attain it is by embarrassing yourself by asking for it. say hi to the person at the bus stop, wish the security guard a good morning. ask that one classmate how their day was, wave to the regular at the coffee shop. genuinely, reach out. you’ll be surprised how many friendships can grow from this.

tell people nice things you think about them. tell that one acquaintance their outfit looks nice, tell your classmate you’re proud of them for doing well on their test. tell that person they’re a good singer, tell that friend they’re awesome at art.

generally, just be a nice person. i’ve been working on myself trying to make myself a better person and it’s often thankless work no one notices but people gravitate towards you, people come to you for comfort and i’ve found that sometimes it’s the most rewarding thing of all when someone tears up and tells you you’re the nicest person they know, when someone whispers a soft “thank you” for helping them through a breakdown. help others, comfort others, be there for others. be the person who holds the door open, be the person who helps with assignments, be the person who texts “how’re you holdin up, i know it’s been a tough week, i’m here for you.”

Other queer people:

if it’s safe for you to do so, be openly queer. there are tons of queer people at my school and i found the way to make queer friends is just be openly queer and you’ll find yourself with queer friends. istg queer people are like magnets we all just stick together.

be the Gay Guru. i’m basically like helping all the queer people i know—explaining identities, saying “i’m here if you wanna talk,” telling questioning people i’m here if they need me and do they wanna hear about this one label? i think they might like it!

if you can’t be out, drop hints. flannel, a subtle pride wallpaper. what were you listening to? oh, girl in red!

That’s all I got, followers, feel free to add on!

I hope I could help you out!! Lmk if you have any more questions, and I hope you have a good day!!

[jkandjm]

.....

So...

I have been staring at the same Jikook gif for the past 30 minutes trying to get it to save in my gallery, ( I have the worst internet connection istg ) and I noticed something....

Jungkook left home at a stupid young age and joined BTS at 15, I believe,not to mention most of his time was spent training and being overseas for dance beforehand....

And I noticed that Jungkook didn't get those last few years of affection and knowledge that a child would normally get....

And Jimin..... just being Jimin, seemed fill in every thing, it makes sense...

He is affectionate, understanding, EXTREMELY patient👀, and mature and so much more, Jimin fills the void of what Jungkook missed and is the person he wants to explore more with.

It hurt a little seeing fetus Jikook moments, not gonna lie, but Jimin was already sure of himself even then. He spoke of already knowing the outcome of displaying how he felt about Jungkook....

Jungkook was in the early stages of noticing life as it really is, so now I understand his actions and why he seemed closer to Taehyung who came off friendlier, don't get me wrong there are some moments Tae did questionable things😅( I used to ship them myself) but I have seen more romantic chemistry between him and Hoseok but anyway.

In the logs and shows from fetus days and you see a lot of times that Jungkook realizes that he's doing things that he doesn't realize that he's doing...or realizes later and seems confused with himself.

Catching himself looking at Jimins lips, but still seems to shift right back down to them.

Taking pictures with him and ends up up staring.

Sleeping in Jimins bed, (that smells like Jimin😐).

Caressing Jimins arm then staring at his own hand as if it isn't his.

He was a lost boy, too shy to even shower when the others were awake, which means I'm pretty sure he was just as closed off to ask anyone about how he felt and what to do about it....

Jimin has always been shameless, tbh, in spite of his insecurities, we have seen many examples. But he always put others before himself,so it makes sense as to why he said the others would look at him weird if he said how he felt and seemed to beat himself up over it...

Jungkook never hated Jimin...never did.

Jungkook just didn't know what to do....

Running and fighting is the most common self defense mechanism....so that's what he did.

I would honestly be worried if he didn't act the way he did.

I personally believe that Jungkook went through a few years of confusion before he became completely comfortable about how sure he felt about himself and Jimin as a person.

Jungkook hasn't seen Jimin as a hyung in years, he sees Jimin as a person. During his after- graduation video in the car with V and Jimin, he literally starts arguing with Jimin that he has been an adult for a while now before the video abruptly jumps to a later time. He has never done this this to any other members. He specifically wants Jimin to see him as a man, not a baby bro.

Jungkook was taking baby steps while Jimin was already flying.

Slowly over time he opened up and became more loud, sometimes he was clingy, then he wasn't, sometimes he did some dumb shit, but don't we all🤷🏾‍♀️? He was making progress.

Many say that Jimin backed off because he got tired of trying, I think Jimin saw him making an effort to understand himself and gave him breathing room to do so, he never got sick of JK. I used to think so too but no, now I can't see it.

Jimin came up overcoming his own obstacles, fighting his own battles and doing the impossible even before BTS,to me, he knew himself already. You know how Korea feels about homosexuality, it makes sense to give someone some air especially if you were JK age and were experiencing these type of feelings....but he changed.

Jungkooks reaction during the radio interview of Jimin explaining why he liked him...

Jungkook smiling at Jimin when he walked by...

Jungkook reaction to Jimin dancing...

Them being attached to the hip....

Never apart after concerts....

Jungkook emotional on stage having to sing Jimins part after Jimins fainting incident....

Jungkook saying if he was a girl, he would date Jimin....

Jungkook hugging Jimin to sleep....

Jimin simply fits with Jungkook perfectly, the petting, and affectionate comforting, the buying him food, all-nighter buddies, getting him outta his shell, being his shoulder to cry on, the ear to release his thoughts to, and the one to receive advice from as well teach, shows that there is no bond that comes close to theirs.

They are all close, don't get me wrong but not as close them. The proof is the atmosphere when something is wrong and how the others react.

They back off and watch from a distance...

If something is wrong with Jungkook, it's go get Jimin and back up. If something is wrong with Jimin, he hides it from everyone because he's Jimin.

Hes just that selfless, that he doesn't want to add issues, or he feels burdensome. If he is seen, he's quick to reassure as if his well-being doesn't matter(😞).

But the person that always makes him happy, who makes him laugh... is Jungkook. His actual resting cold face, breaks into the biggest smile because of him.

When he missed up a step in B.T.S. of Fire, he laughed it off with Jungkook....

When JK does random things that are not even meant to be funny whose cackling in the background?.. Jimin

Whose the one person who always receives special treatment from Jimin...Jungkook.

They fit together so perfectly...

They are what the other was missing..

Introverted JK, not expecting much from himself (even though he was wanted left and right by many) needing guidance, and affection, receiving and embracing it from someone who never gave up on him despite his "virginity" of understanding actual feelings.

Extroverted JM who had fans before BTS was even thought about, which led him to being a perfectionist at an premature age yet matured him before his time. SO much was expected of him and it has been stated of him being great in dance and athletics. His cold demeanor fades because of a guy with big eyes, a big nose and big bunny teeth....

It sounds fake....

It sounds like a fairytale....

It sounds cliche as fuck...

But cliches come from something right???

And to top the cake, the story of JKs parents is literally the same as theirs....

They are just meant to be...

........

Jungkook is Jimins weakness.

Jimin is Jungkooks home.

💜💜💜💜💜🐥🐇💜💜💜💜💜

[cielie-voss]

Big TW: Mental health, panic attacks, ADHD meltdown, the most stupid person on earth.

I just need to let this out, I need a space to rant about this ... This ... This absolute dipshit!

There is this guy at work, he's my age and my apprentice. I got my certificate of apprenticeship in summer 2019, he started his apprenticeship in late 2020 and came to our business in 2021 after he left his first workplace due to unknown circumstances. (Well, now that we know him better, we can guess why he left.)

Before he got the job he started to study multiple times, but never finished even one semester. I think he started 3 or 4 different courses. So he should be a smart and intelligent guy, you might say. Well, I didn't even have a highschool diploma (called Abitur, I have something compared to O-level). And all the time he acts like he's better than me, smarter or even acts like he's my superior even though he knows shit! Acts like he knows everything, tries to appear clever by using words he heard onetime even though he doesn't know what they mean and gets really snappy when you tell him he's wrong. IN FRONT OF CUSTOMERS! He even treated me like I AM HIS APPRENTICE in front of customers.

So I have some mental health issues and even though I'm in therapy and get medications, they often affect me at work. I get lots of meltdowns because of overstimulation and sometimes I have mild psychosis. And my boss's wife (the loveliest lady on earth, istg) always cared about me. One day I talked to her about a panic attack I had the day before at a bank, said I felt like I would suffocate. And this mf was in the other room, listening as if he was a spy and thought it was a good idea to tell me "everyone knows you can't suffocate in a bank, stop overdramatizing everything, you're making this shit up." I left, obviously.

Another time, when I had a meltdown because there was too much noise, he said I'm overreacting and doing this for attention and that I just should pull myself together. And one day after I got new medication, i had a bad psychosis at work and he dared to tell me that this isn't a psychosis or anything, that I'm just dehydrated and I should drink a glass of water. And these are just a few examples i had to go through for the past 2 years.

He lets me feel so dump and stupid and like I'm not even sick, that I'm just imagining this and sometimes I'm even questioning if I'm just acting like he says, I'm so unsure and I feel so bad.

And now the best thing about this. His exams are in may and when asked if he wants to stay he said "i don't know, i think k want to go to university again. I want to study psychology to become a psychologist so I can help sick people. Mental health is so important."

And I'm standing next to him like 🙃 "bitch ... What?!"

God, how I hate this piece of shit.

Sorry about my ranting, just needed some space to get it all out.

[sp00kymulderr]

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ANYTHING FOR YOOOU! <3

There is a lot here, I’m apparently feeling very chatty tonight so sorry about some of the long ramble-y answers again:

1: Talk about the first time you watched your favorite movie.

Itwas 2005, and 15 year old me had dragged my dad and brother to thecinema to see a movie that looked really interesting to me – itfeatured several badass women in the main cast at a time when Iwasn’t seeing much with actually strong, well written femalecharacters in. So I had to see this, and it was sci-fi which my wholefamily enjoys, so off we went to watch it. At the beginning, therewas a filmed intro of Joss Whedon talking about the movie and aboutthe TV series it came from, which I knew nothing about and thatworried me. But then the film started and I swear my heart stoppedfor a moment, I fell so deeply in love with the setting, thecharacters, the cast. The film was Serenity, and it started a lot forme

2: Talk about your first kiss.

Myfirst kiss wasn’t special like I wish it had been. I was about 14and it was with my best friend at the time, a guy who I had nofeelings towards whatsoever. I regret the kiss a lot, and the kissesthat followed. I wish I hadn’t felt pressured in to it the way Idid.

3: Talk about the person you’ve had the most intense romantic feelings for.

Idon’t really get intense feelings for people that often, especiallynot now I’m older. There was a guy when I was in secondary schoolthough, who I genuinely thought I loved (I didn’t). It was veryunrequited and took over my life for too long, and was a catalyst tothe depression I later suffered with.

4: Talk about the thing you regret most so far.

Partof me regrets going to uni, but then I think about all theexperiences I had at uni and I would never have had those, or madethose friends, or enjoyed myself that much anywhere else. I can’tthink of much that I really really regret, I tend to think thingsthrough a lot before I do them.

5: Talk about the best birthday you’ve had.

Iam the queen of good birthdays, istg! I ALWAYS go on holiday for mybirthday, have ever since I was young, so I have so many good ones.But I think it has to be between going to New York for my 21stor Berlin for my 23rd (my favourite place in the wholeworld), or this past birthday which I spent on my own in New Zealandand got to go to Hobbiton for the first time!

6: Talk about the worst birthday you’ve had.

Ihave genuinely not had a bad birthday yet. This year would’ve beensad if I hadn’t gone to Hobbiton, as I was completely on my own forthe first birthday ever.

7: Talk about your biggest insecurity.

I’ma total mess of insecurities tbh. I wouldn’t know where to start.

8: Talk about the thing you are most proud of.

In2012, when I left uni and moved to London on my own, I started a blogcalled The Theatre Tourist where I wrote about two of my biggestpassions; theatre and travel. A year after I started it, I got myfirst invite to review a theatre production which I accepted havingnever written a review. Once I wrote it, I knew this was what Iwanted to be doing, I fell completely in love with it. And to thisday I still run that blog, I have a fair few readers and connectionswith theatre PR’S all around the world. Currently I’m writing atleast a review a month for New Zealand theatre but when I was back inLondon I was being invited to at least 4 a week every week. I am soproud of that blog.

9: Talk about little things on your body that you like the most.

Mytattoos. They make me feel better about myself because I find thembeautiful and they mean a lot to me.

10: Talk about the biggest fight you’ve ever had.

Thatbest friend I mentioned earlier. He accused me of all sorts andcaused so much stupid drama in my life. We had a massive argument inthe hallway at school once, I ended up in tears in the bathroom andwe stopped talking to each other. He was a massive fucking jerk andI’m glad he’s not in my life any more.

11: Talk about the best dream you’ve ever had.

Ihad a lot of great dreams just before I moved to New Zealand, aboutwhat a great time I was going to have out here, and they havedefinitely come true

12: Talk about the worst dream you’ve ever had.

Istress dream quite a lot, the most recent one was losing my family ina natural disaster and it was awful.

13: Talk about the first time you had sex/how you imagine your first time.

Iwaited quite a while, so I was 18 when I lost it. It wasn’t perfectbut it was nice and with someone I liked at the time. It was, however, in a single bed which was AWFUL god. But other than that, there’s not much to talk about.

14: Talk about a vacation.

Whichone to choose though??? I love travelling and have been so lucky totravel a lot, I studied tourism and it’s always been a huge part ofmy life. That’s why I’m out here on this beautiful island in themiddle of nowhere right now.

15: Talk about the time you were most content in life.

Idon’t feel content a lot, but my first and subsequent 6 visits toBerlin have been the best I’ve ever felt in my whole life. Berlinis the one place I feel completely at home and know I belong.

16: Talk about the best party you’ve ever been to.

Idon’t go to a lot of parties! And the ones I went to when I wasyounger, I don’t remember a lot of them… I went to a really funfoam party in my first year of uni that I always remember fondly iffuzzily.

18: Talk about something that happened in elementary school.

Whichone is elementary? Primary I think? Jesus, who remembers primaryschool? I don’t think much exciting happened when I was that young!

19: Talk about something that happened in middle school.

Waitwhat’s middle school if the next question is high school? Do theyhave a school between primary and secondary in America? I’mCONFUSED

20: Talk about something that happened in high school.

Ohall sorts of shit.

21: Talk about a time you had to turn someone down.

Therewas this guy in college who I became pretty close friends with thenlater told me he really liked me. He was sweet but so not my type soI just said no and then he never spoke to me again lol

22: Talk about your worst fear.

Interms of an actual phobia, I’m really afraid of dogs. Which ispretty inconvenient, they make me panic.

23: Talk about a time someone turned you down.

Ugh,I got drunk at a work party and asked out a guy from IT I had beeneyeing up and he turned me down which is fair enough I was a messback then. But then I had to see him at work all the time and it wasso embarrassing for me.

24: Talk about something someone told you that meant a lot.

Justrecently I’ve been having a crisis about what I’m going to dowith my life once I get back to the UK next year, I want to get a jobI actually love as opposed to ending up in a shitty call centre jobhating my life again. But the other day my manager told me that shegenuinely believes I can do absolutely anything and be brilliant atit, and that just boosted my confidence so much.

26: Talk about things you do when you’re sick.

Iusually try and just get on with things and don’t admit I’m sickunless it’s really bad. I hate sitting still, I need to be doingsomething all the time even when ill.

31: Talk about what you think death is like.

Scary?Death scares me, I can’t lie. I try not to think about it.

32: Talk about a place you remember from your childhood.

TheatreRoyal Bath, I associate so many good memories with this building.When I was a kid and first expressed an interest in Shakespeare mymum used to sometimes take me to see plays there. I started a massivething in me and it’s always a place that makes me feel happy.

33: Talk about what you do when you are sad.

Iput on music. Loud. Usually Bowie, because I know he will make mefeel better, he always does.

34: Talk about the worst physical pain you’ve endured.

Ireally hope this doesn’t tempt fate, but as of yet I’ve onlyexperienced self inflicted pain. Never broken a bone or sprainedanything. Uhm so probably my first tattoo but even then that was a good pain for the most part.

35: Talk about things you wish you could stop doing.

Beinganxious. Seriously, if I could control my anxiety or make itdissapear things would be so different.

38: Talk about songs that remind you of certain people.

Meand my dad share a fairly similar musical taste, and he was the onewho introduced me to all the musicians I love so deeply now.Specifically listening to Delilah by The Sensational Alex Harvey Bandmakes me think of him. With my mum, we both love Alice Cooper so anytime I hear him I think of her.

39: Talk about things you wish you’d known earlier.

Iwish I’d known earlier that there’s no shame in ‘sleeping around’.I felt ashamed for a long time about my sexual habits, and got shamedfor them. I know now that it’s all bullshit and me being in controlof my sexuality is a good thing.

Ialso wish someone had told me that you’re allowed to have stops andstarts in your career, for years after uni I tried so hard to followa career path that wasn’t working for me but I thought I would be afailure if I gave up, or if I ended up doing something that didn’trelate to my degree. Even though I still struggle with the idea of acareer, I at least do know now that I am allowed to do whatever thehell I want whether I studied for it or not.

40: Talk about the end of something in your life.

In 2016 the West Endmusical Sunny Afternoon closed. By the time it closed I had seen it150 times, literally seeing it at the very least once a week for twowhole years. It changed me a lot – I became more confident, I madea group of the best friends I’ve ever had, I started a fan groupfor it and worked with the marketing team for the show on a socialmedia campaign. It was a HUGE part of my life. When the show closedit felt like the end of an era, I really didn’t know what I wasgoing to do without it. It meant so much to me. But now I have allthese great friends who still talk and hang out and I have two castsof actors whose careers I’ll be following for the rest of my life.