#Like hey girl I think ur autistic and need to work on regulating ur nervous system and... Start at square one tbh | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

cripplecryptid · 2 months ago

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When ppl say they struggle with people pleasing (esp when the ppl around them would NOT agree) what I hear is "I have ignored my personal limits for years and let my boundaries erode and now every little thing that's asked of me feels like too much because my nervous system is fried and I have to rebuild trust within myself"

This is absolutely not meant as an insult, it's just a pattern I've seen, esp in people with autism maybe? Because you might have unconventional limits or lower limits compared to others and you try to mask those needs

I feel like ppl joke abt it, "oh when someone says they struggle with people pleasing but have never pleased a person in their life", but... Yeah idk I think more often than not it's this right here. There's probably exceptions, but still.

#A friend has a fight w a friend of hers #Bc all of a sudden she doesn't seem reliable anymore and she said she thinks she's highly sensitive and struggles with people pleasing #And i only know this girl a little #But it breaks my heart bc to me it's so obvious she just has highly masked autism and hasn't ever set a boundary #Which just leads to ur nervous system getting all kinds of fucked up and before u know it u can't handle shit anymore #And no one can rely on you and the smallest things feel like the biggest ask #And god it breaks my heart bc i see how she's letting our mutual friend down #BUT I SEE SO CLEARLY WHAT'S HAPPENING and it doesn't feel like it's my place to say smth #Like hey girl I think ur autistic and need to work on regulating ur nervous system and... Start at square one tbh #Like ive been there and I've seen other autistic girls be in that position #It's hard. It's genuinely so fucking hard and i wanna help her but. Idk how without sounding fucking wild bc again:#I don't actually know her that well. We just follow class together #But it's so so so obvious to me bc it's such an obvious pattern once you've seen it a couple times #:((#Should I talk to her? Or maybe talk to our mutual friend.. Idm #Idk*

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