#I'm asexual but in a non-sexual het partnership do I belong or not?

[littleapocalypsekitten]

Something I've been thinking of lately in regards to how much I mistrust people. This time, politically. Alright, I know enough that Conservatives Cannot Be Trusted. Even the "mild" ones who aren't full-bore MAGA kind of truck with them, share like-mindedness, even if the milder ones might not like a big orange blowhard because of optics. He's making them look bad by yelling the quiet parts out loud, but those parts are still there. However, I am thinking that Leftists Cannot Be Trusted, either. I truck much more on that side of the political aisle. I want Universal Healthcare more than anything. I'd like to break the backs of corporations. I want to give everyone free homes and utilities as a basic human right. Even a Universal Basic Income might be nice. Work for the luxuries and a higher standard of living, but no one starves. (Hunger doesn't drive people to work, starving people are too weak to work). I am very much on the same page with not just the "liberal" values, but even some things that are considered outright leftist. But I do look askance, sort of have a feeling of looking over my shoulder because of some things I hear from self-proclaimed Leftists and some of the historical leans they've had. I mean, first of all, some of the people I've seen on Youtube are pretty abelist, actually. I see a lot of throwing around of the r-word and poking at people for being autistic. (Granted, even if you're making fun of Elon Musk, it leaves a bad taste in the mouth). There's a lot of down-punching on people with any kind of psychiatric condition (but that's nothing new, the entire world, right, center and left does that, it's just that the left pretends that they don't do it and do it, anyway). There's even someone I talk to on a forum who has severe kidney disease and takes dialysis who has been told in response to pointing out that the aftermath of a Revolution is going to leave things a mess for good while, the kind of mess where he cannot get access to medical care that he should be willing to die for the Revolution. He does not want to die for their idea of a Revolution. People who claim to want to ultimately save people like him are ultimately telling him that he needs to die. Another thing that makes me nervous is just how many "reddit atheists" / "fedora atheists" are self-proclaimed uber-leftists. There is nothing wrong with being an atheist. You do you. I'm theistic in my beliefs, but I don't believe in eternal conscious torment Hell - I gave up being an Evangelical when that belief and being a spiritual used car salesman wasn't working out for me. Still, yes, even though I haven't been to church in decades, I have some religious beliefs. They're a personal method of getting through life for me, nothing less, nothing more. I was very online in the 2000s, including on religious fora. These places got a lot of trolls. I encountered a lot of AGGRESSIVE attempts at deconversion. A lot of leftists were of this stripe and wove their politics into it. It seems like "that crowd" since 2017 or so, split off into two factions: The guys who followed the rather blatant Islamaphobia of certain popular authors and listened to junk about women being "more religious" and therefore inferior because of our soft, tender ladybrains, a fear of trans people and the like getting them really alt-right and in bed with some of the Christian fundamentalist people they used to despise and... those that stayed leftist, went even harder leftist and anti-capitalist and actually started to recognize that Progressive religionists exist and are good allies in the fight against common enemies. They took off their fedoras and got to work in allyship against those who oppress minorities and the poor. Good for us all. However, I look at these same people sometimes and I think, "Alright, once we achieve a more equitable world together, if it is even possible, are you actually a leopard that's going to eat my face?"

[ironwoman359]

this is something I think I saw posted on this website before, but there was an argument stating that ace people are inherently non-het, because they don't experience a "conventional" heterosexuality due to being non-sexual (I'm sure I'm phrasing that wrong and I'm sorry), like someone would be a heteroromantic asexual as opposed to a heterosexual asexual, do you think that's accurate? (I promise I'm not trying to be offensive, just want to understand how it works)

If you’re saying that heteromantic-asexuals and heterosexual-aromantics are still queer because their sexual or romantic attraction is not to the opposite gender, then yes, you understand correctly! 

Cisgendered heterosexual heteromantic is considered the “norm” by society, and thus any sexuality, gender identity, or romantic orientation that deviates from that is considered “not the norm,” and thus belongs in the LGBTQ+ community

Aromantic Asexuals are not straight because they are not romantically or sexually attracted to someone of the opposite gender.

Heteromantic Asexuals (me) are not straight because we are not sexually attracted to people of our opposite gender.

Heterosexual Aromantics are not straight because they are not romantically attracted to people of their opposite gender. 

Exclusionists like to say that “het aces” and “het aros” aren’t “queer enough” for the LGBTQ+ community because our partnerships appear straight, but they’re simply not. We’re inherently non-het, as you said, because we do not fit what society says “hetness” is supposed to look like. We’re therefore queer, and have just as much right to call ourselves such as bi people, gay people, trans people, etc. 

Hope that was helpful to you, friend! 

(also I block hate anons on sight, so don’t try your shit here, exclusionists)