#I'm a 25 year old adult why is my stress response to hit out at other people when they don't do exactly what I planned

[poisonjaffas]

I literally hate how some days I just seem to wake up woth zero patience or tolerance for other people and I'm just awful to be around and I don't even notice half the time, I don't want to make my friends sad but that seems to happen the more time I spend with them and I don't know how to explain it in a way that doesn't just make me sound like a dick for no reason

[wiz-witch]

I posted 305 times in 2021

34 posts created (11%)

271 posts reblogged (89%)

For every post I created, I reblogged 8.0 posts.

I added 26 tags in 2021

#ducktales - 10 posts

#dt spoilers - 5 posts

#animaniacs - 2 posts

#professor layton - 2 posts

#animal crossing - 2 posts

#anyone who's seen my discord status can attest - 1 posts

#i'm not even done counting - 1 posts

#ask game - 1 posts

#anonymous - 1 posts

#black lives matter - 1 posts

Longest Tag: 88 characters

#i had the daily log and a 'you planted flowers' message both ready when i opened the app

My Top Posts in 2021

#5

Yknow the thing of Huey not being in the promos is suddenly reminding me of before "Astro Boyd!" aired when the preview stuff didn't include Gyro at all even though we knew he was in the episode so we all started worrying about him...

... And it turned out the promo content took place while he was doing something mundane somewhere else

24 notes • Posted 2021-03-12 03:09:34 GMT

#4

If I had a nickel for every cartoon I watched where an anthropomorphic actor in Hollywood had an old friend who's an anthropomorphic deer living in New Mexico, I'd have two nickels. Which isn't much but it's kinda funny it's happened twice

27 notes • Posted 2021-05-25 06:34:09 GMT

#3

I keep feeling like I need to say some sort of final words on the fact DuckTales is over, but I’ve been struggling to figure out what I wanted to say all day until I realized something...

The emotional attachment I have to this show was higher than I realized

I remember four years ago, scrolling through my phone kinda trying to ignore the face I was officially an adult when I found the first full trailer for the upcoming DuckTales show. I’d seen some stuff about the reboot but I’d never really watched the original DuckTales so it hadn’t drawn my interest too much. However, I decided to take a look at the trailer...

“Now going to: McDuck Manor.” “McDuck Manor? As in Scrooge McDuck?” “The bajillionaire?” “You’re finally gonna sell us.”

I laughed out loud at Louie’s response, and that moment had sold me on the show. I eagerly awaited the show as I finished high school and prepared to college, I looked into the lore of the characters that were going to be appearing in the show, and I even started plotting out a fic the day the theme song was released on YouTube.

I ended up loving the show when it aired. I fell in love with these characters and the story, though at the time, a different show kinda tended to take priority in my brain.

Two years later, I was struggling through my second year of college and that second show ended as Della Duck returned home to meet her kids. My mental stress had reached a peak and I spiraled into a nervous breakdown that forced me to drop out of school and even took away my writing ability. 

That. That was a hit. I started writing when I was nine, so to lose that ability ten years later was... Scary, especially when my mental health was already so severely damaged. My friend introduced me to a different show I was able to write a little bit for, but everything felt off and sticky when I tried to write...

I then came back to DuckTales. And my creativity flourished in a way it hadn’t been when my mental state started declining. I’ve been sorting through WiPs in my folder and while the show that’d ended around the time my breakdown hit always had kinda been my ‘dominant’ fandom with most of my fics in it, I’m looking over it now and it seems DuckTales has overtaken it (even of many of those fics aren’t posted yet). I just couldn’t stop coming up with ideas once I started.

So I think that’s why this is hitting me so hard. This show helped restore a core aspect of my identity, so it feels hard to let it go. Plus the fact that I... Don’t have any other fandoms I’m active in after this. 

I hope this fandom stays going. There are so many creative people here and I want to hold onto this... And a few I’ve met because of this show I want to personally thank:

@halfshellkayla -- A fellow angsting buddy who helped me develop that first scrapped idea and to this day continues to help me with story discussion

@kats-randomology​ -- We don’t talk as much anymore, but you definitely were an early influence in me developing my take on these characters

@stevenfallsvs -- An absolute AU genius who somehow thinks me wanting to write for said AUs is a huge honor (even I stand by you being the true genius behind them and I’m the one who should be honored for you allowing me to play with your ideas)

@pholux-twg​ -- A great analysist who has always been willing to listen to me develop my ideas, even when I decided to throw in details just to cause to angst and pain and see your reactions ^-^

@plainiack​ -- Every story needs a villain and you were always one who liked to see the potential in them. For some reason I never thought of the villains in my stories too much until you not only brought the potential of canon ones to my attention, but helped me develop my OC when all I had for him was a name and “he’s an asshole”

@lunawoona11​ -- I don’t even know how we started talking but I’m glad we did. Your ideas are always fun and I always get excited when it’s time to talk with you every night

@imagine-pleasantnonsense​ -- A newer friend but one I love all the same. It’s rare to find someone who can make angst ideas that have me react, but that’s definitely something you manage, and I getting the chance to develop ideas with you

I hope we all can keep this adventure going ^-^

40 notes • Posted 2021-03-16 04:20:21 GMT

#2

Glad my hc of "Huey is going to give Fenton a heart attack one of these days" is canon

42 notes • Posted 2021-02-08 22:29:32 GMT

#1

Me: Haha Fenton being a traitor for FOWL is a fun hypothetical to play with in fan fiction that could absolutely never happen in the show

Beaks in the Shell: Fenton is dating and working on an experiment with Gandra. Who everyone knows is part of FOWL. And Huey is needing to keep it secret

Me: ......... I'm going to go scream

46 notes • Posted 2021-01-19 23:06:43 GMT

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[dxmedstudent]

Hi dx! So I'm about to start my last year of medschool, but I don't feel mature at all. I love comic book movies, walk around in their shirts and love to collect action figures. My parents think adults don't deal with stuff like that, and make fun of me every time I go into a toystore. Is it true? Do I have to give things up so that people can finally see me as an adult?

Hey, friend! First of all, congrats for getting so far in med school! You’re almost there! :D Your ask reminds me of something I studied in classical civilisation back in school. I learned that Athenian girls who were getting married would dedicate their childhood toys to Artemis, leaving them at her altar to symbolise their passage into womanhood and the responsibilities of running a household. And I’ve always thought of that as sad; these girls were probably around 13 or so when they were expected to become women; they were still really young. Why should they have to give up everything they were, to be the person they were going to be? I resented the idea that anyone should have to give up their past to meet their future. But through much of history, people often didn’t get the luxury of a long childhood, because self-preservation and putting food on the table came first. Historically, it’s probably fair to say that people of all genders would be expected to ‘grow up’ early; when you live on the breadline, you’d be supporting your siblings until you married, at which point you’d have no time to enjoy leisure if you had to worry about feeding your 8 children and stopping them all from dying of measles and TB. My ancestors (and, well, my great grandparents) being farming peasants, didn’t so much have hobbies or interests, but they had occasional holidays and feast days on which they wouldn’t work and the community would celebrate. Relatively few people over the years have had the luxury of being able to indulge in leisure activities historically. But when they have, adults indulged too; the hobbies of Victorians of all ages are well-documented. I’m not religious, but when this topic comes up, I always find that 1 Corinthians 13:11 comes to mind: “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.”

That’s from the New International version,  but I prefer the end to versions which summarise it with “I put away childish things”.  People sometimes interpret it to mean something similar; that grownups need to put aside anything that reminds people of being a kid. But I take something different from it. Because objects aren’t inherently childish or adult; what matters is our way of thinking. This is not a passage about toys or objects, but about a state of mind; when we mature, we become new people with more mature reasoning. And during medicine, we are transformed. We put the ways of childhood behind us, regardless of what our interests are. We look death in the face, and reflect on our own mortality and fallibility, and then we go home and do whatever the hell we like, because we are the captains of our own fate. What makes you mature isn’t whether you like comic book films or T shirts, but your frame of mind when you are working as a doctor. And it’s OK to still be figuring yourself out; it’s weird when you’re no longer a teenager and suddenly people expect you to be a grownup. It’s doubly weird when you go, in the short space of several years, from being a technical minor to a doctor; not only a grownup, but someone seen as an authority figure and grownup supreme. At work, you need to learn to work hard, be thorough, work well as part of a team, and develop your own clinical judgement so that you too can make clinical decisions with a proportional degree of confidence, and know when you need help. That’s what being a grownup in the medical field is really about. And I’m sure you’ll do great; you’ve got your final year to work on polishing things up, and you’ve got the rest of your life as a doctor to work on the skills you’ve started to develop now. But there’s actually nothing magical about turning 25 or 30. Society really hypes it up, but it’s pretty much more of the same. That’s because growing up is a gradual process that happens as a result of the experiences we have. For example, in many ways,  I’ve changed a lot during my university years and the time I’ve spent as a doctor; medicine changes your way of thinking and looking at the world. But in many other ways, you still feel pretty much like the same person, with the same interests and hobbies even if you do pick up some new ones. I’m still an anime fangirl with a penchant for drawing little manga-eque comics about medicine. My DnD/gaming friendship group is doctors (and their long-suffering mostly non-medic spouses); being a doctor doesn’t stop any of them from having nerdy interests. I’ve met colleagues with all sorts of diverse interests; you’d just never be able to guess from our work persona. As long as you do our work professionally and are professional with others, there’s really no reason why your hobbies would make you less of an adult. Doctors are human; we aren’t all the stereotypical old white men in white coats who drink port and play golf. We work difficult jobs where we make serious decisions and deal with pretty life-changing stuff, and then we go home and de-stress in whatever way we personally enjoy. People sometimes confuse acting like an adult with partaking in activities only adults usually partake in; however there’s nothing particularly grownup about wine-tasting, or hanging out in bars, or hitting the gym, or the other activities more easily accepted as ‘grownup’ compared to activities which might be seen as childish. There could be a lot of reasons why your parents feel the way they do. Part of it is probably that to your parents, you’ll always be their kid; parents can struggle to separate themselves enough from their children to see them as an adult in the same way as they might see a stranger. For example, my GP (a lovely middle aged lady with kids older than me) told us that her mother doesn’t quite see her as a real doctor; if she gives her mother advice, it still somehow doesn’t carry the same weight. That doesn’t mean parents can’t understand you’re a grown up or have a job, but they will always partly see you as the kid they raised all those years ago. Perhaps they feel worried about you out there, hitting the big world on your own, and they worry that if you don’t act ‘grown up’ in their eyes, maybe you aren’t mature enough to adult in general. The two don’t have to correlate at all, but people often feel that they must be connected. Parents are parents;  when you grow up, you realise that they are just people (usually) doing the best that they can. They often have advice (sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s not so useful), and it’s up to you, as a grownup, to decide whether you follow their advice or not. They may have antiquated views about the kinds of hobbies grownups can have because of their own experiences, but it’s up to you to choose what you want to do in your life; nobody can make you give up your interests, after all. When you’re a doctor, you’ll be earning your own money, and your free time will be very much your own; you get to choose how it is spent.

Good luck, and have fun. Craft the life you want to lead, whatever that looks like.