#I’m very normal about him too I completely understand 🙃

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can I kiss yulis? I am so normal about him

Absolutely.

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I feel like I’ve fucked up. I’m afraid he’s changed his mind and he can’t deal with it and I’ve lost my chance at something great.

But I’m terrified, literally day one I had feelings for him and I knew I was in trouble. We haven’t been talking very long and I miss him and I’m so afraid that he’s not going to be in my life anymore.

He’s new and exciting and exactly what I’m looking for in a partner and unlike J we talk every single day. Usually from the time we both wake up until he goes to bed. But I haven’t heard from him yet and it’s freaking me out cause of how things went down last night.

I’m supposed to meet J in august and I can’t not do that, like he’s been a part of my life in some capacity for the last decade so I can’t not at least meet him now that I finally have the opportunity. And it’s been so so so long since I’ve imagined being with anyone but J. Until now.

I can imagine myself with him, my life with him and settling down with him. But I’m so fucking terrified. J is safe, he’s comfortable, I know what to expect with him.

But this new guy is literally exactly what I’m looking for and we have so much in common, he’s into the same things as me and just ughh.

I’m afraid it’s just all part of the honeymoon phase and once we’re past that I won’t feel the same.

And i love J, I really do, when they play those sappy love songs he’s still the one I think about, and I think about him all the time. But lately I’ve been thinking about this new guy as well like as soon as I wake up and throughout the day and before I go to sleep. And I’m disappointed when I get a message from someone that isn’t him, even when it’s someone I really enjoy talking to.

I’m really torn cause I definitely have feelings for both, not to the same extent tbf, I mean I love J, I don’t love the new guy but I’m definitely infatuated with him. And how can I just walk away from someone who’s been a part of my life for this long? But I don’t know how I can just walk away from the new one either.

I think the biggest issue here is that I’m polyamorous and that’s not what he’s looking for. None of this info was hidden from him tbf but I also was extremely intoxicated when we first started talking so I didn’t explicitly say these things like I normally do. Thats 10000% my fault, I fucked up and I own that. As soon as it dawned on me I made sure to have that conversation but I think it was too late. And if that’s the case then I have absolutely no one to blame but myself.

I would never expect him to do something or go along with something that he isn’t comfortable with. So I would completely understand if he decided to talk away, but I hope he doesn’t 😩🙃

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Hey! Every time I see you commenting on Ringsy clips, I wonder what you are thinking about their current storyline (and about what we know is about to come from the spoilers). Own flat, Stinker wanting to move in with them, the surrogacy/adoption bits, Junior & Easy's way to deal with that, character development in general... So, what are you thinking? 🙃

I think it is WAAAAAY too soon for any kind of kid storyline, but I get it. When you have a couple the two choices are family or drama. They have written themselves this completely in love couple so there is no easy way to get to the drama.

(I’m reminded of the time the anons yelled at me over a cheating storyline when I said that I couldn’t see it happening with the couple we had now and it would need some serious storytelling to get from here to there.  Because apparently this means it’ll never happen.  Honestly, every time I remember that it makes me smile because sometimes anons are just so angry about shit.)

But back to this non-angry anon.

If you don’t want a couple to stagnate then you need to give them something to do.  And since the drama was off the table it had to be the kid storyline.  Coco was a pure plot device to get Ringo into Papa Mode and from there on we had them racing at top speed, throwing everything they could at it.  Because you need something for them in terms of a storyline.

I liked the drama of the surrogacy, I liked the emotions that came with it.  I’m not impressed at how they immediately went to WE ARE HAVING A BABY after the pregnancy test and weren’t basically holding their breath for three months like many expectant parents are when they want a baby that much.  Vivi didn’t need all that external pressure to feel conflicted about telling them she’d lost the baby, the simple fact that she knew how much they wanted it was enough.

Junior was...  Well, that whole storyline was a mess and seems to be simply a way to get them into this debt storyline.  Easy’s desperate need to be a father felt like a step back.  We’d already had this wonderful speech pre-proposal where Easy literally said that in a choice between Ringo and a child he’d choose Ringo.  And while I think he knew that Ringo wouldn’t divorce him over the dodgy adoption the fact that Easy chose a child over his husband?  It didn’t sit right with me. Only thing I can think of is that it was a means to get the boys into debt.

The fact they have just moved out into their own place makes sense: they’re married for the best part of a year and they’re talking about having a family and last time they lived on their own it lasted all of a few weeks until they ended up back in the WG together.  I do think that it’ll be good for them to be together, just them, and it makes sense if they are planning to adopt.

Money worries are a pretty normal and common thing for people but either this is going to be a simple storyline that runs alongside everything, possibly explaining why they’re not in the Schiller every two nights, or it’s going to end up driving a wedge between them.  And that I don’t want because we will end up with a very clear line of right and wrong: if they are working to reduce debts and one of them goes against that and spends recklessly?  Clearly that’s not on.

The spoilers about fostering mean that we can have parent!Ringsy without having to worry about the utter boredom that comes with a soap baby.  I talked about this many metas ago - how babies were often the death knell for a soap couple because either they were tied to the baby or it was never seen and always “with a sitter”.  Ah, such is the restriction of filming with kids.

I still think it’s too early though.  I think that they should be married for a bit, live on their own for a bit, get to really know and understand what it’s like to live with someone one-on-one without any other buffer.  Much is made about how close Easy and Tobias are and you can’t tell me that this wasn’t a product of the two of them living together all that time?  No one else around?  We know how fucking in love with his husband Ringo is - the speech to Paco, selling his father’s watch - and so I want him to enjoy having this time with Easy when it’s just them, before they end up sharing their home and their hearts with all the kids that they will give a good home to. Because ultimately I do think that they will make great parents.

Just not yet.