#I try my hardest to plot but i do tend to receive only a fraction of the energy I’m giving

[buddy-arc]

// i’ve had this thought in my head for a few months now, so i’m going to try to put it into words. (yes, any rp blogs can reblog this if they want.)

please ask your mutuals more questions in conversation. social anxiety sucks, sometimes you don’t have the energy and can’t think but want to respond, and sometimes you’re busy a lot—i get it! i really do. but if you’re just answering passively, no questions or contributions, then it falls on the other person to keep coming up with something. it’s really hard to plot when your partner doesn’t ask questions back or suggest things, and it’s tiring.

as someone who’s been trying to reach out first and talk, i can affirm i’ve unintentionally just… stopped plotting with some people because it drained my energy for me to always be the one moving the flow of conversation. it’s a pattern i’ve seen that pops up frequently, as i’ve had quite a few DMs that end up along this line — “how are you?” “i’m okay.” “good! did you have any specific scenarios you wanted to thread?” “no, not really?” “ok, did you want me to send you some prompts?” “sure.”

it’s exhausting. I understand it’s hard to come up with ideas on the spot, but i want to let y’all know: it’s hardly ever expected for you to do so!!! you can take your time in responding, and even just a quick “im not sure, let me think” and then getting back to your partner later is, in my opinion, leagues better then a simple “no, I don’t have any ideas”. even greater would be a “i don’t have anything off the top of my head, but what about you?”

most people here are patient and won’t expect an immediate response. so, please take your time if you have to! just… please, please start asking questions, bringing up your wishlist, giving information, anything to get the conversation moving. it’ll be easier and more fun for you and your partner if you’re truly collaborating instead of one person getting burnt out making a majority of the decisions.