#I think neytiri's relationship with spider is synonymous with her trauma and view of humans

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I just want Neytiri to somehow see the recordings of spider being to tortured and how he was willing to die for them…and realize what a horrible person she is for how she’s treated him and for being willing to kill him. Like I just want some remorse from her

this post has 2 parts, they are not directly related, please heed both

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I need Neytiri to realize she was wrong, to see spider was always her family in his heart, he would do anything for them, even give up his own life. I need her to realize it never mattered how she treated him, spider would always put himself in front of her and her kids.

I need her to come to the realization that spider deserved better, and I want her to be sorry, I want her and spider to have a scene were they come to an understanding with each other.

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what I'm gonna say is not directed solely at you, its fandom wide, and its something that bugs me.

the language used for neytiri is a little too hostile, yes her treatment of spider was wrong, but it is a direct response to the horrific trauma she endured at the hands of humans. we can acknowledge she was a bad mother to him, but respect her as a person. this is especially true because she is a mirror image of what many indigenous people in real life have experienced.

all in all, there are 2 sides to every story, and neytiri is facing a bit to much hate and hostility for my liking. she is not a horrible person, she has severe trauma she was never allowed to heal from. its not any of spiders fault, but his presence was a direct trigger for her, and he lived in her home, played with her children, her mental health/ptsd has been taxed day in and day out. because of this, her behavior towards spider was wrong, but she is not evil or the antagonist. they are naturally opposed and she never should have been forced to raise him.

again, not to single you out, this is just an example of what I'm seeing way to much of to be comfortable.