#I think its abt me (Rift) mainly since I was the one who talks more abt aro community

[entropy-sea-system]

I know your aplatonic, and I just wanted to check something. I'm decently active within the aro community myself, and I like seeing your content/commentary. when I notice we share space (ex: on reblog comments of posts), I find that I like seeing what you have to say, and I even look forward to it. I don't have any personal desire to befriend you for obvious and not so obvious reasons, but I do like seeing you around and acknowledging your perspectives. My thoughts towards you are almost comparable to how you look forward to sharing shifts with a certain coworker because you can trust them to be competent and reliable. Something akin to acquaintanceship, but more distanced given that we only ever interact within one designated community. Not super frequently, at that.

I just want to know if such a perception of you triggers your repulsion or pushes boundaries. of course if this does make you uncomfortable, I'll simply not bring it up again. I'm moreso curious.

This is a good faith ask from an allopl, and if you do not feel comfortable responding, please feel free to just delete the ask entirely.

That doesn't really trigger my repulsion, because its not really about friendship or so it seems to not be about friendship, but thanks for asking I guess. Id prefer you not call me an acquaintance though as Im repulsed by that term as I associate it w friendship, but it seems to only be a comparison/ meant to say its less close than that so thats probably not like actually calling me an acquaintance.

And also my repulsion toward ppl feeling platonic/friendship things to me is more only if someone expresses that theyre platonically attracted to me or want to be my friend tbh, bc theres no way Id know or care if someone just feels that so I just don't want ppl to express it to me.

I can't know that someone percieves me some way unless they state it, and imo boundaries, including those about repulsion, can't really be about how ppl see you bc that can't be controlled + one doesn't have to know abt it, they can only be about how they act towards you such as what they may express to you. If I know someone has friendship emotions for me Id rather avoid them, but what I don't know can't repulse me.

And Im glad that ppl appreciate my content, I tend to see it as a compliment / ego boost when ppl think that lol . I actually feel kind of similar to what you describe, about some ppl I know, but maybe not very strongly or consistently (I have a tendency to kind of feel like ppl aren't perfect and it doesn't really go to idolising ppl for me usually bc of that, but there are ppl who Id say I like seeing discuss topics and stuff) and I dont even think abt it often, and I dont label it as anything other than emotions maybe, but either way I don't see it as platonic/friendship when I experience that emotion so.