#I literally. do not talk to anyone regularly aside from my coworkers (forced to be around me) and my partner
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If I think about the fact that I donât have any real friends that I talk to and spend time with regularly for longer than 10 seconds it makes me want to vomit
#never beating the unlovable/annoying accusations huh#I literally. do not talk to anyone regularly aside from my coworkers (forced to be around me) and my partner#I havenât had a real outing with a human being my age platonically in almost like. a year#Looks over at the pile labeled ���stuff that makes me just like my mumâ âŚadds not having friends#I guess itâs kind of my fault. I donât put myself out there. but I think a lot about how Strawberry is the only person I talk to#and the only one my brain is willing to he around#like I donât have. friends. I donât go out with people#I just have Strawberry#I guess thatâs all I need. But it still stings a little to know that most people donât want to be around me#*sabatoges all of my relationships* *shocked pikachu face when no one talks to me*#rambles#bpd tag
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Have you seen Linkara's review of The Dark Knight Returns? He goes into why the view of Robin as a soldier, popularized but by no means invented by Miller, is so dangerous.
I have not, but I need to refresh my memory before I go check it out because Iâll either agree with it or be infuriated by it and I canât remember which just at the moment but would like to before I restart that argument ten years later.
LOL, so like, I knew Linkara yeeears and years ago. We were both regular posters on Gail Simoneâs messageboard on CBR like fifteen years ago, maybe longer. Pretty sure we even met in person a couple times at Gailâs annual SDCC breakfast meetups, but not sure. I do know for sure though that he and I were both involved in a three way argument about this very topic with another guy.....I just can not remember if he was the one who agreed with me or the one we were both fighting with about it, LOL. I THINK we were in agreement as while I wasnât like.....as pro-DC as most YABSers were given that it was Gailâs board and I mostly hung out at the X-boards and just swung by YABS once a week or so BECAUSE I couldnât stand all the ass-kissing that went on at that board so that DC writers and artists would hang out and post regularly, LOL, like Iâm pretty sure I remember Link as being one of the less....vehement of the pro-DC camp.
(Tbh, one of the biggest ways in which I disagreed with Gail on stuff is I UNDERSTOOD her feeling a need to be civil with other DC pros even if she didnât like them personally, I just....couldnât manage the same and didnât feel any desire to try. Like for example, not sure how many people know who Ethan van Sciver is, but heâs a long time high profile DC artist, best known for his GL stuff.....but he used to hang around YABS pretty regularly. EvS is ALSO a haaaaaardcore conservative, Trumpian, and all around terrible person. And he always was.
Like heâd play it civil back then but his opinions were downright hateful on a variety of topics, particularly towards marginalized groups, but he was good at picking just the right moments to half-assedly walk something back the second he took something âtoo farâ - so like, the end result was he said it and everyone saw and remembered, but before anyone could react heâd drop the mea culpa card and be like oh Iâm sorry I know that was out of line, I was just caught up in the moment and itâs all good cuz this is all friendly debate anyway right? Weâre just talking here.
And heâd pull this crap all the time but because he was a DC pro, people would let him get away with it and warn people off coming down on him so he didnât feel unwelcome at the board. Now the painfully ironic twist here is that shockingly, totally unexpectedly.....fast forward to about five or six years ago where good old Ethan burns a shit ton of bridges and decides well why not make things a dumpster fire for everyone in my vicinity....and he became the driving force behind a bunch of alt right comic book fans starting their own weak ass version of Gamergate, only called Comicsgate. It never was nearly as....big...as Gamergate was, but it was still ugly. And the thing is, Ethan sicced his sycophants on other industry pros heâd worked with over the years but always disagreed with on politics.....like really let the ugly fly....and most of these pros included Gail as well as a bunch of the other DC professionals from back in the YABS days.
Because thing was....that was literally WHY heâd hung out at YABS so much back then, despite being so far in disagreement with most of the progressive leaning board. He was always just interested in stirring shit up, he never actually had the slightest interest in debate or seeing the other side of anything....he just knew how to play the right cards to get the right people to come to his defense and cool things off rather than run him off, in the name of keeping things civil and such...all so he could start it all up again a couple weeks later.
And this is literally why that kind of thing doesnât work for me at all. Because he wasnât really that subtle even then, most people knew all along exactly what he was doing, and letting him get away with shit that would have gotten anyone else banned purely because he was a industry pro just meant that his opportunities to subject anyone in his vicinity to just vile, hateful shit ended up more protected than all the marginalized posters on that board who didnât come to it to see his shit but had to constantly listen to it anyway because people were more interested in making excuses for him than making it comfortable for everyone else.
And in the end, he ended up turning on the very people whoâd protected him from everyone else ripping into his hateful viewpoints with the directness they merited. Which just. Sigh. To me just smacks of a whole lot of unnecessary years spent putting up with his barely veiled bullshit until he didnât bother even veiling it anymore....even though the reality is NOBODY was ever buying into his veil of it in the first place and we all knew what was right behind it all along. Anyway. Not that it matters LOL, but good old Eth, was one of the primary reasons I decided not to go into comics when I had a couple of opportunities come up, as I decided to focus my efforts on Hollywood at the time instead. Lmao, I figured if I was going to have to keep my mouth shut about coworkers whose opinions I vehemently disagreed with in the name of professionalism, I might as well focus on the profession that would pay me more money to keep that to myself. Look, at least capitalism is useful when ADHD and trying to pretend to be decisive about life choices.)
Long ramble nobody asked for aside, like I said, I canât remember Linkâs take on this particular topic but itâs likely the one I agreed with for the most part. My own take has always been that Miller sucks and if he said it chances are I said he was wrong because he is about everything and my religion is people saying so and by people I mean me. My religionâs also big on self-actualization. Not sure what else, I did just make it up and I think Iâll probably just stop there so I donât accidentally make it a cult.
But yeah. I mean, maybe itâll surprise people given how critical I am of the abusive elements of canon, but Iâve never applied the child endangerment/child soldier argument to sidekicks. Itâs obviously not that they donât get hurt in these stories and even traumatized, itâs not that theyâre NOT in danger as kids....itâs just why I put such an emphasis on it being their choice to fight crime and be heroes and NOT something that Bruce or any other mentor or parent pushed them into.
Because this is one of the reasons why death of the author more often than not just doesnât work for me. Authorial intent matters. Readers are always free to interpret a text however they want, regardless of authorial intent....but IF a writer has a specific intent behind a narrative choice, chances are most interpretations that refuse to align themselves with that viewpoint arenât really all that RELEVANT to the story the writer was trying to tell in the first place.
Donât get me wrong. Those other interpretations can still exist. Theyâre allowed to exist. People can abide by them all they want. But if someoneâs takeaway from a story is a deliberate choice to read it entirely different from the story the writer intended it to be.....like, their interpretation is all well and good, but itâs not actually at all a RELEVANT commentary on or review of the story the writer was actually writing. Theyâre not actually saying the writer did a poor job of telling the story or was wrong in how they did it....because theyâre not actually talking about the story the writer was actually telling.
Thus their commentary on it exists. But itâs just not that relevant. Because nothing in it even CAN offer an opinion on how else the writer could or should have written that story....because the story they ARE talking about isnât the story the writer was even interested in writing.
Now, there are some times when authorial intent DOESNT matter. And when criticism of it is entirely fair and earned even if itâs of something the writer didnât consciously or deliberately write into their story at all. But these things are almost ALWAYS unconscious. Unlike what I was just talking about, where the writer was very consciously writing the story a certain way for a reason, and thus people who arenât interested in reading the story the way it was written to be read just canât offer up a commentary that says anything useful or meaningful about the story that was actually written...the flip side of this is when the writer puts things they donât intend into the text, but still are very much there all the same.
And this sort of thing applies to things like micro aggressions or racism, homophobia, sexism....things where a writer didnât sit down intending to be offensive or alienate their readers but still put in things that they donât think to view as offensive due to their own privilege and lack of experience EXPERIENCING the microaggressions that marginalized readers might be all TOO familiar with and thus canât avoid reading into a passage where the writer might not have INTENDED harm or offense, but delivered it all the same. Because they didnât think to put it into their story, they werenât TRYING to....but they didnât think to avoid putting it in there either, even if itâs because they didnât know to until itâs pointed out to them that itâs there.
And this also applies to when the writer puts into their story, via whatever viewpoint theyâre writing from, things that herald from their own viewpoints, how they view the world, even in terms of unconscious biases or expectations....but things that readers can still interpret as something they vehemently disagree with, even if the narrative seems to condone it. Because a lot of these viewpoints are things where the way theyâre written....even just not coming out as clearly not condoning or agreeing it can effectively be read as tacitly condoning it.
So to apply all this to the idea of child sidekicks and child soldiers:
Theyâre not one and the same, and thus treating them as one and the same or interchangeable is IMO an inherently flawed perspective that doesnât ever have anything USEFUL or RELEVANT to the stories that most people are trying to tell with child heroes and sidekicks.
With the notable exceptions of Miller, Ennis and certain other writers who by their own admission usually arenât even trying to write about superheroes but rather deconstructions of the genre as a whole.....the vast majority of comic book writers, even the ones I dislike LOL, arenât writing about child soldiers when they write characters like the Robins. Because CONSCIOUSLY, with INTENT, theyâre already trying to write something completely different:
Child heroes and sidekicks are almost universally written to be child (although to be really fair, for the most part theyâre largely teen) empowerment allegories. Theyâre youth power fantasies.
Theyâre stories about kids, about teens, getting to be the ones to save the world. About kids who donât need adults to save them because they save themselves or their friends. Kids saving other people, other kids, grown adults. Stories about child HEROES are written as metaphors of hope for the future and the promise of the younger generations, or power fantasies where kids who feel helpless and powerless in their own lives can read these stories and vicariously imagine through the characters the idea of one day having the power to save themselves or other people, what that would be like, what theyâd do with that.
But hereâs the important part, and why people interpreting these teen and kid heroes as child soldiers doesnât really offer relevant commentary to stories that are written to be allegorical youth power fantasies, regardless of authorial intent or death of the author....
And thatâs because the key ingredient here, the thing thatâs not really up for debate or open to interpretation....is that these stories can ONLY ever be allegorical.
Because like I said before, child heroes and child soldiers are not the same thing. There simply IS NO REAL WORLD EQUIVALENT for child and teen heroes as comic books style them.
And thatâs why the fact that with most every child hero in comics, no adult makes them be a hero. They choose that for themselves, itâs almost universally characterized as a self-determination or empowerment moment rather than one of coercion like Miller likes to characterize it. His choice to characterize Bruce essentially drafting Dick as Robin to fight alongside him does nothing to provide commentary on any other superhero story, no matter what heâs told himself or his fans, because his story is the only one where Robin was drafted!
You canât condemn narrative choices that nobody but you has actually written and then act like youâre saying something about any narrative other than your own fsjsjfshfzgzfhgs.
And you also canât claim that youâre just seeing in the text something thatâs inherently there and the other writers didnât just see to avoid like I was talking about being a valid critique....because whatâs being commented on there isnât anything that was written unknowingly. Other writers consciously wrote the same things as Miller in terms of a child engaged in all that violence....but they deliberately wrote those moments to be metaphors of a kid that gets to save themselves and other people and CHOSE that, which is inherently opposed to the interpretation of a kid who is ONLY in harmâs way because he was forcibly drafted by a more powerful figure or force who cares neither what he wants or if he gets hurt.
These two ideas are mutually exclusive. They can not coexist in the same narrative because a character can not be powerless and self-empowering about the exact same specific choice. And thus anything thatâs said about one of these narratives is inherently unable to say anything thatâs relevant about the other....because the other is not written by its writer TO BE the kind of narrative that particular commentary is dissecting. Itâs not TRYING to be that narrative, so no review of it can possibly say how flawed itâs execution is of an idea itâs not actually trying to execute.
And the differences between child heroes and child soldiers are not just limited to choosing that or being drafted and these other differences are equally key.
The biggest being that child heroes can not be seen as âbasicallyâ the same thing as child soldiers.....UNLESS you are also perceiving adult heroes as basically the same thing as adult soldiers. And not even law enforcement or police or temporarily deputized or whatever else you want to spin it as....SOLDIERS, specifically. You donât get to bring up something as charged as child soldiers and then get vague with your terminology when the close scrutiny that brings to your analogy stops working in your favor.
If sidekicks are child soldiers then you must in conjunction view adult superheroes as soldiers. And not in the abstract one man war on crime way Miller likes to consider Batman in his attempted deconstruction of superheroes. ACTUAL soldiers. If thereâs no room in your comparison for child heroes to differentiate from real world child soldiers, thereâs no wiggle room for the adults either.
And again, except for Miller, Ennis and specific others who by their own admissions are not TRYING to view superheroes the same way most other comic writers are, but fail to see that genre conventions are largely interpretive and thus seeing room for different interpretations of superheroes isnât actually a commentary on how other people see and write those same heroes....like except for these select few, most writers are not writing superhero soldiers unless theyâre Captain America or Captain Atom. Yes I know there are other superhero soldiers but let me be pithy. Even those arenât really the same as their real world equivalents.
See, real soldiers donât make distinctions about whether or not theyâre willing to use guns. Their personal views on killing are not prioritized over whether theyâve been told to use lethal force to accomplish their objective. They have a chain of command. No matter the rationalization, they pledge their loyalty to singular nations and the aims and objectives of those specific nations over the abstract of acting in defense of the whole world.
Now again, maybe that applies to Captain Atom, but for the most part can you say the majority of comic book writers are TRYING to write Superman, Batman, Green Arrow, Wonder Woman etc through that lens? No. So while Miller really thinks he said something when he wrote his Batman with guns, fighting in the Middle East, killing people left and right, none of that actually âshowedâ people that at the end of the day, Batman is no conceptually different from a real world soldier like. No all he actually did was write his own take on Batman, and said look, heâs a gun toting murderous asshole, huzzah I have deconstructed the modern superhero!
Like. Shut up Miller. Honestly.
But seriously. Superheroes do not have a real world equivalent and neither do child heroes. Even when it comes to nonpowered ones like the Batfam, theyâre still deliberately written in a larger than life, four color perspective that requires a suspension of disbelief at the front door. We ALL know and understand that they arenât a blue print for how to go out and be a real world vigilante. Even real world vigilantes exist. But they donât look anything like the Batfam and itâs disingenuous to pretend they do for the sake of teh discourse. Nobody honestly believes that there is even the OPTION of going out one day and deciding to become a comic book style vigilante like one of the Batfam. Itâs why even theyâre termed superheroes despite the lack of superpowers. On a CONCEPTUAL level itâs understood that the stories being told about them require an extrahuman medium. You can not simultaneously write characters according to a mythic scale but then attempt to interpret that very writing on a real world one. It doesnât work.
Which brings me to my final piece of this pie. Or puzzle. Idk Iâve been doing this response for awhile I forget what this is.
And that is again, the difference between interpreting a story in a way the author probably didnât intend and understanding when a story isnât meant to be interpreted in the way youâre trying to.
And this difference is how I can understand and reconcile the idea that itâs not inherently abusive for Bruce to allow his kids to fight crime at all, even though that would inherently be child endangerment in the real world, but at the same time, I can view him as abusive in other ways that donât make allowances for the differences between real life and comics.
Basically it boils down to: CAN this specific element of a story be duplicated in real life or mirror a real life action or idea? Is there a direct parallel to a real world equivalent at all?
I can view Bruce fighting crime or saving the world alongside a child Robin without viewing that as child endangerment or inherently abusive, even when Robin gets hurt in the process....because there is no real world equivalent to those parts of a story. NO ONE, child or adult, is going out there and doing those things Batman and Robin style. Even the people who dress up in their own real life vigilante personas basically just do niche neighborhood things like walk people home from the bar. And even people doing real life vigilantism in terms of taking out criminals, like, thatâs usually more of a personal revenge thing and not one where theyâre trying to attract attention via a costumed persona. When you think real world Batman and Robin, nothing comes to mind for a reason.
And thus this says nothing inherently abusive about their dynamic, even according to real life parallels of child endangerment, because itâs not a real scenario. And thus itâs not TRYING to say anything about real life. Itâs innately allegorical. Itâs power fantasy emphasis on the fantasy.
In contrast, when you have something like Bruce hitting one of his kids.....no matter who the characters are, that specific interaction and the dynamic it presents DOES have a real world equivalent. Thatâs just parent/child abuse. And thus even if the writer didnât intend for it to be interpreted that way, itâs still a valid interpretation. If it looks like a parent hitting their child, you can call it a parent hitting a child.
Batman and Robin fighting killer mind controlled plants together? Canât happen. Iâm not going to call it child endangerment when itâs not a realistic scenario and not meant to be, and Iâve already been presented with a valid alternative interpretation of this being a child empowered to help save people alongside his superhero father. Thereâs no point in condemning a dynamic that CANT be translated to a non allegory in real life.
But Bruce hitting his son? A father no matter how good hearted normally, being affected by extreme stress or grief or something else that makes his behavior take a turn for the worse and reach a point where he physically lashes out even if he never would have in the past? Nothing remotely allegorical about that. That story has too many real world equivalents to dismiss as having nothing to say about abuse in real life. Even if the writer didnât intend for this to read as abusive because they were thinking of how much worse Dick has been hurt fighting alongside Bruce and never held that against him even though technically it was Bruce letting him get hurt....doesnât matter. That interpretation still requires viewing through a lens that canât exist in reality. No kid can ever excuse a parent hitting them by thinking of how much worse they got hurt taking down their local mob together and if he didnât blame his dad for that cuz he wanted to do it to help people then how can he blame his dad for hurting him in a moment of anger? Umm. Doesnât track see? Theyâre not the same thing at all.
Or another one that really bugs....Iâve heard people defend shipping a Robin while underage with an adult by saying if theyâre old enough to make the choice to risk their life and have that choice respected, theyâre old enough to choose who they want to be with. Umm. No. Thatâs not just apples and oranges thatâs genetically modified grapes and seventeenth century cannonballs.
That logic doesnât apply because neither of those things is the underage character choosing ANYTHING. Theyâre fictional. Everything they choose is just what their writer wrote them choosing. But again, one of those choices is one that an underage reader CANT choose in real life and have respected by every adult in their life, and thus will never have a bearing on their life as anything BUT an allegory they have to interpret and translate into something actionable they can apply to their life and choices. The other choice is them being written as presented with an option thatâs actually a textbook real life grooming technique and something abusers use to justify the relationship theyâre trying to cultivate with a minor by saying arenât you mature for your age, arenât you old enough to know what you want or to do this or that in which case you should be old enough to make this choice?
See the difference? Putting on a cape and going out to fight robots? Not directly applicable. Saying yes to the grown man saying he wants to have sex with you and thinks youâre old enough given this other choice youâve made that highlights your maturity? Thatâs a choice that can be presented both to a Robin or a real life minor, but a writer justifying that choice for that Robin by saying well heâs already previously made this other choice that has no real life equivalent.....that creates a pretty misleading interpretation to people reading that story and not stopping to think through the distinctions between what KINDS of choices the writer is presenting these characters with and then justifying via their narrative.
And while I havenât watched the video youâre referencing, anon, I would definitely agree that this is an example of how viewing child heroes as child soldiers is....not great. Aside from being cynical, misusing the idea of death of the author and helping to validate Millerâs choices and thus ego which is NEVER a good look LOL....it also intentionally or not paves the way for putting fictional types and MEANS of harm on an even playing field with real life ones and acting like itâs all one and the same with no distinctions to be drawn. And this doesnât actually offer anything substantive or constructive about holding characters accountable for reasonable expectations of harm, when the sources of harm have no reasonable equivalent and thus only exist in the medium of being a youth power fantasy in which the child involved is fictional and canât truly be harmed, with the harm done the second the scene ends and where the character can be back in fighting form the very next scene. Thus the only lingering element there IS the power fantasy.
Nope, all it actually does is muddy the waters in the REVERSE, and make it so itâs actually easier to justify or rationalize types and means of harm that DO have a real world equivalent, but by pointing to examples from a fictional medium and emphasizing the fictional characterâs lack of being harmed while de-emphasizing the fact that the writer has full control over depicting this in a solely positive light that doesnât ALLOW the fictional character any angle from which to voice that this CAN result in harm when not written for fictional characters according to a writerâs specific intent.
And thatâs that about that. My opinion: you have it.
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