#I know cishet couples can lose if it’s a biracial couple <3 but like

[laniidae-passerine]

but genuinely you can’t be doing the whole ‘oooooh two divorcees looking for emotional connection after heartbreak!’ and ‘I believe in romcommunism’ and ‘is it Ted that Rebecca is texting on banter???’ and ‘watch as they grow independence and self love but constantly with the feeling they’re intertwined in some lovely, chosen way’ just to go ‘actually they never get to together and Ted fucks off back home to the place that is now shaped by not great memories’. The fuck??? I’m bisexual, I was so there for the deeply unlikely TedTrent but I always thought TedBecca would happen because it makes more narrative sense. For two whole seasons they orbited around each other with this impending sense of collision, this hope they could find love in the strangest of conditions, in a stranger they’d never have chosen, only for that to be completely ignored??? This isn’t about ooooh heterosexual couple didn’t kiss (I will die on the bi4bi or at least Bi Ted hill fuck you) it’s about the fact that now, tons of moments are stupid as fuck! You played that with a hint of romance! You played that like something was going to happen! You wouldn’t shut up about Rebecca’s love life and Ted’s need to let go and have somebody else handle it all for him, they seemed made for each other from the start and you went ‘nah fuck it’????? WHAT IS THIS????

[jacensolodjo]

i will never understand the phenomenon of framing millennials as gullible idiot children who need praise every five seconds or they’ll get all sad and shit and they don’t know nothing about nothing.

especially when it’s parents doing it

we’re all out of our teens, some in our early 30s. we’re not dumb kids and older generations don’t have the monopoly on understanding politics. 

My dad thinks that his computer engineering courses back in the 80s makes it mean he’s better at tech than i am. 

My dad doesn’t use pop up blockers, has no idea what ad block even is and doesn’t use any kind of script blocker either and has no idea what it is for. He uses an OS for work that is 3 microsoft generations back. 

And yet he laughs at the fact that i’m constantly looking into tech support jobs, that I have actual experience with it. I worked with Microsoft for years from home but apparently that doesn’t count. Because my inability to get a job now has nothing to do with my skill and everything to do with what I am because I’ve gotten half a dozen interviews now only to lose out and I can tell exactly why by the look on peoples’ faces when they see me for the interview. 

My mum has almost fallen for multiple email scams. When I was three years old I was fixing her mistakes on the computer. She managed to move icons around and then had no idea how to put them back. She is the person who would fall for the ‘we’ve been informed your computer has a virus!’ phone calls if she ever got them. 

But no i’m just the idiot kid who doesn’t have a degree and is ‘fooled’ by ‘liberal media’. 

And yet

My dad has the cognitive dissonance to not realize he’s speaking to his disabled, mentally ill, not-straight (which he knows damn well I’m not straight even tho i last told them i was bi and haven’t bothered saying anything about ace because they’d never understand) transgender child who is the biological child of Ukrainian immigrants when it comes to him being a republican and debating politics. My dad, who is the quintessential white middle aged cishet dude who is middle class and has never had to face discrimination in any situation. My dad, who is constantly shitting on just about every identity i own and doesn’t even seem to get why i’ve put a moratorium on talking politics with him. 

My parents, who deny the fact that I’m very easily not-white and stick out in our family like a fucking sore thumb. Because my skin tone is only a couple shades lighter than my biracial niece’s and it’s obvious. Because I grew up constantly hearing them brag about my ‘beautiful olive complexion’. Because I grew up having people fawn over my skin and my beautiful curly thick brown hair. Because they’ve never had anyone do that to them or to my very nordic siblings. Because we’ve been living in the south for 10 years now and how people react to me is drastically different from when i was in ohio or hawaii (I did face some early microaggressions I didn’t recognize at the time though) or maryland or california. And not in a good way. Because of how I look. 

And dad continues to believe i’m just clueless, that I’m gullible, that I only have the opinions i do because ‘the other millennials do’. Even though he knows damn well I’ve never followed the crowd and that was part of why i had few friends. next to OH YEAH being physically different. 

I’m 28 next month and he acts like i’m just a stupid 17 year old getting sucked in by ‘liberal propaganda’. When he’s the one falling for the repub propaganda. 

And heaven forbid I get a little angry about it. When it’s easy for him to be cold and rational and distant because he will never experience discrimination. He will never go out the door and wonder if that day will be the day he will be the victim of a hate crime. 

He claims he knows, he claims he can’t be bigoted because of me and then in the next breath makes bigoted statements or he makes ableist/sexist/racist/transphobic/homophobic ‘jokes’. He claims he can’t be racist because his best friend married a black woman, because he has black friends at work. And he’s disabled peoples’ best friend because of me and he’s been involved in special olympics and did work with the Shriners. Like lmfao

god he frustrates me so fucking bad. at least mum is really mostly just guilty of actual ignorance and doesn’t understand a lot of stuff. I mean that doesn’t mean she doesn’t hold bigoted ideas and shit but at least it isn’t overt bigotry. I can handle it far better than I can dad’s bullshit.