#I had never in my life (EVERRR) done anything by myself before I started writing BB

[coffeeandcalligraphy]

life is sooo horror rn but you know what I’m romanticizing is writing 24k harrison in the last couple weeks of my degree & thinking about it in class & adding a little sentence here & writing it in class (lol) & wrestling with it on walks just me n the playlist & not being sure if I was doing anything right & still doing it anyway & writing it in the library cafe & writing it in the library cafe & writing it in the library cafe & on my last day in my uni city re-reading all 7k words of it in one sitting in the library cafe & and it’s sad that this part of my life is over but when I look at that chapter I think about how much joy it brought me in a place I started to find so joyless & these are moments when I love writing sm because it’s not just a thing I do but a defining part of my life ahhhh

[worlds-silliest-specimen]

school tips

hi i almost had a panic attack yesterday worrying about school so heres some tips and motivation under the cut so you dont end up like me

1: activities will help your social life but dont force yourself to do anything you dont want to just to make friends. always consider the actual activity before you consider the social aspect! this has saved me a lot of stress

2: never force yourself to do something when you dont think you can. i had a slideshow project due at the end of today and i planned on doing it last night but i ended up sitting there, overwhelmed, crying at the title slide for 30 minutes. i only started working once i told myself that progress is progress. i only did about one and a half slides, but i ended up getting it done in time anyway, just after i slept.

3: starting a big project is the hardest part. this ties directly into the last one. progress is progress, once you get going its a lot easier to keep going

4: let yourself take some dang breaks. you dont have to have straight As and a perfect gpa. sometimes you just have to sit in class and play tetris when you have free time. its fine not to be motivated all the time as long as you dont procrastinate. sometimes you do need to make yourself do something, but sometimes you dont. use your judgement

5: dont! compare! yourself! to others! …EVER!!! comparison is evil!!!! people will literally just be better than you at some things and its FINE and NATURAL. my best friend is an academic beast and does amazing at all her extracurriculars, but she cant draw or write or speak or craft like i can. its fine to have a different skill set than others, even if yours doesnt align academically. having different talents is natural, school is not. we invented school. remember that.

6: you dont have to look great every day. this seems like a no brainer but personally, i had a period where i was pretty insecure about how i looked at school and this wouldve been helpful to hear. of course hygiene is crazy important like keep that up but you dont need to have stunning outfits or makeup (having makeup on at school is actually lowkey annoying to me cuz i always accidentally rub it off 😭) or amazing hair it literally does not matter. do whats most important to you. if expressing yourself through your looks helps you get through school, do it! if its more important for you to focus on other things, thats fine too! i promise nobody cares

7: grades only matter to a certain extent. having a C in a class is literally so fine. as long as youre not failing, its not worth losing sleep over

8: dont hate ur teachers lmao. my math teacher annoys me so much but math class got so much easier once i stopped focusing on that

9: make a school playlist. do it.

10: do what you need to to focus! if you need to listen to music or doodle or use fidget toys or anything like that dont be embarrassed. people will understand

11: allow yourself time to do things that make you happy outside of school! my focus improved so much once i started making my fursuit because i had something to look forward to after school. hobbies really do help your mental state

12: love urself! my dms r always open if you EVERRR need to vent about anything <333 (yes. you. not just my mutuals. literally anyone. im here for ALL yall)