#I dunno. our hangout today was hard. I came over and set uo her christmas tree for her and then she talked about the baby and held the baby | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

rimouskis · 10 days ago

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I know there's a lot of talk about how childfree people are more free to discuss their wants and lives and lifestyles but there is also a lot of talk from parents (specifically mothers) who feel abandoned by society and let down and as someone who is uninterested in kids yet feels deeply for and wants to improve the material conditions of parents in this country..................... it still feels stupidly and frustratingly selfish and hard to watch a friendship deteriorate because of someone's journey into parenthood and the only societally-acceptable message I'm allowed to take from and communicate about it is "it's so hard for parents and we need to give them grace"

#which is true but it's also like cool I've basically lost a friend #and it's just hard 😔 I wish she had everything she needed to be a more fully realized person and out of survival mode #but there is literally nothing I can offer to help her. she has a husband and doesn't want me cleaning the house or doing anything useful #and also I don't want my friendship with her to just be servicing her house #I dunno. our hangout today was hard. I came over and set uo her christmas tree for her and then she talked about the baby and held the baby #and that's great but like. it's all about the baby. where is our friendship. I get so sad when things change #ah well.#being left behind when your peers hit all their life milestones is really hard

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