#I don’t want any lesbophobia or transphobia this pride

[thatcontrolfangirl]

Coming up on pride month I expect all of you to be fucking normal to lesbians, trans women, and especially trans lesbians. I know you all can do it.

[daughterofgaston]

Announcement

Happy Pride Month, everyone! I hope you all have a wonderful pride even if you aren’t able to go out and celebrate!

I am making this post that I too am LGBTQ+ 💖💜💙 (specifically I am bi). I also have she/they pronouns but tbh I don’t really care what pronouns you use

I just want to add a little disclaimer: you are valid if the only person who knows is yourself. You are valid if you’ve never been with (either romantically or spicy) someone of the same gender. You are valid if you’ve only been in hetero relationships.

No one else has a right to your identity but you! No one else can label you but you.

This page is full spectrum LGBTQ+ friendly. Meaning I will not be accepting any transphobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, or any exclusionary behavior of any sort.

If anyone needs someone to talk to, my ask is always open! I also have anon turned on so that way if you’re not 100% comfortable, I will not know your identity. This goes for year round for any topic, if you need to talk feel free to message me.

Thank you all, and happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[cuntess-carmilla]

If you followed me recently for That post about US imperialism...

Since that post seems to have died out for now, I feel it’s finally time to address some things. A ton of people started following me from That post going viral. I want to warn anyone new that this is not a politics blog.

I post about politics pretty often, but it’s above all a personal blog. If you followed me to get a charge-free political science class or some shit like that then you’re out of luck. I’m not a walking lesson. My life, thoughts and emotions aren’t a learning experience or case study for anyone. I’m a human being.

Now, some warnings:

I’m a man-hating dyke, this is an unironic misandry zone. I really fucking hate men and I’m not and will never be apologetic about that. If you think that this somehow excludes oppressed men you’re wrong lol (I’m looking at you, gay and bi dudes). I don’t wish men oppression because I don’t wish that on anybody even if I hate them. I’m not gonna be automatically rude to men as individuals unprovoked, but I ABSOLUTELY will if I’m given reason to do so, and I will not filter out my words whenever I whine about how much I fucking hate men in general. Got it? Good.

White women are insufferable too tbh.

Also speaking of men AND white people, please read the first fucking line of my very short description. It’s right there, for fuck’s sake. White women or otherwise white non-men, this includes you. I stg I’ve rarely had moc follow me since I put that in my description but a ton of white bitches seem to think that “men OR whites” = white MEN. No, baby. It means you girlies and gentlethems too. <3

I’m not too found of body-abled people or allistics either! Also of doctors and shrinks.

Specifically when it comes to psychiatry and psychology, I’m anti-psych/mad pride. No, I don’t think all the issues that psychiatry and psychology often poorly attempt to address are “fake”. Come on, I have many of those Issues myself and I’ve seen real human suffering by multitudes. It’s much more complex than believing none of those things are real. Click here if you want more details on my views on this.

Wlwoc, twoc and disabled woc are the people I prioritize most of all, lesbians in particular when it comes to wlwoc, but I do NOT tolerate biphobia, as I don’t with transphobia and transmisogyny either (as much as I’ll admit I’m not infallible with any of those because I’m not part of any of the affected groups*, but I do try). All of that said, I do not give passes to people for lesbophobia. I have done it in the past in specific situations, but not anymore. I don’t care who you are or what your intentions were. I’m sick and tired of it.

I don’t take kindly to people sexualizing me without my explicit consent. I don’t want to ever receive comments about my tits or whatever EVEN IF YOU’RE A WLW OR A GAY MAN. Call me pretty and shit like that if you want, but if you cross this boundary I’m cussing you out and blocking you immediately. The only person in the world who has my consent to sexualize me is my fiancé. I’ve had this happen to me too many times and I’m TIRED of it.

I’m extremely whiny. Complaining is one of my major hobbies. It’s an art. I’ve mastered it through the years. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

I can get really annoying when giving my Opinions and like, I’m a multiple Scorpio with a lot of Virgo and some relevant Aquarius so I’m a highly opinionated bitch. I’m the personification of “AND ANOTHER THING...!”

I rant a lot even when I’m not being a pissbaby! I’m a VERY silent autistic offline and, as I’ve mentioned in recent posts, my brain NEVER shuts up so in turn I don’t ever shut the fuck up online because I infodump and vent everything I don’t out loud in here! Among many other things, I often rant about interests the majority of the population doesn’t share with me. I will, in particular, post often about goth music and the goth subculture in general. I mean, I don’t get why anyone would be surprised about that after taking a look at my blog for 0.1 seconds, but I HAVE, incredibly, been unfollowed for Goth On Main Crimes. Also I’m not kidding when I say that this is me when I’m talking about music:

Also astrology. I like astrology a lot and I’m also that picture ^ when it comes to infodumping and theorizing around astrology. I do it a lot less now than I used to a while ago though.

Sometimes I post VERY triggering content. I try to TW as appropriately as possible while dealing with brain fog, but keep that in mind. This includes when I vent about my personal life, feelings and trauma. I don’t filter myself much on that end and that includes talking about csa and other forms of sexual abuse/assault, lesbophobia, allistic abuse, peer abuse (”bullying”) and suicide.

I use the words “cunt”, “slut” and “bitch” very liberally, in case you couldn’t tell on your own yet. Reason for that: I’m Chilean. If that bothers you, the door is wide open.

If we’re not friends or at least mutuals and I haven’t asked for advice, please refrain. Unless you’re being rude or inappropriate I won’t attack you or anything, but it makes me uncomfortable.

English is my second language and I’m developmentally disabled and brain fogged from my chronic illness, so prepare for me sometimes messing up grammar and all that. Hell, I do it in Spanish too when it gets bad enough.

I practice what I can most accessibly (if begrudgingly) describe as “witchcraft”. I don’t talk about it often here but I do from time to time. Jic, I’m not pagan.

*I’m not cis, I’m a non-binary lesbian. However, I’m still a TME lesbian at that and I don’t think MY experiences are materially comparable to those of trans people (including non-binary ones), so I choose, individually, not to identify as trans. This by no means implies that I think non-binary people aren’t trans or that I have any place to decide who among us gets to identify as trans or not, including non-binary people who’re similar to me. This is all only about how I feel about myself.

[raspberrymilkteas]

Do you know of any pride flags for bi women? I haven't seen any so I wanted to put out a request for anyone who knows of one or has created one to share it!

Hi thank you for the ask 💞

as a disclaimer i didn’t heavily research any of the people who made these flags so i don’t know if any of them are based in transphobia/racism/lesbophobia/etc.,

For a lot of bi women we are starting to identify with Doe, Tomcat, and Stag labels, meaning bi women who like to present more femininely (doe), bi women who like to present more androgynous (tomcat), and bi women who like to identify more masculinely (stag), if you are comfortable with these labels there’s a lot of varieties of these flags. Here are three that I have found

Doe

(this is really similar to the other flag)

x

Tomcat

x

Stag

x

There’s also these versions of the doe and stag flags which are nice in my opinion as they don’t use the pink for feminine and blue for masculine color coding.

x

I know you specifically asked for bi women flags but i thought it’d be nice to also include a poc inclusive bi flag as well!

x

so yeah i hope this is helpful! pretty much all the links to the original posts are linked with an x below the pictures unless otherwise specified.

[lovenotesuggestions]

Is there a way you could tell me all of the 'names' for exclusionist people? Like terfs, or people who think you need dysphoria to be trans (I don't remember the name ;_;) I want to be as inclusive as possible, and thus wanna read and learn more about exclusionists. You're very knowledgeable about the LGBTQIA+ community from what I've seen, at least a lot more than I am, so I figured you'd know at least some of them. I also wanna make it clear who to put on DNI list for my blog.

Thank you for thinking of me to ask, and for trying to educate yourself! Off the top of my head, the main things I can think of to look out for are:

TERFs sometimes also go by ‘gender realists’ or ‘gender critical’ - they’re more likely to self-identify as terms like those rather than as TERFs because they consider it a slur (it’s not). Also look out for people with things like XX or ‘adult human female’ in their bios or usernames - it’s TERF shorthand for identifying themselves as ‘real’ women. You may also see the term TWERF - trans women exclusionary reactionary feminism. Some people interpret the R to stand for radical, but reactionary is more accurate. 

The folks you’re thinking of who think you need dysphoria to be trans are called truscum or transmedicalists. On twitter especially you often see them with crossed sword emojis or lightning emojis in their usernames/bio, which they use to indicate themselves as fans of K/alvin G/arrah (censored bc he and his fans tend to namesearch him to harass people who call him on his shit) or storm ryan, who are two particularly virulent truscum youtubers. Ofc not everyone with these emojis are people like these, esp with the new pokémon game that just got announced, but I tend to be cautious of it. 

People who exclude ace and aro folks don’t tend to have a specific name - they tend to self-identify as ace exclusionist, though some self-identify as aphobes (which like... blows my mind when they claim to just not think aces/aros are LGBTQ+, but are happy to call themselves openly discriminatory and hateful towards ppl for having an orientation?? anyway that’s a can of worms for another day). They usually only refer to themselves as ace exclusionist, but this also extends to aro folks too. 

Not specifically LGBTQIA+ related, but it’s also worth looking out for SWERFs, which stands for sex worker exclusionary reactionary feminists, whose feminism opposes sex work and opposes legalisation of sex work (particularly full service sex work, which is the preferred way to refer to prostitution) despite evidence that criminalisation of sex work actively harms sex workers, who are disproportionately poor, POC, and LGBTQIA+. 

There don’t seem to be any other exclusionist ideologies with specific names (at least not that I’m aware of), but some other common ones to point out are:

non-binary exclusionists, who don’t believe non-binary genders are real (sometimes referred to as exorsexists, which is a name for the specific type of transphobia experienced by non-binary people) or who gatekeep the way n-b people behave, i.e. who say n-b people can’t identify as gay or lesbian, can’t use he/him or she/her pronouns, can’t use neopronouns, can’t medically transition, can’t present in a masculine or feminine way, can’t have typically masculine or feminine gendered names, etc. 

people who don’t believe pansexuality is a valid orientation (who think it’s just bisexual for people who want to be special, or who believe it’s inherently transphobic due to a misconception that bi = attracted to cis men and women and pan = attracted to cis and trans men and women, when actually bi = attraction to two or more genders, and pan = attraction to all/regardless of gender - whether or not the people in question are trans doesn’t play into it). 

There are even still people who don’t think trans or bi people should be included in the LGBTQ+ community, even though it was a bi woman who organised the first pride parade, and trans women of colour who were instrumental in the Stonewall riots. 

There are also a few particular brands of lesbophobia becoming louder recently, including but not limited to: people who assume all/most lesbians are TERFs or aphobes due to an unfortunate minority of vocal lesbians with these views, people who think lesbians can’t be non-binary, and people who don’t think lesbians can use he/him or they/them pronouns. 

People who don’t believe others should identify as queer or use/reclaim the term. 

If anyone thinks of anything I’ve missed anything off, please let me know! Also, if anyone has any additional good-faith questions, like what particular terms might mean or what I might be referring to at certain points, then feel free to ask them!

Pre-emptive note: This blog firmly believes in the inclusive nature of the LGBTQIA+ community - the history of our movement is based on inclusiveness and unity between the different groups marginalised for not conforming to cisheteronormative standards, and exclusionism has always been a bad thing for us - it’s the thing that made lesbians, bi folks, and trans folks have to fight to be included in the acronym, even though they were the founders of the rights movement. My LGBTQIA+ community is for anyone who isn’t cisgender, heterosexual, heteroromantic, and perisex and who wants to be a part of it. Policing people’s presentation and the way they go about expressing themselves in a world that tries to quash our self-expression is not part of the spirit of the movement that is supposed to celebrate diversity and non-conformity. People being themselves doesn’t make the community ‘look bad’ or justify homophobia or transphobia - the people to blame for discrimination are the discriminators, not the people being discriminated against for rejecting toxic respectability politics. I will not be responding to any discourse on this matter - y’all know where the unfollow button is. Keep it out of the replies and out of my inbox and generally away from me.

[jusadode-blog]

Absolutely post your loneliness essay (if you haven't already and I just missed it) I'd love to read it!

Anon, sorry it took me like a day and a half to respond, but here’s the essay! It’s about three or four pages long single-spaced in 12pt font, so it’s probably closer to five pages in total.

It’s not a perfect paper, but like I had this major revelation in therapy while discussing gay loneliness and issues in the LGBT+ community as a whole versus strictly gay issues. I kind of bounce around a lot and repeat myself, but I think majority of the points get across.

Thanks for dropping in Anon, I hope you enjoy!

CW’S: Aids mention, E.D. mention, and a LOT of discussion of hyper sexuality.

Okay,so we always use the joke-term “useless lesbian” because it’sstereotyped that lesbians haven’t been socialized to recognizeflirting due to internalized lesbophobia and similar stuff, and yetlesbians are far more likely to be able to maintain longer, and ormore romantic relationships than gay men especially during youngeryears (20’s) due to the fact gay culture is more aligned withhyper sexuality thanks to the lack of romantic socialization andgeneral hyper-masculizing culture of gay men. If in a city, Lesbianscan find older lesbians in their community and sort of have aninspiration to look to, whereas gay men almost never have an elder tolook towards (thanks to AIDs) and if they are often at odds sinceelder gay men and young gay men often end up battling because thecultural differences. Elder gay men know the value of community aftersurviving the epidemic, whereas younger gay men often simply have“friend groups”, and one night stands, as younger gays havealmost no idea what a future, wedding, marriage, or even theirelderly life could be due to simply never seeing their selves in sucha position. Younger gays often also tend to pick more hypersexualizedplaces for their social needs and community, which furthers issuesespecially as they age out of their twenties and still have notdeveloped romantic socialization. This leads to the issue where mostgays end up focusing so heavily on being sexually attractive, thatthey end up trying to find forms of masculinity in it linked towardsheterosexual masculinity.

This is why you’ll see shit on grindr like “no fats, noflamers” and shit because gay male culture is so focused on tryingto pass as having some form of hetero-passing form of masculinity(generally the sexual aspects, but also many other things) that we’reforcing ourselves to dehumanize our partners (both real andphotographic) into their most basic sexual elements. This is why gayerotica (not porn, but generally sexual photos, pinups, or gif sets)often slices up a photo of a man to just be torso and thighs,whereas lesbian erotica (not made for straight people that is) oftenfocuses on kissing and caressing. It’s the “male eye” but gay,which has the side effect of causing high levels of body dysmorphiaand E.D’s. in gay men, as well as causes major prejudice,isolation, and sometimes blatantly develops into full-on internalizedhomophobia and even blatant homophobia at times. I shit you not I’veknown at least three gay men who were against gay marriage.  Theytried to claim that they didn’t need it and it was just ‘theiropinion’, and I’m sitting here like Dylan (fake name), look, Iget you just wanna blow strangers in the bathroom cause that’s yourkink, but when you just state that as a gay person you don’t wantgay marriage, the conservatives that would bluntly kill you thefirst chance they get will use you as a tool to attack the gays whowant to be married.

And sure, the lesbian community isn’t squeaky clean itself, butthe focus of lesbian loneliness is entirely different from gayloneliness. Lesbians are lonely because they fear reaching out topartners at all, often trying to carefully maneuver between womensspaces as a non-threatening person due to the heavy stereotype of the“predatory lesbian”, whereas gay men are lonely because we’reconstantly grasping at any individual who’ll have us for a night,fulfilling only momentary needs and ultimately hypersexualizingourselves for quick consumption. Gay men try to empower their selvesthrough their sexuality and their sexualism, but ultimately thisleads to them to being alone and separated from the rest of thecommunity who focus on more romantic or identity-based aspects oftheir sexuality (As well as gay empowerment through sexualism is aslippery slope to misogyny, transphobia, and frequently racist). Butthis shit ain’t even just white-gay culture, it’s a thing a shitton of gay men go through regardless of ethnicity [however, there areprobably major differences between white-gay hypersexualization andgay-poc hypersexualization, but I’m frankly not educated enough toreally speak on that]. This has larger issues than just within thegay community then, because it affects other sexual and genderidentities by making popular LGBT+ environments hypersexual, whichhas been especially notable for causing issues with LGBT+ youth whocannot begin to join the community due to such until they’re 21.Since gay men are the most visible to the straight community, thehypersexualization that gay males empower their selves with become astereotype for all the LGBT+ community, followed up by within the gaycommunity once someone is not sexual-enough they are often outcastedor questioned on their queerness.

The thing is though, it’s not wrong to be sexual, nor is itwrong to be empowered by your sexualism, but it leaves many menshallow to their partners, and feeling alone which is the problemwhich becomes a cycle. You’re lonely, you swipe, you fuck, youleave, and you’re lonely again so you swipe again. Luckily most gaymen develop social skills to make friends despite this, and caneventually learn to have proper healthy relationships and a healthyrelationship with sexualism, but in the age of social media andtechnology where already most friendships are diluted it’s going tobecome far more challenging for gay men to function as sociallycompetent individuals. We’re often suffering from a hellish mix oftoxic masculinity and the battle for gay pride, and both of thesethings are at constant odds with each other due to gay masculinityhaving entirely different behaviors associated with it than heteromasculinity. You can be a hetero masculine individual without beingtoxic( look at Terry Crews) whereas you can still be a gay masculineindividual while being incredibly toxic (Shane Dawson is the onlyperson I can think of right now with a lot of toxic gay masculinitytraits, but he’s bisexual so his experience isn’t entirely thesame, but he’s still a good point of reference.). There’s countless of gay men who aren’t toxic, but it seems like the only ones who make it on TV or as Youtube stars are.

And this leaves us both at constant odds with ourselves, and ourcommunity. Gay men develop depression, sex addiction, drugdependence, E.D’s, body dysmorphia, and tons of other horrible shitbecause we’re constantly trying to objectify ourselves while stillgrasping onto the very same masculinity which almost got us to killourselves in our childhoods. We want to be proud of who we are, andmost of the time we can be, but we also want to be recognized asmen™, and we have trouble accepting that those two things justcan’t work together. Most gay men end up able to deal with itenough to find a long-term partner, to get married, and othertraditional senses of a happy and healthy romantic relationship, butwe have it so much more delayed than lesbians due to our lack ofromantic socialization. Men in general, regardless of sexuality, haveterrible romantic socialization heavily linked to toxic masculinityand hypersexualism, but gay men end up affecting the whole queercommunity with this, despite often adopting GNC behaviors in one wayor another. Gay men experience gender and gender roles entirelydifferent than hetero men, but often still try to find means toaccommodate it. Lesbians who experience this weird dissonance oftencan speak out about their issues with gender related directly tobeing a lesbian, as womanhood is often so heavily bent on traditionalhetero women romantic developments, but for some gay men even whenwe’re in full drag and using a different set of pronouns we’reoften still battling for masculinity. Most drag queens use drag as amethod to break out from gender for a short bit and to just expresssome aspect of their self they enjoy, they often are truly empoweredby this and can find communities and friends though it, and that’sthe sort of weird difference between GNC lesbians and GNC gays. GNClesbians can always be GNC, whereas GNC men are expected to wipe offtheir face eventually (both metaphorically and literally).

It’s not hopeless though, as larger communities are built andgay men learn at younger ages they can find different forms ofmasculinity in healthier methods, as well as they don’t need tosexualize their self to be gay and proud. Movies such as Love Simonwill help future generations know some aspects of at leastdreaming of romance, which will allow them to speak up and allowtheir community to humor such dreams. This will allow them to developromantic languages earlier on, which will then help them findhappier, healthier relationships, and ultimately normalize queerromances in more visible methods. I live for the day that I see gaymen holding hands and kissing each other softly, rather than oneslapping the other on the ass and giving a wink, as even though thatis a pretty happy thought the romance there is not one most gay menwill be able to facilitate throughout their life. The constant needfor sexualism in gay romances is isolating to non hyper-sexual gays, andfor those trying to imagine a romantic future. Young gay childrenneed to see older gays in calm, tender moments, such as cuddling,caressing, and doing silly daily things such as cooking or eatingwithout the constant need of sexualism. I have never in my life seentwo gay men hold each others hands casually, and that really messesme up when I try to imagine my future.  It’s a sort of weirdsituation where it seems like most gay men are living a “die young”life style since they can’t envision a future and want to have asmuch fun as possible, but then then they get to the “future” it’ssomething similar to being lost, and it’s almost as if everyphysical action I’ve seen between a gay couple has to have sexualundertones, and that’s not healthy for young gays to see that asthe only means of a “romantic” future. You can’t build arelationship off sex alone, and that’s the thing that’s tearingapart a lot of the gay community as we’re just so alone and sodesperate but we just don’t have the ability to develop furtherrelationships. Some of us will be fine without that, sexualempowerment through sexualism is still a valid thing for many people,but it’s not the answer for all. We need gay romance, not gay porn.[I won’t even begin to start on bury your gays troupes]

Now for the record, this is not meant to completely explain orapply to more complex situations such as homoromantic asexuals orhomosexual aromantics, or trans/nonbinary individuals, as those comewith a lot more situations which arise. As a trans-gay man, myexperience with gay loneliness is even more complicated as I am evenfurther isolated from the community and have a higher-risk ofdeveloping toxic ideas of masculinity. This post does not even beginto touch on the issues of bisexuals, pansexuals, or aroaces, as theyhave different cultures than gay or lesbian cultures despiteoverlapping heavily on many parts. There are also no considerations for job-oriented dreams, or experience-related dreams (I.E. traveling the world, moving, etc.) There is no consideration for polyamorous individuals as that get’s WAY to complicated on all sides. This is also all my personalobservation and understanding from what I’ve seen in both real andonline communities (both LGBT+ in it’s entirety and gay), and whatI’ve heard from other guys in similar circumstances. My experienceis still different than this, but I can definitively feel gayloneliness as a separate aspect from trans loneliness or trans-mascgay loneliness. I can’t even imagine myself with a happy future ifI were a cis gay male, removing all my other issues such as trauma. Fortunately, I am able to recognize a lot of my dependence on sexualism but it’s so hard to imagine positive situations separated from sex. I’ve managed to foster some dreams thankfully, and I’m unlearning hyper sexualism, but for many other gay guys they can’t even do that. If you can’t imagine a perfect date without imagining sex attached to it, there’s something a bit concerning there.

Also a major thing: This is not meant to shame individuals for enjoying casual sex. Casual sex is fun and dandy, this is meant to raise awareness that the gay community is extremely focused on casual sex over romantic developments. The media, the culture, everything we’ve built seems to be with extreme emphasis on sex, which leaves young gays isolated from the community, and distorts our ability to function romantically in the future as adults.

[hz-archive]

list of characters who died in infinity war

here’s a list of popular/common users who are aphobes so those of us who don’t want to platform them can avoid them or in other words, I see these guys casually on posts a lot and want you all who are reblogging them to know they are aphobes (and some of them have done worse yet, such as abuse, rape apologism, transphobia, being anti sj, racism, etc)tw for: ableism, abuse, abuse apologism, biphobia, body shaming, child sexual abuse, cissexism, conversion therapy, death/violent threats, fatphobia, gaslighting, homophobia, intersexism, lesbophobia, misgendering, pedo apologism, pedophilia, queerphobia, racism, radfems/terfs/swerfs, rape, rape apologism, sex shaming, sexism, sexual abuse, sexual harassment, suicide baiting, transphobia, truscum, whorephobia

. Keep in mind these may contain users that have been removed.[edit4] Aphobic as in,

don’t believe aro/aces are LGBT+,

don’t think aphobia is real, don’t think ace/aro pride is needed and/or that it is homophobic, don’t think aro/ace issues should be discussed,

think asexuality and aromanticism aren’t real, are “just modifiers”, are “just internalized homophobia”, and/or are fake “special snowflake” identities,

or worse, that aspecs need to be medically/psychologically examined - that being aspec is or is a symptom of a medical disorder or mental illness,

think asexuality just means someone doesn’t like or have sex,

don’t think we should educate about asexuality,

think minors can’t be aspec,

think the A is for “ally” which is particularly ironic while arguing aces don’t belong because they’re “cishet invaders”

think asexuality and/or aromanticism is pedophilia, homophobic, inherently abusive, or nsfw, etc

believe having sex without attraction is bad, mentally ill, abusive, rape, etc (just in general a lot of sex-shaming shit that often pulls in whorephobia), or even think aspecs can’t or shouldn’t date

often don’t even think you can be gay/etc and ace, and make sweeping statements against asexuality in general, so “lgbt aces” is a bunch of lying shit

make and support numerous lies regarding the discourse, such as that MOGAI was “coined by a pedophile” or that aspec was “stolen from autistics”

And most of them are biphobic, such as believing biphobia doesn’t exist, using phrases like “bihet”, and hating on “”””new”””” or “”””fake”””” identities in general, which means many are truscum/anti-nonbinary/exorsexist as well (fun fact: truscum came up with this “the mogais” shit btw), and most of them believing in “straight/cis passing” privilege

And tend to have a habit of shitting on people who identify as queer, or even imply or directly say nobody is allowed to ID as queer, as well as a habit of intersexism on top of that. Many also think it’s inherently homophobic to be triggered or uncomfortable by general pda and related content, including sexually explicit content (there’s generally a lot of anti-survivor and anti-sex repulsed bs).

Annnnd a lot of the cis here keep using “cishet” which is not their fucking word to use! because they have cis privilege! they are not oppressed by cis people! And a lot of them speak over trans people or outright try to educate us about what is “really” transphobic in the discourse. And the amount of misgendering is extreme, if the above big and bold part didn’t indicate that well enough.

Just look at my damned discourse tag ffs.

That being said of course if you see someone on here who is additionally abusive, an assailant, a radfem/truscum, etc, feel free to mention it. Blogs like

@regreceipts

and

@aphobehallofshame

and

@justaphobethings

​ has quite a lot of posts on these people (and others) saying awful things and being nasty.[edit] Due to the increased harassment, transphobia, and threats, I am now auto-blocking everyone added to this list. If you do NOT believe

any

of the above and I’ve made a mistake, you’ll have to find another way besides a message or reply to correct this.[edit] Also, (many) people on here aren’t irredeemable, there have been cases of people changing and being removed from here. There’s also the case of when someone else (often unrelated) takes over the URL and gets removed from here. If that happens, let me know… but again because of the abuse, these blogs are autoblocked, so you’ll have to find a way around that.[edit5]

“Why are there deactivated people on here?”

because regardless of deactivation their posts still exist and their comments on others’ posts also still exist, so, people who don’t want to give aphobes a platform should avoid those posts,

that’s the point of this list

0829z

0nlyskeletonbcnesremain

16bitdiscourse (also threatens physical violence on aces for coming out)

343-guiltyspark / x2013x (also a terf and makes posts about violently attacking trans people)

37q

3amstims

3coursemeal

410940

4lung

6-/-6-6 (remove / for blocking purposes, tumblr autocorrects it to a longer dash)

6c415f (also a terf and biphobe)

6juggernaut

8bitprincex

9-lovs (also a terf and pedo apologist)

96galdeco

999twink

9enj1

a-bit-of-luck-and-a-lot-of-hunk

a-phobia

aawb (also a terf, doesn’t believe in biphobia, doesn’t believe that refusing to date or befriend bi people is biphobic, and believes that bi women are privileged over lesbians)

abigots

abracababra / discourspicy

accelgors (also biphobic)

ace-aro-spectrum-ppl-can-b-str8

ace-bpd-sangwoo

ace-cringe

ace-discourse-attorney

ace-tears

acecommunityreceipts (also claims aces can’t be raped for being ace)

acediscourse-central

acediscourseconsumer

acediscoursehalloffame

acediscourselesbian

acediskhorse

acenvy

aceoppression (also believes calling trans people cishets isn’t misgendering)

acephobeon

acephobia101 (also believes sex ed shouldn’t be taught to childrenand that you can’t know you’re ace until you’re a teen)

acephobiafreediscourse (also defended discourseprincesa (see below) and protested her outing)

acephobiaisajoke / gonnadeleteafter (also a rape apologist)

acepom

acetungldotcom (also suicide baits; wishes death on aces)

aceslation / lesbiandiscordblog (also blames Ace Tumblr TM for lesbian porn)

acevorese

acting-lesbianistically

aceslayertrannie

acetungle

acewlws

achievement-hunter

acoupleofradfems (also a terf)

actualaphobe

adlernotes

adrogony (also a harasser/violates people’s boundaries)

aejeung

aephobe

aescourse (also literally used the term “coping culture” to describe aspec identities because it’s just “internalized problems” and in general that’s skeevy and ableist-sounding as fuck)

afrodeitys

aggressivelygay (also claims the Q has never been for queer)

airoehead

akefiah (also believes trans men can use the b slur)

akuicnhialic

alanturiing (also believes aces should not “come out” / that it’s appropriation for aces to come out)

aleshakills

alexagent21

alexandrareadsthings / lgbtandlatinxandloud

alexjames1991 (also anti-sj)

alexkarev

alfonsopoopoofattylll

algo-hermoso

alicecourse / rosedisquartz  / happy-dys / nancy-elsner (also polices how people with DID and/or are otherkin identify)

all-about-that-discourse

allamericanaphobe

allo-dyke-privilege (also compares aspecs to donald trump / other bigots)

allobot

alloculture (also compares aspecs to donald trump / other bigots)

allodiscourse (also believes the existence of aces contributes to sexualizing other lgbt+ people)

allogay-agenda

allogaycipher

allogrips

allojaneway (also mocks “"new”“ identities / neurogenders, ableist truscum vibe)

allolesbean

allolovingallo

allosecual (also believes queerphobia doesn’t exist, ignores white privilege)

allosexiness

allosluts

alloturkey

alolagay

alysscourse

amant-lesbienne

ambient-heart

ambiguouslyevil / platypusbunny (also defended discourseprincesa (see below) and protested her outing)

ambipom

amhsmuseum (also suicide baits, this blog is also an abuse porn blog)

amiibo

amorpatriae (also believes everyone who identifies as queer is a "pretentious heterosexual”)

an-gremlin

anachronizomai

anafenza

anakinsskywanker (also doesn’t think misgendering trans people / calling lgbt people cishet is oppressive)

anandrine

anarchistmermaid

anarcho-bulbasaurism

anarcho-dragonitism (also does the “nonbinary people are basically binary”/”being attracted to nb people makes you straight” shit)

anarcho-dykeism

anderskin

angelazieglr

angelbabyspice

angelicaphobe (also compares asexuality to having a fetish)

angelicorice

angelsongs

angryangryaphobe (also believes being attracted to nonbinary genders makes you straight; believes that “nonbinary people are basically binary” crap)

angryblackgirlrants (also doesn’t believe women are oppressed)

angryintersectionalfeminist

angrylesbianpitbull (also believes people identify as queer just to invade discussions/spaces and get out of their privileges)

animedyke

angrysapphist

anti-ace-queen

anti-anime-pro-equality (I’m sourcing this one too because it can also be conflicting but for one as far as I can tell they are involved with numerous aphobes and they also think asexuality is all about not wanting sex, reblogging this post about how ace minors don’t exist)

anti-sjw-fluttershy

antiblackness

antifamagneto

antinagisa / thhpll (also racist, believes in reverse racism, speaks over poc, ableist / anti self-diagnosis, believes romance repulsion is rape culture, believes having sex without attraction is rape / manipulative, whorephobic / anti sex worker)

antiporn-activist (also a terf and swerf)

antmanns

apatheticattercop

aphobe-bones

aphobe-stocking

aphobeasriel / starflowey

aphobekorra (also believes minors can’t be ace)

aphobelesbianopinions (also suicide baits, supportssobercommunist, (see below) truscum undertones, thinks pan and ace aren’t real identities, says rape victims lie about their rape, and more)

aphobelovingcharacteroftheday

aphobeoka (also jokes about bigots being ace / makes AIDS jokes)

aphobes

aphobes-are-dumb

aphobespock

aphobestephanie

aphobeyurio

aphobi-wan-kenobi / lesbeans-on-toast

aphobia-is-real-because

aphobic-absol / crowfamiliar / crow-png (also demands aces who have sex stop calling themselves ace)

aphobic-dragon (also a truscum)

aphobic-flame-the-dragon / theflameneverdies (also believes intersex people don’t belong while being perisex, and dodges blocks with alternate accounts)

aphobic-mccree (also a terf)

aphobicalloagender

aphobicallogender (suicide baits, tells people to get raped, hopes aces will die)

aphobiccharacteroftheday

aphobicd-va (also pulls that “nonbinary people are basically binary” shit / “being attracted to nb people makes you straight” shit)

aphobicgemini (also makes jokes about bigots being ace)

aphobicjace

aphobickaworu (also defends making AIDS jokes)

aphobickoopalings

aphobiclottieperson

aphobicpearl

aphobicpokemon (also thinks aces can’t have sex and be ace, believes aro/aces dating other people are being abusive, thinks bisexuality is strictly defined as “attraction to same and other genders” and anyone who isn’t sga can’t be bi - also pulling that “nonbinary people are basically binary”/”being attracted to nb people makes you straight” shit and believes in “straight passing privilege”)

aphobicpoppy

aphobicsappho (also tells abuse victims their abuse wasn’t real, defends terfs)

aphobicsga /  lesbodiscourse (also doesn’t believe children can be ace / that asexuality is inherently sexual)

aphobicstimming

aphobitch

aphroditelesbians (also a terf)

apobicnblesbian (also ableist)

apocalypselesbian

apple-lesbian (also truscum)

applescabs

aqollyon

aqua-nymphe  (also terfy/transphobic)

arcadewave / 3000s / kiddieride

archerz

archiesgirls

archon-reblogs

are-cishets-lgbt

areoea (also makes sexual abuse jokes)

arentyouacuteone (also thinks telling people their abuse didn’t happen / they’re lying is okay and not gaslighting)

aresen

argxenta

ariikado

aroacechirrut (also believes headcanoning characters from children’s media as ace is “pedophilic”)

aroacediscourser (this is the person who made the “if you’re attracted to the opposite gender you’re straight” and also made a post that said “being attracted to more than one gender doesn’t make sense” so yeah they are literally a biphobe and their post was meant to be biphobic stop defending this shit lol)

artschooolgirlfriend

asensuality

asexuaisarevalid / asexualsarevalid2

ashauyel (also compares asexuals to bigots)

ashmage

asiansarecuteee (also derails posts about threats/violence towards aspecs)

asideofdiscourse

asimplepersonsblog

ask-oncies-jizz

asking-ask (also uses words like “transgendered”)

asleepingwindow

asmexuallyactive

astolfo-official

astralbodyodyody

asutori (also claims aces can’t be raped for being ace)

autumnsora

auntiewanda (also a terf)

autisticbadger / badgerbutch / aspecbadger / discoursebadger (also mocks triggers, whorephobic, racist, sex-shames, biphobic, and much more)

autisticponies

avantgaye

avpdroxylalonde

awaitingthematriarchy (also a terf)

awkwardanon

awtisticsapphire

baba-discourse

babyfairy

baconcourse (also believes nonbinary people can have cis privilege / don’t experience transphobia, doesn’t believe in biphobia, believes all aro people are inherently abusive for dating alloromantic people and that aces are “evil and manipulative” for dating, supports aphobelesbianopinions (see above), supportsgoblincourse (see below), believes The Ace Community TM is pedophilic; that aces think pedophilia is an orientation / that accepting aces is the same as accepting pedophilia, doesn’t believe any inclusionists are trans and/or poc, misgenders inclusionists including by calling them “b*tch”, believes all inclusionists are pedophiles)

badgrapple (also believes donald trump “isn’t anti-lgbt or pro-lgbt”)

badiscourse (also accused blog the-uncultured-lesbian of being ace)

baehraini (also terfy and believes the concept of biphobia is lesbophobic)

baenemy (also believes cishet women/allies can use the words femme and homo to describe themselves)

balletdiscourse

bandaidboys (also transphobic, biphobic, anti-otherkin, and mocks autistic people)

basrouge

batcourse (also believes queerphobia doesn’t exist)

bathole

batslime

beachdeath (also believes there’s “no legitimate evidence or personal accounts” of aces being raped for being ace, which is gaslighty as fuck (the link is of a reply to beachdeath’s reblog of this post))

beaky-peartree

beatleshater

bee-nut (also hates “”new””/””special snowflake”” identities / truscum vibe)

beenawayforages

beesbian

beesjpg

belbelmi

bendyscourse

benepla (also states there’s “no legitimate evidence or personal accounts” of aces being raped for being ace, which is gaslighty as fuck)

bensplayhouse1

berrycourse (considers “”“new”“” identities and aro/ace to all be internalized homo/transphobia / truscum vibe, also doesn’t think misgendering trans people / calling lgbt people cishet is oppressive)

beware-the-cishets (also doesn’t believe in biphobia)

bi-fly-and-datingaguy (also a radfem, twerf and swerf)

bi-is-beautiful

big-boss-official

bigmeangay

bigmeansjw

bigmeansweatydyke (also a terf)

bihettrash

billymacher / chrisjoshington

biancathewalker (also terfy/transphobic)

bioethicists

biomerge (also believes aces are actually “just ugly and weird”)

biosexuals

biotic

bipeoplearentyourpawns

bipolarbmo

birbcourse

birdfacts

bisexual-rose-quartz

bisexualdiscourser (also a terf/transphobe, anti-sj, and literallyeverything that goes with that, but probably just a troll)

bitchboi-naughty

bitterfuckinglesbian

bitterqueer420

blackberryshawty

blackmagneto

blackmodel

blackout2022 (also evades blocks, harasses, calls inclusionists the b slur and r slur)

blaur

bleep-blop-lizard-hop (also terfy/transphobic)

blinkpen (also believes there’s “too much focus” on trans women’s issues)

blkwlw

bloodglutton (also claims aces can’t be raped for being ace)

bluepulserjaime (also truscummy, believes neurogender nonbinary genders are anti-recovery)

bmwdealer

bndys

bodyalignment

bofa-gender (also a truscum who believes it’s not transphobic to refuse to date trans people, and that trans men experience misogyny and should have access to women’s spaces)

bolshoiborzoi / lesbianborzoi

boo-against-baddies (also truscum)

boolesbian

borderlinetraumatized

boreddiscourse

borxoii

borzoidoesdiscourse

boycoveredingoo

bpd-corgi

bpdhitoshi

bpdskullgrunt

brainpile

bratzmutual

break-your-bars

breastforce (it can be confusing but here’s a post she reblogged that says Ace Tumblr TM lies about asexuality being pathologized from a known and aggressive aphobe)

brehaaorgana

brensey (also anti sj)

broadcastillusion

brownsunbisexual (also is cis and says the ace community TM manipulates bi and trans people into being inclusionist)

brucespringsteen

bugcourse (also truscum / polices nonbinary identities despite being cishet because “mogai hell genders”, also believes queerphobia doesn’t exist)

bugzone

buippy / jackryandavis

bumbleshark

bunfem (also a terf and believes asexuality is a part of rape culture)

bunnietail

bunnyfemme

but-um (also a terf)

butch-kira

butchgender

butchscientist

butchspace

butchvulpix

butmuhgains

bvrger-kween

byesexualqueen (also a radfem)

c-c-top (also supports spamming tags with anti-aspec posts)

c-rowteeth

cadaverjones

cakecourse (also believes minors can’t be ace and if they feel sexual feelings there’s something wrong with them, also calls people lesbophobic for pointing out that there’s a lot of terf, biphobe, and/or aphobe lesbian positivity blogs)

calbrone

calicodiscourse

callout-atm

captain-narraboth

captainfunkpunkandroll

captainmarajade

captainprism

cardozzza (also defended discourseprincesa (see below) and protested her outing)

careyfangbutch

carmillasleatherpants / biiconelise

carothepandragon

caseation

caseydickdanger / d-d-dangerous (also lied about a popular TME inclusionist coining “aerf” among other accusations to discredit “the inclusionist movement”)

catandkitty (also supports posting nsfw and triggering content in ace tags and defended intentionally triggering a csa survivor)

cats-discourse (also believes straight privilege exists for people who are not straight, because it’s “not defined by being straight”)

catsdefensesquad /  kokumarostew

catsickles (mocks conversion therapy, says aces should be sent to therapy)

catsoftheworldunite (also compares asexuality to fetishes)

cattgirl

chaicourse (also mocks “"new”“ identities / neurogenders, ableist truscum vibe)

chainsawpunk

chamfrons-checques-n-champignons

chaotic-neutral-gay

chaotlcneutral

cheappussyweaves

cherryaid-fountain

cherrycolacourse

cherrydiscourse (also believes aces should not "come out” / that it’s appropriation for aces to come out, compares inclusionists to MRAs, speaks over trans people, unsurprisingly a TERF apologist)

cherryseltzer

cherubdiscourse

cheryltunts

childlikemperor / radical-as-fuhk

chinaglaze

chinon / panthxra

chisayukizome

chloepricekin

choaphobia

christiandiscourse / christiandemonology

chromelesbian

chumimiin (also jokes about bigots being aspec)

chunke

cinnimani

cipote

cis-het-people-arent-lgbt

cis-radfems-are-a-joke (also doesn’t believe in biphobia / believes biphobia is a lesbophobic conspiracy)

cisbus (also called TERF rhetoric “a super valid and correct idea”)

cishetsare-cishet

cishetsbeingcishet (also calls people cishets regardless of their actual identity, as a punishment)

cishetscanfuckoff (also biphobic)

cisish

cisphobed

cisphobepapyrus

cisphobiccommunistopinions

city-gay / kerr-avon / journeyofthetardis / levihateshalloween / levihateschristmas / thelazarusofsherlockholmes / vex-and-rue / iantolives / terminally-capricious / slamthatlike

clamoribus

clara-the-slytherin-graduate

clarith

clasifieds / guyripely

clericlucius

closetedlesbianopinions

cloudylesbian

clowngaud

clownplant

clusterc

cocaineteas

coldcocoamilk

collaterlysisters (also believes aro/ace is a fake front to “colonize” the LGBT movement and believes these identites should stop existing)

commanderlotus

communist-queen

commuwuism

comrade-butterfly (claims aspec is “identifying as unloveable”, possibly a troll)

confirmed-terfs (also a terf)

confused-alien-on-earth

constowllation (also a terf)

corepixel (also believes queerphobia doesn’t exist)

corrgii

cosettefauchlevent

cosm1cnova

cosmicspacequeen

cosmionaut

cosmognosis (also tells abuse victims their abuse didn’t happen)

courtneyhammett

cozybears

cmder

crash-bandisloot

crawlybug

creepycrawlylesbian

creepymallgoth (also doesn’t believe in fatphobia / that fat people are oppressed)

creepyziegler

crimepit

criticalzarya (also a terf and biphobe)

crockertierz

crowcourse

crowtez (also truscum and anti-sj)

crmen / brigmore (also sends suicide bait, makes trigger jokes, is anti-self dx, and generally a myriad of other nasty shit)

crunchydude

crushcups

crybabey

crystalgracee

crytypecourse (also ableist)

crytypedyke (another of the “nonbinary people are basically binary” / “being attracted to nb people makes you straight” types)

crystalgemphobia (also against teaching sex ed to kids and that asexuality is all about sex and thus inappropriate to teach about)

cstalli (also suicide baits; hopes aces will die)

cuckmobile

cucksouls

cucumberpussy

cultural-flannelist

cultural-goldmanism

cursedglasses / dragontype

curseworm

cutifly

cutetransdude (also truscum)

cybernetyx

cyberni

cylon-maoist-resurrection-tankie

cynthias-garchomp

dab-course

daggerdykes

daisydiscourse

dangergays (also biphobic; believes in “straight passing privilege”)

dantelesbian

dare-i-say-asexual (also truscummy / says “mogai tumblr” pressures people to be nonbinary, believes the “goal” of The Ace Community TM is to “avoid pda/intimacy”)

darlingdearestnot

darnallogays

darthgalpal / jedilexa

darthvatrix (also a terf)

daverubinfan14 (also a troll, anti-sj, jokes about bigots like Donald Trump and etc being ace)

daxcourse

daydreamlesbian

deanky (also jokes about domestic abusers being ace)

dear-lesbophobes

deardiscourse

debunkingasexuals (also adds nsfw to ace tags and sends nsfw to people, makes rape threats, suicide baits, etc)

decadent-trans-girl

decoslime (also suicide baits; hopes aces will die)

dedsxc

deepfriedasexuals

deepseacutie

deerghoul (also compares aspecs to bigots / villains)

deirdreskye

delightfuldyke

delusionalqueer

delusioncontusion / dateaneurodivergentwho

demisexual-yuri

derryflurries

derrymutual

dethk1ok

devilterf (also a terf and makes jokes about violent bigots being ace, such as ronald reagan / makes jokes about the AIDS crisis)

diabeticjedi

dibidibidiscourse

dictatorshipoftheswoletariat

didfaker

dietloafers

dillscourse

dilutedd (also a rape apologist, speaks over intersex people, calls nonbinary identities “anti-recovery”, believes aro/ace are “just modifiers” and not identities)

dirkscoursing

dis-corpse

dis-curse

dischorses

disco-discourse

discorpseee

discorse (also believes minors can’t be ace)

discourse-dryad

discourse-not-cats (also mocks positivity because positivity is cringey I guess (lol a lot of aphobes have this opinion it seems))

discourse-sunshine / crying9octopus (also suicide baits)

discourse-wizard

discoursecherry (also believes minors can’t be ace and that if you started puberty “early” / felt sexual attraction during early puberty it’s a “bad sign”)

discoursecourse (also truscummy and ableist, cis and believes neurogenders are “anti recovery” and that neurodivergence should not be a permanent part of who you are)

discoursecringe

discoursecrystals

discourseegg

discoursekilljoy (also compares using the split attraction model / the ace community to homophobic murder)

discoursekinni

discoursemami

discoursespy

discoursefish

discourseful (also doesn’t believe in biphobia, participated in mass harassment of a suicidal blogger and mocked their triggers purely over their interpretation of their own religion)

discoursehorse (also believes it’s homophobic that cis people can’t remark on transphobic and believes Ace Tumblr “made up the cishet is a trans word discourse”)

discoursehq

discourseishell (also is cis but remarks on inclusionists “not knowing what transphobia is”)

discoursepichu (also defends using the b and r slurs against inclusionists)

discoursepikachu

discourseprincesa / cishetlivesdontmatter / aphobicfag (also pretended to be an intersex trans woc, a gay trans black minor, and more, to get away with sending violent remarks and threats to inclusionists, using slurs, harassing people, trying to doxx people, and also claimed to be a “messianic” jewish person)

discourseprincesalies

discourserei (also claims the Q has never been for queer)

discoursereid (also believes being attracted to nonbinary genders makes you straight; believes that “nonbinary people are basically binary” crap)

discoursetrilogy (also believes anyone advocating for intersex inclusion is intersexist)

discoursette (also believes people should “look deeper into it” before identifying as ace because they “could actually be sick/mentally ill, traumatized, hetero-performative, etc”)

discourseworms (also believes pansexual and other mspec identities are not real)

discoursezilla (also makes fun of triggers, and makes incest and rape porn)

discoursingsaltlord

disdiscoursetoofine

dishoarse

displacecourse (also does that “nonbinary people are basically binary”/”being attracted to nb people makes you straight” shit and believes in straight passing privilege)

dissedcourse

dissthiscourse

ditchcourse

dizorder

dlscourse

doglesbian

dolley-madison

dominateeye

donetoleratingthisdiscourse

dont-do-discourse-kids

dontcallmequeer

dorrentian (also suicide baits, hopes aspecs are sent to concentration camps and they all die)

downwiththehets

dreamy-bisexual

dreamypeach (also suicide baits; hopes aces will die)

drpeppercourse

dthmod / dthefraud / fuckingrapeculture

dunkleocourse

dykealectics

dykeinator2000

dykes-course

dykesamus (also a terf)

dykeswhoprocess (also a terf)

eahdaring

easycheeseman

eatingsoapboxes

ecliptis (also ableist)

edgy-discourse (also compares using the split attraction model / the ace community to homophobic murder)

eggcave

eggylesbian

ehjaybones

elfcourse

eliscreams (also truscum/transphobic)

elusivefaerie

elvishteathief

em0tionlord / merewiftag

emeralddiscourse

emptynosesyndrome

enbyplant

endless-tiny-comforts

enoughtohold

enshima

equesbian (also claims aces can’t be raped for being ace, speaks over south african lesbians on the issue of corrective rape)

eris-against-gender (also a terf)

esbia (also a troll)

evenmoreuserboxes / evenmoreuserboxesmoved / nicemutual (edit: for those who keep asking)

everyalien

exclusionistrowlet (also compares being aspec to being an incel, says aroaces are actually incels)

exclusionaryhomosexual (also a radfem)

exclusionist-against-aphobes

exclusionisttybalt

exyclusionist (also homophobic, biphobic, and transphobic / TERFy and truscummy, posted this mess “proving” asexuality isn’t real that simultaneously defined gayness as inherently sexual, bisexuality as “attraction to men and women”, and used other trans-exclusioniary language, believes aces should not “come out” / that it’s appropriation for aces to come out, believes queerphobia doesn’t exist, supports fuckmogai (see below))

eyemeir

factori0

faded9

fadingthebiscuit (also a terf)

fag-slag (also compares asexuality/“the ace discourse” to slavery and pedophilia)

fagangels / kingshawaiiansweetrolls

fakedates

fakefurby

fakelaurent (also makes jokes about how disgusting people/bigots are ace)

faketranz

fairyling

fandomshateblackpeople (also speaks over trans people)

fanficswriter123

fangiescourse

fatallyblonde (also “sex critical” and a lesbian separatist)

fckin (also believes ace people just have internalized homophobia)

fecundism

feminismforlesbians (also a terf)

fernstream (also terfy/transphobic; believes in biological sex, defends “genital preferences” and “gold star” lesbians, says nonbinary genders aren’t real, etc)

ffxivs

ficklewitchsupporter (also a radfem and erases the identities of community founders)

fidgetspinnersuggestions

figbird

figuregayting (also misgenders nonbinary people by insisting on their relationship to the binary; said dfab people are “basically women” and “being attracted to nb people makes you straight” for example, and unsurprisingly will willingly align with twerfs)

filthyallofrank

filthyallogay

fishcourses (also aligns with TERFs)

final-roar / jouaku / askalragzos (also anti-sj and generally homo/queerphobic/anti-LGBT+)

flanneldiscourse (also truscum)

flanneldragon

fliipwizard

floralaphobe

floralsapphic

flovvright / animestump / azirabell / azirawin / noxbocksty

flowerlygirls (also a terf and thinks it’s “appropriation” for mspecs/aspecs to call themselves “gay”, a word that’s been forced on us for years)

flutespell

foir (also believes the existence of aces contributes to sexualizing other lgbt+ people)

fotnsmutual

foundthehomophobe

frogtank

fromrushhourwithlove

fucking-deactivated (also suicide baits, sends threats, anti-sj)

fuckmogai (also believes cis people can not be pan; that cis pansexuals are “fetishists” and being pansexual is “an inherently trans experience” - but also agrees with discourseworms about how pan/etc aren’t real? / truscum vibe, makes sexual remarks to / sexually harasses minors, body shames/pushes “vaginas are nasty” rhetoric)

fuckradfems

fuckrashida

fuckrigh / galruh

fulldiscourseofantibiotics / pisstocopeofficial (also defended discourseprincesa (see above) and protested her outing, believes people can’t be married platonically / that marriage is only for romantically active people)

fulljetalmacket / timgayterson

funnyanarchist (also suicide baits)

furcourse

furryanarchist / gayisntdiscourse

futchtop

futureblackpolitician

futurecrops

fvace

g4yr4t (also believes that “since asexuality is tmi” that teaching about it is sexually abusive / gross)

gaby2

galacticthor

gapdiscourse

gaphobe

garbage-empress

garbagequeer

gavereel

gavlan

gay-assy (also believes hypersexual aces are disgusting)

gay-caesar

gay-male-privilege

gayacediscourse

gayaceness

gayantigone / christianphobe

gaybestfriendcourse

gaybowzer / gaybowser

gaycentipede

gayconflictavoider

gayhani

gayhuey

gayjewish

gaykallo (considers “”“new”“” identities and aro/ace to all be internalized homo/transphobia / truscum vibe)

gaykeanu (also doesn’t even believe in “lgbt aces” and thinks you need to have sex to be gay)

gaykristoff (also supports various bigoted youtubers such as pewdiepie)

gaylor-moon

gaymaractus (also pushes that asexuality is all about sex and thus tmi)

gaymilesedgeworth / lesbocracy

gaynomics (also believes aces coming out is appropriation)

gayping

gaypussyretard (also anti-sj, terfy, racist, etc)

gayreinhardt

gayspaceprobe

gaysplainer (also mocks sexual abuse victims)

gaystin

gaysun

gaytrashcat

gaywash

gayyyluigi

gehji

gemalgamate

gender-cute

gendercriticalbear (also a terf)

genderists / nest

genderkilljoy (also a terf)

genjis-boyfriend

genquerdeer (also a pedo apologist)

ghostfem (also a terf and biphobe who thinks bi people can’t reclaim “gay”)

ghostielesbian

ghostwunk

giralina (also supported the harassment by mimikq, made creepy comments about a minor, etc)

girldagger

glasscourse

glowpools / girlphobes

gnc-centric (also a terf and swerf)

gncure (also believes it’s cringy to say sga is a problematic term and excludes ace, nb, and mspec people)

goblincourse (also terfy / believes in “biological sex” and that attraction works based on genitals, another of the “nonbinary people are basically binary”/”being attracted to nb people makes you straight” types, doesn’t believe biphobia is real, also antisemitic and racist, ableist, speaks over trans people despite being cis / mocks the concept of cis privilege)

godhatesthots

godkincourse

godtrashbaby (also believes “whatever aces think is wrong” and that therefore asexuality doesn’t exist)

goldenfleeced

golgothasdiscourse

golgothasterrorizing

gonegal

goodfrogboy

goodgoomy (also a truscum, derails posts about transmisogyny to make them about trans men and similar anti-sj behaviour)

goodsprings

gordita-chica

gorgeousanarchist

goth-kokona (also calls people homophobic for pointing out white and cis privilege, believes in reverse oppression, generally racist and transphobic)

gothgfs

gothhabiba / justsomeantifas / shitrichcollegekidssay (also biphobic, believes people in “straight relationships” have straight privilege regardless if they’re straight, says identities don’t matter but instead whether your relationship is gay, rape apologist, generally incredibly cisheteronormative and shitty)

gothicprep

gothpositivity

goths7

gravemomnito (also a biphobe who thinks bi positivity is anti-lesbian)

graysoncourse

grownfromseed

grumpyoldnurse (also a terf and biphobe who thinks bi people can’t reclaim “gay”)

gryffinewt / genderqueernewt / kewtgeiszler / newtaboo / hetshaming

gudroo / newtgeiszler

gumbo (also ableist; discounts people who are suicidal “for the wrong reasons”)

gurlukovich / frog-gf

h8keepers

hakyonalili (also finds the concept of cis privilege/transphobia “cringey”)

halemmerichdiscourse (also believes sex ed shouldn’t be taught to kids / believes sex ed is pedophilic, suicide baits)

halflinq

halharl-infigar

hamiltrashhhhhhhh

harmalade

harvey1950 (also jokes about domestic abusers being ace)

has-h-u-r-s-u-y-shut-up-yet

hasyantsstopped (also excused suicide baiting)

hate2breakittoya

hatlesbian

hcneylesbian / cvkescene

healbeats / toybuns

heartlessdad (also believes aro/ace are “just modifiers” and not identities)

hedalluthor

heirloomparasite (also a terf)

hellagaypokemon (also “anti-bdsm” (and anti-porn?) / swerf undertones, also believes only strictly gay people can call themselves gay)

helldiscourse

hellgar-discourse

help-im-a-ghost (also believes it’s abusive not to have sex with your partner / rape apologist)

hes-gay

het-repulsion-zone

hetcisphobia

hetero-twink / gaytkeepers

heteroabhorrent

heteromantichomosexual / lesbiantagony (also misgenders people and ableist; accuses them of faking neurodivergence)

heterophobicaaron

heterophobicsamoyeds / heterophobisamoyeds / transgenderbabadook / sjw-dog / beavis-hates-your-kink / beavisagainstcgl / dogs-against-ddlg ([edit] for those asking)

hetphobia

hetpositive

hiddenheart51900

himatzu

hintele

hivliving (also lied about being a poc, intersex, trans, HIV+, a survivor, etc)

hoebutmadefashion

honeyproducer

homeosapphic (also believes aspec labels exist because of “porn culture” / swerfy)

homoelitism

homonormaty

homophobiatch

homosexual-jude (also a terf and biphobe that belives in “bihets” / that bi people have straight privilege)

homosexualgiratina

homosexualspock

honeycourse (also truscummy and ableist, believes neurogenders are “unhealthy” and you need to be critical of your mental illness)

honeypudding

honqice

hotsoccermom420

hotspicydiscourse / zaryadiscourse

housefreege / eirichel

howgayofme / ilovegirlsalways

howtoacediscourse

hpdmew

hpdshiver (also suicide baits)

hreshtak

hufflepqff / asokhas (also believes minors can’t be ace, calls aspec identities “special snowflake wannabe LGBT” identities / doesn’t believe in “lgbt aces”)

humanactsbyhankang

hxmoerotic (also lied about aspecs and mspecs corroborating on a homophobic post about locking up and nuking gay people, believes non-gays making fun of nonsensical/reactionary homophobes is homophobic and “making it all about bi/ace/trans/etc people”)

hyorin

icielaspots

ifyouregoing

ifyourestraightyourestraight

ignis-divine-eleison (also a terf)

iloveradfems (also a radfem and says queer isn’t an identity)

ilovewomen666 (also a harasser)

im-a-slut-for-doritos

imsotiredplease / chaoticfutch

imtransgender (also believes minors can’t be ace and that ace people just have internalized homophobia)

inatodomutual

inclusionist-culture

inclusionistscringe

indidyke / butch-pride

inferior-mirage

inkcourse

interim-url

intoyoump3 / popqueensdaily / dailygrande / arianagrandesource / forjennie / selenamariedaily / freshgomezrobynfentygifs / eunhoia

iridescent-lesbian

ironicdavestrider

ishopeatsea (also defends gaslighting that “isn’t too much")

itchy-astroterf / itchy-astroterf-official (also a radfem, believes boys can’t be raped, antisemitic/Nazi-sympathizer, probably a troll, etc)

itsbpdtime

itsdiscoursetime (also aligns with TERFs)

izru

izzy-pea (also a terf)

j0ules

jawas

jben073

jealousies (also suicide baits, hopes aces will die, claims aces can’t be raped for being ace)

jelly-discourse (also believes childless women are privileged, and that ace privilege exists)

jengahm (also truscum and anti-sj)

jeoji

jerseymisery

jewcourse (also believes queerphobia doesn’t exist)

jeweljessica

jewishes

jewishmagpie (also a pedophilia apologist, truscum/radfem, anti-sj/anti-feminist)

jewishmetalcrusher

jewishtracer

jewrezi

jinna2010

jokeboyfriend

jokedaddy

jokerakira

jomojaba

joy-divis00n (also a terf)

jugheadpissedinmycereal

junkerdva

junomacguff (also doesn’t even believe in “lgbt aces”, thinks you need to have sex to be gay, threatens suicide)

just-a-john-doe

justacetmblrthings (also mocks triggers/trigger warnings)

justasexythings (another one that misgenders nonbinary people via exorsexist nonsense, in the same fashion figuregayting has; that a cis bi guy attracted to women and nonbinary people is not LGBT+ because “dfab people are basically women” / “being attracted to nb people makes you straight”)

justtraumathings (also claims if you’re inclusionist and identify as queer you’re “stealing” it)

juzosuzuya / juuzousuzuya (also believes trans men experience misogyny and can use the b slur, which it does not believe is misogynistic or a slur)

ka-hri / homoarchy (also a terf)

kafkamilktea

kaminoo

kanocourse (also makes rape jokes)

katsgf / oceansunfire

katsukidiscourse (also excused suicide baiting)

katwomen777

kaqepro (also a biphobe)

kellyanneconway

kellymarietran

kickitlikeadidas

killbenedictcumberbatch / cowbopboybe / ghettoinuyasha

killcishets

killstiles (also compares being ace to being into anime body pillows)

killvmane (also suicide baits, hopes aces will die, sends threats)

killvrsmaim / diavolovevo / knownaphobe / depechemodemutual

kin-bot

kindergraph (also lied about a popular TME inclusionist coining “aerf” among other accusations to discredit “the inclusionist movement”)

kingofdiscourse

kinkshamingcowboy

kinksharne

kittensanddiscourse

kittydiscourse (also transphobic/truscum)

klezmo (also jokes about domestic abusers being ace)

kms69

knaives

knifepixie (also doesn’t believe aspecs of colour exist, despite beingwhite)

knifven (also uses the r slur, is anti-sj, mocks triggers)

kryptid

kujojolynes

kuunakullanvalkeana

kyimphobe

kylo-ren-hate-blog

kyuarad (also a radfem)

laguzstones

lamo-lesbian

lambgf / coolartcorner

lapidont / lapidoodles

lapithyst (also believes sex ed shouldn’t be taught to children)

larscourse (also believes asexuality was “invented 20 years ago”)

latkek

laundrypods (also mocks sexual abuse triggers, sexually interacts with minors, is truscum, defends rape/incest porn and makes rape/incest jokes, and calls inclusionists fake / cishets)

lavabendingthot / redmagefag

lavenderpetal

lazykiddos

ldentlty

le0sbian

leafbian (also believes aces coming out are being appropriative)

leafduds

leftbians (also a sexual abuser)

legggberts

leiagrace

lemon-bunny (also defended discourseprincesa (see above) and protested her outing)

leo-the-mediocre-artist (also doesn’t believe erasure and invisibility count are oppressive/are aspects of oppression)

lesamis-laluneetastre

lesbian-artemis

lesbian-bill-potts

lesbian-catgirl

lesbian-death-trope / lesbian-ace

lesbian-ed / lesbian-ed-discourse (also a terf)

lesbian-lichen

lesbian-lizards (also a radfem)

lesbian-mimikyu

lesbian-noora (also a biphobe and mocks “”new”” identities)

lesbian-primarina

lesbianabstraction

lesbiananti

lesbianantigone (also a terf)

lesbiancarey

lesbiancarlyrae

lesbiandaydream

lesbiandnp

lesbianium-z

lesbianjadzia

lesbiankira

lesbianknuckles (also compares aces to furries)

lesbianloneliness

lesbianlunafreya

lesbianmadoka

lesbianmcgonagall

lesbianmikewheeler

lesbianonice

lesbianpoisonivy

lesbianpoodles

lesbianporg

lesbianprince

lesbianramens

lesbianratking / gamerfriend

lesbianrey

lesbianrukiakuchiki

lesbians-are-perfect / lesbians-are-perfect-discourse (also a terf)

lesbiansanddiscourse

lesbiansansastark

lesbiansdodiscourse

lesbianselenaquintanilla

lesbianstarbutterfly

lesbiantonysoprano (also a terf)

lesbianvelmadinkley

lesbijabi

lesbo

lesbolioness

lesbophobes (also a radfem/terf and swerf)

lesbophobish

lesbugs / bugslug / gastropods / transbug

lethargiclesbian

lettherebewhite

lettucegunbacontits

lezgem

lgbt-ace-safe-space

lgbt-mothra

lgbtcourse

lgbtfullstop (also believes “all men’s attraction to women is disgusting” because fuck bi/mspec people I guess)

lgbtkhaleesi (also believes asexuality isn’t real because “you can be given medicine to fix your sexual attraction”, and doesn’t believe that trying to medicate the asexuality out of people is conversion therapy, calls it “anti-recovery” to “indulge” asexuals and that all aphobia can be “fixed” by medicating aspecs)

lgbticup

lgbtqiaaplus

lgbtxmen / bedtime

lgunity (also a terf)

liberal-lesbophobia (also doesn’t even believe in “lgbt aces” and thinks you need to have sex to be gay)

libraofcolor (also believes aspecs “don’t know how consent works” and can’t consent to sex)

lightlydan

lightlydodie / lesbianaluthor

lightskinprivilege

lilycourse

limezeus

literaturelesbian

lizdexia

local-dunkass

localhorrorlesbian (also terfy, doesn’t believe trans men have male privilege and that trans men belong in women’s spaces / experience misogyny, against people warning others about users being terfs, gender abolitionist)

loldyke / catsgrant / niskaellster

lollipopfemme

lonelylittlegay

looktotheforce

lord-kitschener (also ableist; mocks incontinent people)

lorefriendlydeathgrips (also makes “moodboards” comparing aces to violent/fasicst politicians)

lornacrowley

lottiepersonn

lovelylinkle

lovethatdiscourse

lovingthediscourse

lowkeysalty

lowkey-radical (also a terf)

lunarsolareclipse

lupin-the-third

luxwing

lvl5 (also a rapist)

lycanlance

lycanrocite

lycanrocourse

lynzcourse

machipaku

mad-darling-and-naughty (also condones using “kweer” to mock “““mogai”““ identities)

madwimmin

maecourse

maggotmaster

maghreibisugar96

mai-waifu-critic

makeupho (also believes sex ed should not be taught to children and that people can’t know they’re ace until they’re teens)

makingstuffup

malibukandii

malirah

malviebertha

mandibuzzing

mangosuga

manslator

maractus

mariosodyssey

markwing-davey / ponderingduo

marmaladecourse

marsixm

martiancourse

mascgf / dyketw (also believes asexuality is a straight conspiracy to take over LGBT+ spaces)

maslna

matchsticksystem

maybediscourse

mazapanlesbian

mcdyke (also a radfem and biphobe)

mcflonalds

mczoinks

medicine / pure / infects (also truscummy / polices mspec and nonbinary identities, posted this hot garbage)

medscape

meetmlm / l5j / mlmducks

megaswordgay

melativa / allohoe

meltymermaiid (also pulls that “nonbinary people are basically binary” / “being attracted to nb people makes you straight” shit)

memesrightsactivia / antiwhitepropaganda

memeufacturing (also a sexual abuser)

mermaidradfem (also a terf and claims people can’t identify as queer / queer isn’t an identity)

metacourse

metalcourse (also truscummy and ableist, polices and mocks neurogender and nonbinary identities, makes fun of autistic people)

mgsotacon

mi0da

miamitxt

michfest / criticsrave

millennialsfabwlw

mimikq / candyaxe (also harasses people, makes fake blogs to frame the people they harass, steals photos and pictures, calls people slurs, etc)

mindthecactuses (also a sexual harasser)

minionsagainstaphobia

minnesotafatspoollegend

miphazel

missfame

mlma0

mlmarchive

moe-amethyst (also sends threats)

mogai-flags-for-us (also a truscum)

mogai-is-bogai

mogai-watch (also truscum, ableist, anti-sj)

mogaifreediscord

moirarty

monchevi

monoalloprivilege

monocultureshock

moon-boob

mooncryptid (also believes it’s homophobic that cis people can’t remark on transphobia and believes Ace Tumblr “made up the cishet is a trans word discourse”)

moonlandingwasfaked

moonlit-ghost / lunagetofftheinternet

moonqueenallura / radiantsuns

monsterlovinglesbian

more-fandom-backpacks (also anti-pan)

morganlebae (also a terf and calls ace inclusion “peak trans”)

morphodyke

mothbian

mothboy-official (also makes police brutality jokes, intentionally gaslights survivors and calls them pathetic for posting positivity/reassurance for survivors)

moxdilithium

musclev (also a terf)

mybigfatgaylife (also believes nobody has ever called for the death of aces while the ace community “cheers the death of lgbtpn people”, excuses suicide baiting)

mycolorfulfirecollectionblr (also sends child porn to inclusionists)

mycroft-holmes-lestrade (also is a terf, claims being aspec is “narcissism”)

myhonesthots (also calls asexuality a disease to be “cured” through murder)

mykz

mypolitics (also believes in misandry)

naeril

narcisupial

nastymasc (also supports sobercommunist (see below))

natcritiquescartoons

naturalselectionrabbit (also a nazi, transphobe, and homophobe (what are they even doing in the discourse…))

navigorl

nblesbians

nbsupport

neatoburritolesbian

necrodyke (also a terf and biphobe who thinks bi people can’t reclaim “gay”)

negativeprotons

nemoinvenit

nentindo (also makes fun of “““new”““ identities / truscum vibe, anti-sj; made a post about how making characters “ugly” (read: trans, jewish, poc, etc) isn’t progressive)

neverosbornn (also jokes about supporting trump if he were an aphobe)

neyruto

nightcrier

nightwingagainstcishets

nihilistgirlfriend

nikittypaprika

ninjaplayboy

nixie-kenz (also says queer isn’t an identity / people can’t identify as queer)

nixystix / reynaisalesbian /  lesbabeths

nomorecishets

nonamediscourse

nonbinarysapphic

nondescriptperson234234123423

noodle

norbury

not-just-another-fake-lesbian (also a terf)

notyouraverageallo (also ableist)

noxiousb

nudne

nuggetemily (also suicide bats, tells aces to die)

obamascummies

occhio-listic

oceanlesbian (also a terf)

odinsnotebook (also mocks identities/truscum vibe, and claims to “like offending people”)

odlaws / huckleberryhound (also jokes about domestic abusers being ace)

officiainasa

officialaphobe (also aligns with TERFs)

officialdownwithcis

officialearthbound (also anti sj)

officialember / plushember (also makes jokes about racists and violent bigots such as Donald Trump being ace)

officialgothgf

oleanderwasp (also truscum and anti-sj)

olimars

onioncourse (also mocks csa/rape survivors)

opal-koboi

opisaterf (also a radfem and biphobe)

optais-amme

optimistic-/-lesbian / miiind-palace (remove / in first username to block)

ovari3s

p1anetma1ik

p1hdremake

p3em (also said rape victims talking about their rape were “annoying”)

p7lots (also claims aces can’t be raped for being ace)

pacificrim / chiyoh / bugsweat / lovereplica / globaloffensive / webuycrystals / dirtbagleft / eyelander

pan-allosaurus

pancakecourse

pandulcecourse

pansexualkiba (also believes ace people just have internalized homophobia)

pansy69

paperandinklings

paramoregay / vrisrezilesbian

part4fag

pastel-aesthetic-girl

pastimperfection (also defends sobercommunist, see below)

peach-eatr (also a terf and biphobe)

peachesandcremated

peachyaphobe (also supports sobercommunist (see below))

pearlitariat

peelsavocadosinthedark

peppermint-dyke

perchance-to-scream

pericourse

perpetualperseveration

peroxider (also believes it’s not transphobic to refuse to date trans people, says only people who have transitioned have a say on trans issues / truscum vibe)

pesterchum (also evades blocks, harasses, calls inclusionists the b slur and r slur)

pettydavis

pettyqueer

phensuximide

phobe

pieandhotdogs

pikminlesbian

pineappleisdelicious

pissedofflesbian / pissedofflesbian-archive

pisshets

pitoudiscourses

pixshi / zaryanovas-wife / team-lesbians (also a biphobe who thinks bi people can’t reclaim “gay”)

pizzaback

plantcourse

plntboy

pochowek

poetic-nerd

poetrylesbian

polarum

ponygem

popgothica

poprockslesbian

porygons / charmanderriere (also believes nobody should use the word queer, ever)

possumkingdom

powerarmor / conceptgay

precioustranswoman (also believes aspecs “don’t know how consent works” and can’t consent to sex)

presidentgay

prettyinpieces (also truscum, supports sobercommunist (see below)) believes in “bihets” - warning: blog is full of violent gore of women)

pridefulcolors (may believe aces are lgbt but they are still aphobic as well as a terf/swerf and truscum)

prince-lindworm (also believes tumblr invented transphobia and biphobia)

prissygrrrl

pro-gay

proncus (also supports violence, conversion therapy, etc against aspecs)

protectlgbtkids (also makes fun of ““new”“ identites / truscum vibe, also pulls that exorsexist “afab people are basically women”/”being attracted to nb people makes you straight” shit previously mentioned)

prosecutorvonkarma

protectron-gay

psa-callout (also makes jokes about bigots being ace)

pukebong

punch-your-local-ghost

punkashido

punkphobia

punkys / gayndam

punlich (”anti-mogai” in general, not specifically aphobic)

puppyborzoi

pussifoot

pussy-lemonade (also terfy/transphobic)

puto-papi / aljofares

pyonkotchi

qalleo

qslur

queerlisasimpson

queertechniques

quiet-queer-qool-qollected

r-az / r-az-remade

r0rschach

rabbt

radfem-gossip (also a terf)

radfem-gunch (also a terf)

radfemtori (also a terf)

radfemwonderwoman (also a terf)

radical-sloth (also a terf)

radicallylesbian (also a terf)

radicurious (also a terf and swerf)

rainbowcishets (also states they hate “people who use a term that causes nothing but harm and confusion” referring to asexuality)

rat-dad

ratcourse

rated-r-for-grantaire (also believes aspecs “bullied” LGBT+ organizations into accepting aspecs, and that children shouldn’t be taught sex ed)

raychus

rayisgey / toplovingtop

raymolk

realtransalien (also truscum)

redkatherineee / ileftbecauseeveryonehatesme

redkrypto (also anti-pan)

redrosepetalclub

redscout

redtubeyou / lordsaytenn / jonjafarifanclub / lord-saytenn

regein

reggies

reghatred

reindeer-ritsu

relishboi (also makes jokes about how disgusting people/bigots are ace)

repetitivediscourse

reputationlesbian

revolutionarygays (also mocks “"new”“ identities / truscum vibe, uses anti-sj buzzwords like "identity politics” and compares aspec/“"new”“ identities to pedophilia)

rheterophobia

rhythmstance

riggityriggityradfem (also a terf)

rinlesbian

rogersmithcourse

roguejedis

roketshipper

romansilver

room93

rootfauna / radfauna (also a radfem; terf and swerf)

rootfem (also a terf)

romanshiver

rose-quartz-discourse

rosediscourse

rosejorts / billnihilism

roseusvespertilio

roseylippedangel

roswater (also suicide baits)

rqdnqc

rubyfruitjumble / glowcloud / popularlesbian / sugahigh / thevengabus / jellypack / sugarsope / bangtanbis / yujuchingu (also transphobic/anti-nonbinary, biphobic, racist, reblogs child porn, mocks sexual abuse victims, etc etc)

rudebeads

rudedere / transfrogs

rudelittlegnome / devilscandies (also uses "kweer”/queer as an insult and calls people who use it “cishet”, and generally calls people cishet as a punishment)

rugelachs / bimahbabe

ryeichel

s-squishysquibbles

s8yrboy

sadchiquitabanana / luxlo (the one who made this post about how asexuals need examined before they can identify as ace and that the “ace community” is too validating and is encouraging people to stay sick)

saddesthime (also says queer isn’t an identity)

sailorsagainstterfs

sameenaf

sangriagloss

sapphic-/-dragon (remove slash to block; tumblr autoformats it to a long dash)

sapphic-cake-baker

sapphic-matriarchy (also a terf)

sapphic-userboxes

sapphicmercutio (also pulls that “nonbinary people are basically binary” shit / “being attracted to nb people makes you straight” shit, compares asexuality to kinks)

sapphics

sapphicscience

sapphicworm (also believes The Ace Community TM pressures minors to identify as ace)

sapphoe

sardonyxs

sassysassan (also believes romance repulsion / aromanticism is inherently homophobic)

scaredpotter

schrodingers-shitpost

scoobydiscourse

scottvasquez

scuzer

seaguanaisland

sebastiansmash

sectoniadx

seinfeldbassline

self-hating-ace

selkieradfem (also a terf)

semitics (also participates in “cringe culture”)

sensitivefae

sespursongles (also a terf that believes bi/ace/trans people collectively conspire against lesbians and make all lgbt+ spaces unsafe)

sethhbastian

sexhaver

sexhavers

sgaprivilege

sgatheist (also a terf)

shamelesslyunladylike (also a terf)

shaolinfantastics

shawty-shes-trouble

sheabutterbitch

shellomen

shit-attraction-model

shitboy96

shittyacebehaviors

shittylesbiandiscourser (also mocks triggers and suicidal people)

shock / jindosh (also believes The Ace Community TM manipulates/forces people to identify as ace)

shoobie-doowop

shslgamer

shut-up-genderists (also a terf)

sickofwhinybisexuals (also a terf, biphobic)

sierraseybold / unclefather

sikander-sg (also a terf, biphobe / compares mspec identities to pedophilia and incest, racist)

silbrig-guelden (also believes aspec labels exist because of “porn culture” / swerfy)

silverhawk

simirrors / chickenbutch

sinbadism

singmethetrees (also believes sapphic is a lesbian-only words)

siptheyikes

sisterbloomers

sithgay / gayestrey / dagobahlesbian

sjw-pit-bull / boba-fettucini / gay-pit-bull / gaypitbull (also supportsgoblincourse (see above) and acts as an attack dog for him)

sjwpanderer

sjwpug / strawberrycola / strawberryartblog / strawberryteardrop / strawberriesandcreaming / strawberrybloodbath / soberrywitchy

sjwsingles

sjwricksanchez

skullcourse

slashs-head-is-fuzzy

sleaves

sleepdontvisit / rebelbaze / tiredofcishets / tiredofcishetsblockingme / asexualmeansnosex (also makes new blogs to circumvent blocks and harass people, also calls rape victims liars about their rape / about being raped because of their aceness; rape apologist, believes there’s a conspiracy of turning LGBT+ people ace through conversion therapy / believes asexuality is a conspiracy against LGBT+ people, believes The Ace Community TM manipulates/forces people to identify as ace, insists bisexuals have to be equally attracted to all genders, speaks over poc and feels entitled to “call out [their] racism” as a white woman, doesn’t think asexuality is an identity but rather a symptom)

sleepingpowder

sleepyaphobe

sleepyflannel (also a harasser, mocks triggers, mocks otherkin)

slimecourse (also doesn’t believe in biphobia, believes aces coming out is appropriation, and makes jokes about bigots being ace)

slimez (also mocks ““new”“ identities / truscum, biphobe vibes)

slurhater / ashleyetc

smashbike

smol-acey-prince

snakegay / tretijreznor / tretijrebeglock

snerf (also suicide baits, tells aces to die)

sniffing

snowflake-collections (also anti-sj and truscummy)

snubbulldyke (also a terf; shits on nonbinary people who don’t perform androgyny well enough, accuses them of abusing gender power structures)

snufk1n

sobercommunist / pissedpoz / more-like-assical-major (also truscum / anti-nonbinary / transphobic, believes bi people in “hetero relationships” should stay out of the community; believes in “bihets”, anti-sj, uses side blogs to get around blocks, and more)

socialistexan

socialistgay

socialjusticar

soft-gay-mac

softaphobeaesthetic

softboy4softboy

softtrains

soih / aohkii

sojournerlies / wargaymon (also believes trying to medically treat asexuals is fine, that asexuality is “a symptom of illness”, also transphobic, harasses and stalks trans people, calling them liars, misgendering them, makes fun of trans people in need, etc, also threatens people who say they’ve been medically discriminated against)

solongi (also tells rape victims that they weren’t actually raped/abused for being ace; gaslights)

soloontherocks

someuphillbattle

sonicforaphobejustice

sonicnotdiscourse

sophiaring

sorryaboutyourmom (also believes asexuality is a straight conspiracy to take over LGBT+ spaces, and is a harasser/violates people’s boundaries)

sotfbutch

sourpunchgay (also believes in straight passing privilege and mocks identities / truscum vibe, makes police brutality jokes, believes terf is a meaningless word, is “anti anti”)

soveryradical

spacedijks

spacephobe

spatialapprentice

special-snowflake-burner (also suicide baits, anti-sj)

spectralcommunism

spencer-shay-against-gender (also a terf)

spengs

spiderblock (also tells ace survivors their abuse didn’t happen / wasn’t because they were ace)

spidew

spltnpearl / 86bit (proclaimed inclusionists had made a reddit to trash trans boys, was found out wrong, but never edited or deleted the original post with this information)

spookyknuckles

spookkypotato

spookyterf (also a terf)

spynda

spyrothediscourse (also believes it’s homophobic that cis people can’t remark on transphobia and believes Ace Tumblr “made up the cishet is a trans word discourse”)

squishable-amethyst (also believes sex ed shouldn’t be taught to children)

ssscumbaggg

star-aphobe

star-wars-discousre

starbutch / captain-pride / lesbiantasha

stardustmutual

starlight-lilith / slimeblogging (also believes the existence of aces contributes to sexualizing other lgbt+ people)

starlinglesbian

starpunchy

starrydiscourse

starrymiilk

starwarsheterophobe (also believes identifying as queer is homophobic and that only mlm and trans women can identify as queer)

starwarsisgay

steelcourse (also a rape apologist)

stickerpet (also a terf)

stimcourse / stimcourse

straightallies

straightboyfriend

straightpeoplereceipts

straightpropaganda

strawberriglitter

suctioned / aesphyxias (also believes the pressure on women/DFAB people to reproduce isn’t oppressive)

sugarsweetdiscourse

sunfloro

sunnyharley

superjotx

superluminalflower

surprisebitch

surrealjock

suspiciouslyterfy

swarnpert (also transphobic and still truscummy/terfy, believes trans men aren’t male / trans women aren’t female, against neopronouns, etc)

sweaterfemme

sweet-fiber-flips

switchbladenight (also truscum, doesn’t believe intersex, nonbinary, agender, pan, ply, etc people are lgbt)

sybilreisz

sylveon-the-discourser

sylveonstim

synovya (also biphobic)

synth-bop

taakofromtv (also believes bullying is necessary for society)

tackylesbians

tackytaako

takealookatyourlife

takethatzine

takoyuki

taktz

talkgentlytome (since they have some ace positive posts, their most recent ace-related post is this, about how acephobia / ace oppression aren’t real and ace abuse/rape victims don’t exist)

tankgirlongirl

taranoire (also a terf)

targuzzler (also transphobic/transmisogynistic)

tasty-bitch-nugget-666 (also believes queerphobia doesn’t exist)

taxloopholes / comcastkills (also keeps making jokes about violent bigots being ace, such as ronald reagan / makes jokes about the AIDS crisis, also ableist) ([edit] for those asking: supporting/joking with sourpunchgay, mocking incontinence, supporting a dfab aphobe saying ableism and terf are meaningless words now,comparing aspecs to “sapiosexuals” and mocking qprs, one / two / three)

tchaikovsgay

teacourse (also biphobic)

teadiscourse

teamnowalls

teddyisabear (also mocks aces for feeling broken, being outcasted, being erased, etc)

tellingasexualstoshutup

terezbian

terfmeanslesbian (also a terf)

terfs-are-dumb

thataphobiclesbian

thatchaoticgoodcishetace

thatdirtyallogay (also biphobic, against ““new”“ identities / terfy and truscummy vibes, believes minors can’t be ace, ableist / calls inclusionists “retards and retard-adjacent”)

the-a-stands-for-aphrodite

the-ace-community (also believes excluding twerfs is lesbophobic, is antisemitic, and unsurprisingly complains that it’s homophobic to say cis people can’t use cishets pejoratively)

the-acecourse (also makes jokes about violent bigots being ace, such as ronald reagan / makes jokes about the AIDS crisis)

the-eagle-atarian / steven-universe-official / puublack / oshama-scramble / girlcock-delivery-service (also anti sj, pedophilia apologist, transphobe, etc)

the-evil-allo (also a radfem and says queer isn’t an identity / people can’t identify as queer; claims you “shouldn’t be identifying as queer without consequence”, believes the Ace Community TM “lies” about asexuality being pathologized)

the-evil-lesbian (also a radfem)

the-laughing-mans-ghost (also believes aces are actually “just ugly and weird”)

theanti90smovement (also thinks trans men experience misogyny)

theburningrosebush

thediscourseblogs (also believes bisexual is binary and thus “problematic”)

thedlscourse

thedykecourse (also believes it’s homophobic for cis people to not have a say in transphobia, and says “the Q has never been for queer”)

theeirini

thefslur / moon37

thegaycousin

thehomosexuals

thehowlingwolf (also a terf)

thelastjediscourse

themisterscrubb

theonetruestrideertheretrowitch

theredspeedos (also terfy, believes in biological sex and defines bi/pansexuality as “attraction to both sexes”)

thesallowbeldam

thestateonmtv

theversatilist (also a terf)

thevriscourse

thewordvalid (also terfy)

thingsthatmakeyouacey

thotsiclepopsicle (also a harasser/violates people’s boundaries)

threed

thug

thuliym

timediva (also terfy/transphobic)

timelostprotodyke

tinyaibou

tinybeeholmes

tinytiel

tiqerboy / gaytigers

tired-sapphic

tiredagender

tockthewatchdog

toebisexualthings

toggenburg

tokicourse (also compares being ace to being a furry/having a kink)

tolmie

tomcats-and-tophats

tordcourse

totallyradicalblog (also a terf)

totallyrealacefacts

toxic-spill

tppelin (also suicide baits)

traingirls-vs-trigglypuffs (also anti-sj/anti-feminist, and likely a troll)

tranarchist

trans-chandra

trans-gay

transamazon

transbiring

transcourse

transdadlovesyou

transdiscourse

transfemale

transgambit

transgay-discourse (also says queer isn’t an identity / people can’t identify as queer)

transgirlcyberpunk

transgirlnausicaa (also mocks platonic relationships)

transkagamines / newleafwiki (also accuses “mogai tumblr” of calling hypersexuality an orientation)

transmagnusbane (also believes minors can’t be ace because “being ace is about not having sex and minors shouldn’t have sex anyway”)

transmascorpio

transmanroadhog

transmothwoman

transsexual-privilege / dysphoria-privilege (also anti sj, truscum, and a pedo apologist)

transsexuallesbian

transterezi

traumatizedofficial / whitesaviorcomplex / bismuthspartnerincrime / beckysspaceship / darkskinnedprivilege (also believes sex ed shouldn’t be taught to kids and pushes that asexuality is “all about sex” and therefore tmi and inappropriate to teach about)

trickstarbrave

tricourse (also believes sex ed shouldn’t be taught to kids / believes sex ed is pedophilic)

triggerwarned (also anti-sj, truscum, and believes nobody who identifies as queer has ever had to deal with anti-LGBT bigotry)

tronsboi (also truscum)

tropicalfucko

trubutt (also doesn’t believe in pansexuality)

truejew

truemonarchofthesewalls / paledreamsblackmoths

truscumzebstrika (also truscum, doesn’t believe in nonbinary genders, and that intersex people don’t belong and that being intersex is a birth defect)

turbo-virgins (also a harasser, violates people’s boundaries, believes medical professionals / psych professionals should not be required to be informed about asexuality, believes LGBT suicide hotlines shouldn’t help aspecs)

tvtropesofficial (also mocks triggers/trigger warnings, defends nsfw in ace tags/sexual harassment)

twerkcircus (also ableist)

twink-phobia / f-ag

twinkcourse (also believes ace headcanons are inherently desexualizing)

twinkdanielmolloy

twinkle4twinklelittlestar / twinkle5twinklelittlestar (also says queer isn’t an identity / people can’t identify as queer, says “actual LGBT people don’t want to be called queer”, and that “MOGAI is made up of cishets in denial” / calls LGBT+ people “cishets in denial”, compares ace pride to pedo pride, compares aces to nazis)

twinkspock / autistickeith

umbreondiscourse

unambiguouslybi (also believes people need to “think twice” before identifying as ace)

unfaggy

unfriendly

unicornichor

unrelatableuserboxes / torracat / lesbianlion / liepard (edit: since people keep asking)

unvirginity

uranusanti

urie

urstraight

uterusbear (also a terf)

v3n

valteuil

valucard

vapordiscourse

vaporwavesimulator

vaporweird

vayward-wagabond (also makes “ronald reagan was ace” jokes / AIDS jokes)

veganscully

velmacourse / angryspacelesbian (also truscummy, mocks neurogender nonbinary identities)

velmasgay (also sends suicide bait)

verarubin (also a terf)

veryhappyturtle

ves-rx

violetdiscourse (also aligns with TERFs)

violetsandflannels

violetsbian

virizioncourse / virizioncourse2 (also mocks suicidal people and intentionally triggers them, calls inclusionists b and r slurs, generally ableist)

viva-la-revoluchien

voguebrazil / nekuminaj / coldderosa / floralfallalyuna (also believes the Ace Community TM “lies” about asexuality being pathologized)

voidfort / voidfort-has-moved

voidiscourse

voltrons-eyebrows

vongoladodicesimo (also tells abuse victims their abuse didn’t happen)

vorecourse

vriskamutual / minionkinpositivity

wakeupthewublins

weepingbabe (also terfy/transphobic)

weirdgoth

were-wolfcourse

weredyke

wereralph / furry-traphouse / bulph-drew-this

werewolfkin / profdx

werewolfsingles

wetfag

wev

whalesharks

what-the-belle-is-this

whatingodsnameisupwithyou (also a terf, a prolifer, and believes hypersexual aces don’t exist)

whenfandomsfly

whomst

widowgaycer

wildewomyn

wikdsushi

windows-98

witch-course

witch-with-a-dick

witchlaced (also believes sexual activity and sexual attraction are synonymous; that aces can’t enjoy sex nor experience orgasm or they aren’t ace, and other mildly rape apologistic shit)

witchydiscourse (also believes it’s abusive not to have sex with your partner / rape apologist, and claims nobody has ever called for the death of aces while the ace community “cheers the death of lgbtpn people”, excuses suicide baiting)

wlw-teens

wlwromance

woemen (also excuses agreeing with TERFs)

woman-aligned

womz

wonderlandroundtwo

wondie

wordsdontreal

wtfantisjws / alwayscorrectinjustice

xavimigo (also tells aces to go die)

xclusionist (also calls LGBT+ people “cishets” as a punishment)

xelamanrique318

xirlfriend

xoyourstruly

xstntlsthmtc

xx-c0mat0se-xx (also suicide baits)

yaddle

yaintlgbtpn (also transphobic / truscum undertones)

yall-aphobes-need-to-stop (url was formerly an inclusionist but was taken)

yeeeboiiiiiiiihelp

yellow-discourse

yikescourse

yolandasgf / maialesbian

you-arent-queer (also tells aspecs that abuse they experienced didn’t happen, makes fun of aspecs talking about their abuse)

youarentlgbt (also calls inclusionists “cishet” as a punishment regardless of their identity)

youcanthurtmetheseshadesaregucci (also accuses people of faking mental illness)

your-homophobia-is-showing (also mocks “"new”“ identities / neurogenders, ableist truscum vibe)

youre-all-dead-to-me (also anti-sj and believes misandry is real)

yourgenderdoesntdefineyou (also truscum, doesn’t believe nonbinary and aspec identities are real)

yourstoxically

yupppppppppp (also says queer isn’t an identity)

zachenrylloyd

zacstac

zampl

zarpharah (also terfy/transphobic)

zerobullshitallowed (also truscum)

zolnks (also believes being attracted to nonbinary genders makes you straight; believes that "nonbinary people are basically binary” crap, also unsurprisingly believes terf is a meaningless word, despite being afab/transmisogyny-exempt, believes agender people can’t call themselves nonbinary)

[edit3] removing mentions because I don’t want my friends sent the same shit I was, esp considering their ages and triggers[edit] “But they’re asexual!” Yeah turns out you can be aspec and aphobic, like how there are women who are misogynistic, and most truscum are trans people. [edit2] “Add me to the list!” sure okay whatever, here’s everyone who wanted added

fun fact: MOST these people have misgendered me, misidentified me (calling me cishet, cis, aspec, etc), called me slurs, sent me suicide bait, sexually harassed me and made sexual remarks to me to intimidate me, trigger me, or as a “joke”, and used alternate accounts to dodge my blocks and continue to send me these things.

another fun fact: ALL of these people were very eager to be included on a list full of nasty people, including abusers, radfems, truscum, sexual abusers….

adhdyosuke

alwaysadolphin

angelkittykin

annanwaters

aphobicserenmori

archeangel

asexual-discoursing

autisticalistair

beahatemail

bethma

brutallus

buscobeast

carneguisada

clemyntine

cosmog

crazyress

cryptidq

cuddlingcassandra

cxpreolus

deathwiing

discourse-allosaurus

discoursecrow

discoursespider

distomolar

edgiegluskin

egowave

elfiuun

elliexer

extraterrestrial

ezlaiy

fairychain

femmephobiaofficial / nblesbiankurapika

femminiello

fentonthermos

filthyfrank

firstgrades

friendlycoolguy

fruitspop

fuggles

fureshiki

ghostadventuresvevo

gothbf

gravitysfake

grecianangel

guzboi

heavylovemail

hellcore

hgnzo

himeshirayuki

hopekit

ilybug

infinitetsukiyomi

jacamofinane

jarritos

jayfr0g

jayswing

jnxi

jouikids

kavinsky

kutales

lesbiancordelia

lesbianliadrin

lesbiansilvally

lesblion

lollipopfactory

lonlibra

makingfiends

memenyoomcle

miamipolice05

miiyashitaai

morosexual

mostlyv01d

nastyallogay

nbgirlisdon

nefepants

no3113

nugglet

oddbitch

opisaheterophobe / uwucourse

pastarrie

pinev

pinol

pussypoppinlikepopcorn

qolnareff

redleader

rob1n

rockdownu

rxquiescat / op-is-a-lesbian

servings

seleas

seraphicarte

setaokaiba

shintarx

shutthefuckup

siptheyikeonthat

sissons

spiciey

startling

stpedrogluestick

strangeauthor

stravvberry

suckfrog

tal-eire

taylas

the-fucking-lizard-king

tigerphobia

toxicsludge

trembled

turntechgeneticist

tweekbroscoffee

ultimatetaurus

undoaction

werewolf-boyfriend

wikileaks

wildaxes

wrymstym

xenegg

xmenblueandgold

z-city

[dilutedd]

here’s a list of popular/common users who are aphobes so those of us who don’t want to platform them can avoid them

or in other words, I see these guys casually on posts a lot and want you all who are reblogging them to know they are aphobes (and some of them have done worse yet, such as abuse, rape apologism, transphobia, being anti sj, racism, etc)

tw for: ableism, abuse, abuse apologism, biphobia, body shaming, child sexual abuse, cissexism, conversion therapy, death/violent threats, fatphobia, gaslighting, homophobia, intersexism, lesbophobia, misgendering, pedo apologism, pedophilia, queerphobia, racism, radfems/terfs/swerfs, rape, rape apologism, sex shaming, sexism, sexual abuse, sexual harassment, suicide baiting, transphobia, truscum, whorephobia

edit Last updated: 12/11/2017

[edit] fun fact: I am trans and queer!! thanks for the misgendering, misidentifying, threats, constant use of misogynistic slurs, and suicide bait!

(will exclusionists ever stop misgendering inclusionists and calling them the b-slur? the world may never know)

[edit] Honestly this has now become just a general list of aphobes for people to block, not necessarily specifically of people I “see a lot” that people don’t know about. So with that in mind, here’s an extension that lets you block a list of people at once. (edit: link fixed, sorry!) Unfortunately, it’s only for Google Chrome and I’m not sure if there are other versions out there for other browsers.

[edit] Latest additions, so people can keep track of updates: cadaverjones, captainfunkpunkandroll, captainprism, chainsawpunk, cherryseltzer, chloepricekin, chunke, cisphobepapyrus, clara-the-slytherin-graduate, clarith, clusterc, commanderlotus, commuwuism, confused-alien-on-earth, constowllation, corrgii, courtneyhammett, cozybears, crash-bandisloot, crawlybug, crunchydude, cuckmobile, cybernetyx, cyberni, depechemodemutual, peppermint-dyke, reindeer-ritsu, romansilver, wikdsushi

[edit] Other block lists to take note of: Pedo apologist list and list of other shitty inclusionists, list of anti-sj, anti-feminists, terfs, truscum, and their apologists

[edit] Previous versions of this list. Keep in mind these may contain users that have been removed.

[edit4] Aphobic as in,

don’t believe aro/aces are LGBT+,

don’t think aphobia is real, don’t think ace/aro pride is needed and/or that it is homophobic, don’t think aro/ace issues should be discussed,

think asexuality and aromanticism aren’t real, are “just modifiers”, are “just internalized homophobia”, and/or are fake “special snowflake” identities,

or worse, that aspecs need to be medically/psychologically examined - that being aspec is or is a symptom of a medical disorder or mental illness,

think asexuality just means someone doesn’t like or have sex,

don’t think we should educate about asexuality,

think minors can’t be aspec,

think the A is for “ally” which is particularly ironic while arguing aces don’t belong because they’re “cishet invaders”

think asexuality and/or aromanticism is pedophilia, homophobic, inherently abusive, or nsfw, etc

believe having sex without attraction is bad, mentally ill, abusive, rape, etc (just in general a lot of sex-shaming shit that often pulls in whorephobia), or even think aspecs can’t or shouldn’t date

often don’t even think you can be gay/etc and ace, and make sweeping statements against asexuality in general, so “lgbt aces” is a bunch of lying shit

make and support numerous lies regarding the discourse, such as that MOGAI was “coined by a pedophile” or that aspec was “stolen from autistics”

And most of them are biphobic, such as believing biphobia doesn’t exist, using phrases like “bihet”, and hating on “”””new”””” or “”””fake”””” identities in general, which means many are truscum/anti-nonbinary/exorsexist as well (fun fact: truscum came up with this “the mogais” shit btw), and most of them believing in “straight/cis passing” privilege

And tend to have a habit of shitting on people who identify as queer, or even imply or directly say nobody is allowed to ID as queer, as well as a habit of intersexism on top of that. Many also think it’s inherently homophobic to be triggered or uncomfortable by general pda and related content, including sexually explicit content (there’s generally a lot of anti-survivor and anti-sex repulsed bs).

Annnnd a lot of the cis here keep using “cishet” which is not their fucking word to use! because they have cis privilege! they are not oppressed by cis people! And a lot of them speak over trans people or outright try to educate us about what is “really” transphobic in the discourse. And the amount of misgendering is extreme, if the above big and bold part didn’t indicate that well enough.

Just look at my damned discourse tag ffs.

That being said of course if you see someone on here who is additionally abusive, an assailant, a radfem/truscum, etc, feel free to mention it. Blogs like @regreceipts and @aphobehallofshame and @justaphobethings​ has quite a lot of posts on these people (and others) saying awful things and being nasty.

[edit] Due to the increased harassment, transphobia, and threats, I am now auto-blocking everyone added to this list. If you do NOT believe any of the above and I’ve made a mistake, you’ll have to find another way besides a message or reply to correct this.

[edit] Also, (many) people on here aren’t irredeemable, there have been cases of people changing and being removed from here. There’s also the case of when someone else (often unrelated) takes over the URL and gets removed from here. If that happens, let me know… but again because of the abuse, these blogs are autoblocked, so you’ll have to find a way around that.

[edit5] “Why are there deactivated people on here?”

because regardless of deactivation their posts still exist and their comments on others’ posts also still exist, so, people who don’t want to give aphobes a platform should avoid those posts, that’s the point of this list

0829z

0nlyskeletonbcnesremain

16bitdiscourse (also threatens physical violence on aces for coming out)

343-guiltyspark / x2013x (also a terf and makes posts about violently attacking trans people)

37q

3amstims

3coursemeal

410940

4lung

6-/-6-6 (remove / for blocking purposes, tumblr autocorrects it to a longer dash)

6c415f (also a terf and biphobe)

6juggernaut

8bitprincex

9-lovs (also a terf and pedo apologist)

96galdeco

999twink

9enj1

a-bit-of-luck-and-a-lot-of-hunk

a-phobia

aawb (also a terf, doesn’t believe in biphobia, doesn’t believe that refusing to date or befriend bi people is biphobic, and believes that bi women are privileged over lesbians)

abigots

abracababra / discourspicy

accelgors (also biphobic)

ace-aro-spectrum-ppl-can-b-str8

ace-bpd-sangwoo

ace-cringe

ace-discourse-attorney

ace-tears

acecommunityreceipts (also claims aces can’t be raped for being ace)

acediscourse-central

acediscourseconsumer

acediscoursehalloffame

acediscourselesbian

acediskhorse

acenvy

aceoppression (also believes calling trans people cishets isn’t misgendering)

acephobeon

acephobia101 (also believes sex ed shouldn’t be taught to children and that you can’t know you’re ace until you’re a teen)

acephobiafreediscourse (also defended discourseprincesa (see below) and protested her outing)

acephobiaisajoke / gonnadeleteafter (also a rape apologist)

acepom

acetungldotcom (also suicide baits; wishes death on aces)

aceslation / lesbiandiscordblog (also blames Ace Tumblr TM for lesbian porn)

acevorese

acting-lesbianistically

aceslayertrannie

acetungle

acewlws

achievement-hunter

acoupleofradfems (also a terf)

actualaphobe

adlernotes

[groundramon]

Ironically one thing I hate about ace discourse is that any time I see something lgbt-related that happens not to include ace people my fight or flight response activates and I HATE it because I KNOW it’s dumb to insist that ace people be included in absolutely everything and I don’t WANT to give a shit about those gay-bi-lesbian memes or posts that say “hey gays and trans” or I see a batch of pride icons that mysteriously doesn't include the ace flag.  Like I don’t!  It’s dumb!  Idc!  There’s better things I should get worked up about on this site and we don’t fucking need to be included in EVERY lgbt meme!  But every time I see a post like that, my brain flashes back to the posts that say aphobia is a lie, or just the result of misogyny when it’s not (yes they go hand in hand, but so do lesbophobia and misogyny - that doesn’t make lesbophobia less valid).  That asexuals and aromantics don’t matter.  All the people who could care less if we’re safe and able to bond with people like us and instead just want to gatekeep anyone they don’t like from their community.  Not just exclusionists, if it was just exclusionists I wouldn’t care - I’m talking about the real aphobes who would even get queasy looking at someone who had an ace/aro pride icon.  Yes, those people do exist.  People who say “can ace people just...choke” as if there isn’t disgusting malice behind that statement EVEN IF IT WAS SAID TOWARDS A MAJORITY GROUP (I’m not saying “perish straight people” is an act of heterophobia bc unlike ace people there are PLENTY of people defending hets, but god).  People who act like kids cant be told about asexuality “oh because kids dont know about that kind of stuff” as if heterosexuality (NOT heteroromanticism) isn’t shoved down their throat from a young age (yes it’s different than just homosexuality but I rest my case) and also as if ace+aro people don’t know they’re acearo as kids (hi, yes, I did).  People who act like it’s an insult to even point out that transphobia and aphobia have some similarities, as though something can’t have similarities without being different/to various degrees.  People who say “if you aren’t a lesbian [even bisexual women] dont speak about lesbophobia/cis people dont speak about transphobia/non-mlm dont speak about mlm” but will turn around and walk all over aces and aros when they try to explain their oppression and experiences (and no I don’t mean simply being an allo exclusionist).  The fact that I have to POINT OUT what I mean by each point instead of just tellin ya’ll to fuck off because as a trans ace/aro person you’re actively damaging me and my other lesbian, gay, trans, bi, nonbinary, and pan friends who happen to be a-spec as well.

I’m tired.  I’m so tired.  Hey, exclusionists?  If you don’t want people screaming that you didn’t include an ace/aro option on your lgbt meme, don’t scream transphobia or biphobia or homophobia the second an ace/aro person tries to talk about their experiences with bigotry.  Similarities dont mean the same.  Just because trans and gay people are killed for their identities doesn’t mean aphobia isn’t real, it just means asexual and aromantic people aren’t killed for it.

[singwhenyoucantspeak]

So, I’m seeing a lot of ace discourse on my dash today, which is an odd coincidence since this is a topic i had a very long in depth conversation about yesterday with another friend. While I often reblog posts to signal boost information about asexuality and particular experiences of acephobia, I realized I have never really made a post or spoken up about it myself. With this in mind, I have decided to post a summation of the comments I made to my friend yesterday to let you all know what my thoughts are and why I personally believe we need to fight against the acephobia present in our community and support ace and aro people of all positions on the spectrum. That said, I don’t really feel like going through and editing everything I said yesterday, so I apologize if the following has tone issues or spelling errors etc, I’m just copying and pasting what I said in this conversation. I also want to note here that I myself am not on the ace/aro spectrum, I am lesbian/queer. The question posed to me was basically what is my stance on the discourse, and this is some of my response: 

I'm against gatekeeping. Ace people of all romantic orientations experience oppression from normative society. Inter LGBT+ community prejudice is strong between all sectors. Biphobobia, transphobia, and even lesbophobia are extremely prevalent as is sexism from gay men and yet we HAVE to work together as a community. Are some ace people who are heteroromantic homophobic? Probably but a lot of gay people also do homophobic shit and I've read enough and seen enough in the world to know ace people are oppressed by heteronormative society even if they are heteroromantic, and the same goes for aromantic people who might be heterosexual. But, tbh many many ace people are also aro and a lot of the non ace community wants to pretend like that's not a thing and that since they don't experience any same sex attraction they should get out of the community, which is stupid. There are also hetero trans people so using same sex attraction as the measuring point or definition for belonging in the queer/LGBT+ community doesn't work anyway. So yes it sucks when anyone the queer community does something prejudice or holds prejudice views and there are ace people who do, but they are still not privileged in society and to say they are is to ignore multitudes of proven life experience which is VERY dangerous for all kinds of reasons. 

And we as a community HAVE to form coalition regardless of what inter prejudice we have or else we CANNOT combat the current heteronormative hegemony. We have to respect each other and work together if we want to destroy the system that is oppressing all if us, even if sometimes it sucks. But tbh I've seen wayyyyyyy more shitty acephobic lesbians on here and actually not a single homophobic ace person so yeah that's just one instance of my personal experience but I think gatekeepers exaggerate the problem they bring up and need to look at their own selves and their own ability to listen to others with empathy. Because unfortunately we all rely on society learning to listen to us with empathy. Even with coalition there is not enough of us to change society without straight allies and how can we be so hypocritical as to expect religious heteros to put aside their beliefs and listen to us with empathy and change their views if we cannot do the same within our own community.

Also I think maybe it's important to note that my stance on this issue wasn't made based on Tumblr discourse alone. I actually came to this position while taking the queer theory course in my last year of undergrad and reading a bunch of scholarly work that also discussed this so I'm not just randomly jumping on whatever train my favorite blog is on... If that makes sense. I point that out not to be elitist about academia, but because I think that there is a common occurrence on Tumblr as well that people just pick up whatever stance on an issue that a blog they admire holds, I've in fact even found myself guilty of that, so with something this fraught with conflict I think it is important to self reflect and make sure that's not what I'm doing. 

I've also noticed a pattern in which many acephobes are also transphobes. And I think it comes from this paranoia of thinking that cis straight men are trying to infiltrate our community for some reason... Tbh I don't understand it. It's the idea that trans lesbians are really straight men in disguise and in a similar way ace people are really straights in disguise... It's so problematic and unnecessary.

I've reblogged quite a few pieces of writing on what oppression is like as an ace person if you're interested in reading some of that, I will include links to some resources at the bottom of this post. Because they do experiences a very different kind of marginalization than lesbians or gay men, so I think sometimes it's hard for monosexual L/G people to quite understand.

But I also want to make it clear that being ace is NOT an excuse for doing homophobic shit. So I'm definitely not advocating to not call out homophobia when you see it. Just that we should be addressing it on an individual bases in terms of individual actions, not advocating to exclude an entire group from our community out of fear that they might have prejudice.

i'm also just gonna add a couple things: there is definitely a difficulty in the fact that ace people and sexual queer people want and need very different things and that creates problems when trying to make a space that is safe and inclusive of both. Because queer people do not have the freedom to express their sexuality in heteronormative spaces so they rely on queer spaces to do that but sex repulsed aces can then find those sexualized spaces to be very hostile environments. The problem is that telling queer people not to express their sexuality in every queer space because it is hostile toward ace people IS homophobic. we need both kinds of queer spaces. Because queer people NEED a space to safely express themselves and their sexuality. But ace people and also younger queer people need the non sexualized safe spaces as well so we need BOTH. and people don't seem to be able to wrap their heads around the fact that it doesn't have to be either or. Ace people need to self police and know when they are going into a space that may not be comfortable for them, but at the same time queer people need to recognize the importance of having equal opportunities of safe spaces that are not hypersexualized. it's hard because there are so few opportunities for physicals spaces for us in GENERAL that it seems almost impossible to guarantee we are providing for the both, and the easy out is to just decide to exclude someone. but while that is an easy answer, it's not a good answer.

at the same time, again it gets very very complicated with relationships. some of the reports of acephobia on that lists I have linked I think need more detail because i do not believe a queer person who wants a sex life should be forced to be celibate because their partner comes out as ace. That is a case in which two people find out they want very different things, and while it sucks, a relationship is likely not going to work out. BUT, the way that that is handled is what makes the difference between it ending up as acephobic or not. and tbh I've been thinking a lot about this and I think part of the problem is that asexuality is so unkown. it really needs to be a conversation before the relationship gets too serious, but a lot of ace people do not know they are ace before they've ended up in a serious relationship. so the fact that ace people continue to get broken up with BECAUSE they are ace is a symptom of acephobia, not because their individual partners are necessarily acephobic, but because the system forced them both into that situation in the first place.

tbh I think the solution to is, is actually sex positivity, which needs to be understood as NOT the same thing as the forced/hyper heterosexuality that the media enforces now. I mean as in open conversation about sex and sexuality and sex education. I think part of the problem is that because the dominant christian culture is so weird about sex, there is a lot of argument toward ace people of "Oh you're not ace, you are just repressed and need to learn how to appreciate sex. sex is weird for everyone at first, but you get used to it and learn to love it, you just need to give it a chance." I think it'd be helpful to get rid of that weird ass christian repressive culture because then it is more clear that asexuality is a real thing and that a person's awkwardness toward sex due to a sexually repressive religious upbringing is in fact NOT the same experience as people who do not have sex drive and do not enjoy sex. because a sexually repressed person who feels that way due to christian upbringing can and will learn to become more comfortable with sex (I AM CASE IN POINT)  but an asexual person CANNOT and trying to force them to is very harmful/painful for them.

So yes, it's a shitfest of complicated issues, but that is just my take on it. also aphobia and biphobia sometimes go hand in hand due to this issue: https://singwhenyoucantspeak.tumblr.com/post/157331442151/straight-couples-shouldnt-be-at-pride so just another thing to think about. In the end, I’ve noticed that most gatekeeping heavily relies on heteronormativity which is like the exact thing we are trying to dismantle.

Links to resources: 

this one has a LOT of info, especially if you keep reading down to the bottom with the tons of links https://singwhenyoucantspeak.tumblr.com/post/163230928631/its-all-a-fucking-joke-right

i don't know a lot about the blog posting this but seems like a source of more info https://singwhenyoucantspeak.tumblr.com/post/127991052391/bhryn-asexualthings-asexuality-is-an

https://singwhenyoucantspeak.tumblr.com/post/103997214821/prettyarbitrary-oreides-pungeon-mistress

also this an example of why from the  standpoint of representation etc. ace people need our support https://singwhenyoucantspeak.tumblr.com/post/156705124231/how-is-riverdale-queerbating-and-ace-erasure 

There are probably more posts that I have reblogged with more or better info but this is what I could find since i never tagged any of it. Also, if any ace/aro people have input they want to add or want to discuss anything I said please feel free to sent me an ask, a private message, or just comment on this post.

[couldbegayer]

ok i’ve received more asks about this again and because i am sick of it i’ve decided fuck it. the following is just a stream of consciousness about the issue and i hope i’m getting my point across. please read it all the way through as i do go off on tangents. in posting this i am never going to answer another ask about the issue ever again and i’ll just link to this post in the faq. sorry in advance for my tone, i am very frustrated that i can’t just run this blog in peace.

my opinion on the a*ce discourse (whether cis heteroromantic ace people/cis heterosexual aromantic people are inherently part of the lgbt+ community) is that it is a lot more muddy and unclear than either side would probably admit. for the purposes of this post, for this i am just considering heteroromantic ace people to keep it simple.

ok, so cishet ace people and gay/bi people do have some things in common. there is the societal belief that every man and every woman must be sexually interested in the ‘opposite’ gender and that anything other than that is less than or wrong. this is damaging to everyone and out of a sense of obligation or never questioning any of it, many ppl (ace or otherwise) do things that they don’t truly want to do.

the primary reason that some people don’t think that cishet aces are inherently lgbt+ is because the community came about because of years and years of violent homophobia and transphobia. though there are some laws in place now and it’s better than it was before, homophobia and transphobia do still very much exist in today’s society. while it is true that cishet ace people do experience a coming out process and misunderstanding/prejudice of their orientation, it is still nothing like gay/bi and trans people experience. there were never anti-ace laws. people don’t question an asexual person’s right to marry who they want. ace people don’t get beaten up because of their asexuality.

then the water gets muddy. because while this is true, a lot of anti-ace woman sentiment that comes about outside of tumblr is due to misogyny. again, the expectation that women need to be sexually interested in men and anything that deviates outside of that is considered wrong or less than. i have no doubt that heteroromantic ace women get pressured into sex by straight men or unfortunately get raped. this is obviously appalling and no one should ever experience that. that is not being debated. it is however a bit hard to separate anti-ace sentiment and misogyny. rape is not something that only one subgroup of women can experience. it is all women regardless of sexuality who are at a higher risk of rape and sexual abuse and assault for simply existing as a woman. as for heteroromantic ace men, the anti-ace sentiment that they face is rooted in the societal belief that men must be sex crazed animals, or that ‘real men do this’. these beliefs are of course gross and i do not agree with them.

this is where the water gets even muddier and honestly makes me unsure what to believe. because while cis heteroromantic ace people do not experience homophobia or transphobia, they don’t quite fit into heteronormative society. they do experience anti-ace prejudice and misunderstanding from their non-ace straight counterparts. so this leaves heteroromantic ace people in an unfortunate middle ground where they may not be considered to belong anywhere, and everyone should feel like they belong.

where to go from here is also unclear. i do understand why people may be hesitant for heteroromantic ace people to be included under the lgbt+ umbrella, because they are just as likely as any other cis hetero (-romantic or -sexual) person to harbor homophobic or transphobic ideas. but honestly, there are bigger things to worry about than an ace person trying to feel like they belong somewhere. the hypothetical situation that often comes up is, ‘what if i’m kissing my same-gender partner in an lgbt+ space and an ace person tells me to stop because they are uncomfortable?’. obviously that’s shitty and homophobic. i don’t think any ace person would debate that. keep in mind that is a hypothetical situation and can be dealt with on an individual level if it ever happens.

so, do i think that a cis heteroromantic ace person is straight? honestly, not really. but do i think that makes them inherently lgbt+? i honestly don’t know and i can see some of the opinions on both sides, and i don’t really have any strong opinions except everyone needs to stop being a dick to each other. the world is not as black and white as people on here would have you believe. ace people are not stopped from going to pride, and the spread of this false information is just cruel to everyone, be it the lesbians who are often targeted or the ace people who are told that everyone hates them. it’s not true. i mean this in the nicest way possible, but some people do spend too much time on tumblr. tumblr is good in so many ways, but sometimes ideas circulate and get more extreme each time they go around.

i personally don’t mind ace people including themselves in lgbt+ spaces. like i said before, i think everyone should feel like they belong somewhere. they can also create their own ace spaces (there’s a pun in there somewhere, someone better grab that and run with it lol). there is obviously an issue of lesbophobia within the tumblr ace community. i’m not debating that at all and that needs to be dealt with accodingly. there is also a lot of anti-ace rhetoric in the wlw community which is also bad and i wish people would stop being dicks to each other. we’re all just trying to belong.

i want to be as clear as possible: i don’t want to answer any asks about this again. anon is going off. the expectation to participate in a*ce discourse is exhausting and frustrating. both sides are fucking toxic and nasty and i don’t want to be associated with either. people who unironically call themselves aphobes are fucking annoying children and people who use this discourse to justify lesbophobia are awful.

as per the question about why i screen blogs for transphobia but not anti-ace beliefs, there is a clear wrong side in regards to transphobia. the ace debate is more muddy and i do try to avoid people who are extreme on either side. if you want someone who only reblogs posts from blogs on your side of choice, whether “inclusionist” or “exclusionist”, then this blog is probably not for you. that being said, i don’t reblog any posts that are specifically about the discourse itself.

in conclusion, stop being dicks to each other. there. done. return to regular blogging.

[colorisbyshe]

Hi- I've been following you for a bit and have seen you comment on posts that try to include asexuals as part of the community, but I'm not 100% clear on why you feel that they shouldn't be (just that you do). Would you be willing to share your thoughts or direct me to something that maybe you've shared in the past? I'm bi but I'm not super active in the community and I don't know of others that share your viewpoint. Just trying to educate myself. Thanks in advance!

I just got an ask congratulating me on being out of ace discourse but fine I’ll give you the short and long of it.

The LGBT community is a community that exists to address the issues facing Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals (and any other MGA person who falls under the bisexual label, even if they do not use the bisexual label themselves), and Trans people (and any other person who does not identify with their agab, even if they do not use the label trans themselves).

The issues facing Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexual, and Trans people stem from homophobia, transphobia, and biphobia. As systems of oppression, these all come from the same institutions and modes of thought--that is to say, there is significant overlap in how we experience oppression, even between a cis lesbian and a straight trans man.

Part of this is because historically (and even currently), gayness and transness were thought to be the same thing and were referred to as “sexual inversion.” For example, a gay man is acting as a woman would because loving men is something only woman do. Therefore, he’s assumed to “want to be” a woman, ie he’s like a trans woman. Even more recently, we had the pseudo science saying “gay people have the brains of the opposite gender.” A woman who loves women has the brain of a man because loving women is a Man Thing.

Ergo, homophobia and transphobia have assumed the same forms. Sodomy laws affect gay, bi, and trans people alike. Marriage equality is a gay and trans issue because in a world where straight trans people are misgendered, legally they cannot marry their SO because they are treated as a same gender couple. A trans man only into women is seen as a lesbian by transphobes. Likewise, laws dictating how much clothes you had to wear of your gender/not of the “wrong” gender targeted gay and trans people alike.

Throughout history, Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, and Trans people have faced the same hardships, created the same culture together, and have the same legal woes. Between our groups, we share the AIDS Crisis, Stonewall, Lawrence v Texas, etc etc.. There’s a reason why Stonewall wasn’t just cis gay men and cis lesbians--it was a diverse space full of the L G B and T, all there taking refuge in the same spaces and fighting against the same oppression.

We are allied together by our fight against our mutual oppressors--cisgender straight people and cisgender aroace people.

Cisgender people all benefit from transphobia. Straight and aroace people all benefit from lesbophobia, homophobia, and biphobia.

Ergo, cisgender straight/aroace people do not belong in LGBT spaces.

They have no role in our culture, history, or activism outside of being the oppressors who inspire it. Cishets have been trying to glom onto LGBT culture for validation, resources, and to feel cool for decades now--starting with kinksters, going onwards with allies (especially allies who obfuscate their cis/hetness to continue this), and now here with the first publicly successful batch--aces.

I don’t have to bow to that. I don’t have to bow to their harassment campaigns. I don’t have to bow to a community first started on an article complaining about how jealous they are of LGBT pride while bragging about how better they are for not wanting sex. I don’t have to bow to a community whose most popular meeting space is AVEN, created by a man who proposed the acronym be changed to “LGBTTQQPFAGIBDSM” (Spot the slur!), said the a is for ally but allies are “queer anyways,” and then shat out a bunch of homophobia over the years.

A rose is a rose is a rose is a rose and a cishet is a cishet. And a cishet by any other name would smell as oppressive. Heteroromantic. Demi-grey hetrom. Hetero ace. Ace who is attracted to the opposite gender and only the opposite gender but somehow they’re not straight. Whatever.

Cishet is cishet.

And a cishet is not L G B or T. We share no culture, no activism, no strife, no love, no anything. And while they may hack away at liberal groups that never really did much for anyone anyways and win out on “inclusion” which means some groups will mention aces are welcome but never really do anything ace specific because aces don’t really need specific resources beyond just feeling included... I don’t have to subscribe to that bootlicking mindset. I’d much rather invite a thousand wellmeaning allies into LGBT spaces because at least they’re there to help us instead of demand we help them.

Fuck it. I have no respect for the ace community, in all 20+ years of them existing as a coherent (well, sort of) community, they have done exactly zero activism besides being a PR machine for their relationship to sex. No activism for rape victims. No lobbying for anything. All they do is tell teenagers is that tis’ okay to have sex with people they aren’t attracted to, which is just reiterated rape culture.

They are the inverse of the sex positivity movement--telling people unhealthy sexual behaviour is fine and is a new identity without ever really dismantling rape culture besides playing lipservice to “rape is bad.” Which isn’t even an LGBT issue--it’s a feminist one. It’s misogyny.

They have nothing to offer the LGBT community. And I wouldn’t want it even if they had something. Because the only ones not included in the LGBT community by virtue of their actually LGBT identities are just my oppressors (cishets and cis aroaces) and oppressors demanding access to resources and spaces created by those they oppress are just furthering their oppression. We tell cishet women to fuck off all the time and cishet women actually are oppressed by gender things you could arguably connect to homophobia and transphobia! There’s no way in fucking hell I’m gonna bend over backwards for other cishets who aren’t even oppressed by just feel a bit lonely because their relationship to sex/dating isn’t what they see in movies (hint: no relationship to sex/dating is accurately portrayed in the media).

I’m over it. I’m done. Cishets fuck off forever.

Let this be my last longform ace discourse post. My ace discourse tag is full of thoughts and regurgitation but let this be the summation of it all.

[alexciting-blog1]

Storytime!

okay so I rarely make my own textposts, but then, up to this year, I didn’t really have any good stories to tell...

So earlier this year, I was on a religious retreat at the Mont Saint Michel with my Catholic-as-fuck private French school. Everything had been going all right, it had been a couple of weeks since the priest had done anything particularly offensive (such as tell the girls that we would all be pregnant within a decade and that it was inevitable as we are essentially baby-making machines, or imitating French Créole accents in the most patronizingly racist manner, or making fun of Muslims, but I digress)

Anyway. So we get back from the beach, there’s little less than a hundred of us, and to my dismay, they’ve separated the boys and the girls dorm buildings. Like, instead of putting us into separate dorms within the same building, the boys are staying a block away. Which means they have to walk a whole block to see us. Which sucks. Still not on topic though.

So they hand out these booklets, which have prayers and songs and biblical excerpts ect in them, and we stick them in our bags. It’s only a couple hours later, until I actually flip through them, that I gasp in utter horror.

There was a badly translated Pope speech, to which two pages of the booklet were dedicated. One of the paragraphs was useless to the point of the speech, but it had the most transphobic bullshit in it, that I’m absolutely sure is due to liberties taken by the translator. (Talking about the abomination of gender studies and teachings, and how people can’t just “change genders” yada yada “I hate social progress” bullshit)

I got super pissed. I crossed out the offensive paragraph, and wrote “les droits des personnes trans sont une urgence” in next to it (a chant that resonated at Paris Pride 2016, “Trans people’s rights are an emergency”). I was ranting about it through dinner, and through mass (although quietly because duh, mass), and this one teacher seemed pretty supportive and open-minded, so some of my faith in humanity was restored.

I went up to my dorm, grabbed a pen and paper, and wrote a petition for my LGBTQIA+ Parisian youth association (MAG) to come give one of their IMSs, Intervention en Milieu Scolaire, which translates to school intervention, I guess. The mag does these regularly; they go to schools and talk about homophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, transphobia, and inclusivity. 

After that, I went down to the courtyard, and started asking people to sign. Over the next few days of the trip, I kept asking people to sign. The teacher didn’t want to get implicated in it, which saddened me, but she had encouraged me to speak up against it in the first place, and she continued doing that. 

Of course, in this school, during my signature collection, I witnessed a lot of very saddening displays of transphobia, but that didn’t stop me. 

Over the course of a week, I had gathered 52 student signatures, out of a class of less than a hundred. Most people I had talked to were uneducated about the issue, but very open-minded about hearing more about it and interested in my explanations. I got a lot of smiles, nods, pats on the back, and “good luck”s from people of whom I least expected it.

Once I reached my goal, I started doing research into whether it was possible to make it easier for the catholic administration to swallow, and found a bunch of french articles about the Pope talking to a trans man, even though most of them were ultra transphobic (which is why I’m not linking them), the actual Pope himself was very civil, open-minded, and never said a thing against the transgender community.

It’s kind of the same phenomenon as when something is great, or ok, but the fandom sucks. I found one website that was very Catholic and very open to trans issues, but sadly I’ve lost the link.

I then talked to the guy in charge of MAG IMSs, and gave him contact access to the people who would deal with administration at my school.

After a couple days of nervously having the petition and offensive booklet in my backpack, I finally went to hand it in, with a good friend for moral support.

I was terrified and numb while handing it in; the rest of the day, I was twisting my hands thinking “what have I done, what have I done, what have I done”

A few days later, my father (who is on the school board) came home after a meeting and asked me to sit down.

He told me that the principal had slid him the petition to him during the meeting quietly, and said “look what your daughter has been doing”

I might want to add that between the trip and that moment, I had been voted class delegate, which means that I was the one to attend meetings in the name of my class, and represent them, as well as meet with the principal on a regular basis to discuss issues.

He already knew me on a first name basis for several reasons. During my internship, there had been awkward moments when I ran into him at the bakery, he would strike up a conversation, and I would have to introduce him to my colleagues (”Hi guys! This is my principal. No pressure”)

So he had to talk to my father, explaining that it was impossible for the IMS to happen, because half of the school’s parents were ultra-Catholics who don’t believe in contraception and would pull their kids, money, and good name out.

Just a couple years ago, when same-sex marriage was legalized in France, there was a huge parent fight between my best friend’s mom (who is a professor in some kind of anti-discrimination class, maybe gender-equality, not sure) and the mega-Catholics which exploded dramatically.

His exact words were “this is how a principal gets fired”.

My dad told me that there was no way it was going to happen, and he agreed with me in my hysteric breakdown that “it wasn’t fair and that the dumb conservatives were ruining the world”. He admitted later in a conversation with my mom’s friend that he was “secretly proud of me for doing it”. 

So all I got, for all of that trouble, was a speech during the next mass: “look around you, look at the diversity, the different people from different heritages” yeah because it’s illegal to not admit a student based on their race, congratulations for being within the law and not being a total discriminatory piece of shit, do you want a cookie?

Oh and then the priest wanted to “speak to me privately” but I kept blowing him off and he kept forgetting because he’s a senile idiot, so he never even got to lecture me, yay!

So yeah. What I got out of this ordeal is that most of my classmates are decent people and that my parents are supportive. But the world is still going to shit. yay!