#I am very much going to neglect checking my LRS in this

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#10

September 25, 2018 It is one week later and I decide to check out the karaoke night Perry and I had discussed. I am lucky to have another girlfriend along for the ride this evening, Natalie. Natalie is also single but has been for a while and definitely has more requirements than I do at this moment in time. She looks at shoes, clothes, hair cuts, won’t consider smokers/dippers, and is easily turned off from certain men compared to my current “good enough for me” attitude. She is extremely fashionable, artsy, dry witted and has no idea how much she has to offer. She is amazing.

We meet first at Dick’s Dive to listen to bluegrass and I point out several men to her. None of them meet her requirements. I talk to her about Perry, tell her I found him intimidating, and eventually we decide to travel over to LR.

We have driven separately and I arrive at LR before Natalie. I walk into the bar and greet Harold. I look to my left and there is the karaoke set up. I do a double take.

Oh. God. Is THAT him??? A drunk, disheveled man is singing. Oh no no no that IS him. Fuck. Wait. Tell me he’s not singing...yep...that’s Jimmy Buffet. The Pina Colada song. As if on cue, Natalie walks in. This will not go well.

I come clean immediately. She looks to the man slurring the song out with his unbuttoned shirt hanging open and his belt end hanging from his waist. She looks at me and says, “Please don’t touch that man.” I can’t say she is wrong. He doesn’t at all resemble the man I thought I met a week ago.

We sit down on barstools and Perry finishes singing his song. I notice he is with another guy who reminds me of neighbor Steve from Stranger Things. He eventually recognizes me from across the bar and sends us over a round of drinks. We accept them and after a few minutes I tell Natalie I should go say thank you. I walk over and thank him for the drinks. He introduces me to his friend and I get a good look at him. He is younger, cute, has fantastic hair and an athlete’s body, and is dressed better than most.

After a few minutes of conversation, I tell Perry I should return to my friend. He tells me to bring her over and his friend stops him. He says to Perry, “Don’t be a dick.” He then looks at me and says, “Have fun with your friend, we will be around.”

Natalie and I settle into our drinks for the evening. After an hour or so, we decided to join Perry and his friend. We all chitchat for a bit then Perry heads outside. Natalie and his friend begin talking. “Oh! This could be great for her!” I think. The man is cute, the night is winding down, and if I were her I would at least make out with him. I decide to step outside and check on Perry so they can get to know each other. At the very least, I figure maybe I can make some friends out of this. Perry has a sadness around him and I end up feeling more maternal than I expect. He certainly isn’t a bad guy he just has a lot going on. When I go back in, his friend has gone to the men’s room and I sit down next to Natalie. “How’s it going?” I ask with my eyebrows jumping up and down in excitement for her. “Pretty good,�� she says. Hmmm. Ok so she isn’t thrilled but she hasn’t ruled him out. “Dude. You should make out with that hot man,” I say. “Maybe. I dunno. The attention is nice.” Well, it’s a start I figure.

Side note: I am not trying to push Natalie into anything she hasn’t expressed interest in before. She has often said she would like to have some physical interaction or relationship with a man. Just wanted that to be clear. Back to it...

The friend comes back from the men’s room and it is somehow discovered that he dips tobacco. Natalie is done. And, she makes it very clear to him that she is done. He has broken one of her cardinal rules and nothing will be happening between them. This isn’t directly said but it’s very clear and he gets it immediately. Once the shift is felt, he walks to the other side of me, and says, “I think your friend is done with me.” I look up at him from the bar stool and say, “Well, I live two blocks from here.” His eyes get wide. He’s not sure he has heard me correctly or understands what I am insinuating. “Wait. Are you serious?” he says. I look at him and still find him incredibly attractive, he’s close enough now that I can smell him and it is nice...clean. But I also realize I have neglected my single woman duties and have not purchased protection to keep at my apartment. “Do you have anything with you?” I asked him. “I have something in a gold wrapper,” he replies. “Then I’m serious.” We are both smiling. Quick plans are made to meet out front once Natalie and Perry leave. We will now call him 10.

10 gets in my car and we start quickly getting to know each other. I explained that I’m going through a dissolution after a 13-year relationship. He asks how many people I’ve been with since this relationship ended and I look at him and tell him he will be the first...and I have only had sex once this year...and it was in March. He seems a bit shocked and then explains that he will take this very seriously which I find adorable. It’s almost like an honor for him and tonight we do whatever I want, he is at my service. He’s personable, charming, attractive, and only positive. 10 is also going through a divorce but has two little kids. We get to my apartment and he explains would like to shower beforehand, I have no problem with this at all. I help him strip down and we start making out. He showers and meets me in the bedroom. 10 then explains he has a 23-year old girlfriend (he is 33) in another state. They are in a new relationship and have an agreement that he can be with other women. Works for me, this is their relationship to handle, not mine. They have a code word for when he is with someone else: Bingo. I am his first Bingo in their relationship and he sends her a message so she knows what is happening. We go to bed. The next three hours are fun and fantastic. He is one of the most complimentary partners I have ever been with. When my bra comes off, I start explaining that I’ve lost weight recently and sadly most of my chest is gone. He pulls back from me and says, “Do not ever apologize to anyone for your body. It’s perfect, you���re beautiful.” How great is that? I smile and probably blush in the dark. It’s nice. Without going into sordid details, I will say everything was exciting, sexy, and...silly. 10 has a great sense of humor during sex that wasn’t annoying or cheesy. His skin is the softest I have ever felt and his skills are on point in every category. It was all...perfect. The perfect first pull after 13 years. I cannot believe how much fun I have. 10 sleeps over. We turn out the lights after 5am.

Around 5:30 I text Lana since I know her alarm is going off: There is a man sleeping next to me. Her response: I need deets!!!