#Family court

[isaacsapphire]

Full agree; I had a coworker who I saw the day after he found out he wasn’t actually the father. He was working a shitty Walmart overnight stocker job because he had a prison record… for nonpayment of child support for the kid he had just found out wasn’t even his.

Anyways, yeah, before the government goes putting a guy in prison for not paying child support they really should verify that he is actually the father. We have the technology.

oooh Paternity Test discourse, that one I haven't seen in a while

here is my 2c: if the government is going to coerce a man to pay child support then it's morally obligatory as a matter of due process to check that the child support order targets the right man.

[drferox]

Updates…

So the pretty good news is that my child custody case is pretty much sorted, and I have functionally sole custody of Honey Bee, with the ex only having supervised visitation unless he puts in more than minimum effort. Feeling reasonably secure on that front.

Going through family court is definitely an unpleasant experience though. It is definitely not set up to favor mothers, and it was both infuriating and distressing to watch him submit quote cruel lies to the court, to which I find that get to reply. While I could have proved a lot of his lies to be lies, the amount of evidence required, the number of pages to look through, was just not going to be considered by a court system that is so short on time. Fortunately for me, he kept making really dumb decisions, and that’s what decided the outcome more than anything else, I think.

It’s a rough experience because while you think the other side is making outlandish claims and bad decisions, you have no indication as to whether the courts view their actions in the same way until the end. There is zero feedback as you go along.

But it’s done for now, and from here on in I can only hope that he either improves himself as a human being and father… or gets bored and wanders off to let us get on with life.

In the petty adequate news, my Multiple Sclerosis seems fairly stable. It’s coming up to two years and I don’t think there are any major new symptoms, and I am better able to know what my physical limits are. Every now and then I’ll think I want to give surgery a go, but am only really good for 10 minutes or so, so that’s not something I can realistically do any more. It’s enough to help a new graduate get out of a disaster, but I can’t take over for them if they’re struggling. I miss surgery very badly.

The Kesimpta is getting easier to manage, side effects are still very random but significantly milder than when I started. Mostly any pain gets managed with stretches and osteopathy. The fatigue is frustrating but I’m getting better at knowing how much I can actually push myself, because if I go over that level I will be wiped out for a few days. I can tell you about that journey if you want to know. Overall it’s not terrible, but it is frequently frustrating.

So now I’m feeling safer and more stable, I will try to get back to irregular posting. But no promises, the energy isn’t what it used to be.

[ex-foster]

[onceuponafosterkid]

When you turn 18 in Colorado, you are given the option to close your case as a foster kid. When I turned 18, I chose to keep it open and do something called Youth in Transition. Basically this means I have custody of myself and I can do whatever I want, but my Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) is now considered a lawyer, and she does whatever I tell her I want done in my case. I still have a caseworker and a family court judge as well. They are supposed to offer me support in my transition to adult hood to help me be as successful as possible. I chose to do this because I was just starting college and I needed guidance. I don’t know if it’s because the program is new, or because my team just really sucks, but they have offered no support in the past year. Every time I’ve gone to them for help, they have told me either “ask your friends” or “figuring this out is a part of growing up.” The problem with this is, I do not have parents. I don’t have anyone to ask for advice from. The state is supposed to be stand in parents for youth who don’t have any. So why are they not helping me? All I’m asking for is help finding resources and they won’t do it. But when I find a solution, whether or not it works out, they say I’m “impulsive”. I think it’s absolutely ridiculous and unfair. So after almost two years of this, I’ve decided to close out my case. I think it’s the best option for me since I’m not getting any support from my team. The monthly meetings usually end with them criticizing everything I do and me telling them that they don’t get to criticize me when they’re the ones who failed to provide support in the first place. I’m a little bit scared to be going forward with this, but I’m also looking forward to being done with it all.

[orangebake1]

Demand Social Work England To Investigate Social Worker Samantha Gibson!!!! Sign, Share, and Chip-in!!!!!!!!!!!!

This child, Isimioluwa Ekerendu was taken into care unlawfully by Social Services on the 30th of October 2020. Samantha Gibson told lies to the court saying that her daughter has a squint. 3 days later after she was taken, she went for an eye test at Boots Opticians. Boots Opticians then informed Samantha that the child does NOT have a squint. But instead of sending her back to her mother, Samantha Gibson in 2021 went and forged an eye test from Specsavers to go and obtain a full care order in June. This is a criminal offense that should not be excused. For over three years, this child has been isolated, lonely, distressed and falsely imprisoned. In the foster carer's house, she was placed under lock and key. She could not leave her house on her own or even go out to stand outside the door to get fresh air. As a result of this illegality from Samantha Gibson, this child has been incarcerated for more than 3 years with no access to family or friends. She has not had any education, they have just continued to HANG onto her for no reason whatsoever. The guardians, lawyers, the police and the court of appeal are absolutely no help at all.

This is an underground evil practice that has been going on in the UK for years. This cannot continue. Families are being broken up by social services and they are being made to keep quiet and not say anything about it or else face prison. They constantly patronize families and deceive everybody who hears about social services into thinking that they are good. Such horrible misconduct must be exposed and brought out into the light. Everybody! Please sign and share this petition!!! Please also chip in so that Social Work England can step in and investigate this social worker and find her guilty.

If you want to read more about what this child has suffered in care, please read this Wattpad story which is real life and non-fiction: Demand Investigation For Social Worker Samantha Gibson.

Thank you.

[timaeuslover001]

Props to judge Judy for calling out bias against fathers and standing up for this man!👏👏👏👏👏

It’s sad we live in a world where some dads are victims of people like that💔

“fathers are not second class citizens”👏

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Travel around the social media verse, and you’ll soon run into a very familiar perspective of sexism.

One that tells us that whilst sexism goes both ways; misogyny against women remains endemic, and deadly, whilst misandry against men benignly paddles in the shallow end of sexism, more of an inconvenience than anything else.

As the meme goes – Misogyny kills, and misandry irritates.

One is a matter of life and death. The other just has to pay the bill on dates.

Misandry is sexism-lite; a kind of luke warm, off brand knock version of misogyny classic.

But of course, like most things you’ll read online, misandry is not trivial, to be relegated to the world of mere inconvenience, as like misogyny, it can kill too – and has.

If you don’t believe me – ask the countless hundreds of thousands of men and boys systemically exterminated in Anfal, or within Operation Searchlight, the 8,000 massacred in Srenbrenica, or many more disappeared in Kashmir.

History, and the present day, is full of examples of boys and men being sought out and punished, hurt or killed, purely because of their gender.

Misandry sleeps under bridges. Misandry drops out of school.

Misandry gave Europe its worst genocide since the Second World War..

And these deaths, disadvantages, and disspearances, cannot be watered down to men just ‘being irritated’.

Neither can the fathers who are losing children in family court, the survivors shut out of refuges, or indeed the hundreds of thousands conscripted in Ukraine, be rounded down, and reduced to ‘an inconvenience.’

What’s more the whole framing of misandry vs misogyny is entirely unhelpful.

It builds a divide where there should never be one, and turns one side against another, when it needn’t do so.

So why do we water down the experiences of men and boys across the world, why do we minimise their staggering loss of life, and why do we pit one sex against the other?

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Sources:

Srenbrenica: https://web.archive.org/web/20150712192651/http:/www.gendercide.org/case_srebrenica.html

Family court coalition: https://fcrc.uk/problems/

Paragraph 175: https://www.holocaust.org.uk/news/homosexual-victims-of-nazi-persecution

Kashmir: https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2011/4/18/the-disappeared-of-kashmir

Ukraine: https://www.vice.com/en/article/z3ng45/males-banned-from-leaving-ukraine

US National Survey: https://www.emerald.com/insight/content/doi/10.1108/17596591211244166/full/html

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"Misogyny kills, misandry irritates" is still a useful rubric. It helps you very quickly identify the mentally ill and the sociopathic.

[xerserise]

Family Courts. Biased against dads? Not hardly.

[rapeculturerealities]

Remembering Catherine Kassenoff and Continuing the Fight for Fair U.S. Child Custody Outcomes - Ms. Magazine

Our courts repeatedly allow abusers to weaponize our legal system against women—making them the target of a war that can cost them, like Kassenoff, their health, jobs, money, homes, children and peace. No one should live this way in America—or anywhere. It’s an underworld only those who have been through family court, or know someone who has, can comprehend.

She wrote:

“I cannot survive this torment and the grief that comes from such a prolonged separation from my children. … This court system did this to me, as it does to countless other protective mothers (and fathers). Professor Joan Meier’s extensive research in this area confirms this is an epidemic. It is a predatory system that functions in darkness—through ‘gag’ orders like the one in my case, through a publicly-inaccessible docket, through a closed courtroom and through ex parte ‘temporary’ orders that are in place for years. Money is the goal, not helping families get through traumatic divorces. It must be investigated at large by the FBI or another federal law enforcement agency or it will continue to devastate our families.”

I first interviewed Catherine Kassenoff in December of 2021 for the groundbreaking Ms. article “Empty Home for the Holidays,” about how she and another protective mother, Cobie Jane, would spend the season without their children. Kassenoff was two and a half years into the battle with her husband, a litigator himself with Greenberg Traurig (now on a leave of absence), who she said took advantage of a dysfunctional judicial system after two of their daughters reported their father for physical abuse of one of them.

As Kassenoff wrote in her goodbye letter:

“Because the Courts of New York State are so invested in minimizing, suppressing and punishing valid claims of abuse, the Courts imposed ‘supervision’ on me for saying that the girls were telling the truth about their father’s abuse. This supervision, which came at a cost to me of $2500/week at its height, was at the suggestion of a court-appointed forensic evaluator named Marc Abrams. Abrams was removed from the Panel of Forensic Custody Evaluators on August 24, 2021.”

[loser-female]

The family court made another victim. Read this post, because this is fucking evil.

We tell women to leave abusers, but what happens when they leave? This, because a man fake tear will always mean more than a woman's blood.

[junawer]

A mother is to be imprisoned for 30 days because her eleven-year-old daughter refuses to live with her father despite a court order. The judges of OLG Celle came to this decision. Furthermore, they threatened to commit her daughter into psychiatric care if the mother defies the court order.

In order to prevent both the mother's imprisonment and the forced committal into psychiatric care and to challenge the decision, both are now urgently in need of donations. The proceedings, which have been going on for five years, have used up all their financial reserves.

The mother, Anette W., separated from the father of her two daughters in 2018 after experiencing violence. The father says this statement is untrue. In 2020, the District Court in Hannover terminated her rights and gave the father sole custody based on the false accusation of having manipulated her daughters.

In Europe, it is not permissible for force to be used on a child if the child needs to be surrendered in order to allow the right of access to be exercised. In Gemany, it is. Police force is used on children. But the girls, born in 2012 and 2015, resisted being forcefully placed with the father. They ran away together, were taken out of school by police force and returned to their father. The girls are severely traumatized. The youngest has been denied any contact with her mother and older sister for over 19 months. More than once violence was used but the older daughter ran away - each and every time. By her own choice, she lives with her mother since June 2021. The police and CPS have serious doubts if a police operation is suitable in the first place or if it doesn´t cause more harm. Thus the last police operation was aborted. However, ever since the oldest daughter has been unable to attend school for fear of being forcibly taken again. In addition, Anette W. cannot even legally enroll her daughter in a school due to the terminated custody rights. Her latest court application for reassignment of custody of her children was yet again rejected in February 2023. The considerable and persistent will of her older daughter is to be broken by all means.

The mother is to be sanctioned at all costs. Her offense? She dares to protect her children.

Please help with your donation to end this injustice. Please spread the word and encourage others to donate! ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING HELPS. NO DONATION IS TOO SMALL.

[diaryformybeloved]

Guest interview on Dads Cry Too podcast

J.D. Murgolo and I had a great conversation about very difficult parenting subjects. Read through the interview of listen to the podcast.

I had the pleasure of speaking with J.D. Murgolo about my situation and a few thoughts on parenting. J.D is a life coach and father. We covered the difficulties of coparenting and importantly, a few warnings for men. The conversation could’ve gone on for hours, there’s just so much to be said. Listen to the guest episode The episode is available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. Read the full…

[ryanmatthewsrm]

First Blog Post

Hi

I have decided to set up this blog as I am trying to save my children from being abused, and to talk about my experiences in trying to do this, and to try to help other parents that may be going through similar

I am representing myself due to multiple lawyer problems, I could have them for free, yet I am choosing to represent myself, I hope that goes some way for you to understand about how bad the lawyers are, people say the police are bad, and social services and even the courts, but much fewer talk about the lawyers, they are only really interested in the money not the children's safety and well being, I will probably go into this more at a later point.

So i have a lot of experience now of the law, especially UK law and family law, and therefore know the abuse they inflict upon the parent they don't like, and have no interest of what the children want at all, my main advice is despite what the lawyers say DON'T DELAY do the child arrangements order as soon as possible and if possible try and do it yourself you care about your children, the lawyers care about the money

RM

https://x.com/ryanmatthewsrm

[llegah]

also isn't there this huge organization in the US that lobbies and works with courts to fight for men always seeing their kids because of the founder's daddy issues? Like I have to dig it up but when divorce became legal in the 70s there was a huge wave of women leaving with their kids(which was just common sense at the time because women were expected to be homemakers and mothers more than men were expected to be fathers). So the founders grew up separated from their daddy and now project their insecurities onto every woman and child trying to go through family court. Kinda ironic, men were prevented from seeing their kids because of patriarchy's emphasis on domestic slavery, and now those kids think they're fighting for more equal mother and father roles. In practice the law is downgrading the children into property owed to a man regardless of his treatment of them or their mother, like products of animal husbandry.

I'm sure the pattern of convenience for men and burdening women for every societal transition isn't indicative of anything like a patriarchy or anything :)

[lawofficeofjohnjt]

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