#EITHER WAYYYYY ILY BABIE HAVE A FANTASTIC WEEKEND <333333 sending u so much love n health n happiness!!!

[inkykeiji]

hi clari! i don't wanna sound rude or anything here buut that anon was so so insensitive. like do they know that you've been having a hard time?? i'm sorry i don't wanna be that person that big deals everything but i just can't stand it when anons demand smthng to a writer just bcs "they haven't been doing anything" like i've seen so many writers go bcs they feel pressured and bcs anons who keep asking and asking when are they going to post, when are they gonna write this or that, when etc. i'm sorry u have to deal with this anons. you don't deserve it. you have been dealing with problems these past few weeks(?)/days(?) and i just wanna make it all go away. this anon doesn't know how much effort you put into answering every little ask you got sent. pls bb, never apologize for smthng that you can't do right away. this blog is really not your top priority. you have a life outside tumblr and i don't want you getting stressed just bcs some anon can't search the tags. you don't have to do the masterlist right away, i know how hard it is to link everything. pls clari you don't owe us anything. you know i admire you so much for being patient with us. i'm really sorry for making this a big deal. pls get some rest first, do the things that you need to do(not this blog), sleep, eat or shower if you need to.

please my sweet, precious anon i love and appreciate you so much!!! <33333

i read that ask that same way the first time when i just kinda blazed through it quickly; but then i reread it slower and noticed that they actually said ‘you haven’t been doing that as much lately’ as in you haven’t been adding things to your masterlist as often/as quick as you used to (or at least this is how i’m interpreting it!) and they’re right! it’s a bad habit i’ve fallen into that i’d like to correct. also, tone can be very difficult to read over text!!! i think their last sentence, where they specified that they aren’t rushing me but simply asking me to add it to the masterlist asap once it’s posted so they can find it easily, indicates that they didn’t intend for the ask to come off in any way rude or insensitive, and thanks to that sentence, it didn’t!! <33 (putting the rest under a read more bcoz this is getting long hehehe and it’s just me rambling about how much i love u and interpreting tone over text)

tone can be kinda funny like my mom, for example, who is one of the loveliest angels i have ever had the pleasure of encountering, is a businesswoman and obv much older than i am, so she TEXTS like a businesswoman: ‘would you kindly remember to take the pizza dough out of the fridge? thanks.’ or ‘i am requesting that you kindly empty the dishwasher for me before i arrive home from work.’ — to us in this generation, these texts come off sounding passive aggressive lmaooooo but because she’s my mom, i know what tone she’s actually using and what her true intentions are.

this is something i had to remind myself of often when i began working, because my clients were much older than i am and they send emails in a very blunt manner—which, to them, comes off sounding normal, friendly, and polite, but to me & most people from my generation comes off sounding cold and condescending. i actually had one guy concerned with my use of exclamation points; which, to me, makes me sound friendly and excited (periods feel so harsh!!!! tho i wasn’t sending business emails with a thousand exclamation points hehehehe just one or two) but to him made him worried i was upset, yelling, or rushed. anyway i’m just rambling now but it’s very interesting to think about!!

but either way, i really really appreciate this message babie <33333 you’re such an absolute sweetheart and i love you lots!!!! you’re totally right in everything you said pertaining to people who actually send messages like that and i agree!!! rest assured that any time i get a message similar to what you’re talking about i just delete it (and if it’s really rude i block the anon as well). this blog means the world to me though and believe it or not it truly is ONE of my top priorities because it is so important to me, but i know you know how special it is to me, and i understand where you’re coming from/what you meant completely and totally!!!! i appreciate you more than words could tell you my sweet sweet anon <3 thank you so much for this message bb ily ♡(˃͈ દ ˂͈ ༶ )