#But I really don't get it when your children are 6 y.o. or more and need no diaper changing anymore

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[littlefirefly42]

Ok well enlighten me. How do you communicate the fact Mr Beast is a bad person to a 6 y.o child? How do you explain his abuse of staff to a kid? How do you explain asbestos to a 6 y.o? Or are you one a' thems "6 year olds can consent if theyre mature enough" people. I do not see a world where your reblog makes sense

I know this person is just being a troll, but considering the insane backlash I got for that reblog from people who simply don’t understand what I mean, I will actually explain for educational purposes.

A big part of explaining difficult issues to children is recognizing time and place. In OP’s original post, it is assumed that they were in an on-the-spot situation with a child that wasn’t their own. Taking these circumstances into consideration, it’s understandable that one might have difficulty finding a way to explain something so complex and heavy to that child, and would instead find it easier to just lie. However, it is better, in a situation such as this, to lightly summarize a small part of the problem in a child-freindly way.

“He’s not very nice to people who work for him.”

Or

“Some of the things he does are dangerous and he pretends they’re safe.”

Are both perfectly acceptable answers. You can then walk away or redirect the child to something else and congratulations, you have now successfully explained a complex topic to a young child in a way that they can understand without lying to them.

Now, if you have more time and you know this child a little better, you can also choose to sit them down and explain the situation in more depth. You can still do it in a child-friendly way, you just need to consider beforehand how much you want to explain and how to best explain it. Use language that the child can understand and circumstances they can relate too. For example, to an adult you might say:

"The conditions that contestants on 'Beast Games' were subjected too were cruel and inhumane. Contestants were often denied food, and when they were fed it was very little. Many of them were also denied medications they need, putting their health at risk."

But to a kid, you should say:

"You know how Mr. Beast likes to do big contests with a lot of people? Well he isn't very caring to the people in the contests. Sometimes he doesn't give people food when they're hungry, or he only gives them a little snack when they're hungry for a whole meal. And then they'll be hungry for a very long time. And you know how sometimes you need to take medicine when you're sick, to make you feel better? Well, some people have to take medicine every single day, or else they can get really, really, sick. Mr. Beast doesn't let some of the people in his videos have the medicine they need to keep them healthy, and that is dangerous for them."

Now, both of these paragraphs have roughly the same information in them. But one is written in a way that is much easier for a young child to swallow. You can use the same explanation method for pretty much anything Mr. Beast has done, or any topic at all really. Most adults would probabaly opt to leave out the sexual abuse allegations (though I do encourage parents to teach their children about 'safe' and 'unsafe' touch for safety reasons), but even that can be explained with something like:

"He wasn't being appropriate to one of his staff and she felt uncomfortable."

Or

"He touched one of his staff in a way she didn't like."

Most children have have a vague understanding of what is and isn't 'appropriate' ("don't say that, it's inappropriate") and most kids have been touched in ways they don't like (hitting, hair-pulling, biting) so they can empathize without having a complete understanding of what happened.

And that's the point.

The child doesn't need a perfect understanding of every single thing Mr. Beast has done. It's okay if they don't know just how harsh the reality actually is. Because they now understand the basic true facts, instead of a lie made up to subdue their curiosity. And, now they have real empathy for real people in a real situation. That may seem insignificant to most adults, but parents and childcare workers know that any oppurtunity to exercise a child's empathy is an oppurtunity that should be seized.

Now, obviously, it won't be a terrible tragedy if a child thinks something untrue about Mr. Beast. While I still don't think OP should've lied, this whole Mr. Beast thing has really just become more of an example of a heavy topic that can be explained to children. But this whole "lie to you're kid because they wouldn't understand the truth" philosophy that so many people hold can be seriously harmful. Your kid is living in the same real world that you are in. Most six-year-olds are already in school, and there are some confusing/heavy things they're likely going to encounter there, such as (but defitely not limited too):

Racism, sexism, classism, nuerodivergency, disability, contrasting religious beliefs, teasing/bullying, possibly even sexual assault.

Now I'm not saying you have to go give your child the full run-down of everything terrible in the world, but I am saying that teaching your kid about how "some people's brains work differently and they have different needs" can prevent them from alienating or bullying the autistic kid in their class. And talking about what kind of touching is "unsafe" can help teach your child to know when to speak up if they're being abused so that you can protect them.

Bottom line: Don't shelter children with lies. Answer their questions sensitively but honestly. If you're not sure where to begin with a certain topic, shows like Seseame Street and Bluey do a great job covering complex topics for kids. And since reading is nourishment, there's a children's book for just about everything.

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I saw your post on Kinsey. Are you familiar with famous lit critic Michel Foucault's more unsavory details? He was such a hardcore S&M freak that he once allowed a car to hit him because he could no longer feel pain through other means. But that's pretty mild compared to his pedophile activism, and taste for pre-teen boys. His theories are pretty famous and respected in most literary fields, sadly enough.

I can't help but laugh at the idea of Foucault being such a degenerate scrote he willingly caused a car crash to get sexual arousal LMAOOOOOO

Yeah Foucault along with Simone de Beauvoir are a few of the many French scrotes (philosophers, writer, politicians, artists) who vocally supported & pushed pedophilia. I really don't get what's the thing with France with pedophilia.....

Off the top of my head :

- Foucault was known to go to Tunisia and hook up with 17-18 y.o "ephebe" (when the legal age was 20 years old) in the late 1960s.

- French designer Yves Saint Laurent and his handler partner in crime Pierre Bergé had a villa in Marrakech (there's definitely a thing in Maghreb attracting flocks of pedophiles) where they were raping kids. One of his former toy boy released a tell all book where he said he once caught a friend of YSL/Bergé in the garden of their villa doing a fellatio to a kid.

- One of our former minister of culture (and brother of one of our former President), Frederic Mitterrand wrote a book where he bragged about having sex with male underage/children prostitute in Thailand. He never got prosecuted - just made a wishy washy backtracking but everyone knows what he said in the book was true.

- Daniel Cohn Bendit, a french-german politic (who's very active here), is infamously known for saying on a TV show in the 1980s "The sexuality of a kid, that's absolutely fantastic, let's be honest. I worked before with kids who were between 4 and 6 years old. When a 5 years old little girl starts taking your clothes off, that's fantastic, that an erotico-maniac game". He never took back this statement and even got elected as a deputy at the European Parliament.

- Gabriel Matzneff is a self-proclaimed pedophile author (who still gets published) and bragged in many of his books about raping children as young as 8 years old and entertaining kiddie porn magazines. He's an unrepentant professional pedophile AND one of the most vocal promoter of pedophilia in France AND he's roaming free in Paris right now. I am not a violent person, but I'm not sure how I could refrain myself if I meet him at the corner of a street... Dirty grandpa better run.

- In the 1970s, a left leaning very popular newspaper ("Libération") made a cover with a manifesto from a group called "The Pedophile Liberation Front" asking for the legalization of pedophilia:

The text says "Let's teach love to our children" SMH

- In France the sexual majority is of 15 years old but it's not officially written in the law. Actually, the only law that got adopted is about the age of consent which got fixed at 13 years old. So technically, me, or an adult from any age, could LEGALLY have sex with a 13 years old kid without being prosecuted :D Vive la France!

*sigh* France is super weird... every other day a pedo is being exposed whether it's an actor, a politician, a TV anchor, etc (lately the director of a famous political school director got busted for raping is adopter son FOR YEARS. And you know what? he didn't get prosecuted because the abuse happened too far back. In France, we have thing called "prescription" that makes that when an offense was made too long ago, charges cannot be pressed lmao). This country breeds pedophile like any other place, and we ALSO have to import them (Polanski) I-

Tumblr hates on France for the most stupid (and often inaccurate) shit but I agree that when it comes to sexual abuse and pedophilia, we totally deserve it tbh lol Just don't conflate the degenerate scroted elites with the regular people (like me) who did nothing to bear with them and actually actively fight against pedophilia and child sexualization/abuse (one good victory was the banning of children beauty contest for example)