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shrikeseams · 2 years ago

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once again contemplating Indis's unacknowledged and unnamed friends, faced with a choice between voicing their concerns about her choice of husband (whether for religious or practical reasons) and biting their tongues just to guarantee that they'll still be friends with her when that relationship crashes and burns one way or another.

#Tolkien #Like as someone who views divorce and remarriage as positive social goods #I would be in such turmoil about a friend who decided to marry a guy who... wants to perma-fridge his first wife to remarry #Like even if you take the death element out of the equation #I feel like the modern analog is that miriel has awful persistent suicidal post-partum depression #And while I do believe that a marriage should end when the spouses' life goals diverge!#If you do the divorce while the first spouse is chronically ill specifically because you have chosen a new spouse already!#I would not trust you to do right by the second spouse either!#And that's *without* any cultural expectation of a permanent marriage!#That's *without* the untranslatable element of Finwe feeling like perma-death is something he has the right to ask of Miriel!#...and it only gets *more* fraught if you think indis&miriel are BFF or miriel/finwe/indis is ot3 #Because in those scenarios Indis is asking for these things alongside Finwe #...and then imagine trying to still be friends with indis after watching her do that to one of her other friends #...anyway. I still think Indis's social circle contracts sharply post-marriage in ways that don't entirely hinge on leaving her culture

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