#Barbara Lah

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Absolut faszinierend zu lesen, wie sich die Geschichte des kleines Dorfes entfaltet. Wie in der Beschreibung erfährt man nach und nach durch Zeitsprünge und verschiedene Perspektivwechsel die Geschichte der geheimnisvollen Nacht, in der so einiges schiefgelaufen zu sein scheint…

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Vicenza, ritorna la StrAVicenza 10km - Trofeo Banca delle Terre venete: domenica 30 ottobre la XX^ edizione

Vicenza, ritorna la StrAVicenza 10km - Trofeo Banca delle Terre venete: domenica 30 ottobre la XX^ edizione. Dopo due anni di stop, domenica 30 ottobre, in occasione della giornata di formazione ecologica che vedrà anche il blocco delle auto dalle 9 alle 13.30 all’interno delle mura storiche, torna la StrAVicenza 10km, giunta alla ventesima edizione, quest’anno proposta in versione autunnale dopo l’ultima edizione corsa nel 2019. Sempre domenica si terrà anche una gara giovanile delle società affiliate al Csi che si cimenteranno in sfide su percorsi tracciati in Campo Marzo. L’edizione 2022 della StrAVicenza 10km, promossa da Atletica Vicentina e dall’assessorato alle attività sportive del Comune di Vicenza in collaborazione con Lilt Vicenza, è dedicata alla prevenzione del tumore al seno e realizzata grazie al contributo della Banca delle Terre Venete. Ad illustrare la manifestazione questa mattina nella sala degli Stucchi di Palazzo Trissino erano presenti il vicesindaco con delega alle attività sportive Matteo Celebron, la presidente di Atletica Vicentina Barbara Lah con il presidente onorario Bruno Cerin, il presidente di Lilt Vicenza Cesare Benedetti con il vicepresidente Giuseppe Galvanin e la responsabile del servizio Comunicazione e Relazioni esterne di Banca Terre Venete Flavia Dian in rappresentanza del presidente Gianfranco Sasso. “Sarà una domenica ricca di iniziative quella del 30 ottobre – ha spiegato il vicesindaco con delega alle attività sportive Matteo Celebron –: in concomitanza con la giornata di formazione ecologica, che vedrà lo stop alle auto dalle 9 alle 13.30 con modifiche alla circolazione, il centro cittadino ospiterà atleti fin dal primo mattino con la gara giovanile del Csi e, a seguire, l’atteso ritorno della StrAVicenza 10km, l’appuntamento dedicato ai runner ma anche ai camminatori, con la marcia ludico sportiva nelle due distanze di 5 e 10 chilometri. Attendiamo, quindi, tutti gli sportivi e gli appassionati che, grazie a questa iniziativa e ad altre della domenica ecologica di cui sveleremo il programma nei prossimi giorni, avranno l’opportunità di ammirare le bellezze paesaggistiche e architettoniche del nostro territorio”. “Vogliamo continuare a regalare a Vicenza, e non solo, un momento di sport e di condivisione dei nostri valori, memori dei successi delle edizioni passate e convinti di poter offrire a tutti i partecipanti una giornata indimenticabile – ha precisato Barbara Lah, presidente dell’Atletica Vicentina -. Quest’anno, in collaborazione con il Csi, abbiamo organizzato una competizione anche per i giovani per coinvolgere tutte le nostre società collegate e dare visibilità al progetto che ci accomuna”. "La nostra banca è diventata partner di Atletica Vicentina da più di un anno – ha dichiarato Gianfranco Sasso, presidente di Banca delle Terre Venete -, sostenendo gli appuntamenti del martedì sera "Corri per Vicenza e la Fondazione San Bortolo”, quando 200 persone si ritrovano per correre e camminare insieme per la città. Banca delle Terre Venete promuove lo sport e l'importanza del benessere fisico, che è ancora più piacevole se fatto in gruppo. Siamo onorati di essere main sponsor di un grande evento sportivo per la città, la StrAVicenza, che coinvolge gli appassionati della corsa ma anche i giovani e le famiglie, per godere delle bellezze e degli spazi storici della propria città, finalmente tutti insieme in libertà". “Voglio ringraziare l’organizzazione della StrAVicenza e tutte le persone che si sono impegnate – spiega il presidente di Lilt Vicenza Cesare Benedetti -. È un anno importante questo per la Lilt perché si celebrano i 100 anni di attività in Italia con l’associazione nazionale e i primi 40 anni della sezione Lilt di Vicenza. Un traguardo ma soprattutto un percorso che, grazie all’impegno di tanti volontari e di tanti medici, ha promosso la cultura della prevenzione femminile e maschile, perché la salute è per tutti e non ha né età né genere. Ricevere il contributo raccolto in occasione di questa significativa manifestazione sportiva e di grande coinvolgimento, ci rende orgogliosi e ci permette, non solo di continuare a offrire i nostri servizi e di portare avanti i nostri progetti dedicati a tutti i cittadini, anche ai giovani, ma ci dà la possibilità, ancora una volta, di sottolineare quanto la prevenzione sia un appuntamento fondamentale per tutelare il proprio benessere. Parlando ad atleti e sportivi sappiamo quanto questo tema sia sentito”. “Atletica Vicentina è la società di vertice nel campo dell’atletica leggera nel territorio e molte società sportive affiliate al Csi Vicenza hanno collegamenti virtuosi con questa realtà – ha detto Francesco Brasco, presidente del comitato territoriale di Vicenza del Csi –: è evidente che se nella pratica dello “sport per tutti” emergono ragazze e ragazzi che hanno capacità e volontà di proseguire ad alti livelli, bisogna assicurare loro la possibilità di farlo. E AV rappresenta questo nel territorio vicentino. Ecco perché nel momento in cui ci hanno chiesto di collaborare per la StrAVicenza non abbiamo avuto dubbi a dire di sì. È stato necessario poi attivare i nostri canali interni per muovere tutta l’organizzazione necessaria, dai giudici di gara alle singole società sportive affiliate dell’atletica (circa 25) per metterle nelle condizioni di svolgere la gara in Campo Marzo con le categorie dei più giovani (esordienti, ragazzi e cadetti, maschi e femmine, ovvero in gran parte ragazzini che frequentano le scuole elementari e le medie). Educativa è anche la finalità benefica a favore della Lilt, che ci spinge ad attuare nuovi percorsi formativi di prevenzione per le ragazze e i ragazzi e le loro famiglie finalizzati alla salute e ai corretti stili di vita”. StrAVicenza 10km Alle 10 avverrà lo start della gara agonistica di 10 chilometri, omologata Fidal, da viale Roma, dove sarà collocato anche l’arrivo. A seguire la non competitiva con due percorsi di 5 e 10 chilometri. Per chi parteciperà alla non competitiva ci sarà la possibilità, con un contributo, di avere uno scaldacollo e contribuire alla ricerca sul tumore. La StrAVicenza si svolgerà con qualsiasi condizione meteorologica. Gara giovanile Csi Alle 8.30 si terrà anche una manifestazione riservata ai giovanissimi e ai giovani delle società affiliate al CSI che, suddivisi nelle categorie esordienti, ragazzi e cadetti, si cimenteranno in sfide su percorsi tracciati in Campo Marzo grazie alla collaborazione tra la società Amici dell’Atletica Vicenza e Atletica Vicentina. StrAVicenza 10km - agonisti Sono attesi circa 600 agonisti alla StrAVicenza 10km: saranno presenti le atlete di casa dell’AV Brazzale, Giulia Marangon, quarta ai tricolori assoluti dei 10 km e di mezza maratona, e Matilde Sartori. Tre anni fa l’azzurro e primatista italiano di maratona, Eyob Faniel, siglò il nuovo record del percorso di 29’22, al femminile si impose la trentina Isabel Mattuzzi davanti all’atleta di casa Rebecca Lonedo. Le ultime firme nella mezza maratona berica furono quelle dei vicentini Stefano Furlani e Marta Fabris. Sponsor Sponsor dell’iniziativa sono Banca delle Terre Venete, Brazzale spa, Asics, Icona arredamento e design, Bisson Auto, Puro Sport, Noaro Costruzioni, Ottica Ravelli Vicenza, Bizzart, Acque Vicentine, Studio Dentistico e Specialistico Martini, Amici Atletica Vicenza, Betulla Studio srl Informazioni Tutte le informazioni sulla StrAVicenza sono disponibili sul sito https://www.stravicenza.it/. Iscrizioni al link: https://enternow.it/it/browse/stravicenza-10km-2022. Blocco del traffico In occasione della domenica ecologica, è previsto lo stop alle auto dalle 9 alle 13.30 all’interno delle mura storiche. Al fine di consentire lo svolgimento della manifestazione sportiva, sono previste modifiche alla circolazione, anche all'esterno dell'area del blocco del traffico, con possibili rallentamenti. Lilt Vicenza Negli ambulatori Lilt di Vicenza, in via Borgo Casale 86, e nelle sedi della provincia vicentina è possibile essere seguiti per visite di controllo nei, visite ginecologiche e urologiche, effettuare mammografie ed ecografie di vario tipo, pap-test, ecografie transvaginali e densitometria ossea. A Vicenza è prevista l’attività di sostegno fisico e psicologico, con ambulatori di fisioterapia e linfodrenaggio, colloqui psicologici per pazienti oncologici e loro familiari, centro antifumo e ambulatorio di prevenzione nutrizionale. Nelle scuole Lilt è attiva con progetti gratuiti rivolti a docenti, ragazzi, genitori delle scuole primarie e secondarie di primo e secondo grado del territorio della Ulss 8 Berica. Si tratta di specifici interventi di educazione e promozione della salute che in ambito scolastico, promuovono la libertà dall’abitudine al fumo di tabacco e incoraggiano lo sviluppo di stili di vita sani. L’Ottobre Rosa è il mese in cui Lilt in collaborazione con altre associazioni del territorio, organizza un ricco calendario di iniziative, spettacoli e incontri per dare modo, a tutti, di scoprire quanto la prevenzione significhi cura di sé e benessere. Per visionare il calendario di eventi e conoscere meglio l’associazione è possibile consultare il sito www.legatumorivicenza.it o chiamare la segreteria allo 0444 513333.... Read the full article

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"Lieber Instagram-Liebe ... als gar keinen Sex!" von Barbara Lah

Bridget Jones trifft Hummeldumm: "Lieber Instagram-Liebe ... als gar keinen Sex!" von Barbara Lah #buchsonar #debk

Josi. Berlinerin. Fast 40. Blond. Davon ist zumindest ihr Friseur nach einem Besuch bei ihm überzeugt. Davor schwankt sie zwischen Pfütze-braun und ungewaschenem Grizzlybär. Josi ist auf jeden Fall eines: völlig uninteressant. Bis sie eines Tages eine verirrte Nachricht auf Instagram entdeckt. Würde Zuckerberg sie persönlich für unwürdig erklären, seine App weiterhin zu nutzen? Oder ist es an der…

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Why Men Lie and Women Cry

“Seorang wanita hanya perlu mengenal seorang pria dengan baik untuk memahami semua pria. Sedangkan seorang pria mungkin mengenal semua wanita dan tidak memahami satu pun diantaranya”, - Helen Rowland

Ngomongin perbedaan cowok dan cewek kayaknya ga ada habis habisnya gitu yah haha. Keduanya saling berbeda satu sama lain. Yang satu dari Mars while yang satu dari Venus (Men are From Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray). Yang satu liat dari fisiknya while yang satu liat dari ingatannya (Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love by Allan & Barbara Pease), yang satu gak denger kalau pasangannya ngomong while yang satu gak bisa baca maps (Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps by Allan & Barbara Pease),  yang satu suka cewek Jepang while yang satu suka cowok Korea (lah gak meet dongs haha), yang satu pas gajian beli skin game while yang satu beli skin care (sama-sama beli skin), sampe yang satu gak suka pedes while yang satu suka banget sama yang namanya seblak! haha. Intinya keduanya berbeda dah.

Di buku-buku saya mention diatas dibahas tentang perbedaan keduanya (kecuali kenapa cewek suka seblak belum pernah ada yang bahas kek nya). Sebenernya banyak lagi sih buku yang ngebahas tentang ini tuh. Kalau kata Mark Manson, penulis buku The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, Ia bilang ada 5 relationship book yang perlu semua orang baca. Apa aja emang? 

Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix; 

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson;

7 Principles That Make Marriage Work by John Gottman;

5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman;

Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson.

Saya belum baca semua bukunya, saya baru belajar tentang 5 Love Language-nya Gary Chapman. Tapi ada yang menarik nih, khususnya buku yang dari Mark Manson. Judul bukunya “deketin cewek dengan honesty (kejujuran/ketulusan)”. Pas liat judul buku ini, saya jadi ke inget sama buku Allan & Barbara Pease yang judulnya Why Men Lie and Women Cry. Saya gak akan share review bukunya kali ini. Tapi saya mau share sesuatu yang saya temuin di buku itu yang mungkin temen-temen disini bisa tanggapin. 

Kenapa laki-laki berbohong? Ia berbohong karena tidak ingin membuat perempuannya menangis. Kenapa perempuan menangis? Ia menangis karena ia tau kalau laki-lakinya berbohong

Pas baca ini, saya langsung mikir. Waduh iya juga ya haha. ini bisa mewakli keluh kesah menjadi cowok kenapa kadang kita berbohong sebenernya. Kita sebagai cowok gak mau ngebuat cewek menangis. Tapiiii, di satu sisi cewek justru menangis setelah tau kalau cowoknya tidak jujur haha. Duh bingung kan.

Itu perbedaan baru yang saya temuin selain yang saya bahas di pembuka tadi. Terus kesimpulannya apa? Entahlah saya juga bingung haha. Karena kebetulan saya belum baca bukunya Mark Manson yang itu, saya jadi belum tau apa jalan tengahnya. So, boleh kalau temen-temen mau menanggapi perbedaan yang satu ini. Kira-kira apa komunikasi seperti apa yang harus dilakuin atau apapun deh tanggapannya. Bebas, do as infinity kalau kata lagu opening Inuyasha mah. Dah ah, merci beaucoup and thanks for having a beautiful mind.

Anyway, Selamat libur panjang minggu ini yaw!

[am-the-renegade]

Bangus

Tim Drake x Arnoren Valliere (OC)

The wind seemed nice.

I admit, the scenery and the ambience hits different in a Southeast Asian countryside compared to Gotham’s skyscrapers and noise coming from the cars.

It was also noisy here though, if you consider big trucks and those so called— tricycles.

It’s like this motorcycle and has this passenger looking type of cart at the side. Dude, you could fit more than four people in that thing.

As I tried to figure out the physics of this vehicle of sorts, I hear footsteps from behind me approaching before feeling a warm hand pat against my shoulder.

“Dinner is almost up. My cousin has cooked us bangus dredged in crispy fry.”

Crispy fry.

It took me a whole year to understand that it was like some flour mixed with seasonings to act as coating for fried foods.

“Bangus?” I question my love one. Her hair in a bun and wearing what seemed to be a sleeveless tank top. Who was I not to agree? It was really hot this afternoon.

But I cant help the fact that she also looked very invit-

“Tim?”

My thought bubble popped the moment I heard my name calling me out from her lips.

“You were saying Ren?”

I really have to stop thinking about those thoughts.

“I’m saying we’re going back to Gotham tomorrow. I can’t wait to go back to them-“

She meant Dick, Jason and her little brother, Damian. It still buggles me to this day as to how she and Damian could get along.

I know I am the fiancee but I have the right to know about this- anomaly.

But thats why I love her, she can tame that Demonspawn. In her own way.

“At the same time, I am going to miss my relatives. But I know I will be seeing them again during my lola’s birthday.”

Lola. (Loh-lah)

She explained it to me when we started dating. Lola was a counterpart of Grandma or Grandmother in English.

“Maybe next time we can bring Dick, Jason and Damian. Bruce wouldnt mind…possibly.” I scratched my head as I contemplated about my answer. Bruce can handle Gotham. He has Barbara and Stephanie and Duke.

“I should really ask Bruce about that. Considering yer job.” I heard Ren emphasized.

Yeah my job.

Our job as Gotham’s Urban Legends.

“You do have a point. Hopefully, Bruce agrees.” I pull her close and ruffle her hair a bit. As I did so, I could see her bun coming undone slowly. Her expression seemingly disliking it but I know my girl loves it when I do that.

Ayiee.

Okay. The filipino mannerisms are getting to me especially when it comes to fluff. They say that when one feels elated resulting from an action done in a relationship or moments with a crush.

“Stop it.” I hear her whine but I simply chuckle continuing to do so.

“Nah. Besides you look better with your hair being free.”

“Its messy.” She complained but I still chuckle.

“Ren, mangaon na.”

I hear her cousin call out. I turn to her confused as to what she said.

“She said its time to eat.” She giggled.

“Oh.” I said in awe and surprise. I’m still pretty amazed that she can understand two languages.

We head inside the house to see that the kids, nieces and nephews, were already seated around the table. One of her nieces was already eating the viand by hand.

This another thing I learned from Ren. I had to learn how to eat using my hands. Left and the right, acted as a spoon and a fork.

Thats how they explained it to me anyway.

I sat beside Ren whom was busy placing rice on my plate while I observed her relatives- taking their own share of the fish.

“Here ya go. Thats one for you.” She said, happily and sitting down next to me.

“Thanks.” I say before noticing the smaller one look up to me.

“Mouli na pud si kuya Tim?”

Kuya.

Every time I hear that word, it just- I feel like I am on cloud nine.

Kuya (Kuuyah)

Means older brother in English, and I am nowhere near being their brother- its how they would address someone older than them.

I look to Ren again for translation. who seemed to have that expression of being heart stricken.

“She asks if you are leaving as well.”

I also admit, that little gal- that small niece of hers, has my heart as well.

“Yes.” I tell the small one. She nodded and then walked away.

Confused, I then look up to the parents that tried their hardest to speak English. It’s not that they couldn’t speak English- they weren’t not just fluent as Ren.

“She’s probably shy.” I hear her mother say to which I nod.

I then take up my share of the fish with my hands before looking at Ren who was nitpicking the flesh off the fish. I knew that she was very picky with fish because she hates the bones.

Her eyes were so focused on it that I began to be amused and let out a chuckle.

“Stop.” Ren scoffed. I laughed a bit now.

“Is she-“

I hear her cousin speak up. Ren and I turn to face her.

“Is she like this back at Gotham?” She asked me. And it caused Ren’s brow to raise.

“Not really. She always tells me that she has problems eating fish.” I explain. Ren was listening as she was picking the flesh still.

“We eat salmon.” I added, Ren becoming smug after that.

“OA ba nimo oie.”

“What?” I hear Ren whine. She looked to me and explained that she was overeacting- that her cousin was telling her that she was overeacting.

“Sometimes.” I add, just for the fun. I hear her cousin and husband laugh while Ren was not pleased.

I do hope she won’t kill me tonight but possibly she might call on Dick because of what I said. Ren sees Dick as her older brother. Its adorable.

Ren continued eating then, taking the flesh and dipping it in what seemed to be a day old dipping sauce made with soy sauce, vinegar and chilies.

I swear, these people really love their dipping sauces.

“Try it.” She said, taking the bowl and placing it before me.

She didn’t have to tell me twice. I already dipped it in the sauce-their sauces are pretty good and in sync with most of the viands.

“Guess my culture is rubbing off on you.” She giggled and with a smirk.

“You’re not wrong about that.” I reply, placing the fish on top of the piping, hot rice and using my hand to take it and eat.

“Yer also getting good in eating with yer bare hands, right te?” I hear Ren compliment me.

“Bitaw. Imong g.tudloan?”

“Kaayo. Nalingaw raman intawn.”

Ren laughed while I saw her cousin quite amuse about what I assume was my skill in eating with my hands.

“She asked if I taught you. And I said yes and that you pretty much enjoyed it.”

Oh.

She wasn’t lying though. I enjoyed it- though it was difficult and to do it with hot rice- but overall it was a good experience.

I laugh dryly because I was embarrassed while I continued eating.

“This is called Bang-gus?” I feel like I wasn’t saying it right.

“Its called Bangus. Bang- screw it. Its called Milkfish. Its the national fish in the Philippines and why its called Milkfish because these are the only ones that drink milk.” Ren explained, and all eyes were on me.

“Oh wow thats really- youre pretty much joking on the part about drinking milk arent you?”

“Pretty much. As expected by Tim!” She laughed a lot now.

As expected- duh. Ren. Dear. You’re pretty much dating one of the World’s Greatest Detective.

“But I aint joking about the national fish.” She added, with a grin.

After awhile, my share of the fish had been finished, leaving only the head and bones while I watched as Ren finished— the banana.

“Why didnt you finish the fish?” I ask.

Ren looked at her relatives before looking at me.

“Because—“

“Because she doesnt like fish.” Her cousin ended the sentence for her.

“Hoy!”

Her relatives laughed at her while she became bashful. I just held her hand secretly to comfort her and then pulled away.

“You used both hands?!” I raised my left hand.

“I mean I always use the right hand to eat, Tim! But when it comes to some certain dishes, its good to use two hands!”

“And yet I am only using my one hand”. I countered to which Ren laughed.

“Sometimes, yer research can be false.”

Not gonna lie.

She had a point.

[annisamsyaf]

Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps | A Review

Buku karangan Allan dan Barbara Pease ini sebetulnya udah bertengger di rak buku hampir 3-4 tahunan lebih tanpa pernah dibaca dengan saksama. Terakhir dibaca waktu dijemput dari Big Bad Wolf di ICE BSD dan dibaca sambil ketawa-ketawa di travel (yang tentu aja ngasal banget bacanya dan ga paham), sampai akhirnya tibalah hari ini. Mungkin beberapa bagian tidak menarik perhatian aku, jadi yang aku sampaikan di review ini adalah sedikit dari banyak hal-hal yang bagus yang ada di buku ini.

Hal yang kusuka dari buku ini adalah dia bisa menjawab beberapa pertanyaan “mengapa” dalam hidupku dengan penjelasan yang “Oh wow, gitu toh!”. Oke kita sudahi sepik-sepik ini dan mari kita mulai. Penjelasan hal menarik akan aku sampaikan dalam bentuk poin ya. Kalau ada istilah yang aku gatau bahasa Indonesianya, aku cantumkan inggrisnya aja ya biar ga salah kaprah.

Pertama, buku ini ditulis dari pendekatan biologi-psikologi. Kita membandingkan bagaimana perbedaan laki-laki dan perempuan dari sisi pemikiran. Jadi penjelasannya dapat lebih diterima karena dikasih juga acuan-acuan penelitiannya. 

Kedua, jangan kaget kalau di buku ini, manusia “disandingkan” dengan beberapa hewan karena bagaimanapun dalam hierarki biologi (ilmu taksonomi), manusia sampai saat ini masih termasuk dalam Kingdom Animalia bersama hewan-hewan lain. Jadi, tentu dibahas juga beberapa hewan yang kemungkinan berkerabat dekat (tapi enggak banyak).

Ketiga, kita samakan persepsi bahwa laki-laki adalah the hunter, sedangkan perempuan adalah nest-defender. Konsep inilah yang menjadi gambaran umum bagaimana bisa pemikiran laki-laki dan perempuan begitu berbeda, tanpa ada yang salah dan benar. It’s just different.

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1. Cara pandang kita dalam berpikir dan bersikap ditentukan oleh efek hormonal dan brain wires saat kita masih janin.

2. Kenapa perempuan suka nyadar sesuatu yang kecil? Karena sebagai nest-defender, perempuan mempunyai intuisi terhadap perubahan sekecil apapun dalam bentuk penampilan maupun perilaku. Bahkan kalau laki-laki nyembunyiin sesuatu, perempuan kemungkinan besar tahu ada hal aneh.

3. Kenapa perempuan bisa bedain mana biru persib dan biru oskadon sedangkan laki-laki cuma tau biru? Mata kita punya sensor cahaya di retina. Ada dua jenis sensor, sensor hitam putih namanya sel batang, kalau yang sensor warna namanya sel kerucut. Nah sel kerucut ini kromosom X lah yang menyediakannya. Perempuan punya dua kromosom X tentu aja punya sel kerucut lebih banyak variasinya daripada laki-laki. Itulah kenapa perempuan bisa bedain mana pink, salem, magenta, dusty pink, dll sedangkan laki-laki bilang yaudah itu pink. 

4. "Ambilin cabe di kulkas!”

“Mana mak kaga ada?!”

Sebenernya, yang bikin perempuan punya “mata elang” adalah kemampuan peripheral vision (atau pandangan ke arah pinggir/tepi) pada perempuan lebih luas dari laki-laki. Banyak perempuan yang peripheral visionnya bisa sampe 180 derajat alias dia bisa nyadar ada benda apa aja di sekitar dia di kuadran antara 0-180 derajat. Laki-laki kelebihannya adalah matanya lebih besar dan jenis penglihatan jagoannya bukan peripheral, tapi long-distance tunnel yang mana laki-laki punya pandangan jauh kedepan dan akurat, mirip sama cara kerja binokuler. Itulah kenapa penglihatan emak selalu jitu dan anak cowo kalau disuruh nyari apa-apa di kulkas pasti kaga keliatan karena emang dia fokus ke depan doang, agak susah cari-cari di pinggiran langsung gitu. Pantesan juga kalau pengawas ujian kalau ibu-ibu jeli banget yah :D

5. Kenapa cowo susah bohongin cewe?

Otak manusia itu kan ada dua hemisphere (kanan-kiri). Nah otak cewe tuh kalau ada informasi apa gitu, otaknya punya kemampuan transfer data lebih cepat antara hemishere kanan-kiri yang bikin cewe lebih luwes untuk mengintegrasikan informasi verbal, visual, dan sinyal lain. Kaya dia bisa nyesuain omongan sama gerak gerik biar ga mencurigakan. Ini juga yang bikin cewe lebih mudah bohong ke cowo kalau berhadapan langsung ya. Nah si cowo kemampuan integrasinya lebih rendah makanya kalau face-to-face mah habis ah dibabat ya. Makanya cowo biasanya berhasil membohongi cewe kalau lewat teks, telepon, surat, atau media-media lain yang cewe gabisa ngedeteksi kok beda ya verbal dan gerak-geriknya.

6. Mama denger suara, tapi gatau dari mana.

Nah buibu nih punya pendengaran yang jeli juga. Kaya bayi nangis, pasti langsung bangun. Suara apa, langsung bangun. Sekalipun sumbernya jauh. Nah tapi kelemahannya, perempuan itu kemampuan spasialnya lebih rendah dari laki-laki. Disinilah laki-laki punya kelebihan. Laki-laki engga terlalu peka sama suara, tapi sekalinya denger bisa tau asalnya dari mana. Keren ya kalau berkolaborasi. Misal pas ada maling masuk.

7. Bayi perempuan lebih dulu bisa membedakan suara daripada bayi laki-laki. Selain itu, perempuan juga bisa mengelompokkan dan membedakan suara di saat yang bersamaan. Makanya perempuan bisa kalem teleponan sambil nonton TV, tapi kalau cowo, dia kecilin dulu volume TV baru angkat teleponnya. Soalnya nanti ga fokus karena nyampur suaranya.

8. Boys don’t listen

Kalau anak cewe lagi dinasehatin dia pasti dengerin sebenernya karena memang kekuatan pendengaran cewe lebih baik. Katanya, kalau mau nasehatin anak cowo, sebisa mungkin harus eye-contact karena percuma, dia gabakal dengerin juga kalau tanpa kontak mata. Makanya kalau ada teks, cowo tuh lebih jeli bacanya sebenernya, tapi kalau ada informasi audio, cewe lebih jeli.

9. Perempuan itu sensitif

Pernah ada tes yang hasilnya cowo yang paling sensitif pun ternyata ga lebih sensitif dari cewe yang paling ga peka. Nah peka disini tapi soal sentuhan kulit ya. Soalnya ternyata kulit cewe itu lebih tipis dengan ekstra lemak. Makanya banyak juga cewe yang gelian. Selain geli, karena kulitnya sensitif tadi, cewe lebih bisa ngebedain sentuhan ini niatnya baik atau buruk cenah. Ini mungkin sebabnya beberapa perempuan tuh love-language nya adalah sentuhan. 

10. Kenapa cewe suka makanan manis?

Karena reseptor lidah yang bekerja dominan di cewe memang yang manis, sedangkan kalau cowo kebanyakan di asin dan pahit. Sebagai nest-defender, cewe harus bisa bedain mana makanan yang manis atau matang (khususnya buah) yang bisa dia/anak-anak makan. 

11. Cowo itu to the point.

Kalimat cowo emang pendek, direct, to the point, dan based on fakta-fakta yang ada. Makanya cowo cocok diposisikan sebagai decision maker apalagi di dunia bisnis karena emang sifat asalnya ga bertele-tele. Beda sama perempuan yang suka banyak kodenya dan bertele-tele karena emang sifat aslinya indirect. Kaya misalnya ditanya kondisi, pasti bilangnya baik, padahal A, B. C. Ini juga yang suka bikin cowo bingung, cewe maunya apa sih.

12. Kenapa kalau cowo ngajak nikah bilangnya “Will you marry me?” bukan “Could you marry me?”

Karena could bagi cowo artinya yaudah dia bisa. Can you open the door buat cowo artinya selama dia bisa bukain ya dia bukain, tapi kata can/could disini hanya nanya kemampuan, bukan komitmen kalau kata cowo. Makanya kalau cewe mau nanya cowo sesuatu tentang komitmen baiknya pake Will/Would.

13. Cewe memang lebay

Kalau cewe bilang, selalu, gapernah, setiap, dll itu tuh bisa jadi bukan maksud dia sebenernya, Kaya misal “Kamu ga pernah ngerti aku!”. Kalimat itu tuh bisa diartiin beda sama cewe dan cowo. Si cewe emang dasarnya suka melebih-lebihkan, jadi kejadian sekarang tuh kaya ngaruh banget ke masa lalu sampe bilang “gapernah” padahal mah ga maksud gitu. Nah cowo, si makhluk literally, menerjemahkan langsung katanya, “gapernah” means beneran gapernah, makanya si cowo suka langsung marah karena ga ngerasa gitu. Makanya emang harus saling ngerti aja kalau cewe ngomong gitu teh gausah masukin ke hati, hehe.

14. Kecerdasan spasial cowo lebih bagus daripada cewe

Makanya kebanyakan kalau cewe disuruh pegang google maps suka bingung sendiri. Juga suka tersesat di mal-mal/tempat yang lantainya banyak dan penuh.

15. Kalau cewe dan cowo kerja kelompok

Kalau misalnya nih cewe kerja kelompok sama cewe lagi, biasanya mereka tuh kooperatif alias ga ada yang jadi leader karena dasarnya cewe suka bonding. Makanya kalau ada nih satu cewe yang menonjol pasti dicap bossy atau “Siapa sih lu?”. Nah kebalikan sama cowo yang seek for the power. Biasanya keliatan mana yang jadi leadernya.

16. Cowo gasuka disalahin

Kalau disalahin tuh cowo ngerasa gagal banget dan gabisa menyelesaikan tugas dengan baik. Bahkan kadang ada cowo yang gengsi bilang maaf karena buat mereka maaf itu artinya ngaku salah, dan salah itu berarti gagal. Makanya dalam suatu hubungan, ketika cowo diminta mengakui kesalahan, mereka suka gamau, karena mikirnya si cewe ga akan mau sama dia lagi. Padahal kenyataanya, cewe tuh semakin suka sama laki-laki kalau dia mau mengakui kesalahannya. 

17. Homoseksualitas

Wow beurat euy bahasannya. Jadi kalau yang aku baca mah, semua bayi pada asalnya dibekali sifat perempuan. Kemudian hadirlah hormon testosteron yang kalau banyak bikin si bayi jadi cowo, kalau dikit ya tetep jadi cewe. Buktinya manusia awalnya semua bersifat perempuan adalah mau cowo atau cewe pada punya nipple. Homoseksualitas (gay dan lesbian) ini muncul ketika modal genetik dan suplai hormon testosteron yang ga semestinya. Misal, fetus yang punya kromosom XX yang artinya cewe tapi suplai testosteronnya banyak, dia akan berbadan perempuan dengan otak cowo. Makanya ada cewe tomboy. Sebaliknya pun hal yang sama terjadi pada cowo-cowo kemayu. Nah untuk ke arah homoseks itu perjalanan panjang lagi. Takut salah interpretasi euy bahasan sensitip jadi baca sendiri aja ya wkwk.

18. Kenapa banyakan yang nonton Miss Universe daripada Mr. Universe? Laki-laki terangsang lewat mata, sedangkan perempuan lewat telinga. Dari sini kita bisa bayangin, visualisasi Miss Universe mungkin menarik di mata laki-laki sebagai makhluk visual, tapi perempuan pun suka nonton karena mungkin suka aja liat baju-bajunya, atau referensi make-up atau hairdo. Coba bayangkan Mr. Universe. Mungkin harusnya yang tertarik cewe ya tapi sayangnya cewe bukan makhluk visual, dan cowo juga kaya ngapain nontonin cowo lagi. Makanya rada kurang famous dan wah sambutannya.

19. Marriage has it’s good side. It teaches you loyalty, forbearance, tolerance, self-restraint, and other valueable qualities you would’nt need if you stayed single. 

20. Kenapa cewe suka mutusin duluan?

Karena cewe membangun hubungan atas dasar cinta. Cewe suka sadar kapan cinta itu udah ga ada lagi. 

**

Oke, itu adalah 20 info yang yang aku dapat dari buku ini. Masih banyak hal menarik lain termasuk yang ga aku berani bahas karena terlalu sensitif kaya homoseksualitas, poligami, seks, wanita karier vs IRT, dan lain-lain. Enaknya dibaca sendiri.

Secara keseluruhan, buku ini layak banget dibaca sama cowo maupun cewe dewasa supaya bisa saling memahami ketika berinteraksi/menjalin hubungan. Satu kutipan penting dari buku ini:

Men and women are different. Not better or worse - but different.

Terima kasih sudah membaca sampai habis :)

Maaf kalau ada yang salah/menyinggung dalam penyampaiannya. 

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[creativenicocorner]

“Uh-oh” - a CH11 Sneak Peek

Good grief this chapter so far has turned into such a test to see if I can balance humor and angst haha I’m enjoying the challenge! 

Sometimes I do worry if I’m underlining certain things or repeating myself too much. But honestly, I’m tired of self judging and second guessing myself too much can be inhibiting. I want to get this show on the roooaaad

Anyways...

//

Jim’s sleep deprived brain felt like it was overheating trying to keep up with his own emotions. And with every blink, his eyes burned a little more. 

“Do you need help, Jim?” went Strickler in such a helpful tone it made Jim’s skin crawl. The audacity to try and be nice after everything that’s happened. “Are you alrig-”

“No. I mean, yes.” strained Jim, “Let’s…let’s just eat. Okay?”

“Indeed.” chirped the changeling, “Oh, hang on. Napkins.”

And to Jim’s absolute horror, he watched as Strickler easily navigated his kitchen space. Heading directly to where the napkins were kept without so much as a misstep. 

“There we are.” went Strickler with valorous cheer. “Ready to tuck in.”

“Yeah.” said Jim, placing the plates. Feeling as though he were experiencing what was happening in his kitchen distantly, through a telescope. 

Strickler was the first to start eating. It ought to have taken the changeling sooner to notice that the air had changed as quickly as an impatient kid trying to draw with an etch -a - sketch. 

The biggest clue something was indeed off, was Jim not eating. But rather staring at him. 

The changeling looked at his sandwich then Jim’s untouched sandwich. And, as a knee jerk reaction, ran through their entire discussion in the kitchen. Strickler’s chewing slowed to a stop. While an entire moment to moment breakdown, contemplating when, if ever, Jim might have slipped something into his food.

Yet in Strickler’s heart of hearts, the changeling knew Jim had done nothing to tamper with the food. With an internal curse to have ever doubted Jim, Strickler swallowed the rest of his bite. 

“Jim? Your sandwich will get cold.”

“It’s okay.”

Strickler’s mouth twitched from side to side, as though he were balancing his pipe on his lip, or wiggling a mustache that wasn’t there. The changeling took another bite of his sandwich. Contemplating as he tasted the oil soaked bread and cheese, the juice of the tomato and the freshness of basil leaves balanced with the crunch of various amounts of peppercorn. 

To no one’s surprise, it was a damn good sandwich. 

It inspired the changeling to ask, in hopes of continued amicable conversation, “Has, ah, Blinky ever tasted your cooking?”

“Hu?”

“Blinky, while he was waltzing about as a human. Did he ever get the chance to taste your cooking?”

“Um…no…” Jim’s brows furrowed in realization, “No, I guess not.” the teen’s eyes slightly bulged as another realization came to Jim. Blinky who was more deserving to taste his food never did get the chance to eat it. 

Jim felt a want to throw something. But only pursed his lips. 

Imagine a kettle. An emotional kettle, where with every attempt at kindness, only fueled the burner under the kettle all the more. And this kettle. This Jim Lake shaped kettle, was very ready to boil. Especially after realizing he was on the stove top this whole time. 

“Oh that’s a criminal shame.” said Strickler sincerely. Though it could easily be taken as insincere with the changeling’s natural dry tone. 

“Yeah…criminal.”

“Well if it happened once, who knows. Perhaps it can happen again. Blinky and Humanity Round Two Electric Boogaloo.” snorted Strickler with a hopeful attempt at a contagious laugh. 

Jim didn’t laugh. 

A bit of mozzarella slid out of Strickler’s sandwich. Landing as sadly as his attempt at good humor. 

“Yes well…” Strickler cleared his throat, and fumbled to put the mozzarella back in the sandwich. “I’ll, ah, right. When this whole thing is over I’ll leave a note for Merideth- have you had the chance to meet her? Erm, no suppose not. She’s a very competent councilor.” Strickler paused, glancing at Jim. 

But Jim remained as stoic as a drowsy cow. A cow left in a field goggling and wondering why no one is taking care of the barn that’s on fire. 

Strickler continued, “No matter, I’ll leave her a note to start rounding up a few potential colleges that might interest you. With strong leanings towards the culinary of course.”

“Ah-huh.”

“You know,” went Strickler with awkwardly forced lightness. Hopeful Jim will start responding again. “you could end up hosting a dinner party for graduation - or, erm, some sort of celebration. You’d need help depending on how many courses and portions. Toby could be a great candidate, or the ever competent Claire. Perhaps not your mother, as much as I care about her she is a bit of a disaster in the kitchen. 

“Although I will trust her when it comes to whip cream- do you remember the pie she made?” Strickler snorted with a laugh, hitting the table lightly like an old chum. “While we [snort] fought? Very good form by the way. How Barbara didn’t notice is beyond me. The focus on that woman when she sets out to do something, astounding. Must help in the operating room. I’d say theater but those are slowly not being used as much.”

The more Strickler talked with obvious fondness the more Jim’s face soured like spoiled milk. Until finally Jim’s stomach curdled.

It was the unintended mention of his mother that was the last straw for the frustrated sleep deprived teen. That emotional kettle was whistling more than ever now.

Even if Strickler didn’t mean anything malicious by it - it stung - it stung like Strickler’s presence stung. Like a constant sharp bitter wind. A reminder.

A reminder of how much Jim used to look up to him. A reminder of how foolish he felt to have ever looked up to him. A reminder of another betrayal by a paternal father figure. 

And Jim, angry, tired, and young, wanted Strickler to feel a sting. If it couldn’t be physical what remained was the emotional - so Jim went for the only other thing (aside from his mother) that Jim knew Strickler felt strongly about.

And it wasn’t Napoleon short jokes.

“You know.” smiled Jim with a touch of acidic frost in his blue eyes, “I did a bit of digging in Blinky’s library about Shigir.”

“Did you now?” perked up Strickler, delighted. 

“Yeah, came up while we were looking for more info on the Triumbric stones.”

“I’m surprised there was anything written at all! That’s incredibly rare, though not impossible. How curious.”

Jim made a non committal sound. He looked away from Strickler’s smiling face “Yeeaah, we found a nursery rhyme and a story to boot. KnotEnrique confirmed it.”

Strickler should have felt something was amiss in these statements. For one, troll knowledge on Shigir was bound to be contorted. And secondly, it was known KnotEnrique knew little of Shigir. 

Yet in some recessive instinct, Strickler wanted to believe that the ever studious Blinky, brother of Dictatious, would hold a knowledgeable variety in his library. And that Jim willingly read it. So the changeling was gleeful to accept such a possibility at face value. Hopeful even.

And with that Strickler leaned forward. Hands itching, eager to hear more. “Did you bring it with you?”

“No…no, it’s still saved in Blinky’s library. Didn’t want to risk it falling out of my bag.”

“Ah. Wise move. Why the concept of zipping up your bags escapes you and your friends is beyond me.”

“-So, Shigir-” Jim said hurriedly, feeling a tangent about to happen. Not wanting to loose his nerve in dealing an emotional blow.

“Yes! Who wrote it? When was it written? Why would trolls- well, did you read the preface? Was there one?”

“Y-yeah I…don’t remember all that…but the story was…” Jim looked at his former teacher. Then the napkin, then the lack of the Inferna Copula worn on his hands, and finally that smarmy cheerful face he once looked up to so much. “..A little out of left field..” Anger prickled at the tired teen’s eyes. And Jim pushed his plate away to also lean forward, mirroring Strickler “It went a little something like this…”

There is a level of anxiety that surfaces when making something up on the spot. Sometimes (although not limited to) it’s a bit like ripping off a band-aid. The lie is told, short and sweet and to the point. And the world awkwardly continues to spin with a pin pricked after thought of ‘did I get away with it?’. But that’s quickly forgotten. 

Other times it’s like thawing out a frozen meal. Slow, potentially painful, and with the curious feeling the dead absent eyes of the defrosting fish might not be as absent as you’d like to imagine.

And then there are times it feels like the water level in a video game.

The bets are open as to what Jim is about to experience. 

“Once upon a time” started Jim, feeling brave in his anger. As what good story didn’t start with such famous four words? “In the land of…Lah, there’s a troll about to be duped. 

“His name was Ji- Jiumb, and all he wanted was some peace for his family and friends.

“One of those friends was a person he really looked up to. And this, obviously, was Shigir.

“Now Shigir was a cool dude, said some - uh, cool stuff. Probably knew how to kick-flip at some point.”

//

I’m sure this ends well. 

Lemony Snicket Voice: A well is a man made pool of water where one can retrieve water. In this case however, the water is pretty salty. 

[bootnotfurby]

Furby Check

This is moreso a personal list so I can view which furbies I own at a glance and see which ones are completed...you’d think I’d know from a glance but I seem to have issues remembering.

I ask that you don’t reblog this as to not confuse people, oops. Thank you.

Last Modified: 8/24/19

Furbies

May-Lah - [Unfinished] Ladybug 1998, has been reskinned and modified. Requires eye chips & tail.

Ay-Loh - [Skinned] Bee 1998, skin can be put back on if needed. 

Questionable Eggs - [Skinned] Cheetah 1998, skin can be put back on if needed.

???/Cursed Ay-Loh - [Disassembled] Bear 1998. Rarely works, claims to be Ay-Loh. Do not let interact with other furbies. Face may be used for future project

??? -.[Completed] Elephant McFurby. Please help them. Their face is sideways. Prototype for future project, technically a success but. Their face. I’m so sorry.

??? - [Disassembled] Owl McFurby. Face needs repainting.

Shelbies

??? - [Work in Progress] “Hamburger” Shelby. Not quite sure what I’m doing.

Not Furbies

Bootis McLeg - [Complete] it boot

Barbara - [Complete] scarf is being borrowed, need to make second scarf

??? - [Work in Progress/Lost] Needs bottom. Probably somewhere in a toy bin.

Vi - [Complete] bean

Other

Vollina Glow - [Complete] Chimera Beanie Baby (Valentina/Ollie/Glow). also bean

Doodle - [Complete] Bootleg Worm. oh worm!

[sarahsweden-blog]

Five Interesting Nonfiction Books

1. The Expedition: Solving the Mystery of a Polar Tragedy by Bea Uusma

On July 11th, 1897, three men set out in a hydrogen balloon bound for the North Pole. Led by engineer August Soloman Andrée, they want to make history, but are frighteningly underprepared. Three days into their journey they make a crash landing and disappear into a white nightmare. They never return. 33 years later. The men's bodies and equipment are found buried beneath the snow and ice on a deserted glacier. They had enough food, clothing and ammunition to survive. Why did they die? 100 years later. Artist and doctor Bea Uusma is at a party. Bored, she pulls a books off the shelf. It is about the Andrée Expedition. For the next fifteen years, Bea will think of nothing else... This is her journey to uncover the truth. (Goodreads.com)

2. A History of the Swedish People by Vilhelm Moberg

Beginning in prehistoric times and culminating with the Dacke rebellion of 1542, renowned novelist Vilhelm Moberg's two-volume popular history of the Swedish people approaches its subject from the viewpoint of the common people, documenting peasants' lives as well as those of the royal families. In this first volume Moberg examines Viking raids, the coming of Christianity, and the Folkungs royal dynasty, whose tyrannical reign lasted from 1250 to the 1360s. He vividly describes the arrival of the Black Death from a ship that docked carrying only dead passengers, and he recounts the reign of Queen Margareta who founded the Kalmar Union, comprising all of Scandinavia. In every chapter, Moberg faithfully imparts how history affected "the whole people" of Sweden. (Amazon.com)

3. Fishing in Utopia by Andrew Brown

From the 1960s to the 1980s, Sweden was an affluent, egalitarian country envied around the world. Refugees were welcomed, even misfit young Englishmen could find a place there. Andrew Brown spent part of his childhood in Sweden during the 1960s. In the 1970s he married a Swedish woman and worked in a timber mill raising their small son. Fishing became his passion and his escape. In the mid-1980s his marriage and the country fell apart. The Prime Minister was assassinated. The welfare system crumbled along with the industries that had supported it. 20 years later Andrew Brown traveled the length of Sweden in search of the country he had loved, and then hated, and now found he loved again. (Amazon.com)

4. The Palace of the Snow Queen: Winter Travels in Lapland by Barbara Wilson

A Frequent traveler to Northern Europe, Barbara Sjoholm set off one winter to explore a region that had long intrigued her. Sjoholm first travels to Kiruna, Sweden, to see the Ice Hotel under construction and to meet the ice artists who make its rooms into environmental art. Traveling to the North Cape, she encounters increasing darkness and cold, but also radiant light over the mountains and snow fields. She crosses the Finnmark Plateau by dogsled, attends a Sami film festival (with an outdoor ice screen), and visits Santa's Post Office in Finland. Over the course of three winters, Sjoholm unearths the region's rich history, including the culture of the Sami. As Sjoholm becomes more familiar with Kiruna, she writes of the changes occurring in northern Scandinavia and contemplates the tensions between tourism, the expansion of mining and development of the Ice Hotel, and age-old patterns of land use, the Sami's struggle to maintain their reindeer grazing lands and migration routes. (Amazon.com)

5. Lagom: The Swedish Art of Balanced Living by Linnea Dunne

The Swedish concept of Lagom (pronounced "lah-gom") roughly translates to "not too little, not too much, just right." This charming book introduces readers to a new way of balanced living that promises happiness and sustainability in work and in life. Lagom provides simple solutions to juggle everyday priorities, reduce stress, eat well, and save money, with lessons on the importance of downtime, being outdoors, and Sweden's coffee break culture. Tips on removing clutter and creating a capsule wardrobe help readers achieve Sweden's famously clean and functional design aesthetic, while advice on going green and growing food gets their hands dirty. (Goodreads.com)

[hafidzalauddin]

Pentingnya menulis.

kata anak muda sekarang, cowok kok nulis, hah!

Kenapa Harus Menulis?

Bukankah, pena adalah makhluk pertama yang diciptakan Allah? Bahasa adalah hal pertama yang diajarkan pada Adam? iqro ‘Bacalah!’ adalah wahyu pertama baginda Rasul?

...Disini rasanya harus menulis.

Nasehat Algazel (Imam Al-Ghazali) Sang Hujjatul Islam, “Andaikan kau bukan anak raja dan bukan pula anak ulama besar, maka jadilah penulis”.

...Disini rasanya harus menulis.

Ada juga tutur Pak Pramoedya, “orang boleh pandai setinggi langit, tapi selama ia tidak menulis, ia akan hilang di dalam masyarakat dan dari sejarah”. Quotesnya, “menulis adalah bekerja untuk keabadian”.

...Disini rasanya harus menulis.

Menurut Kuntowijoyo, “syarat untuk menjadi penulis ada tiga, yaitu: menulis, menulis, menulis.” Diulang tiga kali seolah ‘sepenting itulah menulis’.

...Disini rasanya harus menulis.

Raja produktif, Stephen King mengistilahkan “Menulis adalah mencipta”. Kenapa? “dalam suatu penciptaan seseorang mengerahkan tidak hanya pengetahuan, daya, dan kemampuan saja, tetapi ia sertakan seluruhnya; jiwa dan nafas hidupnya”.

...Disini rasanya harus menulis.

Malah Barbara Cartland, penulis ratusan novel menekankan, “Menulis merangsang pemikiran, jadi saat anda tidak bisa memikirkan sesuatu untuk di tulis, tetaplah mencoba untuk menulis".

...Disini rasanya harus menulis.

Tidak heran Imam Syafi’I dengan tegasnya menyatakan “ilmu adalah binatang buruan, dan tulisan adalah tali yang mengikatnya”.

...Dan disini lagi-lagi rasanya harus menulis.

Jadi, disitu lah ternyata pentingnya bagi kita untuk menulis. dan menulis sama sekali tidak ada kaitannya dengan gender. Ada pun orang yg masih mempermasalahkan hal demikian, adalah orang yang masih terkekang dengan lingkungan pergaulan, kurang memperluas pertemanan, risih dengan karya orang. Toh berapa banyak buku yang kita baca adalah hasil karya para lelaki, boleh saja kita sebut a.fuadi, tereliye, buya Hamka, atau mereka yang dari kalangan penyair dan puisi, sebagai contoh bisa kita sebut sang penyair yang melegenda di tanah air, ada Chairil Anwar, Ismail Marzuki, W.S Rendra dan masih, banyak lagi, ratusan bahkan ribuan. Betapa indah perangai kata yang mereka persembahkan, berapa banyak karya yang mereka ukir yang tak akan luput dari zaman.

[buch-sonar]

'Lieber Instagram-Liebe ... als gar keinen Sex!' von Barbara Lah

[slythereeen]

Book Review: Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps

Beberapa hari kemarin saya sempet nemu screen shot twitter yang isinya "kalau ada cewek yang bisa baca maps, aku bonceng-in" eh dua hari ngubek-ngubek explore, gak ketemu sue -__

Pas baca itu, saya mikir, emang bener apa ya kalau cewek gak bisa baca maps? Ini pengalaman pribadi sih, saya pernah jalan bareng cewek Kanada pas di Osaka. Tapi dia perasaan biasa aja gitu pas jalan tuh. apa gegara biasa traveling gitu ya. akhirnya saya coba cari tau dan nemu ada buku Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps dari Alan & Barbara Please. Buku ini hampir sama kaya yang dibahas sebelumnya (Men are From Mars and Women are From Venus), tapi bedanya kalau ini lebih ke analasis pake data dan penelitian ilmiah (otak kanan, otak kiri) kebanding personality. dah lah have nice reading yaw!

buat cewek, pernah gak ngerasa pas lagi nyari alamat temen buat ngasih sesuatu, temen nya share loc, tapi sulit banget buat baca si maps nya tuh. ini belok kanan apa kiri ya (ini gak relate sama ibu ibu sen kanan tapi malah belok kiri yaw). padahal tempatnya deket, tapi malah jadi muter-muter gitu gegara tadi salah belok. terus pas ketemu temennya bilangnya google maps nya error -_ (Developer GMaps be like: Apa Salahku Kau buat Begini by D'Massive). Nah itu tuh dibahas di buku ini, katanya cewek ini gak bisa bahas hal yang sifatnya spasial kaya baca maps atau arah tadi. Nah cowok juga ada alesan kenapa kadang gak dengerin kalau lagi fokus. apa aja bedanya?

Kalau cowok lagi nge game atau lagi ngerjain tugas, ko kaya gak bisa denger?

banyak dan malah hampir semua penelitian bilang kalau otak cowok itu terbagi-bagi (istilahnya terspasialisasi). Makanya nih kadang cowok kalau disuruh ngerjain banyak hal, ia bisa tapi satu-satu. engga bisa semuanya dikerjain bareng. buat yang pengalaman, kalau cowok bawa mobil biasanya kepinggir dulu. ko gitu? dikit banget jaringan yang ngehubungin otak kanan sama otak kiri. beda lagi kalau cewek, cewek mah bisa ngerjain banyak hal di satu waktu (iya ga? HH). bisa sambil nonton, nelpon, skin care-an, dan lain-lain

Ko kadang cewek suka cerewet?

katanya kalau cowok ngomong, yang kerja itu cuman otak kiri. makanya cewek kalau komunikasi lebih baik kebanding cowok. cewek juga lebih sensitif. katanya juga sempet ada penelitian yang bilang cowok itu rata-rata ngomong 7 ribu kata per hari, sedangkan cewek bisa sampai 20 ribu kata per hari. ko bisa? soalnya cewek kalau ngomong pake otak kanan sama otak kiri. Ini yang kadang kita gak saling pahami, cowok misal capek nih udah kerja pengennya tidur, si cewek butuh tempat curhat dan ngajak ngobrol si cowok yang pulang kerja (iya lah masa chatting-an sama chat bot google assistant). ini gap yang sering terjadi deh kayaknya. cowoknya harus paham, cewek harus paham juga.

Kasus Barang Invisible (ini bukan invisible boat mobile nya Bobob sama Pepet ya)

Diceritain sih disini kasus mentega di kulkas, cowoknya nanya mana mentega, ceweknya bilang itu di kulkas, cowoknya nyari lagi tapi gak nemu, ceweknya turun dan tadaaa! langsung ketemu. terus cowoknya ngomong "disimpen nya disitu sih, pantesan kagak keliatan -___- ". cewek itu punya view range lebih besar kebanding cowok. kaya barcode indomaret gitu, semuanya bisa ke scan (bahkan screen shot chatting pernyataan bohong jam 20:05 tanggal 21 Maret 2017 pun bisa diinget-inget). beda kalau cowok, cowok biasanya kalau liat satu barang, fokus aja gitu liat kaya terowongan. makanya lagi bareng cowoknya, pas liat yang lebih glowing di jalan. jangan ikutan liat, tapi liatin mata si cowoknya wkwk (mata tolong mata)

Ko cowok jago banget kalau udah driving

Daerah korteks cowok banyakan kesedot buat hal-hal yang yang fungsinya spasial. cenderung juga ngasih porsi sedikit buat producing sama gunain kata-kata. kalau ada cowok yang suka nya kode-kode ambigu di story tapi gak berani nyatain langsung, anggap aja alesan ini yang jadi make sense yaw! do not offer a man advice unless he asks for it. tell him you have confidence in his ability to work things out

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My Blessing 19!

Banyak orang berkata “hari ulang tahun itu ya apasih”, “makin tua makin kerasa kalo ulang tahun ya biasa aja” hmmm so do I, makin kesini makin terbukti kalo apa yang mereka bilang is true! 

Entah karena sekarang kondisinya udah jauh dari keluarga dan udah banyak melalui liku-liku drama korea hidup ini  jadi sekarang berpikir ya ulang tahun ya hari biasa,gak perlu berekspektasi kayak anak SMA lagi. Karena gue pribadi yang gak suka ngumbar my birthday will be come, be like upload snapgram di awal bulan kelahiran dengan embel-embel “welcome bulan kelahiran” atau “H-30 kelahiran anak domba” dan banyak variasi lainnnya. Gue pribadi gak suka hal yang kayak gitu karna gue berpikir kalo kamu emang berarti buat seseorang gimanapun ceritanya your birthday pasti akan mereka ingat. Jadi ulang tahun gue tahun ini gue sama sekali gak berharap banyak karna menurut gue asal masih sehat dan bisa makan ayam crispy sambel maktin(sambelnya harus lebih banyak dari nasinya),roti bakar greentea tumpeh tumpeh dan mie iblis cabe 18 masih sanggup dilidah, udah bersyukur bgt sama Tuhan. 

Sebelumnya gue udah dapat ucapan dari keluarga gue dan teman akrab gue yang puji Tuhan nyempatin ngucapin hbd ke gue di 00.00 dan sekitarnya. Gue merasa terberkati dengan masih diingat huhuhu. Berhubung ultah gue tahun ini ada di hari minggu gue makin merasa nothing special today. Yap, sunday its mean go to church! Jadi gue udah janjian bakal gereja bareng sama kakak kosan lama gue dan sohibnya pacar abang gue (riwueh ya) namanya kak Damayanti panggilannya Damay (orangnya gak ada damainya sama sekali,lasak bgt) karena dulu sering jalan bertiga sama pacar abang gue yang sekosan juga sama gue dulu,ke mall bareng,ke Bromo of course! dan ke our private mall 35 (cuman kita deh yang paham wkwk) karena kak Riry udah lulus dan hengkang ke Semarang jadinya kak Damay menjadi janda kesepian dikosan doi. Padahal baru kenal ya paling berapa bulanlah dulu tp gue udah nganggap mereka berdua seperti kakak kandung gue. Ketawa bareng,makan bareng,gosipping bareng dan dari mereka gue belajar buat jadi dewasa perlahan so..I'm so lucky to have them! Jadi,kita janjian gereja pagi dan gue jemput doi dikosnya dan kita pergi ke gereja dengan damai sejahtera. Berhubung kak Damay kondisinya gak tau kalo gue lagi ultah dan gue juga gak ada niatan bilang tapi pas mau pulang dan papasan sama kakak-kakak NH yang salah satunya mungkin tau gue ultah dari notif path dia sambil nyalam gue bilang hbd dan gue sedikit kaget dan dengan muka heran kak Damay said “sumpah kau ultah isa?” so,we decided go to mie setan (my favorito ever) nah pas disananya gue udah diline mulu sama gina nanyain gue balik jam berapa,kenapa lama bgt cause kita tiap minggu itu masak dikosan (gina yang masak sih sebenarnya-_-)  dan makan barenggg yiy! Jadi mereka bilang kalo mereka udah lapar bgt nungguin gue balik spy makannya bareng hmm be sure gue gak ngeh kalo itu alasan doang buat surprisein gue. Oke pas dijalan balik pake hujan segala jadi gue sama kak Damay ada tuh nunggu hujan reda di pinggir jalan setengah jaman huhuhuu.

So,setelah gue nganter kak Damay balik dan gue cus ke kosan kedua gue dan di lokasi ada Amel,Sarah,Boyen dan Gintol. Okey kita seperti biasa ngobrolin semua hal yang gak ada faedahnya dan pas Gina masuk kamarnya dia dan tiba-tiba Boyen nyusul gue sama sekali gak ada feeling bakal disurprise pada saat itu dan dengan begonya gue pengen pipis dan masuk ke kamar Gina sementara mereka berdua lagi siapin kue dll so they failed wkwkwk setelah gue dicaci karna menggagalkan misi mereka cause gue udah gak sabar pengen makan kuenya kita foto,boomerang as usual dulu dan gue dapat kue 2 yang satunya bikinan Gina katanyasih special for my birthday yiy! Words are not enough to show how much I love you both;Gintol-Boyen.

Dah tu… sekitar jam 6 sorean gue balik ke kosan gue dengan kondisi udah lepek bgt jadi sampai kos gue rebahan bentar sambil balesin chat,snapgram satu-satu yang ngucapin (rada gak nyangka ajasih masih banyak aja yg ingat huuhuu) trus gak lama gue dapat vidcall dari my bestie boy yg ada di pulau dewata pas gue angkat taunya dia lagi rame-rame sama temannya trus mereka nyanyiin lagu hbd yang make me so feel bleesed to have him in my life! Padahal gue gak kenal sama sekali sama teman-temannya yg lain tp sok kenal aja jadinya. Buat Jojo,teman gue dari masa masa alay until now thankyou utk selalu ada,makasih udah jagain gue dan teman-teman yg lain pas di Bali be honest pengen bgt ada rezeki lagi trus ke Bali lagiL

Next…sekitar jam 9 malam, gue kaya dengar suara orang manggil dari bawah gitu,trus gue pergi ke balkon dan lihat ternyata eh…ternyata udah ada Barbara dan Kak Lestari lagi nyalain lilin didepan pagar wkwkwkwk terfailed sejagat raya,trus gue turun ke bawah dan bukain gerbang sontak kita bertiga ngakak ngakak ria. Trus akhirnya ke kamar gue dan foto trus makan kue dari Bara yg super duper luar biasa hehehee. Gue sama sekali gak nyangka si Bara betulan ngasih kejutan dan I am so happy for that Bartul! Fyi,mereka berdua balik dari kosan aku jam 12 lewat wkwkwk emang balada wanita ya ada aja yang dibahas. Karena udah capek max gue otw sleep beauty tp masih ada PR satu lagi hamper lupa. Karena gue LDF(Long Distance Friendship) sama dua pembokat gue; Sonya dan April jadi gue diamanahkan buat beli kue sendiri trus make a wish sendiri (katanya anggap aja mereka ada disini,untung aja kadonya udah nyampe jd sisi romantisnya masih ada dikit) yap, I do it dan salah satu wish gue biar bisa rayain ultah bareng mereka suatu hari nanti hehehehe semoga ya,Amin.

Feb,20…berhubung tgl 20 adalah first day kuliah di semester ini jadi itu baliknya cepat karena ada dosen yang belum pada datang gitu. Siangnya,Naomi ngeline gue nanya dikos apa kagak katanya dia mau ngambil sepatu btw rada kesal gitu in my heart soalnya si biawak itu ngucapin aja beloman trus gue balaslah blg kalo gue dikosan. Trus sekitar jam 4 sore gue lagi asik tuh lihat-lihat snapram orang dan tiba-tiba gue dengar suara orang bisik-bisik gitu depan kamarnya gue,trus ada yg buka kamar Mikha(tetangga kamar) tiba-tiba sambil ada suara yang bilang “gak mungkin ini anjir kamarnya rapi bener,bukan ini pasti(u know me so well olan bangsyat)” trus gue udah feelingnih pasti itu para unta-unta yg lagi kebingungan nyari kamar gue yg mana (karna gue baru pindah kamar ke lantai atas) spontan gue ngakak geli gitu trus gue ngintip mereka dari jendela kamar gue eh taunya si Ines nangkep gue lagi ngintip trus dia bilang “lah itu si keke woi” wkwkwkwk coba aja gue gak ngintip trus sampe malam mereka masih nyari kamar gue kan so funny ya…trus gue buka pintu kamar dan kitapun ngakak ngakak ria akan kebohodan mereka.  So after that,kita foto foto,boomerang ala-ala dah tu sambil masih aja ngakak dan I got a big doll(jgn tanya boneka apa ya) and big size pizza from them (tau aja lagi laper emang). Dan demi apa Olan sama Naomi belum ada ngucapin apa-apa ke gue (tahan bgt emang tu unta berdua) sampai akhirnya tadi diucapin juga kecuali Ines sama Dinda udah dari pas gue ultah udah diucapin so I am so lucky to have them…love u guys! Jangan lupa nabung buat holiday part 2 lagi ihihihiiii.

Feb 21…siangnya gue tiba-tiba disamperin Mikha ke kamar dan ngasih gue coklat vanhouten yang gede bgt dan ngucapin hbd ke gue padahal kita kamarnya depan-depanan woiii karena dia selalu bilang “entar aja ya beb ku salam kau (sambil ketawa)” untung sayang ya Mikh…dan dalam sekejap tu coklat langsung sisa bungkus hmm…lapar apa doyan ke.

Feb 23…sore gue janjian sama my 2W(widya,wifi) buat ketemuan karna gue sok sok gabisa gitu and then si Wifi nge line trus bilang “kami mau surprise kau loh bodat jadi gak boleh gak bisa” wkwkwk sebenarnya udah maklum kok kalo yg dua ini saraf romantisnya udah kritis jadi kita janjian ketemu di KFC MOG akhirnya gue nyamperin mereka kesana dan kita tiup lilin bareng-bareng dan makan habis itu,karna so lapar (saking konyolnya cerita dibalik surprise mereka gak kuat lagi daku buat flashbackinnya wkwkwk) pokoknya still like that since SMA until tak terhingga ya we! Ku syg kalian!

Feb 25…malamnya pas selesai mandi tiba-tiba si Susi (teman kos) datang ke kamar trus minjam motor katanya mau beli sesuatu trus gak lama setelah itu ternyata Itin,Tiur,Dindra,Susi,Kak Ulfa,Kak Eka datang sambil nyanyi lagu hbd dan bawa martabak yang dipenuhi lilin dan yap lumayan sukseslah mereka karna gue sama sekali gak ngeh si susi minjam motor taunya buat beli martabak. Thankyou my queen of WT 15A yg jadi alasan buat aku malas pindah kos lagi cause karna kalian kalian huhuhu jadi kangennnn…

March,2…Okay gak terasa udah bulan Maret aja entah kenapa makin tua hari berlalu makin gak kerasa kenapa yaaa… Sekitar jam 2 siangan gue diline sama Erlis (teman pertama gue dikuliahan) katanyasih dia mau main ke kosan gue,be honest gue emang udah tau dia pasti datang buat kasih kejutan karna gak logika aja gak ada badai dan topan tiba-tiba dia mau datang tapi pas gue buka gerbang buat dia dibawah taunya ada my luvlis Sitek dan Atul jugaa aaa bisa dibilang yg ini sukseslah wkwkwk,dan mereka gak cuman bawa kue kesukaan gue sepanjang jalan kenangan tapi sekuntum bunga-bungaan juga uhlala. Jadi guys,gue sama erlis,sitek dan atul itu sekelas di semester 1 jadi kita saling nyambung satu sama lain apalagi cuman atul doang yg dari jawa kita bertiga dari medan jadi kalo ketemu pasti lupa mungsiin otak. Dan gue sama sekali gak nyangka sitek sama atul ikut ngasih surprise cause gue tau pasti susah bgt buat nyamain waktu mereka bertiga dan padahal yg paling wownya Sitek dan gue sekelas lagi di semester 4.

Cerita in this day gak sampai situ aja… karna malamnya gue udah janjian juga sama my bestie boy 2 yg paling gue gatau sampe skrg kenapa ada ciptaan Tuhan kayak dia dibumi ini, berhubung dari libur kemarin kita belum ketemu jadi kita pergi buat makan dan as always sepanjang jalan cant stop ngakak dan saling mempermalukan satu sama lain as usual. Mulai dari bahas Negara-Drama Korea (dia lebih tau jauh dari gue demi apa) sampai ke tiang listrik yang gak penting bisa jadi topik bahasan. Pas dia nganter gue balik ke kos trus dia ngasih sesuatu ke gue yang katanya itu emas batangan susah dapatnya hmm ok oc dan dari semua kado yg gue dapat mmg ini yg terestetik utk taraf pria gak waras like him. Padahal kita kenalnya belum ada setahun tapi kayak udah kenal dari masih janin so I am so lucky to have him in this life,thankyou for always make me laugh even my day full of trouble my sahabat gelembung,Rei (dia yg buat tapi gue gatau maknanya apa).

April,7 okay okay… udah april aja dan gue gak mikir bakal dapat kue kuean berlilin lagi tapi dihari itu gue dapat kejutan lagi dari Cintas cintasku; Bella,Novita,Barbara di Pantiez Pizza Batu. Kita emang udah niat kesana dari jauh hari cause lagi pengen makan pizza bgt tp pas lagi semangat 45 nih mau makan pizzanya tiba-tiba ada mas pelayannya datang sambil bawa kue trus bilang ke gue “mbak ini ada titipan dari Jogja” demi apa gue sumpah syok berasa yaampun mas salah orang pasti gila malu bgt… trus gue spontan bilang “hah gak ada mas” tapi dia ngulangin kata-kata dia yg tadi dan gue lihat mereka bertiga udah ketawa-ketawa dan yap they’re successful! Thankyou cintasku,still like that until tak terhingga ya we,ku cinta klen!

Inti dari intinya I’m feeling so blessed to have them in my life,really! Mungkin di tahun ini gue belum bisa rayain ulang tahun ala ala dongeng dengan pangeran tampan tapi… puji Tuhan tahun ini gue dikelilingi orang-orang baik yang selalu ada buat gue dan selalu ingat gue. Sebenarnya menurut gue hal yang terpenting di hari ulang tahun itu bukan mahalnya kado,enaknya kue dan panjangnya ucapan yang kamu dapat tapi dengan masih diingatnya dirimu dan harapanmu adalah harapan mereka dan dihari itu namamu terbesit dalam doa mereka…menurut gue itu adalah bagian terpenting di hari ulang tahun. Gue gak minta banyak sama Tuhan,cukup dengan hidup gue dikelilingi dengan orang-orang baik dan tulus yang selalu bisa jadi partner in crime gue dalam segala kondisi seperti sekarang ini. Salah satu harapan gue adalah orang-orang baik yang ada disekeliling gue bisa bahagia sebahagia gue punya mereka. Terimakasih untuk selalu ada buat keke dikala laporan,tugas,makalah kuliah benar-benar buat gue sangat sangat lelah,terimakasih untuk jadi alasan gue mengucap syukur disaat gue belum punya apa yang orang lain punya. Terimakasih untuk jadi alasan buat gue gak boleh sedih apalagi galau karena gue punya tugas harus bikin kalian terus ketawa.

Terimakasih juga buat teman-teman yang udah ngucapin februari kemarin yang gak bisa disebutin satu persatu yang mau luangkan waktunya ngetik panjang lebar dan buat wish untuk gue. Semoga gue bisa jadi orang yang lebih baik setiap harinya seperti wish kalian ya!

Dan,ditahun ini gue sadar kalau untuk bahagia itu sederhana. Dengan kamu cukup hanya fokus pada hal-hal yang membuatmu bahagia,pada orang-orang yang menyayangimu dan menginginkan kehadiranmu selalu,tertawa dengan orang-orang konyol  bukan dengan memberikan pikiran pada orang-orang yang salah menilaimu dan mungkin membencimu dengan alasan tertentu. Simpel kan?

 Terimakasih Tuhan, I have them.

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The Last Two Brain Cells

Okay. Misi mengirim 7 kartu pos masih berlanjut. Kali ini untuk kedua kalinya. Meskipun yang pertama kemarin belum ada kabar beritanya sama sekali. Hohoho I wish the post office or YG office staff deliver the post card to him. Nggak ngerti lagi akutu kartu posnya udah nyampe mana aja. Soalnya kan ngga bisa ditrack lagi ada dimana. 

Tapi ya mau gimana lagi kan ya. Hehehe. 

Kartu pos kedua yang mau dikirim juga banyak dramanya sih. Dimulai waktu beli kartu posnya. Udah diitung nih kira-kira kalau beli minggu ini, paling lambat minggu depan udah nyampe, kira-kira 3-4 hari lah. Kan mau dipake hari Sabtu, jadi masih bisa nulis nulis dulu. Eh, pas beli malah salah pilih layanan ekspedisinya. Jadilah hari itu panik, paket bisa sampe tepat waktu ngga. Ditambah pas beli waktu itu hari Sabtu dimana ngga ada pengiriman paket. Haha, makan tuh beli pas mepet-mepet. 

Akhirnya drama berakhir dengan paket bisa dateng tepat waktu juga. Jadi masih bisa nulis nggak keburu waktu. Oh ya, ini tulisannya lagi-lagi udah gue bikin dulu. Jadi tinggl nyalin aja. Udah beres dong. Oh tentu belum, Ferguso. masih ada drama nyari perangko. Yang finally, kok kayaknya gue ketipu lagi sama petugas kantor posnya ya. Gue ditawarin lagi perangko yang sepuluh ribuan buat kirim kartu posnya. Haha. 

My last two brain cells: ok ok aja. 

Mikirnya pokoknya kartu posnya bisa dikirim dan (berharap) nyampe ke tujuan. 

Ngomong-ngomong soal sampe ke tujuan nih, gue pernah baca beberapa tips soal kirim kartu pos ke negara orang. Di tips itu, kalo mau cepet sampe kita bisa nulis alamat yang dituju pake huruf asli orang sono, yang wich is in my case, pake Hangul. Asli susah bener nulisnya. Gue udah latihan tetep aja belum bener-bener. Pada akhirnya gue masih nyerah dulu. Gue tulis pake tulisan yang biasa aja. Semoga ya, semoga, pak pos di sana ngerti dan di kirim ke alamat yang bener. 

Short story, udah di cap lah kartu pos gue. Tandanya udah siap dikirim ke alamat yang dituju. Di perjalanan, gue pun mikir. Emang masih ada yang kurang ya? Kayaknya udah semua. Nama orang yang di tuju udah, alamat udah, perangko udah juga. Jadi apa lagi? 

My last two brain cells: Kok belum di foto lagi, Barbara?!?!?! Kan tadi mau di foto dulu sebelum dikirim!!! 

My last two brain cells: I’m Ok.

Lantas gue ketawa ngakak di jalan. 

Anyway, Happy Birthday Jung Chanwoo. My big baby. Si bontot yang selalu berhasil ngalihin perhatian gue ke kamu terus. Semoga sukses, bahagia, dan sehat selalu. Kalo bukan karena kamu, mungkin gue ngga bakal kenal yang namanya iKON, ngga tahu lagu-lagu mereka, dan ngga bisa dapet kesempatan kenal orang-orang hebat macam kalian, Nak. So, thank you, Chan. Mungkin ini yang dinamakan takdir. Hehehe :p 

Happy #CHANWOOnderfulDay 

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A pre-celebration

#NP: I’m So In Love With You - Jill Andrews, Seth Avett

“Menurutmu ini cocok untuknya?”

Satu pertanyaan itu kerap ia ulangi setaip kali ia melihat model yang baru. Semuanya tampak cantik dan sangat pas jika dipakai oleh kekasihnya. Daniel melirik layar telepon genggamnya dan membandingkan wallpaper dengan ada yang tengah ia lihat. Lantas ia ditunjukkan dengan yang baru lagi. Kali ini ada perpaduan beberapa warna dan ia langsung tertegun. Bayangkan saja jika Maddy memilikinya, pasti cantik sekali.

“I’ll take that one.”

Dua jam kemudian, ia sudah berada di aula fakultas tempat Maddy kuliah—yang mana tak jauh dari fakultasnya—sambil membawa bunga daisy putih, krisan ungu kecil dan tiga tangkai mawar merah dalam satu buket. Ia sudah tidak sabar untuk memberikannya kepada Maddy.

Hari itu adalah hari kelulusan kekasihnya, jadi tentu saja semua harus spesial. Daniel yang baru masuk langsung menarik napas dan segera mencari tempat duduk. Ditunggunya nama Maddy dipanggil dan setelah gadis itu dinyatakan lulus, Daniel langsung berdiri sambil tersenyum. Mata mereka bertemu dan langsung saja jantungnya berdetak cepat. Selalu seperti itu walaupun mereka sudah cukup lama berkencan.

“Danyul!” Maddy menghambur ke pelukannya setelah para wisudawan keluar gedung dan serta-merta Daniel mengangkat sang gadis dan berputar satu kali. “Is that for me?” tanya dara Lovett itu.

“Uhuh. Tapi kamu lebih cantik dari bunganya,” ujar Daniel seraya memberikan buket itu kepada gadisnya dan langsung disenggol oleh yang menerima karena orangtuanya sedang ada di tempat. Ucapan-ucapan selamat berdatangan dan tentu saja Barbara cukup heboh dengan pelukan dan cium-pipi-kanan-kirinya. Mereka juga bahkan difoto; dan foto itu, dengan foto-foto yang lain, nantinya dipajang di mading kelulusan selama satu minggu.

“Maddy, Daniel... jangan lupa ya nanti malam. 7PM sharp!” ujar Nyonya Lovett yang datang bersama suaminya.

Pemuda Weiland yang membalas dengan anggukan dan senyuman itu lantas digandeng oleh Maddy yang dengan semangat berkata, “Yes, Mom! Ayo, Danyul! Kita kembali dulu ke apartemen, aku ingin bersih-bersih.” Weiland itu hanya tersenyum geli melihat betapa antusiasnya sang gadis akan acara makan malam nanti malam. Hype kelulusan masih sangat terasa.

 Tidak lama, keduanya sudah sampai ke studio apartemen tempat mereka tinggal bersama. Daniel langsung mendaratkan banyak ciuman mesra di wajah kekasihnya. “Aku sangat bangga padamu, Maddy! Bagaimana rasanya lulus? Apa menurutmu sama seperti kelulusan SMA?” Pertanyaan Daniel disambut dengan kekehan dan balasan kecupan di pipi dan leher.

“Rasanya? Sangat lega! Tidak ada beban dan akhirnya akan akan menghadapi dunia pekerjaan... ah, mungkin akan berat.”

“Masa? Kau pasti mudah mendapatkan pekerjaan, Maddy. Percaya dirilah saat wawancara pekerjaan nanti.”

“Menurutmu aku bisa? Bekerja, bukan kuliah?”

Daniel mengacak-acak rambut sang gadis dan segera menyuruhnya bersih-bersih sementara ia membuatkan smoothies buah sebagai camilan yang mana adalah sebuah dalih agar Maddy tidak menanyakan atau curiga akan keberadaannya. Lima menit setelah Maddy di kamar mandi, Daniel langsung mempersiapkan semuanya di atas kasur agar kejutannya lah yang pertama kali Maddy lihat.

Dan begitulah kenyataannya.

“Danyul?” panggil Maddy yang kepala dan badannya berbalutkan handuk putih basah. “Itu... apa? Kok ada gaun dan sepatu? Kotak itu apa, Nyul?” Gadis itu mendekati ranjang dan menyentuh gaun berwarna putih dengan pita biru di bagian pinggangnya. Matanya tertuju pada strapped high heels berwarna biru gelap dengan bahan velvet yang nyaman. “Danyul?” Yang dipanggil akhirnya datang dan tersenyum.

“Tentu saja itu hadiah kelulusanmu, Maddy. Apa lagi? Apa kau suka?”

“For me? Like, for real, Danyul?”

“Iya, aku nggak bohong. Dan yang di kotak ini spesial.”

Daniel membuka kotak itu pelan dan sebuah liontin dengan bandul clover berdaun empat—tanda keberuntungan—dan sebagi pengganti daunnya, batu mulia berwarna hijau, biru, merah, dan putih ditahtakan di bentuk daun tersebut. “For good luck in the future.” Pemuda Weiland itu memposisikan diri di belakang sang gadis dan mulai mengalungkan liontin itu di leher Maddy.

“It’s pretty...”

“You’re pretty.”

“Danyul... thank you so much. I don’t know what to say. I just, thank you, Nyul.”

Akhirnya mereka saling bertatapan lagi dan pemuda itu tersenyum sebelum berkata, “I know what to say:

 I know you had a very rough time on finishing your research. I know you were very tired and on some points, you said you just want to leave it for a few days but you knew you couldn’t. I know you needed a lot of support and I always supported you when you had your bad days. I know you missed your parents and wanted to go home. I know you just wanted to lie on bed and sleep whenever you got back from class. I know you really wanted to finish your duty and feel free at last; making everyone who supported you proud.

 You did it.

You finished it and you made all of us—family and friend—proud of you.

You made you proud of yourself.

 I know you are strong and able to face what life has in stock for you. I know you. I know I am very proud of you, and I love you. Congraduation, Maddy.”

 Penuturan panjang yang hampir mirip surat itu diakhiri dengan sebuah ciuman manis di bibir dan pelukan hangat. “You really do know me, Coach,” ujar Maddy yang sontak membuat Daniel tertawa. “I love it. Everything that you have for me and said. I love you, Mr. Weiland. Thank you!”

   “Umm, Maddy? I think I also know that we don’t really need these until 6:20.” Tangan yang selalu dibilang jahil oleh sang gadis melepaskan kain putih tebal yang membuat kulit putih Maddy terasa dingin karena lembabnya tadi.

“I thinnk I know that too, Danyul. Is it another present?”

“It sure is.”