#Baldness

[shiftythrifting]

I don’t know what this means and I’m afraid to ask

[soulren]

Go spend some time on male pattern baldness or male(AMAB) balding forums/subreddits and such. I did after realizing it is happening to me and the ammount of people who truly don't realize how BRUTALLY it tanks people's confidence and mental health is insane.

There's no cure to baldness by the way, and it can start at any time and there's no way to predict how fast or slow it will go. The only real working option is a daily pill that usually just halts it, but it can stop working or just slow it down or cause major side effects. To regrow you have to use a daily topical solution, or use a roller to wound your scalp. None of these are surefire by the way, and if you stop them you'll just lose your hair and whatever you regained. It's a daily involved thing that might not work and often at best just retains. The best drug, the one that occasionaly gives regrowth, also causes shedding at the start, and can have side effects from growing breasts to brain fog to EDsyfunction(sorry, censoring cause tumblr). Now, those are INCREDIBLY rare and almost never happen but it weighs heavily on the mind of those already spiraling.

But that's just background. What I'm here to talk about is the pure woe you'll see on those forums. People speak as though their lives are over, as though they've lost every chance of finding a woman(predominantly, there's a running idea in such places that women don't like bald men or like them less) or doing anything. You can read countless stories of people who describe that they no longer go outside, are now filled with anxiety and self-hate, have gone from extroverted to never showing their face. And some of these people are kids who lost their hair in high school or even before, or are holding as best they can to a very receded hairline and feel like there is nothing they can do.

And then there's something touched upon far less in those communities, but is important to bring up here; baldness and masculinity. There's the horror of knowing so much of society sees a bald guy as a very masculine guy, at seeing that the best advice for being hot and bald is "grow and beard and big muscles bro". Imagine now you're AMAB balding and nonbinary, or a trans woman who doesn't want to be on hormones.

Just genuinely take the time to look at those forums no matter who you are. Understand what these people go through, what I am currently going through. It is soul-crushing, spiraling, brutal. I have the dream of one day being like Brennan Lee Mulligan or Matt Mercer and starting to lose my hair made me feel like I could never. I felt like and still feel like I would have to be masculine, have to be a bro-y dude, have to look older than I was(I'm fuckin 22). It was the feeling that I could never dress feminine again, never present as a woman when I wanted to again, that I'd always be viewed as a bald guy before anything else.

This is an incredibly vulnerable post for me, and I hope it reaches you all as well in a kind and understanding mood. There's a tendency online for people to joke about baldness, to make fun of it, to treat it as a playfull silly thing but it fucking ruins lives, and it shouldn't. It happens to half the population's sort of bodies and very often. It should just be a neutral thing. You don't need long hair to be feminine, you don't need hair to be feminine. You don't need hair for anything. I guess I'm just saying in general that everyone should be kinder about balding, more understanding, and view it with as much import as they'd view the pixels between this sentence and the next. None at all, I mean.

And for those like me, very feminine guys who wanna keep that and don't want a beard and are terrified of balding, here's some names and I do hope others that see this will add more; Mr. Bruce (also in The Correspondents(band) Alex Ward in LA By Night Jason Carl in LA By Night Cecil Baldwin of Welcome To Night Vale Bob The Drag Queen RuPaul(in looks alone, I know about the whole fracking stuff but this post is about looks) tananasho on instagram Also your mannerisms and style of dress will convey femininity far more than your hair. Yea sure a front-on neutral shot of you may not and maybe you need makeup and stuff, and hell maybe a lot of people might reject you more but it'll just filter down to the people for you.

And to all you artists and writers and creatives; make more bald characters. Try it out. Feminine ones, masculine ones, all sorts. None of the copout nonhuman sort, just dudes and girls and mates and individuals who are all sorts of things and also bald. It might make a few of the people going through the various vortexes of pain that balding causes feel a bit better.

And to those noticing I did not adress female hair loss much here, that was intentional. I am AMAB and currently a nonbinary guy who goes by any pronouns but often likes to present as fem. I learned I was possibly losing my hair and lost two months of my life, no work or going or anything, to male hair loss forums and research and spiraling. Checking my hair twenty times a day, unable to sleep, unable to eat, unable to think. And my situation was NOT unique, but it also did not give me any experience or understanding of female hair loss and what AFAB people may go through with that, so I don't feel knowledgeable enough to speak on it. Also living with baldness WILL get easier and you will find something that works for it, by virtue of simply living with it. Things get easier with time.

[ricklovebald]

[marcelheadly]

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[filthcadillac]

tanaka's morning routine i guess

[amyisraelchaiforever]

genuinely curious about this.

first three are for matrilineal/patrilineal jews, last three are for converts. pls pick the correct one to avoid data mixture! convert is already converted or in the process!

so...

if you're a goy (not jewish), please don't vote!!

i actually have wavy/curly hair...it changes day to day, lol :D

[bootsorthossneaks]

No words!

Not so far away anymore, plan reaching it in 4 month finally👅👅👅

[facts-i-just-made-up]

why do bald people exist

I always think of this paragraph when people ask-

"Certainly I get such questions often. Why are there tall people, short people, thin or fat, hirsute people and bald. Why are there bald people, indeed?

"The genetic predisposition is not the real question here, but that of culture. Why does our culture think baldness is important but we ignore the posterior cranial anticline? Do you even know what that is, the fold at the back of the scalp? Half of us have them and half don't. A double fold of skin into which some can fit their whole finger. They can finger their scalp, their scalussy, if you will. Imagine making love to that fold, touching the scalp skin of your lover. Would you penetrate it? Would you tongue it, that skin? Would you tongue the scalussy? Would you? Would you??

"Anyhow there are bald people because of a double Q dominance on the first oligophrenin gene of the X chromosome."

-Doug D. Monkeytaint, 1st President of the National Rifle Association

[detroitlib]

From our stacks: Illustration "A curiously arresting illustration of the religious motive in tattooing. Bob Wicks is the tattooer, Jack Redcloud the tattooee," from Tattoo: Secrets of a Strange Art as Practised among the Natives of the United States. Albert Parry. New York: Simon and Schuster, 1933.

[stljedi]

Darth Baldness

[jokingluna]

According to my calculations, this is joke number 3000! I would never have guessed there would be this many jokes to be found on the Internet, even keeping with my standards of what jokes I can tell!

Some of the jokes are ones I made up (like yesterday's). Many have been suggested by my readers! (If I don't use your suggestion, it means I've already told that joke, or it doesn't fit my criteria [must be clean, no real-world-only references, no religion or politics, etc.])

Anyway, once more I thank all of you for continuing to read my stupid jokes, and for sharing/inflicting them with/upon your friends and followers. As long as I keep finding them, I'll keep telling them!

Keep Laughing!

[ricklovebald]

[marcelheadly]

You can also find me on Instagram @marcelheadly

https://www.instagram.com/marcelheadly

[fabiansociety]

this is a real minor thing, but as a bald cis dude i find bald trans men very personally affirming. dudes fought like hell to have a hair line just like this! makes me smile a little whenever i look in the mirror

trans rights for the sake of trans rights, now and forever, but also recognizing and honoring trans people opens up so much space to be comfortable even as a cis person. patriarchal gender and sexuality are a prison even if you fit in the cell they assigned you

[nemfrog]

Baldness is caused by wearing hats. The Electrical experimenter. March 1921.

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