#BUT THE NONMONOGAMY ISNT JUST NOT A FACET BC YOU DONT WANNA THINK ABOUT THE FACT THAT ANYONE IS CAPABLE OF CAUSING HARM | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

bunnyboy-juice · 7 months ago

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i think its so wild how ppl still try to make it seem like nonmonogamy is inherently smthn freeing and better than monogamy bc they see monogamy as the avenue for IPV and its like. oh buddy do i have news for you.

#personal #like i am not the only person who has been abused in nonmonogamous contexts (:#i am not the only person who was harmed bc of the ways others engage with nonmonogamy #and every time i try to talk abt this i get a ppl telling me “oh that not nonmonogamy thats [cheating/abuse/etc]” and its like YEAH. IT WAS #BUT THE NONMONOGAMY ISNT JUST NOT A FACET BC YOU DONT WANNA THINK ABOUT THE FACT THAT ANYONE IS CAPABLE OF CAUSING HARM #honestly my worldview as someone who has primarily experienced violence at the hands of other queer nonmonog ppl makes me feel insane #bc i learned VERY early on that identity doesnt mean shit in capacity to cause harm #and wildly enough saying that among yt queer ppl esp is a surefire way to get hate and vitriol spewed my way (:#cause a lot of yall like to pretend your queerness and funky relationship styles absolve you of causing real harm to others #AND I SHOUDLNT HAVE TO DISCLOSE THAT IM NONMONOGAMOUS AND A LITERAL TRANSMASC FEMME DYKE BUT IM GONNA HERE #b4 someone comes in my inbox acting a fool again

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