#As someone who is always ready for a nitty gritty conversation that consistently worries if I’m too intense I appreciate this post.

[221bornottobe]

Sometimes it feels to me that banter or jokes have become a sort of social currency that dictates the collective hierarchy. Your worth is valued in laughter and I do think, at times, that the expense is authenticity. But I hope that people know that being authentic, genuine, and kind will never go out of style and will always be in demand.

in case anyone else needs to hear this it’s ok to be more serious. i don’t just mean ‘it’s ok to be serious sometimes’ i mean in general. not everyone has to be funny. it doesn’t have to mean you’re sad or unlikeable. you can just be serious and genuine most of the time and that’s great. i personally think that we’re too focused on ‘funny’ as the primary carrier of likeability right now. i often feel starved for serious conversation, for serious spaces, for a feeling of gravity. you don’t have make good jokes to give people a good time. i say, goof only as the spirit moves you, & don’t worry about it.