#And thus she’s attempting to rule teenagers via fear and guilt/shame
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I was chilling, and now, alas! I am not.
#Brought to you by my stress that my mother is parenting my younger siblings poorly#She’s not keeping her emotions out of it in a healthy manner#And thus she’s attempting to rule teenagers via fear and guilt/shame#When they don’t respond immediately to reason#And I’m like. Ma’am.#If your 24 year old daughter won’t fold her laundry to this day#How do you think this method is going to work out for your 13 year old daughter when she grows up?#I observe that with lots of chores her method has merely instilled guilty avoidance on the part of my siblings#(And to a lesser extent myself as well)#Because guess what!#associating cleaning with guilt for not doing it#AND more guilt during the process#AND further guilting for not doing it sooner once it’s actually been done—#None of that has created a consistent cleaning ethic in any of her children!!#There is no love for tidiness#Only guilt and apathetic despair at its absence#With complete aversion for the work of tidying based on years of shaming#I’ve had to do so much relearning in how I think about and practice tidiness#And most of it’s come from advice on here actually#anyway#pray for my family please#Thanks
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