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freebooter4ever · 8 months ago

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Alright i googled intentionally negative reviews of the book and yeah it sounds like the sexualization of the dude's youth only gets worse in even more descriptive ways so im forcing myself to quit the book here :/ honestly i didnt expect to be so triggered by the damn thing. The synopsis and 90% of the reviews online are so positive: they talk about the main female character as this empowered art gallary owner who jet sets to festivals and biennales and the pop star dude kinda tags along. It sounded exciting and fun and kinda a tables turned version of nicole and steve's jet setting romance. And i am all too aware of the hostile art world that the main character has established herself in and i was excited to revisit that.

Absolutely none of that happened. Instead it was gross and triggering and frankly just sad :( im disappointed, lol. Especially because so many of my favorite male celebrities are in or were in this kind of age gap relationship. Steve and nicole: 14 yrs? Justin and ally: 12 or 13? Rami hasnt dated anyone less than 10 years younger than him since he was like 35 or something. I remember when taylor started dating hiddles and how odd it felt because i myself felt too young for hiddles. Diego and suki were a 12 years difference or something. And yikes i still remember when norman was dating that 19 year old in his 40s (thank GOD for diane lmao). Like there is definitely a trend. It is noticable. And i absolutely do not think those relationships were absuive - they happened when the women were well established in their 20s. So, i dunno, it would have been nice to read about the ages flipped in a way that was truly a romance instead of an age and youth obsessed confidence boost for the older woman. It makes me sad.

im listening to the book version of the anne hathawa*y rom com and it is even worse, my goodness, this female main character is a self obsessed elitist snob o.O

she also extremely fetishizes the male lead's youth in the same way my abusive ex did that is grossing me out. she talks about how beautiful he is with his smooth skin over and over. they have zero things in common beyond sex. dude run away from this woman. if she is only with you because of your tight skin and quick refractory period.... RUN.

like it would be one thing to read an age difference book where it truly was a meeting of hearts and minds and falling in love... but this aint it. :( i wanted a book that gave me hope about falling in love in my 40s since i squandered my 20s (abusive idiot), and my 30s (workaholic, unemployed). instead this is just squicking me out and making me never want to touch anyone else ever again -_-

#Ideaofyou liveblog #My age and youth obsessed abusive ex made me feel that my tight skin was the only thing desirable about me #That i was too ugly for someone to fall in love with me that way #That i was borderline undatable but the fact that i was ten years younger than him meant he felt like i was the best he could do #And like in the novel he was constantly worried that he was too old for me #which mean i constantly had to reassure him that i loved him and didnt care about the age gap #Nothing i said was ever good enough #But i always got the impression that if i had been his ideal woman and much more beautiful he wouldnt have cared about the age gap #I heard from friends that after he broke up with me he started dating some beautiful brown haired girl who he became obsessed with #And my only reaction was thank god because if shes beautiful even without youth maybe he will still be nice to her and love her #For my part i have only ever been in love once #and nick and i last saw each other in 2015 i think?#And lol i was so confident in seeing him again in 2022 because he's old now he's forty he's lost all his hair #theres NO WAY im still into him if i see him again i will forget all about him #Look he broke my heart so many times i feel like i was justified in hoping to hate him #And all it took was one glimpse of him striding across the stupid lawn surrounded by tall masts of sailing ships #And i was like fuck its all still there #the magneticism the inability to keep my fucking hands off him lol that inexplicable draw of insatiable attraction #Its all there it just went dormant for a while #And when he smiled at me my stomach still flipped over with excitement because it was still him #and i was always in love with his mind in addition to his body #I remember the last time we saw each other - i would have been mid twenties? Him early thirties? Or around there #And he is normally a very athletic guy there are not many extreme sports that nick hasnt tried at least once #And he is always reticent with what is going on in his life but by his mood and the tiny hints he did drop i could tell #That he was going through a pretty dark depressive period #And when we first started dating he had been ridiculously proud of his abs #meanwhile i was like yes very nice i love that you can hold me up against a wall with zero effort now just kiss me you dumbass #i love it when i reread posts and discover tumblr cut my rant off in the tags lol

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