#ANYWAY I made coin ace because I wanted to make content specifically catered to me and that was the perfect opportunity

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When I initially followed you, I identified as ace. Now, more demisexual? But I don't like, actively ID as that if that makes sense. I tell people I'm bi/queer.

My partner, who for a long time just IDed as straight, actually started questioning his own sexuality, and recently came to the conclusion that's he's aroflex. It hasn't really changed anything between us, I still love him and he still assures me that he loves me lol

It's nice to see other people (or, well, characters in this case I guess lol) who are aro/ace spec but in relationships because a lot of people think that zero attraction = zero interest (although in the case of my relationship, it's not zero attraction) when that's just not true.

I'm not too big on cake, I'm generally a picky eater, but I'll still eat it. Sometimes I may actually find myself in the mood for it. The way I experience sexual attraction is very similar, and the way my s/o experiences romantic attraction is also very similar to it.

Anyway hey you're cool and I love seeing your art lol

Thank you for the long message, I love hearing about people's different experiences when it comes to being on the ace spectrum 😊 There are so many stories out there and it's really fascinating to hear them.

I'm gonna hog this ask now and talk a bit about myself because I feel like it, lol. Maybe it's interesting, too? Who knows.

I've only recently started using the ace label to describe myself (sometime in 2019) but I knew that a sexuality "asexual" existed since I was 14/15. Met some friends online who used it and that's how I was first introduced to that term. Did some research later down the line and thought that this label actually fit me quite well, but I never used it because I was still in the phase of thinking "I'm just a late bloomer" etc.

Fast forward a few years, I finally accepted that I wasn't slower than everybody else, but that the moment of me experiencing something all of my friends already had probably wasn't going to happen for me anytime soon. For years I used the word straight for myself but I knew that this wasn't 100% what I was and yet I also didn't want to use the word asexual. I sometimes made jokes about being ace to a few people but apart from that I didn't use it at all. I guess I was still insecure of "officially" using that label because who knows, maybe I'd have the same feelings everybody else did in a few months?

A few months after I turned 20 however, I finally decided to just use ace to describe me. I'm not out to a lot of people I know irl, only a handful of close friends, so I almost exclusively use it online. Mostly because a lot of people irl don't know what asexuality means and I don't want to explain it to them or get told things like "You haven't found the right one yet" or whatever.

I saw a post yesterday talking about how most ace content you find is usually about explaining terminology and is more on the scientific side of things, but that there isn't a lot that shows what it's like to be ace and I gotta say I agree. There's not a lot of ace rep out there to begin with and more often than not, you have to actively search for it, it's hard to stumble upon it, or at least I didn't randomly encountered it a lot.

That's why I sometimes create ace content because it's what I want to see and what I miss when it comes to the portrayal of asexuality. I know the explanations, I know the terms but there's more to it that doesn't get covered a lot, so why not do it myself 🤷