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lolochaponnay · 26 days ago
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Les parents de Toto s'en vont inscrire Toto à une école publique. À la fin d'année, Toto a une moyenne finale de 4,00/20. Il décident de l'inscrire l'année suivante à une école privée. Toto finit cette année avec 4,02/20. L'année qui suit, ses parent l'inscrivent à une école catholique. Toto finit l'année avec 15,48/20. Ses parents, stupéfaits, lui demandent: -Mais toto, c'est super! tu vois que tu peux travailler quand tu veux. Comment as-tu fait? -Quand j'suis arrivé là bas, j'ai vu un élève qu'on a crucifié. J'ai tout de suite compris que là bas ils ne blaguent pas.
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antiporn-activist · 10 months ago
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I thought y'all should read this
I have a free trial to News+ so I copy-pasted it for you here. I don't think Jonathan Haidt would object to more people having this info.
Tumblr wouldn't let me post it until i removed all the links to Haidt's sources. You'll have to take my word that everything is sourced.
End the Phone-Based Childhood Now
The environment in which kids grow up today is hostile to human development.
By Jonathan Haidt
Something went suddenly and horribly wrong for adolescents in the early 2010s. By now you’ve likely seen the statistics: Rates of depression and anxiety in the United States—fairly stable in the 2000s—rose by more than 50 percent in many studies from 2010 to 2019. The suicide rate rose 48 percent for adolescents ages 10 to 19. For girls ages 10 to 14, it rose 131 percent.
The problem was not limited to the U.S.: Similar patterns emerged around the same time in Canada, the U.K., Australia, New Zealand, the Nordic countries, and beyond. By a variety of measures and in a variety of countries, the members of Generation Z (born in and after 1996) are suffering from anxiety, depression, self-harm, and related disorders at levels higher than any other generation for which we have data.
The decline in mental health is just one of many signs that something went awry. Loneliness and friendlessness among American teens began to surge around 2012. Academic achievement went down, too. According to “The Nation’s Report Card,” scores in reading and math began to decline for U.S. students after 2012, reversing decades of slow but generally steady increase. PISA, the major international measure of educational trends, shows that declines in math, reading, and science happened globally, also beginning in the early 2010s.
As the oldest members of Gen Z reach their late 20s, their troubles are carrying over into adulthood. Young adults are dating less, having less sex, and showing less interest in ever having children than prior generations. They are more likelyto live with their parents. They were less likely to get jobs as teens, and managers say they are harder to work with. Many of these trends began with earlier generations, but most of them accelerated with Gen Z.
Surveys show that members of Gen Z are shyer and more risk averse than previous generations, too, and risk aversion may make them less ambitious. In an interview last May, OpenAI co-founder Sam Altman and Stripe co-founder Patrick Collison noted that, for the first time since the 1970s, none of Silicon Valley’s preeminent entrepreneurs are under 30. “Something has really gone wrong,” Altman said. In a famously young industry, he was baffled by the sudden absence of great founders in their 20s.
Generations are not monolithic, of course. Many young people are flourishing. Taken as a whole, however, Gen Z is in poor mental health and is lagging behind previous generations on many important metrics. And if a generation is doing poorly––if it is more anxious and depressed and is starting families, careers, and important companies at a substantially lower rate than previous generations––then the sociological and economic consequences will be profound for the entire society.
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What happened in the early 2010s that altered adolescent development and worsened mental health? Theories abound, but the fact that similar trends are found in many countries worldwide means that events and trends that are specific to the United States cannot be the main story.
I think the answer can be stated simply, although the underlying psychology is complex: Those were the years when adolescents in rich countries traded in their flip phones for smartphones and moved much more of their social lives online—particularly onto social-media platforms designed for virality and addiction. Once young people began carrying the entire internet in their pockets, available to them day and night, it altered their daily experiences and developmental pathways across the board. Friendship, dating, sexuality, exercise, sleep, academics, politics, family dynamics, identity—all were affected. Life changed rapidly for younger children, too, as they began to get access to their parents’ smartphones and, later, got their own iPads, laptops, and even smartphones during elementary school.
As a social psychologist who has long studied social and moral development, I have been involved in debates about the effects of digital technology for years. Typically, the scientific questions have been framed somewhat narrowly, to make them easier to address with data. For example, do adolescents who consume more social media have higher levels of depression? Does using a smartphone just before bedtime interfere with sleep? The answer to these questions is usually found to be yes, although the size of the relationship is often statistically small, which has led some researchers to conclude that these new technologies are not responsible for the gigantic increases in mental illness that began in the early 2010s.
But before we can evaluate the evidence on any one potential avenue of harm, we need to step back and ask a broader question: What is childhood––including adolescence––and how did it change when smartphones moved to the center of it? If we take a more holistic view of what childhood is and what young children, tweens, and teens need to do to mature into competent adults, the picture becomes much clearer. Smartphone-based life, it turns out, alters or interferes with a great number of developmental processes.
The intrusion of smartphones and social media are not the only changes that have deformed childhood. There’s an important backstory, beginning as long ago as the 1980s, when we started systematically depriving children and adolescents of freedom, unsupervised play, responsibility, and opportunities for risk taking, all of which promote competence, maturity, and mental health. But the change in childhood accelerated in the early 2010s, when an already independence-deprived generation was lured into a new virtual universe that seemed safe to parents but in fact is more dangerous, in many respects, than the physical world.
My claim is that the new phone-based childhood that took shape roughly 12 years ago is making young people sick and blocking their progress to flourishing in adulthood. We need a dramatic cultural correction, and we need it now.
1. The Decline of Play and Independence 
Human brains are extraordinarily large compared with those of other primates, and human childhoods are extraordinarily long, too, to give those large brains time to wire up within a particular culture. A child’s brain is already 90 percent of its adult size by about age 6. The next 10 or 15 years are about learning norms and mastering skills—physical, analytical, creative, and social. As children and adolescents seek out experiences and practice a wide variety of behaviors, the synapses and neurons that are used frequently are retained while those that are used less often disappear. Neurons that fire together wire together, as brain researchers say.
Brain development is sometimes said to be “experience-expectant,” because specific parts of the brain show increased plasticity during periods of life when an animal’s brain can “expect” to have certain kinds of experiences. You can see this with baby geese, who will imprint on whatever mother-sized object moves in their vicinity just after they hatch. You can see it with human children, who are able to learn languages quickly and take on the local accent, but only through early puberty; after that, it’s hard to learn a language and sound like a native speaker. There is also some evidence of a sensitive period for cultural learning more generally. Japanese children who spent a few years in California in the 1970s came to feel “American” in their identity and ways of interacting only if they attended American schools for a few years between ages 9 and 15. If they left before age 9, there was no lasting impact. If they didn’t arrive until they were 15, it was too late; they didn’t come to feel American.
Human childhood is an extended cultural apprenticeship with different tasks at different ages all the way through puberty. Once we see it this way, we can identify factors that promote or impede the right kinds of learning at each age. For children of all ages, one of the most powerful drivers of learning is the strong motivation to play. Play is the work of childhood, and all young mammals have the same job: to wire up their brains by playing vigorously and often, practicing the moves and skills they’ll need as adults. Kittens will play-pounce on anything that looks like a mouse tail. Human children will play games such as tag and sharks and minnows, which let them practice both their predator skills and their escaping-from-predator skills. Adolescents will play sports with greater intensity, and will incorporate playfulness into their social interactions—flirting, teasing, and developing inside jokes that bond friends together. Hundreds of studies on young rats, monkeys, and humans show that young mammals want to play, need to play, and end up socially, cognitively, and emotionally impaired when they are deprived of play.
One crucial aspect of play is physical risk taking. Children and adolescents must take risks and fail—often—in environments in which failure is not very costly. This is how they extend their abilities, overcome their fears, learn to estimate risk, and learn to cooperate in order to take on larger challenges later. The ever-present possibility of getting hurt while running around, exploring, play-fighting, or getting into a real conflict with another group adds an element of thrill, and thrilling play appears to be the most effective kind for overcoming childhood anxieties and building social, emotional, and physical competence. The desire for risk and thrill increases in the teen years, when failure might carry more serious consequences. Children of all ages need to choose the risk they are ready for at a given moment. Young people who are deprived of opportunities for risk taking and independent exploration will, on average, develop into more anxious and risk-averse adults.
Human childhood and adolescence evolved outdoors, in a physical world full of dangers and opportunities. Its central activities––play, exploration, and intense socializing––were largely unsupervised by adults, allowing children to make their own choices, resolve their own conflicts, and take care of one another. Shared adventures and shared adversity bound young people together into strong friendship clusters within which they mastered the social dynamics of small groups, which prepared them to master bigger challenges and larger groups later on.
And then we changed childhood.
The changes started slowly in the late 1970s and ’80s, before the arrival of the internet, as many parents in the U.S. grew fearful that their children would be harmed or abducted if left unsupervised. Such crimes have always been extremely rare, but they loomed larger in parents’ minds thanks in part to rising levels of street crime combined with the arrival of cable TV, which enabled round-the-clock coverage of missing-children cases. A general decline in social capital––the degree to which people knew and trusted their neighbors and institutions––exacerbated parental fears. Meanwhile, rising competition for college admissions encouraged more intensive forms of parenting. In the 1990s, American parents began pulling their children indoors or insisting that afternoons be spent in adult-run enrichment activities. Free play, independent exploration, and teen-hangout time declined.
In recent decades, seeing unchaperoned children outdoors has become so novel that when one is spotted in the wild, some adults feel it is their duty to call the police. In 2015, the Pew Research Center found that parents, on average, believed that children should be at least 10 years old to play unsupervised in front of their house, and that kids should be 14 before being allowed to go unsupervised to a public park. Most of these same parents had enjoyed joyous and unsupervised outdoor play by the age of 7 or 8.
2. The Virtual World Arrives in Two Waves
The internet, which now dominates the lives of young people, arrived in two waves of linked technologies. The first one did little harm to Millennials. The second one swallowed Gen Z whole.
The first wave came ashore in the 1990s with the arrival of dial-up internet access, which made personal computers good for something beyond word processing and basic games. By 2003, 55 percent of American households had a computer with (slow) internet access. Rates of adolescent depression, loneliness, and other measures of poor mental health did not rise in this first wave. If anything, they went down a bit. Millennial teens (born 1981 through 1995), who were the first to go through puberty with access to the internet, were psychologically healthier and happier, on average, than their older siblings or parents in Generation X (born 1965 through 1980).
The second wave began to rise in the 2000s, though its full force didn’t hit until the early 2010s. It began rather innocently with the introduction of social-media platforms that helped people connect with their friends. Posting and sharing content became much easier with sites such as Friendster (launched in 2003), Myspace (2003), and Facebook (2004).
Teens embraced social media soon after it came out, but the time they could spend on these sites was limited in those early years because the sites could only be accessed from a computer, often the family computer in the living room. Young people couldn’t access social media (and the rest of the internet) from the school bus, during class time, or while hanging out with friends outdoors. Many teens in the early-to-mid-2000s had cellphones, but these were basic phones (many of them flip phones) that had no internet access. Typing on them was difficult––they had only number keys. Basic phones were tools that helped Millennials meet up with one another in person or talk with each other one-on-one. I have seen no evidence to suggest that basic cellphones harmed the mental health of Millennials.
It was not until the introduction of the iPhone (2007), the App Store (2008), and high-speed internet (which reached 50 percent of American homes in 2007)—and the corresponding pivot to mobile made by many providers of social media, video games, and porn—that it became possible for adolescents to spend nearly every waking moment online. The extraordinary synergy among these innovations was what powered the second technological wave. In 2011, only 23 percent of teens had a smartphone. By 2015, that number had risen to 73 percent, and a quarter of teens said they were online “almost constantly.” Their younger siblings in elementary school didn’t usually have their own smartphones, but after its release in 2010, the iPad quickly became a staple of young children’s daily lives. It was in this brief period, from 2010 to 2015, that childhood in America (and many other countries) was rewired into a form that was more sedentary, solitary, virtual, and incompatible with healthy human development.
3. Techno-optimism and the Birth of the Phone-Based Childhood
The phone-based childhood created by that second wave—including not just smartphones themselves, but all manner of internet-connected devices, such as tablets, laptops, video-game consoles, and smartwatches—arrived near the end of a period of enormous optimism about digital technology. The internet came into our lives in the mid-1990s, soon after the fall of the Soviet Union. By the end of that decade, it was widely thought that the web would be an ally of democracy and a slayer of tyrants. When people are connected to each other, and to all the information in the world, how could any dictator keep them down?
In the 2000s, Silicon Valley and its world-changing inventions were a source of pride and excitement in America. Smart and ambitious young people around the world wanted to move to the West Coast to be part of the digital revolution. Tech-company founders such as Steve Jobs and Sergey Brin were lauded as gods, or at least as modern Prometheans, bringing humans godlike powers. The Arab Spring bloomed in 2011 with the help of decentralized social platforms, including Twitter and Facebook. When pundits and entrepreneurs talked about the power of social media to transform society, it didn’t sound like a dark prophecy.
You have to put yourself back in this heady time to understand why adults acquiesced so readily to the rapid transformation of childhood. Many parents had concerns, even then, about what their children were doing online, especially because of the internet’s ability to put children in contact with strangers. But there was also a lot of excitement about the upsides of this new digital world. If computers and the internet were the vanguards of progress, and if young people––widely referred to as “digital natives”––were going to live their lives entwined with these technologies, then why not give them a head start? I remember how exciting it was to see my 2-year-old son master the touch-and-swipe interface of my first iPhone in 2008. I thought I could see his neurons being woven together faster as a result of the stimulation it brought to his brain, compared to the passivity of watching television or the slowness of building a block tower. I thought I could see his future job prospects improving.
Touchscreen devices were also a godsend for harried parents. Many of us discovered that we could have peace at a restaurant, on a long car trip, or at home while making dinner or replying to emails if we just gave our children what they most wanted: our smartphones and tablets. We saw that everyone else was doing it and figured it must be okay.
It was the same for older children, desperate to join their friends on social-media platforms, where the minimum age to open an account was set by law to 13, even though no research had been done to establish the safety of these products for minors. Because the platforms did nothing (and still do nothing) to verify the stated age of new-account applicants, any 10-year-old could open multiple accounts without parental permission or knowledge, and many did. Facebook and later Instagram became places where many sixth and seventh graders were hanging out and socializing. If parents did find out about these accounts, it was too late. Nobody wanted their child to be isolated and alone, so parents rarely forced their children to shut down their accounts.
We had no idea what we were doing.
4. The High Cost of a Phone-Based Childhood
In Walden, his 1854 reflection on simple living, Henry David Thoreau wrote, “The cost of a thing is the amount of … life which is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run.” It’s an elegant formulation of what economists would later call the opportunity cost of any choice—all of the things you can no longer do with your money and time once you’ve committed them to something else. So it’s important that we grasp just how much of a young person’s day is now taken up by their devices.
The numbers are hard to believe. The most recent Gallup data show that American teens spend about five hours a day just on social-media platforms (including watching videos on TikTok and YouTube). Add in all the other phone- and screen-based activities, and the number rises to somewhere between seven and nine hours a day, on average. The numbers are even higher in single-parent and low-income families, and among Black, Hispanic, and Native American families.
In Thoreau’s terms, how much of life is exchanged for all this screen time? Arguably, most of it. Everything else in an adolescent’s day must get squeezed down or eliminated entirely to make room for the vast amount of content that is consumed, and for the hundreds of “friends,” “followers,” and other network connections that must be serviced with texts, posts, comments, likes, snaps, and direct messages. I recently surveyed my students at NYU, and most of them reported that the very first thing they do when they open their eyes in the morning is check their texts, direct messages, and social-media feeds. It’s also the last thing they do before they close their eyes at night. And it’s a lot of what they do in between.
The amount of time that adolescents spend sleeping declined in the early 2010s, and many studies tie sleep loss directly to the use of devices around bedtime, particularly when they’re used to scroll through social media. Exercise declined, too, which is unfortunate because exercise, like sleep, improves both mental and physical health. Book reading has been declining for decades, pushed aside by digital alternatives, but the decline, like so much else, sped up in the early 2010s. With passive entertainment always available, adolescent minds likely wander less than they used to; contemplation and imagination might be placed on the list of things winnowed down or crowded out.
But perhaps the most devastating cost of the new phone-based childhood was the collapse of time spent interacting with other people face-to-face. A study of how Americans spend their time found that, before 2010, young people (ages 15 to 24) reported spending far more time with their friends (about two hours a day, on average, not counting time together at school) than did older people (who spent just 30 to 60 minutes with friends). Time with friends began decreasing for young people in the 2000s, but the drop accelerated in the 2010s, while it barely changed for older people. By 2019, young people’s time with friends had dropped to just 67 minutes a day. It turns out that Gen Z had been socially distancing for many years and had mostly completed the project by the time COVID-19 struck.
You might question the importance of this decline. After all, isn’t much of this online time spent interacting with friends through texting, social media, and multiplayer video games? Isn’t that just as good?
Some of it surely is, and virtual interactions offer unique benefits too, especially for young people who are geographically or socially isolated. But in general, the virtual world lacks many of the features that make human interactions in the real world nutritious, as we might say, for physical, social, and emotional development. In particular, real-world relationships and social interactions are characterized by four features—typical for hundreds of thousands of years—that online interactions either distort or erase.
First, real-world interactions are embodied, meaning that we use our hands and facial expressions to communicate, and we learn to respond to the body language of others. Virtual interactions, in contrast, mostly rely on language alone. No matter how many emojis are offered as compensation, the elimination of communication channels for which we have eons of evolutionary programming is likely to produce adults who are less comfortable and less skilled at interacting in person.
Second, real-world interactions are synchronous; they happen at the same time. As a result, we learn subtle cues about timing and conversational turn taking. Synchronous interactions make us feel closer to the other person because that’s what getting “in sync” does. Texts, posts, and many other virtual interactions lack synchrony. There is less real laughter, more room for misinterpretation, and more stress after a comment that gets no immediate response.
Third, real-world interactions primarily involve one��to‐one communication, or sometimes one-to-several. But many virtual communications are broadcast to a potentially huge audience. Online, each person can engage in dozens of asynchronous interactions in parallel, which interferes with the depth achieved in all of them. The sender’s motivations are different, too: With a large audience, one’s reputation is always on the line; an error or poor performance can damage social standing with large numbers of peers. These communications thus tend to be more performative and anxiety-inducing than one-to-one conversations.
Finally, real-world interactions usually take place within communities that have a high bar for entry and exit, so people are strongly motivated to invest in relationships and repair rifts when they happen. But in many virtual networks, people can easily block others or quit when they are displeased. Relationships within such networks are usually more disposable.
These unsatisfying and anxiety-producing features of life online should be recognizable to most adults. Online interactions can bring out antisocial behavior that people would never display in their offline communities. But if life online takes a toll on adults, just imagine what it does to adolescents in the early years of puberty, when their “experience expectant” brains are rewiring based on feedback from their social interactions.
Kids going through puberty online are likely to experience far more social comparison, self-consciousness, public shaming, and chronic anxiety than adolescents in previous generations, which could potentially set developing brains into a habitual state of defensiveness. The brain contains systems that are specialized for approach (when opportunities beckon) and withdrawal (when threats appear or seem likely). People can be in what we might call “discover mode” or “defend mode” at any moment, but generally not both. The two systems together form a mechanism for quickly adapting to changing conditions, like a thermostat that can activate either a heating system or a cooling system as the temperature fluctuates. Some people’s internal thermostats are generally set to discover mode, and they flip into defend mode only when clear threats arise. These people tend to see the world as full of opportunities. They are happier and less anxious. Other people’s internal thermostats are generally set to defend mode, and they flip into discover mode only when they feel unusually safe. They tend to see the world as full of threats and are more prone to anxiety and depressive disorders.
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A simple way to understand the differences between Gen Z and previous generations is that people born in and after 1996 have internal thermostats that were shifted toward defend mode. This is why life on college campuses changed so suddenly when Gen Z arrived, beginning around 2014. Students began requesting “safe spaces” and trigger warnings. They were highly sensitive to “microaggressions” and sometimes claimed that words were “violence.” These trends mystified those of us in older generations at the time, but in hindsight, it all makes sense. Gen Z students found words, ideas, and ambiguous social encounters more threatening than had previous generations of students because we had fundamentally altered their psychological development.
5. So Many Harms
The debate around adolescents’ use of smartphones and social media typically revolves around mental health, and understandably so. But the harms that have resulted from transforming childhood so suddenly and heedlessly go far beyondmental health. I’ve touched on some of them—social awkwardness, reduced self-confidence, and a more sedentary childhood. Here are three additional harms.
Fragmented Attention, Disrupted Learning
Staying on task while sitting at a computer is hard enough for an adult with a fully developed prefrontal cortex. It is far more difficult for adolescents in front of their laptop trying to do homework. They are probably less intrinsically motivated to stay on task. They’re certainly less able, given their undeveloped prefrontal cortex, and hence it’s easy for any company with an app to lure them away with an offer of social validation or entertainment. Their phones are pinging constantly—one study found that the typical adolescent now gets 237 notifications a day, roughly 15 every waking hour. Sustained attention is essential for doing almost anything big, creative, or valuable, yet young people find their attention chopped up into little bits by notifications offering the possibility of high-pleasure, low-effort digital experiences.
It even happens in the classroom. Studies confirm that when students have access to their phones during class time, they use them, especially for texting and checking social media, and their grades and learning suffer. This might explain why benchmark test scores began to decline in the U.S. and around the world in the early 2010s—well before the pandemic hit.
Addiction and Social Withdrawal
The neural basis of behavioral addiction to social media or video games is not exactly the same as chemical addiction to cocaine or opioids. Nonetheless, they all involve abnormally heavy and sustained activation of dopamine neurons and reward pathways. Over time, the brain adapts to these high levels of dopamine; when the child is not engaged in digital activity, their brain doesn’t have enough dopamine, and the child experiences withdrawal symptoms. These generally include anxiety, insomnia, and intense irritability. Kids with these kinds of behavioral addictions often become surly and aggressive, and withdraw from their families into their bedrooms and devices.
Social-media and gaming platforms were designed to hook users. How successful are they? How many kids suffer from digital addictions?
The main addiction risks for boys seem to be video games and porn. “Internet gaming disorder,” which was added to the main diagnosis manual of psychiatry in 2013 as a condition for further study, describes “significant impairment or distress” in several aspects of life, along with many hallmarks of addiction, including an inability to reduce usage despite attempts to do so. Estimates for the prevalence of IGD range from 7 to 15 percent among adolescent boys and young men. As for porn, a nationally representative survey of American adults published in 2019 found that 7 percent of American men agreed or strongly agreed with the statement “I am addicted to pornography”—and the rates were higher for the youngest men.
Girls have much lower rates of addiction to video games and porn, but they use social media more intensely than boys do. A study of teens in 29 nations found that between 5 and 15 percent of adolescents engage in what is called “problematic social media use,” which includes symptoms such as preoccupation, withdrawal symptoms, neglect of other areas of life, and lying to parents and friends about time spent on social media. That study did not break down results by gender, but many others have found that rates of “problematic use” are higher for girls.
I don’t want to overstate the risks: Most teens do not become addicted to their phones and video games. But across multiple studies and across genders, rates of problematic use come out in the ballpark of 5 to 15 percent. Is there any other consumer product that parents would let their children use relatively freely if they knew that something like one in 10 kids would end up with a pattern of habitual and compulsive use that disrupted various domains of life and looked a lot like an addiction?
The Decay of Wisdom and the Loss of Meaning 
During that crucial sensitive period for cultural learning, from roughly ages 9 through 15, we should be especially thoughtful about who is socializing our children for adulthood. Instead, that’s when most kids get their first smartphone and sign themselves up (with or without parental permission) to consume rivers of content from random strangers. Much of that content is produced by other adolescents, in blocks of a few minutes or a few seconds.
This rerouting of enculturating content has created a generation that is largely cut off from older generations and, to some extent, from the accumulated wisdom of humankind, including knowledge about how to live a flourishing life. Adolescents spend less time steeped in their local or national culture. They are coming of age in a confusing, placeless, ahistorical maelstrom of 30-second stories curated by algorithms designed to mesmerize them. Without solid knowledge of the past and the filtering of good ideas from bad––a process that plays out over many generations––young people will be more prone to believe whatever terrible ideas become popular around them, which might explain why videos showing young people reacting positively to Osama bin Laden’s thoughts about America were trending on TikTok last fall.
All this is made worse by the fact that so much of digital public life is an unending supply of micro dramas about somebody somewhere in our country of 340 million people who did something that can fuel an outrage cycle, only to be pushed aside by the next. It doesn’t add up to anything and leaves behind only a distorted sense of human nature and affairs.
When our public life becomes fragmented, ephemeral, and incomprehensible, it is a recipe for anomie, or normlessness. The great French sociologist Émile Durkheim showed long ago that a society that fails to bind its people together with some shared sense of sacredness and common respect for rules and norms is not a society of great individual freedom; it is, rather, a place where disoriented individuals have difficulty setting goals and exerting themselves to achieve them. Durkheim argued that anomie was a major driver of suicide rates in European countries. Modern scholars continue to draw on his work to understand suicide rates today. 
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Durkheim’s observations are crucial for understanding what happened in the early 2010s. A long-running survey of American teens found that, from 1990 to 2010, high-school seniors became slightly less likely to agree with statements such as “Life often feels meaningless.” But as soon as they adopted a phone-based life and many began to live in the whirlpool of social media, where no stability can be found, every measure of despair increased. From 2010 to 2019, the number who agreed that their lives felt “meaningless” increased by about 70 percent, to more than one in five.
6. Young People Don’t Like Their Phone-Based Lives
How can I be confident that the epidemic of adolescent mental illness was kicked off by the arrival of the phone-based childhood? Skeptics point to other events as possible culprits, including the 2008 global financial crisis, global warming, the 2012 Sandy Hook school shooting and the subsequent active-shooter drills, rising academic pressures, and the opioid epidemic. But while these events might have been contributing factors in some countries, none can explain both the timing and international scope of the disaster.
An additional source of evidence comes from Gen Z itself. With all the talk of regulating social media, raising age limits, and getting phones out of schools, you might expect to find many members of Gen Z writing and speaking out in opposition. I’ve looked for such arguments and found hardly any. In contrast, many young adults tell stories of devastation.
Freya India, a 24-year-old British essayist who writes about girls, explains how social-media sites carry girls off to unhealthy places: “It seems like your child is simply watching some makeup tutorials, following some mental health influencers, or experimenting with their identity. But let me tell you: they are on a conveyor belt to someplace bad. Whatever insecurity or vulnerability they are struggling with, they will be pushed further and further into it.” She continues:
Gen Z were the guinea pigs in this uncontrolled global social experiment. We were the first to have our vulnerabilities and insecurities fed into a machine that magnified and refracted them back at us, all the time, before we had any sense of who we were. We didn’t just grow up with algorithms. They raised us. They rearranged our faces. Shaped our identities. Convinced us we were sick.
Rikki Schlott, a 23-year-old American journalist and co-author of The Canceling of the American Mind, writes,
"The day-to-day life of a typical teen or tween today would be unrecognizable to someone who came of age before the smartphone arrived. Zoomers are spending an average of 9 hours daily in this screen-time doom loop—desperate to forget the gaping holes they’re bleeding out of, even if just for … 9 hours a day. Uncomfortable silence could be time to ponder why they’re so miserable in the first place. Drowning it out with algorithmic white noise is far easier."
A 27-year-old man who spent his adolescent years addicted (his word) to video games and pornography sent me this reflection on what that did to him:
I missed out on a lot of stuff in life—a lot of socialization. I feel the effects now: meeting new people, talking to people. I feel that my interactions are not as smooth and fluid as I want. My knowledge of the world (geography, politics, etc.) is lacking. I didn’t spend time having conversations or learning about sports. I often feel like a hollow operating system.
Or consider what Facebook found in a research project involving focus groups of young people, revealed in 2021 by the whistleblower Frances Haugen: “Teens blame Instagram for increases in the rates of anxiety and depression among teens,” an internal document said. “This reaction was unprompted and consistent across all groups.”
7. Collective-Action Problems
Social-media companies such as Meta, TikTok, and Snap are often compared to tobacco companies, but that’s not really fair to the tobacco industry. It’s true that companies in both industries marketed harmful products to children and tweaked their products for maximum customer retention (that is, addiction), but there’s a big difference: Teens could and did choose, in large numbers, not to smoke. Even at the peak of teen cigarette use, in 1997, nearly two-thirds of high-school students did not smoke.
Social media, in contrast, applies a lot more pressure on nonusers, at a much younger age and in a more insidious way. Once a few students in any middle school lie about their age and open accounts at age 11 or 12, they start posting photos and comments about themselves and other students. Drama ensues. The pressure on everyone else to join becomes intense. Even a girl who knows, consciously, that Instagram can foster beauty obsession, anxiety, and eating disorders might sooner take those risks than accept the seeming certainty of being out of the loop, clueless, and excluded. And indeed, if she resists while most of her classmates do not, she might, in fact, be marginalized, which puts her at risk for anxiety and depression, though via a different pathway than the one taken by those who use social media heavily. In this way, social media accomplishes a remarkable feat: It even harms adolescents who do not use it.
A recent study led by the University of Chicago economist Leonardo Bursztyn captured the dynamics of the social-media trap precisely. The researchers recruited more than 1,000 college students and asked them how much they’d need to be paid to deactivate their accounts on either Instagram or TikTok for four weeks. That’s a standard economist’s question to try to compute the net value of a product to society. On average, students said they’d need to be paid roughly $50 ($59 for TikTok, $47 for Instagram) to deactivate whichever platform they were asked about. Then the experimenters told the students that they were going to try to get most of the others in their school to deactivate that same platform, offering to pay them to do so as well, and asked, Now how much would you have to be paid to deactivate, if most others did so? The answer, on average, was less than zero. In each case, most students were willing to pay to have that happen.
Social media is all about network effects. Most students are only on it because everyone else is too. Most of them would prefer that nobody be on these platforms. Later in the study, students were asked directly, “Would you prefer to live in a world without Instagram [or TikTok]?” A majority of students said yes––58 percent for each app.
This is the textbook definition of what social scientists call a collective-action problem. It’s what happens when a group would be better off if everyone in the group took a particular action, but each actor is deterred from acting, because unless the others do the same, the personal cost outweighs the benefit. Fishermen considering limiting their catch to avoid wiping out the local fish population are caught in this same kind of trap. If no one else does it too, they just lose profit.
Cigarettes trapped individual smokers with a biological addiction. Social media has trapped an entire generation in a collective-action problem. Early app developers deliberately and knowingly exploited the psychological weaknesses and insecurities of young people to pressure them to consume a product that, upon reflection, many wish they could use less, or not at all.
8. Four Norms to Break Four Traps
Young people and their parents are stuck in at least four collective-action traps. Each is hard to escape for an individual family, but escape becomes much easier if families, schools, and communities coordinate and act together. Here are four norms that would roll back the phone-based childhood. I believe that any community that adopts all four will see substantial improvements in youth mental health within two years.
No smartphones before high school  
The trap here is that each child thinks they need a smartphone because “everyone else” has one, and many parents give in because they don’t want their child to feel excluded. But if no one else had a smartphone—or even if, say, only half of the child’s sixth-grade class had one—parents would feel more comfortable providing a basic flip phone (or no phone at all). Delaying round-the-clock internet access until ninth grade (around age 14) as a national or community norm would help to protect adolescents during the very vulnerable first few years of puberty. According to a 2022 British study, these are the years when social-media use is most correlated with poor mental health. Family policies about tablets, laptops, and video-game consoles should be aligned with smartphone restrictions to prevent overuse of other screen activities.
No social media before 16
The trap here, as with smartphones, is that each adolescent feels a strong need to open accounts on TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, and other platforms primarily because that’s where most of their peers are posting and gossiping. But if the majority of adolescents were not on these accounts until they were 16, families and adolescents could more easily resist the pressure to sign up. The delay would not mean that kids younger than 16 could never watch videos on TikTok or YouTube—only that they could not open accounts, give away their data, post their own content, and let algorithms get to know them and their preferences.
Phone‐free schools 
Most schools claim that they ban phones, but this usually just means that students aren’t supposed to take their phone out of their pocket during class. Research shows that most students do use their phones during class time. They also use them during lunchtime, free periods, and breaks between classes––times when students could and should be interacting with their classmates face-to-face. The only way to get students’ minds off their phones during the school day is to require all students to put their phones (and other devices that can send or receive texts) into a phone locker or locked pouch at the start of the day. Schools that have gone phone-free always seem to report that it has improved the culture, making students more attentive in class and more interactive with one another. Published studies back them up.
More independence, free play, and responsibility in the real world
Many parents are afraid to give their children the level of independence and responsibility they themselves enjoyed when they were young, even though rates of homicide, drunk driving, and other physical threats to children are way down in recent decades. Part of the fear comes from the fact that parents look at each other to determine what is normal and therefore safe, and they see few examples of families acting as if a 9-year-old can be trusted to walk to a store without a chaperone. But if many parents started sending their children out to play or run errands, then the norms of what is safe and accepted would change quickly. So would ideas about what constitutes “good parenting.” And if more parents trusted their children with more responsibility––for example, by asking their kids to do more to help out, or to care for others––then the pervasive sense of uselessness now found in surveys of high-school students might begin to dissipate.
It would be a mistake to overlook this fourth norm. If parents don’t replace screen time with real-world experiences involving friends and independent activity, then banning devices will feel like deprivation, not the opening up of a world of opportunities.
The main reason why the phone-based childhood is so harmful is because it pushes aside everything else. Smartphones are experience blockers. Our ultimate goal should not be to remove screens entirely, nor should it be to return childhood to exactly the way it was in 1960. Rather, it should be to create a version of childhood and adolescence that keeps young people anchored in the real world while flourishing in the digital age.
9. What Are We Waiting For?
An essential function of government is to solve collective-action problems. Congress could solve or help solve the ones I’ve highlighted—for instance, by raising the age of “internet adulthood” to 16 and requiring tech companies to keep underage children off their sites.
In recent decades, however, Congress has not been good at addressing public concerns when the solutions would displease a powerful and deep-pocketed industry. Governors and state legislators have been much more effective, and their successes might let us evaluate how well various reforms work. But the bottom line is that to change norms, we’re going to need to do most of the work ourselves, in neighborhood groups, schools, and other communities.
There are now hundreds of organizations––most of them started by mothers who saw what smartphones had done to their children––that are working to roll back the phone-based childhood or promote a more independent, real-world childhood. (I have assembled a list of many of them.) One that I co-founded, at LetGrow.org, suggests a variety of simple programs for parents or schools, such as play club (schools keep the playground open at least one day a week before or after school, and kids sign up for phone-free, mixed-age, unstructured play as a regular weekly activity) and the Let Grow Experience (a series of homework assignments in which students––with their parents’ consent––choose something to do on their own that they’ve never done before, such as walk the dog, climb a tree, walk to a store, or cook dinner).
Parents are fed up with what childhood has become. Many are tired of having daily arguments about technologies that were designed to grab hold of their children’s attention and not let go. But the phone-based childhood is not inevitable.
The four norms I have proposed cost almost nothing to implement, they cause no clear harm to anyone, and while they could be supported by new legislation, they can be instilled even without it. We can begin implementing all of them right away, this year, especially in communities with good cooperation between schools and parents. A single memo from a principal asking parents to delay smartphones and social media, in support of the school’s effort to improve mental health by going phone free, would catalyze collective action and reset the community’s norms.
We didn’t know what we were doing in the early 2010s. Now we do. It’s time to end the phone-based childhood.
This article is adapted from Jonathan Haidt’s forthcoming book, The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness.
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theoneandonlyneonleon · 9 months ago
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I am not patient so ima answer these now
ask game
1. whats your favorite thing in your room?: my turtle wall <333
2. how tall do you wish you were?: much taller 😔
3. what color is your hair?: im a natural redhead :D
4. whats a rare fear that you have?: nit rlly rare i dont think, but I am TERRIFIED of deep water- like to the point of crying
5. are you single?: naur✨
6. has your heart ever been broken?: not really?
7. what was your favorite thing as a kid?: 2012 and Money Island SE
8. favorite coping mechanism?: Loud music and a weighted blanket 👌
9. whats your favorite love language?: defo physical touch. I am a veryyyy clingy person oncw I get comfy
10. how often do you get nervous?: really only before auditions (and ordering food)
11. if you had three wishes, would you use them?: uh- cha. Who wouldn't??
12. if you could be fluent in any language which one would it be?: asl fs. I like being non verbal, so it would be helpful
13. where do you wish to live?: I wish I lived with my aunt and uncle in Everett
14. what’s something surprising about you?: I do cheer
15. when did you last shower?: last week I think? (I am ass at taking care of myself 💀💀)
16. when did you first join tumblr?: A couple months ago (I think)
17. do you want any tattoos? if so, where, what, and why?: yerp. Probably my arms. Something meaningful. Idk it just sounds cool.
18. whats the most prominent dream youve had?: A reoccurring dream I keep having is where my mom lets me go to school for one day to try it out, but something always goes wrong (I lose my schedule, miss my classes, etc.)
19. whats your dream job?: Actor/Voice Actor
20. whats your ideal date?: just doing something easy and fun, like going to the aquarium!
21. what do you wish you could do better?: take care of myself
22. what country would you live in if you could?: idk Canada? I mean they get free healthcare-
23. whos the best person you know?: my brother Asher
24. have you ever walked into something you shouldnt have?: I didn't, but my mom once walked in on my neighbor teaching me the wap when I was like 9
25. Already answered!!
26. when have you been most embarrassed?: I accidentally blew snot in the boy I liked in 3rd grade✨✨
27. whats your favorite halloween costume?: so far, Carrie
28. what are you best at?: Acting
29. do you know how to tie your shoes?: yuh
30. do you have siblings?: three- almost four- little s shits
31. if you could know one thing about the future what do you wanna know?: if i make it to adulthood
32. whats a dealbreaker for you?: dishonesty
33. whats your favorite current class?: ELA
34. how many people have you dated?: 4
35. how often do you wash your hair?: every time I shower
36. do you daydream? what about?: living w my aunt and uncle
37. where do you go to be alone?: my room. people kinda forget I exist lol
38. which parent do you like more?: my dad. They both suck, but he's at least a little better
39. whats the one standard you hold yourself to?: not being hateful
40. whos voice do you enjoy?: BEN SCHWARTZ!!!!
41. if you could announce one thing to the world what would it be?: bingus
42. whats one thing you wanna do but havent yet?: actually learn an instrument (I am learning drums tho!)
43. what do you wish you never did?: came out to my friends in the gc where my ma could see
44. do you believe in life after death?: sort of? Im pretty open to whatever, but I do like the idea of reincarnation
45. do you prefer book over movie?: the book is definitely 100% better than the movie
46. whats your favorite season?: Autumn
47. Answered!!
48. do you have a beloved stuffed animal?: yup! Pussyslayer the turtle <333
49. whens a time you wish you acted differently?: 3rd grade when I drove a friend away by being to crazy
50. what’s something you wish that you never bought?: nothing really, I thoroughly make sure the purchase is worthwhile before proceeding
51. do you have your own room?: sadly, no
52. whats your favorite book?: white rabbit
53. who’s someone you hate?: Colleen Hoover
54. whats your best hottake?: ???
55. whats your favorite game?: I don't really play video games, but I'd say either Minecraft, Unpacking, or Sims 4
56. whens a time you felt real genuine fear?: when I went to twin falls in Hawaii, and my dad swam me across the third one, under the waterfall. I cried.
57. are you a morning person?: aaaaabsolutely not
58. do you drink enough water?: definitely not.... Im very dehydrated
59. how different are you from the little kid you used to be?: Ion know dawg- i cant even remember most my childhood 😭😭
60. do you enjoy tumblr?: yeah! I just wish people would rebLOG INSTEAD OF LIKING.
61. have you ever had a tumblr experience that made you wanna delete the app?: No(t yet)
62. whats your least favorite game?: fortnite
63. were you a markiplier fan?: still am motherfucker
64. how do you respond to compliments?: If its in person, I usually just say thanks and give a compliment in return. If its online, I usually squeal and giggle and stimm big before calmly replying 'ik✨✨' or 'ty!!'
65. whats something that would make you fall in love?: literally no idea
66. do you believe in marriage?: im kinda 50/50 here- on one hand I would love to have a wedding and get to wear a pretty dress. On the other, I don't believe in marriage as an idea- I feel like you shouldnt have to be legally bound to prive your love. But you do you boo <33
67. do you have a crush on someone?: other than Donnie? Nah.
68. do you like tumblr?: I do! So far everyone is really nice (but please for the love of Aphrodite REBLOGGGG)
69. were you a voltron stan?: naur
70. whats your favorite ship?: Leosagi
71. whats your favorite song?: atm im between Two Time by Jack Stauber and the entire Lucid Dreams album by Boywithuke
72. do you like loud crowds?: I would honestly rather be skinned alive
73. have you ever created conflict on purpose?: nah
74. how do you sleep?: very little
75. do you bite your lips?: only when they itchy
76. do you use chapstick?: frequently. I have eczema so my lips are constantly dry
77. do you have any pets?: two dogs and three cats!
78. what color are your eyes?: blue-gray
79. what’s something you wish you could change about yourself?: nothing, im perfect already✨✨
80. have you ever had surgery?: nerp
81. whats your least favorite animal?: mosquito
82. whats something that youre really bad at?: math (I had to use my fingers to count 7-3 the other day, then I had to pause and rethink my entire life)
83. do you have an sqishmellows?: just one, the lil panda
84. do you enjoy fast food?: meh. I prefer eating at home
85. do you like soda?: yup!
86. Answered!!
87. do you wear any jewelry?: mhm! I have a bunch if cute earrings, and I love wearing bracelets
88. what socials do you use?: just Insta and tumblr
89. whats your lowest grade in school right now?: social studies at 73.24%
90. whats the latest youve stayed up till?: all night
91. did you ever have bangs?: Nerp
92. what trends did you hate?: thigh high uggs because for some reason those were a thing
93. whats your favorite item of clothing?: the dress I wore today, so affectionately called the 'coffin dress'
94. Answered!!
95. whats your opinion on body hair?: if you want to shave, go ahead. If you dont, thats okay too! I don't like telling people what to do with their bodies. Personally, I don't like shaving. I like me the way I am, body hair and all!
96. whats your least favorite time?: morning
97. do you make a wish at 11:11?: its basically mandatory in my house
98. Answered!!
99. have you ever been to church?: I don't go regularly, but have been a few times. Not a terrible experience, but not for me.
100. are you lgbtq?: queer as hell baby
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garotouniversitario · 1 year ago
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Depressão pós-vestibular
Hoje vou contar uma breve história sobre faculdades. Quando eu terminei o ensino médio, em 2021, eu entrei em uma puta crise pensando o que eu ia fazer em seguida. Eu queria muito fazer faculdade moda. Sempre foi minha paixão. Mas aqui no cu do mundo onde eu moro não tem. Então, por uma mistura de pressão com falta de opção, coloquei minha nota do ENEM pra pedagogia, em uma federal que tem aqui na minha cidade. Honestamente, não achei que eu ia passar. Mas pra minha surpresa, eu passei. Então, já que eu não tinha mais nada pra fazer, comecei a cursar pedagogia.
Quando eu terminei o segundo período, eu tinha certeza que aquela não era a carreira pra mim e enfiei na cabeça que tinha que trocar de curso. Foi quando eu tive a brilhante (ou nem tanto) ideia de tentar passar em moda na USP, meu sonho desde os 16 anos.
Não sei se já falei isso aqui, mas eu nasci em São Paulo e tenho família lá. Eu poderia morar com algum parente, caso realmente eu comece a estudar lá. Inicialmente, eu pensei em fazer o ENEM de novo. Mas conversando com uma parente minha de São Paulo, que estuda na USP, ela me convenceu a fazer a FUVEST, vestibular exclusivo da USP.
Então eu me inscrevi na FUVEST, estudei como nunca antes na vida, comprei passagens pra São Paulo e fiz a prova. Pra minha surpresa, fui convocado pra segunda fase. Comprei passagens pra São Paulo de novo (essa aventura não saiu nem um pouco barata) e fui fazer a segunda fase.
Bem. Agora eu estou passando por um momento que eu nomeei “Depressão pós-vestibular”. Passei pela mesma coisa quando fiz o ENEM em 2021. É aquele momento em que você acabou de fazer uma prova pra qual você se preparou durante um ano e parece que a vida não faz mais sentido.
Estou escrevendo isso dia 20 de janeiro. Dia 22 sai a lista de aprovados da FUVEST. Então eu estou a menos de 48 horas de descobrir qual será meu destino. Se vou estudar moda na USP, como sempre sonhei, ou se vou continuar na Pedagogia. Então é isso. Vou atualizar vocês quando descobrir.
Mas e vocês? Já prestaram vestibular? Já ficaram com depressão pós-vestibular alguma vez?
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om-is-ok · 2 years ago
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01: Do you have a good relationship with your parents?
02: Who did you last say “I love you” to?
03: Do you regret anything?
04: Are you insecure?
05: What is your relationship status?
06: How do you want to die?
07: What did you last eat?
08: Played any sports?
09: Do you bite your nails?
10: When was your last physical fight?
11: Do you like someone?
12: Have you ever stayed up 48 hours?
13: Do you hate anyone at the moment?
14: Do you miss someone?
15: Have any pets?
16: How exactly are you feeling at the moment?
17: Ever made out in the bathroom?
18: Are you scared of spiders?
19: Would you go back in time if you were given the chance?
20: Where was the last place you snogged someone?
21: What are your plans for this weekend?
22: Do you want to have kids? How many?
23: Do you have piercings? How many?
24: What is/are/were your best subject(s)?
25: Do you miss anyone from your past?
26: What are you craving right now?
27: Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
28: Have you ever been cheated on?
29: Have you made a boyfriend/girlfriend cry?
30: What’s irritating you right now?
31: Does somebody love you?
32: What is your favourite color?
33: Do you have trust issues?
34: Who/what was your last dream about?
35: Who was the last person you cried in front of?
36: Do you give out second chances too easily?
37: Is it easier to forgive or forget?
38: Is this year the best year of your life?
39: How old were you when you had your first kiss?
40: Have you ever walked outside completely naked?
51: Favourite food?
52: Do you believe everything happens for a reason?
53: What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night?
54: Is cheating ever okay?
55: Are you mean?
56: How many people have you fist fought?
57: Do you believe in true love?
58: Favourite weather?
59: Do you like the snow?
60: Do you wanna get married?
61: Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you baby?
62: What makes you happy?
63: Would you change your name?
64: Would it be hard to kiss the last person you kissed?
65: Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?
66: Do you have a friend of the opposite sex who you can act your complete self around?
67: Who was the last person of the opposite sex you talked to?
68: Who’s the last person you had a deep conversation with?
69: Do you believe in soulmates?
70: Is there anyone you would die for?
1. Yes
2. @alhad-si-simran to her.
3. Umm there are many things to regret about in life but still regret karke kya hi fayda so no
4. I used to about my face and voice but not anymore.
5. @alhad-si-simran in relationship with her. ❤️
6. Maybe in sleep aur any other way but just peacefully.
7. Cream doughnut.
8. Used to be football player till last year.
9. Chhi bilkul nhi
10. Everyday with my younger brother.
11. @alhad-si-simran yeah her.
12. Yes I have, 3 4 times till now.
13. Currently i hate phantom team E4E for their gaandu harkat.
14. No. (But sometimes I miss my cat.)
15. Currently no but I used to have a cat.
16. Happiness tapakti rehti hai aaj kal kisi ki wajah se.
17. Nope meri bandi mili nhi kabhi (mile to jarur try karna chaunga)
18. No bro, I'm a fan of spider-man lol.
19. Ofc yesss kon nhi jana chahega bc
20. Kabhi nhi kiya yaar.
21. Now that you mention it, I was planning to meet my friends but didn't got out of the bed. :)
22. Only 2.
23. Well in my childhood, I used to have in both of my ears.
24. Science, english, engineering me quantum mechanics.
25. Nope, koi hai hi nhi miss karne layak.
26. Chole bhature
27. Ha shayad un ladkiyo ke jinko mujhpe crush tha ya hai college me :)
28. Nope
29. Yeah I did but it was before our relationship but now that I know I made her cry I regret it. But this won't happen ever again. I want to be reason of her smile not tears <3
30. Kuch log dhoka deke aage badh rhe ye bat irritate kar rhi, Also ye garmi bhi bc bohot hai
31. Idk about others but I'm sure, @alhad-si-simran she does.
32. Not specifically one but i like colour combos Like black and white, Black and orange blue and red etc etc.
33. Ab to ho rhe hai bc.
34. My last dream was about my girlfriend @alhad-si-simran <3
35. @alhad-si-simran her <3
36. Depends.
37. It's easier to forgive than forget
38. Yes best year ever.
39. Meri bandi mil jaye fir batauga
40. Bhai tumhare mohalle me karte hai kya aisa Ya tu jata hai roj aise? Sorry agar ladki anon hai to. But no yaar ye kesa question hai me PK thodi hu.
51. Biryaniiiii
52. Sometimes yes.
53. Said I love you to her as always @alhad-si-simran <3
54. Depends on the situation... like pta chale samne wala bhi kar rha ho to badla lend ke liye kari jaye
55. I don't think so. I'm friendly yaar.
56. Yaad nhi bc
57. Yeah I do.
58. Sunny breezy and rainy.
59. Ya fir thandi bhi but only in other countries, snow fall ka maza lena hai
60. Yes @alhad-si-simran with her :)
61. No, Only meri girlfriend ko mujhe baby bulane ka haqq hai and yeah it's cute when she does it.
62. Talking with my simmu, sharing my thoughts with her just loving her every day more and more, just spending time with her, she always makes me happy @alhad-si-simran
63. No.
64. Double it and give it to the next person. (Kyu jale par namak chhidk rhe ho?)
65. @alhad-si-simran I love her too. (Only female bestie I have.)
66. @alhad-si-simran Ofc my bestie and bandi, Uske sath jo chahe wo karu wo appreciate karti hai, hasti hai khush ho jati hai mujhe khush dekh ke, she knows me perfectly so I can be myself around her.
67. @alhad-si-simran on call.
68. @alhad-si-simran with her.
69. @alhad-si-simran I do believe in soulmates now.
70. Zindagi ek bar milti hai wo bhi kisi aur ke liye kyu maru bc me (I believe in k!lling not dying for someone else.)
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erosrpbr · 1 year ago
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CEUS - Centro Educacional Ulisses Santiago
(ideias de tramas que eu sempre quis jogar)
Fundado nos anos 10, CEUS veio com uma proposta educacional diferente das outras escolas brasileiras. Parecida com a proposta norte-americana, CEUS é um centro de estudo integral que tem como foco as habilidades de cada estudante, tratando-os como indivíduos, não números. Formava cidadãos, pessoas prontas para o mercado de trabalho.
Com esse ar inovador, atraiu atenções das mais variadas por toda a cidade, portanto aqueles que se arriscaram ao novo método de ensinam puderam comprovar sua eficácia. A maior taxa de formandos em anos, maioria nas faculdades, notas altíssimas entre as 3 escolas mais próximas. Quem estudava em CEUS amava estudar. Ainda aqueles que não pretendiam se tornar universitários adquiriram ou aperfeiçoaram habilidades que proporcionaram um grande valor de mercado.
Porém enfrentou as mais diversas e esquisitas críticas de opositores, conservadores, descrentes e pessoas que se recusavam a acreditar em um novo método de ensino. Afinal, prender jovens em uma escola por 8 horas não parecia nem um pouco saudável, além dos pais que precisavam de ajuda em casa e outros que colocavam seus filhos para trabalhar desde cedo.
Esse nem era o principal problema. As coisas pioraram quando surgiram diversos boatos, nunca comprovados, de que a escola poderia ter algum tipo de misticismo. Começando pelo próprio nome, ninguém sabia quem era esse Ulisses Santiago ou se ele sequer existia. CEUS, céus. O que isso poderia significar? Ainda tinha as lendas: uma caverna onde um caixão está enterrado; um fantasma que assombra a sala de dança; uma porta que nunca é aberta; o armário 48; o sétimo andar do prédio principal; a quarta cabine do banheiro feminino que está sempre interditada; a sessão de livros virados da biblioteca; os formados que são perfeitos demais em tudo o que fazem.
Até mesmo sua contratação é esquisita: você envia seu currículo e dias depois recebe uma carta dizendo se vai ou não ser contratado. Não há uma entrevista, não há superiores. Tudo é tratado por cartas. Os únicos funcionários são os professores, a equipe de limpeza e a equipe de segurança.
Tudo é tratado por cartas.
INFORMATIVOS
CEUS é um colégio preparatório com foco em formar pessoas para aprender a lidar com a vida, além de aprenderem o básico para seguirem seu sonho de carreira. Ou seja, há aulas desde como se comunicar melhor e expressar seus verdadeiros objetivos à física avançada ou o que é necessário para ser um bom soldado.
Por mais que o foco sejam jovens entre 20 e 25 anos, são admitidas pessoas das mais diversas idades.
A ideia principal é que o rpg se passe nos anos 50 ou até o início dos anos 2010, mas isso vai de como o aplicador sentir que encaixa.
Os personagens principais são os alunos, mas funcionários podem ser aplicáveis, e caso seja viável, expandir para pessoas que não estão ligadas ao colégio (curiosos, parentes de alunos ou os estudantes das duas escolas rivais).
As plataformas mais interessantes seriam o tumblr ou o discord.
Não precisa me avisar que vai fazer, mas eu quero os créditos pela ideia.
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allen-san · 2 years ago
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Seiyuu : Shizuka Itou / Ai Kakuma ( 2016 )
Prénom : Lenalee .
Nom : Lee .
Origine : chinoise .
Taille : 1,66 m .
Poids : 48 kg .
Âge : 16 ans, anniversaire : 20 février .
Groupe sanguin : B .
Lenalee est la sœur de Komui. Après l'assassinat de leurs parents, elle prit conscience qu'elle était compatible avec l'Innocence, c'est ainsi qu'elle devient l'hôte des « Bottes Noires ». Elle fut enlevée à son frère et privée de sa liberté lorsqu'un exorciste remarqua son don. Il lui faudra attendre que Komui rejoigne lui aussi le quartier général des exorcistes pour qu'elle cesse de considérer ce lieu comme une prison. L'Ordre deviendra peu à peu sa « famille » et comme elle le dit elle-même, lorsqu'elle s'imagine le monde, elle voit un puzzle formé de ses amis. La chose la plus importante à ses yeux est de les protéger. Elle semble avoir des sentiments envers Allen .
Innocence : Dark Boots
De type équipement, les Bottes Noires ont l'apparence anodine de bottes normales mais modifient leur structure au passage en mode combat et font d'elle une exorciste puissante.
Au niveau 1 :
Ce sont juste des bottes noires qui brillent d'un halo vert. Lenalee peut alors voler comme bon lui semble, sauter à des hauteurs vertigineuses et trancher de l'Akuma comme si elle coupait du beurre.
Au niveau 2 :
Deux disques ornés de croix apparaissent de chaque côté des bottes. Lenalee devient alors encore plus rapide et puissante, basant ses attaques sur sa vitesse qui peut atteindre et même dépasser celle du son (technique de « Oto Kaze ») .
Lors d'un combat contre un Akuma de niveau 3, Lenalee sera prête à se sacrifier pour ses amis et augmentera la puissance de son Innocence jusqu'au seuil critique. L'Innocence la sauvera en se cristallisant tout autour de son corps. A son réveil, Lenalee ne pourra plus l'activer et son taux de synchronisation sera inférieur à 10%. Par sécurité, Hevlaska lui reprendra son Innocence le temps qu'elle soit capable de se resynchroniser avec elle.
Type Cristallin :
Il s'agit d'un nouveau type d'Innocence qui utilise le sang et le cristallise pour le transformer en Arme Anti-Akuma .
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leblogdemarinaetjm · 2 months ago
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SAMEDI 2 NOVEMBRE 2024 (Billet 1 / 3)
« ILIA MALININ »
Le champion du monde en titre, ILIA MALININ, a remporté le 28 octobre dernier la Médaille d’Or aux « Internationaux Patinage Canada 2024 » à Halifax, au Canada… avec près de 40 points d'avance sur ses adversaires ! Il a même pris le risque de faire un salto en fin de programme, une figure de nouveau autorisée en compétition officielle (après 48 ans d'interdiction), qui ne lui a pourtant rapporté aucun point supplémentaire.
Cette victoire a marqué sa sixième médaille en Grand Prix et il reste invaincu au cours de l’année civile 2024.
Il est le premier patineur de l'histoire à avoir réussi un quadruple axel dans une compétition officielle.
ILIA MALININ, patineur artistique américain, de parents originaires d’Ouzbékistan, aura 20 ans dans un mois.
NB Dans son programme libre, il patine sur « I’m Not a Vampire » de Falling in Reverse (un groupe américain de Rock alternatif), d’où son costume…
(Source : Renseignements glanés sur divers sites Internet)
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Nous le disons à chaque fois, quel dommage que le « Patinage artistique » ait quasiment disparu de nos écrans télé, toutes chaînes confondues, à l’exception d’1 ou 2 chaînes « payantes » !!!
Nous dédions comme d’habitude ce Billet à notre cousine Catherine (W.B.), amatrice comme nous de cette discipline.
Petite parenthèse à propos des « cousins », la définition ci-dessous nous plaît bien :
« Dans le langage courant, le terme « cousin » désigne souvent un cousin germain, c'est-à-dire les descendants immédiats d'une fratrie, ayant les mêmes grands-parents. Dans un sens plus général, on appelle parfois « cousin » tout individu avec lequel on possède au moins un ancêtre commun. »
(Source : Cousin (famille) — Wikipédia)
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desencouracar · 4 months ago
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Biografia 2 – 27/09/2024
Sempre fui discreto nas redes, mas confesso que via passando aquelas listas de perguntas e ficava com vontade de responder. Vi essa lista do “robertxsouza” compartilhado pela @helenistica2001 e resolvi fazer também. Acho que é um bom registro do momento, além de compartilhar algumas coisas pessoais.
* Procrastino para fazer coisas importantes, mas respondi esse treco gigante e que nem sei se cabe em uma postagem.
1. Qual é o seu maior medo? Depender financeiramente ou fisicamente de outras pessoas.
2. Acredita em vida após a morte? Não.
3. Que diria para o seu eu do passado? Foca nos seus objetivos.
4. Tem alguma mensagem para o seu eu do futuro? Espero que você esteja bem, estou tentando fazer o meu trabalho.
5. Você se considera uma pessoa inteligente? Nada acima da média.
6. Tem quanto tempo de tumblr? Esse blog 3 meses.
7. Já sofreu bullying na escola? Muito.
8. Quem é você nos rolês? O que não vai.
9. Você é alguém caseiro ou ama sair para festas? Caseiro.
10. Fez amigos aqui? Ainda não.
11. É carente? Não.
12. Você é hétero ou LGBTQIA+? Hétero.
13. Tímido ou extrovertido? Tímido.
14. Gosta de café? Não.
15. Doce ou salgado? Salgado.
16. Sabe cozinhar? Não, mas preciso aprender.
17. Solteiro? Sim.
18. Tem filhos? Não.
19. Pessoa daqui que mais gosta? Sigo pessoas que acho interessante ler por algum motivo e sempre aprendo alguma coisa. Então agora diria “journaldemarina”, foi muito legal ler o histórico de tantos anos.
20. Gosta de animais? Muito.
21. Tem pet? Oficialmente um cachorro, na realidade 1 cachorro e 3 gatas.
22. Sente saudades de alguém? Não.
23. Já beijou esse ano? Não.
24. Quanto tempo sem beijar? 1 ano.
25. Já transou esse ano? Não.
26. Quanto tempo sem "molhar o biscoito"? 1 ano.
27. Sente dor nas costas? Não.
28. Qual é o tipo de personalidade que você possui? Calmo, irônico, curioso…
29. Se considera popular no lugar onde você vive? Definitivamente não.
30. Tem problemas com a família? Família, família, eu diria que não.
31. Tem parentes que odeia? Sendo sincero, sim.
32. Tem planos de viajar? Não.
33. Para onde iria se ganhasse na loteria? Como viagem: provavelmente França, para conhecer os museus. Para morar: continuaria no Rio.
34. Uma coisa que todos gostam menos você? Refrigerante?!
35. Gosta de ir ao cinema ou prefere assistir seus filmes em casa? Cinema.
36. Gosta de ficar sozinho às vezes? Muito.
37. Tem amigos? No momento é complicado, mas diria que sim.
38. Já foi rejeitado por alguém? Quase todas.
39. Já sofreu com julgamentos? Sim.
40. Já fez terapia? Faço.
41. Tem algum vício? Não.
42. Já ganhou alguma premiação na vida? Relevante, não.
43. Quem é você quando ninguém vê? Uma pessoa criativa que viaja imaginando coisas aleatórias.
44. Me diga 3 dos seus piores defeitos: Inseguro, preguiçoso e “sem foco”.
45. Me diga 3 das suas melhores qualidades: Paciente, companheiro e organizado.
46. Gosta de abraços? Gosto.
47. Safado ou tímido? Depende do contexto, mas diria tímido.
48. Gosta da profissão que exerce? Sim.
49. Qual a sua profissão dos sonhos? Artista Plástico.
50. O que mais gosta de fazer no tempo livre? Ver filme ou série.
51. Gosta de ler? Sim.
52. Gosta de animes? Sim.
53. Você tem proximidade com sua família? Não.
54. Tem irmãos? Duas.
55. Gosta da sua família? Como disse antes… O que considero família sim. Parentes, não.
56. Esquece rápido das coisas? Não.
57. Consegue superar com facilidade? Não.
58. Já foi traído? Não.
59. O que mais te tira do sério? Que invadam minha privacidade.
60. Quais os seus piores gatilhos? Ter que expor meu corpo.
61. Acredita em algum deus? Não.
62. Gosta de chocolate? Sim.
63. Sorvete ou açaí? Açaí 100%, nem tomo sorvete.
64. Gosta do seu corpo? Não.
65. Reservado ou baladeiro? Reservado.
66. Promíscuo ou inocente? Perguntas estranhas… Inocente.
67. Gosta de vinho? Um pouco.
68. Gosta de cerveja? Não.
69. Curte fantasias sexuais? Eh, mais ou menos.
70. Qual o seu nome? F********
71. Qual sua altura? 175cm.
72. Qual o tamanho do seu pé? 41.
73. Qual o tamanho do seu p**? 17cm
74. Já usou seu réu primário? Não. Hahaha…
75. Qual o maior barraco que você já armou na vida? Nenhum.
76. Me conte uma fofoca: Pessoal, não tenho nada interessante. Mas estou consumindo tudo sobre a historia do Diddy. 
77. O que te deixa envergonhado? Elogios.
78. Já quebrou algum osso? Sim, braço e perna.
79. Já sofreu por amor? Sim. Em um quase relacionamento e no término do namoro.
80. Já se vingou de alguém? Provavelmente já, mas nada memorável
81. Se considera famoso aqui no tumblr? Não.
82. Quantos seguidores você tem? 17.
83. O que te inspira a escrever? Registro de momentos, suporte a terapia e me conectar com pessoas.
84. Cite 5 textos seus que mais gosta: 5 é muito, até porque ainda tenho poucos textos. Porém, gosto do “Biografia 1 - 01/07/2024”.
85. Qual sua religião? Nenhum.
86. Sofre com algum transtorno? TAG e TOC que resultaram em TE.
87. Tem depressão? Não.
88. Como você lida com a depressão? Não tenho.
89. Já tentou suicídio? Nunca, mas já pensei.
90. O que te faz não desistir de tudo? Acho que minha mãe.
91. É fã de algum artista? Vários. Um vivo e da música, BK.
92. Já se declarou para alguém? Sim.
93. Cite 4 piores vergonhas que já passou: - Caí no ônibus e fui rolando da frente quase no fundo. - Já “elogiei” para o próprio namorado sem saber. Só lembro dessas duas.
94. Você tem dificuldade em algo? Cálculo mental, mesmo sendo de exatas.
95. Qual a marca do seu celular? Galaxy A22.
96. Android ou IPhone? Android.
97. Você quebra as coisas fácil? Não.
98. Quanto tempo durou seu último relacionamento? 4 anos.
99. Você se sente atraente? Não.
100. O que mais gosta no sexo? Sentir que consigo dar prazer para pessoa conectado com a pessoal.
101. O que menos gosta no sexo? Me preocupar com performance.
102. Gosta de qual tipo de música? Todo tipo, hoje em dia mais Metal e RAP.
103. O que mais te excita? Provocação. Aquele momento que está tudo no campo das segundas intenções.
104 Sente vergonha do próprio corpo? Sim.
105. Faz academia? Não.
106. Pratica algum esporte? Não.
107. Qual seu hobby? Desenhar.
108. Tem amizade colorida? Não. Acredito que eu não conseguiria, mas gostaria de ter essa experiência.
109. Qual a última vez que transou? Pergunta repetida… 1 ano.
110. Qual é a melhor estação do ano na sua opinião? Inverno.
111. Você estuda? Sim.
112. Qual curso você faz na faculdade? Análise e Desenvolvimento de Sistema.
113. Sente saudade de alguém? Pergunta repetida… Não.
114. Tem facilidade em perdoar? Acho que sim.
115. Tem crush em alguém? Vários. Atualmente os principais são minha psicóloga e a Camila Fremder.
116. Você costuma falar dos seus problemas/sentimentos para outras pessoas? Não.
117. Você guarda tudo para si? Sim.
118. Você costuma se irritar com facilidade? Não.
119. Confia fácil nas pessoas? Não.
120. Doce ou salgado? Pergunta repetida… Salgado.
121. Tem fetiches? Sim, peitos.
122. Gosta de estudar? Sim.
123. Foi um bom aluno na escola? Mediano.
124. Já brigou na escola? Não.
125. Já foi nerd? O nerd deu a volta e virou pejorativo de novo, mas meio sou.
126. Gosta de escrever? Sim.
127. Gosta de ler? Sim.
128. Já foi alguma vez à terapia? Pergunta repetida… Sim.
129. Qual o melhor conselho na sua opinião? “Não adianta chorar pelo leite derramado”.
130. Sol ou chuva? Sol.
131. Inverno ou verão? Inverno.
132. Roupas chamativas ou discretas? Discreta.
133. Gosta de ser o centro das atenções? Odeio.
134. Reservado ou extrovertido? Reservado.
135. Tem mágoa de alguém? Várias pessoas. Atualmente diria minha ex.
136. Já brigou com alguém daqui? Não, só amor.
137. O teu passado te condena? Um pouco.
138. O que você pensa para o seu futuro? Espero conseguir alcançar uma vida melhor.
139. Já fez escolhas difíceis? Sim. Acho que uma delas foi largar a minha primeira faculdade.
140. Já chorou por uma noite inteira? Não.
141. Já mentiu pelo bem de alguém? Sim. Coisas bobas.
142. Já traiu? Não.
143. Você tem alguém especial em sua vida? Não sei o que responder… vou dizer que não.
144. Cria algum pet? Pergunta repetida… Sim.
145. Prefere gatos ou cachorros? Agora que tive experiência com os dois prefiro gato.
146. Tem alguém que você ama muito no céu? Não.
147. Cite um nome de alguém que te faz bem: C*****
148. Cite um nome de alguém que te faz vomitar: Poderia citar vários políticos. Pensando em parentes diria R******.
149. Você se importa com opinião alheia? Não muito.
150. Já sofreu algum tipo de bullying/preconceito/perseguição? Bullying e preconceito.
151. Qual a sua sobremesa predileta? Não sou de sobremesa, maaas vou colocar pavê.
152. O que você mais curte comer? Massa. Macarrão, lasanha, nhoque, panqueca…
153. Qual a cor dos seus olhos? Castanho.
154. Você se acha bonito? Não.
155. Quantos amigos você tem? Complicado, estou em um momento de repensar amizade. Diria que 3.
156. O que te atrai nas pessoas? No geral, o clichê “Inteligência” e domínio de algum conhecimento ou habilidade.
157. O que pensa sobre a misoginia? Coisa de idiota.
158. O que pensa sobre o racismo? Crime.
159. O que pensa sobre a homofobia? Também crime.
160. O que pensa sobre o elitismo? Na maioria das vezes é falta de consciência de classe.
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girltomboy · 1 year ago
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70 horrible questions answer game
Do you have a good relationship with your parents?
I'm on good terms with my mom rn, but my dad and I are estranged. I haven't seen him in like 4 years and he doesn't really answer my messages anymore. My overall relationship with my family in general is usually fine but sometimes strained because of... well, generational trauma. I'm not particularly close with anyone in my family, not in a family way at least
2. Who did you last say "I love you" to?
My partner
3. Do you regret anything?
I don't, I rarely feel regret per se, I don't wish anything had happened differently simply because I think it's a waste of time. I mean, I probably have minor/petty gripes with how certain things went for me, but I don't dwell
4. Are you insecure?
I used to be very insecure, but I've grown a lot in my mid 20s. I'm way past that phase of my life, obviously I recognize I still have to work on myself regarding certain aspects, but I'm also aware and proud of my progress
5. What is your relationship status?
Sorry but saying "I'm taken" makes me feel like a high school student, whereas "partnered" makes me feel 50. There has to be a middle ground in the English language
6. How do you want to die?
I dunno, old age probably.
7. What did you last eat?
A clementine
8. Played any sports?
I used to play volleyball in middle + high school, and after that there hasn't been a single opportunity for me to play an organized sport as an adult. I miss playing team sports, but idk how to go about that now :(
9. Do you bite your nails?
My nails have always been rock hard, and trying to bite them is really hard and a bit painful for my teeth, so that's a habit I've thankfully just never been able to pick up. But I do eat the skin around them, for my daily protein intake
10. When was your last physical fight?
Probably middle school, feels a little sad to think that one day I had my last physical fight and didn't know I wasn't gonna do that anymore
11. Do you like someone?
Well, my boyfriend and I are my favorite people
12. Have you ever stayed up 48 hours?
No, I don't think I've ever made it that long. I think I did stay up 24 hours though, probably in college, but barely
13. Do you hate anyone at the moment?
Not really a specific person, maybe some upper management at my job but I think that pertains more to capitalism in general rather than an individual
14. Do you miss someone?
I miss A LOT of people all the time! My boyfriend, my grandma, my late grandma, my best friend, my college friends, my college professors, my high school teachers, my high school classmates, my middle school classmates, my primary school teachers- I could sit here and write paragraphs about all of them individually.
15. Have any pets?
Not where I currently live, but my grandma and I share joint custody with a dog of 9 years <3
16. How exactly are you feeling at the moment?
I have a headache, I'm thirsty, and I can't wait to go to bed. But I'm relaxed and feeling satisfied after a super productive gaming night
17. Ever made out in the bathroom?
Which bathroom? I've definitely made out with my bf in my bathroom lol but not any other bathrooms as far as I can remember right now
18. Are you scared of spiders?
Not really, but I do squash them sometimes
19. Would you go back in time if given the chance?
Temporarily yes, but I wouldn't want to teleport back in time and relive years or decades all over again. Maybe hang out in the past for a few days and then go back to my current life, because I'm sure I'd want to come back eventually
20. Where was the last place you snogged someone?
My hallway, saying goodbye to my bf
21. What are your plans for this weekend?
Just like every weekend: absolutely nothing :) sleep in (but not too much), make breakfast (or lunch), clean around my apartment, play video games, get stoned, read, just stuff I usually do at home. The options are endless
22. Do you want to have kids? How many?
No, I don't want any. In another life perhaps, I'd want a daughter
23. Do you have piercings? How many?
No 😭 I'm such a coward, I was seriously considering getting a nose piercing, but I chickened out & gave up on the idea when I googled what it looks like without the actual piercing in, and realized the hole is too visible and it's just permanently there forever! Even if it closes. So now I feel like a septum is the only viable option for me, but it's gonna take at least another year until I gather the courage to even start considering it lol, in conclusion: zero
24. What were your best subjects?
In high school I was a linguistics nerd and absurdly good at geography. I also had fun in P.E.
25. Do you miss anyone from your past?
See answer number 14 😭 I probably miss my late grandma the most out of everyone who isn't in my life anymore. Cause I feel like we didn't spend enough time together even though she raised me for years, and she just knew nothing about me as a young adult, as the woman she raised.
26. What are you craving right now?
A room temperature glass of water and some crisp seedless grapes
27. Have you ever broken someone's heart?
No idea if it was ever that serious, I did "reject"? Some people in my life lol but I don't know if they suffered over it and resent me or if it was a shrug and move on type of situation
28. Have you ever been cheated on?
I had some iffy moments when I was in a long-distance relationship with an American girl as a teenager, like really questionable and odd. But I think I was too naive to make a big deal out of them, or I didn't have the words to speak up
29. Have you made a boyfriend/girlfriend cry?
Unfortunately I think yes, same girl from the previous answer. I'll never know though.
30. What's irritating you right now?
Right now as in right now now nothing lol but right now as in nowadays I think I'm put off by insecurity and excessive self pity. Like wallowing and stuff. Not to say I never do that, but the place I'm in currently just doesn't have enough space for that. It denotes too much self absorption and not enough self awareness and thinking beyond yourself. Though when I encounter people who struggle with that I'm sympathetic and patient, it's just something I used to see in myself a lot and now that I've moved past that phase I see it more clearly
31. Does somebody love you?
A lot of people do in many different ways
32. What is your favorite color?
It changes often, but right now I'm drawn to browns and nudes.
33. Do you have trust issues?
I think I was born with them, but I've been working on myself and improving. I think a certain level of skepticism is necessary and healthy, though
34. Who/what was your last dream about?
Last night I had a really weird chain of dreams, like my yard at home looked different, it was as if I was actually living in my neighbor's home and had their yard. And then there was this chain-link fence that separated my yard from the neighbors', and in the dream it freaked me out a little that they could just see us through the fence, but some voice reassured me that they were nice and harmless. Then I started being more confident walking around my yard, and there was so much green, like trees and climbing plants all over the fence, and grass, and so much shade. Then it was like I was living elsewhere, and like my parents house had this long winding staircase that went up into some kind of tower, where I have a faint idea that there were human remnants? Or something like that. And it was kinda freaking me out, and I think something about the couch in my grandma's room. And my bf was there too, maybe we were talking on a bench in the forest about all this. I've been trying to piece back together a clear image of this dream, but not very successfully.
35. Who was the last person you cried in front of?
It's probably my boyfriend, although that hasn't happened in a long time. I wanna say it's been too long for it to be my boyfriend, maybe it was my work friend? I remember getting emotional when she was telling me about this other coworker's personal problems one time when we went out for wine, like I had no idea she had stuff weighing her down.
36. Do you give out second chances too easily?
Second yes, probably too easily. Third, maybe not. It really depends, but usually not. Second chances I do give out shamelessly
37. Is it easier to forgive or forget?
Oh, it's definitely easier to forgive. You forgive someone for them or for yourself, it's a choice to make. You have no choice in forgetting
38. Is this year the best year of your life?
It's only been a week of it, can I give it some more time? 😭 So far, not really, but it's an unfair assessment to make rn. It still has time to become that! Hopefully it can become the best year of my life so far, not of my entire life, I'm not even 30 yet.
39. How old were you when you had your first kiss?
22 years old
40. Have you ever walked outside completely naked?
Outside in the world, on the street, no. Not even at the beach. I did use to walk in my yard with no clothes on when I was little. It was my way of unwinding after kindergarten. I used to pee standing up 😭
51. <- the questions actually go from 40 to 51 and then continue like that?? 😭 I only just noticed omg Favorite food?
This is sending me lmaooo UM I've been craving my grandma's meatballs and sauce for days now (I was on a walk and literally smelled it in the air randomly) probably not my #1 favorite food ever, but it's a food I'm never not in the mood for.
52. Do you believe everything happens for a reason?
I never know what people mean when they say that. Does it mean for a reason, as in part of a big plan? Like the biblical Plan that god has for us? I don't believe people are given their own cross to carry from birth to death
53. What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night.
I did go to bed last night eventually, and before sleeping I put on moisturizer, said goodnight to my bf and put on an asmr video from this girl I found on youtube who actually understands asmr (there are very very few asmr creators that really understand it)
54. Is cheating ever okay?
I think being the victim of cheating is what ultimately fucks up an overwhelming lot of people, so I can't give it any justification
55. Are you mean?
Probably sometimes, I never try to be though
56. How many people have you fist fought?
A regular bunch, maybe less than 5 in total, if we're not counting fist fighting the same person several times
57. Do you believe in true love?
Sure I do, if I'm capable of it then someone else has to be too, right?
58. Favorite weather?
Whatever the hell there's in the air during spring months, crisp air, warm breeze, sunlight fresh like the skin after a scab falls off.
59. Do you like the snow?
I grew up with heavy winters and shoveling/sweeping the snow off the sidewalk and in our yard, and I've experienced too much of its cold powers to "like" it. But I can't deny there's something magical about it. As I grow older I fear it less, it's a bit incredible that this is happening to me.
60. Do you wanna get married?
Not legally, but I wouldn't be opposed to a symbolic, unofficial ceremony. Just some vows and rings and a pretty place, and some close friends. Maybe the official part can happen when I'm older, like a formality like writing your will or something.
61. Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you baby?
I mean if we're dating sure, my bf and I call each other baby all the time. Huge no for strangers though lol
62. What makes you happy?
And that orange, it made me so happy, As ordinary things often do Just lately. The shopping. A walk in the park. This is peace and contentment. It’s new.
63. Would you change your name?
I like my name, and am attached to it, having been assigned it by my mother, grown up with it and everything. I've always had this modest list in the back of my head of names I wished I'd been given. Never wrote it down or anything, but it's there and not stagnant lol. But I don't think I'd ever change it for real
64. Would it be hard to kiss the last person you kissed?
My bf is easy to kiss, I'd be having a great time
65. Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?
I have been in this situation many times, but not with best friends. It probably depends on our dynamic, but if I like them back then I'd seize the opportunity to confess as well. I'm open to love, friends to lovers is how I got into my relationship
66. Do you have a friend of the opposite sex who you can act your complete self around?
Most of my male friends, yeah. Most of my friends, actually. I don't tend to hold myself back if I know the people I'm with don't either.
67. Who was the last person of the opposite sex you talked to?
These opposite sex questions are sendingg meee 😭😭😭 my bf before he went to take a bath
68. Who's the last person you had a deep conversation with?
My friends on discord probably, or my boyfriend. I actually can't wait to reunite with my work friend and have some talks with her, just about stuff.
69. Do you believe in soulmates?
Sure yeah, I know anyone can connect with anyone, but I think for every person there's a few people that they connect with on a different level. Like I think some people can really see inside you, and the other way round.
70. Is there anyone you would die for?
I honestly don't think anyone's life is more precious than mine (or the other way round). I think that would be too painful
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UPDATE: I found new infos, it was another tattoo.
"I've always been interested in the story of Dave's first tattoo, which is no longer visible."
This information is might be false. As Dave in a 2003 interview said "When I was a kid I had this little tattoo on the top of my left arm and I covered that with this big Celtic cross. (…) It was just like a small rose with an eye in the middle." But whether was it Dave's first tattoo, or the two red hearts with names on Dave's left forearm, as depeche.cz suggested?
První tetování si nechal udělat, když mu bylo 14 let. (…) Tak se na to jeho první tetování podívejme. Měl mu ho zhotovit nějaký starý námořník, a nechal si ho udělat na levém předloktí. V rozhovoru v roce 1985 to komentoval: "Šlo o jména rodičů a nějaké kytičky okolo". O pár let později, v roce 1982 se ho zbavil. He got his first tattoo when he was 14 years old. (…) So let's take a look at his first tattoo. He was supposed to have it made for him by some old sailor, and he had it done on his left forearm. In an interview in 1985, he commented: "It was about the parents' names and some flowers around". A few years later, in 1982, he got rid of it. (Google translate)
Because I found a Hungaryan tattoo site which said:
Az elsőt igen korán, 14 éves korában egy Clive nevű tengerész készítette a bal vállára, a southendi mólónál. Egy kis rózsát ábrázolt, közepén egy szemmel. The first was done very early, when he was 14, by a sailor called Clive on his left shoulder at Southend Pier. It was a small rose with an eye in the middle. (Google translate)
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They mean this one above. Are they right? No, they don't. I found 2 pictures that show nothing on Dave's left shoulder in 1983 (Everything Counts video at 3:20; Belfast - here you can find a "mirror" photo below, but the first one is correct - see the locks' different way on his forehead). By the way, this is nice article (use translator), the author wrote very kind words about Dave.
In the meantime I've found @davegahandevotion's impressive page (where I happily discovered my tumblr friend, @mijamija1234's name), here Dave's "DAVE" tatto is his first one. By the source (NME, 25th Sep. 1993) Dave said in the interview:
"When did you first get a tattoo?" "When I was 14 at Southend seafront, by a man called Clive. (…) He was like a sort of sailor guy, perfect. That one there…" He shows me one of the old-style, rough-and-ready designs. "A collector’s item! Yeah they love it now, the people that work on me now, when they see this, it’s like, ‘Who done that?’"
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In this part of the article's online version (#4) a footnote [2] said "This might be his oldest remaining, because I believe Dave's first (or at any rate one of the first) was removed in around 1981, with disastrous consequences". This note was written by the forum's administrator, who copy the article to the site. Why did he or she write that "I believe"? Only a kind of guess? Those two hearts on Dave's right forearm might not from his childhood, it could be about a love story with bad ending as @itiswritteninthestarsabove wrote in comment below this post in April: "I'm pretty sure he once said it was a tattoo relating to his at-the-time girlfriend, but he caught her cheating with a friend of his at a party and erased it right away in regret. I can’t remember the source though".
Fun fact, this 1993 interview was made in Budapest, Hungary, a day before the band together with Corbijn went "to the f... forest" for making Condemnation video.
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So this tattoo won! Originally above the eagle's head there was the Sun in red which vanished by the years, but you can still see it in 1984's colored photos (1-2, the 3rd photo is from 2009). The artist, who made my tattoo said red color can disappear easily, especially if the tattoo is old or the type of the red ink is from an old generation. Well, this tattoo is 48 (!) years old, one year older than me. Wow.
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I've always been interested in the story of Dave's first tattoo, which is no longer visible. He got his first tattoo at the age of 14, done by some old sailor on his left forearm. In a 1985 interview he commented "It was about the parents' names and some flowers around". He got rid of it in 1982, but the tattoo removal did not go smoothly.
As Fletch recalled in a 2006 interview, that was the band's first gig with Alan at the Crocs club in England. Then they immediately flew to the US where they did their first ever show across the sea in NYC. Nothing worked for them, in top of that Dave decided to get his tattoo removed. Then he sang in a concert with bandage of his hand, which didn't look good. For a while, the scar earned him the nickname "Pizza Man".
In the early photos above, you can clearly see the pattern with two red hearts with an arrow, names and green leaves. The next photo shows the fresh scar and that he couldn't put on his left coat sleeves for a while. The next photo shows the healed pink scar in 1983 when they were in Berlin. A year later, in April, in Hamburg, he shows the scar directly, which is still clearly visible. It has never recovered perfectly as 2 more photos shows (1997, 2023).
Edit: +1 early photo fo the scar
(via depeche.cz)
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Hello..
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1. How old were you when you had your first kiss?
2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?
3. Have you ever walked in on people having sex?
4. Have you ever had phone sex?
5. Have you ever had birthday sex?
6. Name a non-pornographic movie that turns you on?
7. Have you ever used a sex swing?
8. Do you own any sex toys? If so, what?
9. Have you had a one night stand?
10. Back rub or foot rub?
11. Have you ever had an awkward moment where people were having sex and you were present?
12. Have you ever swapped partners?
13. Have you ever experienced DP?
14. Cuddling on the couch or picnic in the park?
15. Have you ever had sex on the beach?
16. Do you like to watch?
17. Ever been filmed or filmed yourself during a sexual act?
18. Have you ever had sex with someone that you were not suppose to? (Boss, teacher, relative).
19. Have you ever had a secret relationship?
20. Are feet a turn on?
21. Have you ever had a long distance relationship?
22. Have you ever met someone in person that you met online?
23. One thing you haven’t done sexually that you are hoping to try.
24. Anal or oral?
25. Have you ever been with someone of the same sex?
26. Have you ever masturbated outside the confines of your home?
27. Drunk sex or stoned sex?
28. Have you ever slept with an ex while no longer together?
29. Have you ever accidentally sent a dirty pic or message to the wrong person/people?
30. Have you ever had someone show a private pic to others without permission?
31. Does your partner have to be shorter or taller than you?
32. Have you ever been with someone that another member of your family has been with?
33. Whip or riding crop?
34. Name a song that puts you in the mood.
35. Have you ever had sex on a plane?
36. Is there anyone that you’ve slept with that you can’t recall their name?
37. Have you given or received road head?
38. Would you prefer receiving/giving a titty fuck or foot job?
39. Name a hard limit of yours.
40. Sex on the hood of a car or the back of a pick up?
41. Shower sex or sex in the rain?
42. If you could change one thing about your physical appearance what would it be?
43. If you could change one thing about your personality what would it be?
44. Kill one, marry one, fuck one? (Name the three).
45. Choking or hair pulling?
46. Would you rather? (Name the two).
47. True or false? (You pick question).
48. Bar or club?
49. Have you ever had sex in the snow?
50. Have you ever had sex with a neighbour? (The house on the left or right, not down the street).
51. Have you ever had sex at a sports venue? (Football field, rink, etc.).
52. Have you ever used something outside the norm to orgasm?
53. Can you recall a time you were cock blocked or twat swatted?
54. Would you rather play dirty doctor or naughty detention?
55. What’s sexier nice eyes or nice lips?
56. What’s more attractive a sense of humour or a sense of style?
57. Ice cubes or wax?
58. Do you prefer a younger or older partner?
59. Ball gag or hand over mouth?
60. Have you ever posted a pic or a video of you committing a sexual act?
61. Did your parents have “the sex talk” with you when you were young? If so, which parent? How did it go?
62. If you had to choose, cowgirl or reverse cowgirl?
63. Morning sex or afternoon delight?
64. Are you vocal during sex?
65. Your socks, on or off in bed?
66. Embarrassing sex moment.
67. Pillow fight or pillow fort?
68. Naked twister or strip poker?
69. Have you ever done a 69?
70. Make you’re own multiple choice question.
Ce anon curios :))
16 ani , 2. 17 si cateva luni, 3. din fericire, nu 4. da, 5. da, 6. prefer filmele de actiune, aventura, sf... deci nu intru in mood 7. nu, 8. nu, 9. da :( , 10. nu mi place masajul dar imi place sa joace in parul meu sooo, 11. nu, 12. nu, 13. se refera la dick pick ? of, ca fata, da, a trebuit sa suport astfel de mesaje trimise random de la persoane necunoscute. absolut groaznic :)) 14. amandoua 15. nu 16. nu, 17. da, 18. nope, 19. da, 20. nu , 21. da, 22. da, 23. sunt multumita pana in prezent, 24. oral ofc , 25. all the time <3, 26. haha maybe , 27. drunk sex, 28. din pacate, da , 29. da :( 30. da, 31. nu conteaza, am avut si si , 32. nu, 33. nu stiu la ce se refera , 34. ascult muzica tot timpul, 35. nu, 36. tin minte pe toata lumea ca au fost foarte putine =))))))), 37. nu, 38. niciuna, 39. idk ? 40. poate amandoua , 41. shower sex <3, 42. -4,5 kg si parul luuuung, 43. sa nu mai fiu slaba sentimental si sa ma impun, 44. vreau sa fac toate astea aceleasi persoane =))))) cateodata kill, cateodata marry si tot timpul fuck, se pune ? =)))))) 45. amandoua , 46. vorba mea preferata ? "i would rather die" 47. true pentru ca imi place adevarul 48. picnic, parc, muzeu, librarie, balcon, gradina <3 49. no 50. nu, 51. nu, 52. da, 53. idk ??? 54. amandoua =))), 55. toata fata daca ne referim la aspect, 56. amandoua, 57. ice ice baby ❄, 58. am avut si si, 59. niciuna, 60. nu, 61. nope , 62. nu stiu la ce se refera , 63. all the time <3, 64. da, 65. depinde de anotimp , 66. prea jenant sa l explic aici :)))))), 67. amandoua, 68. idk ??? 69. yes, 70. sper ca te au ajutat cu ceva info pe care le ai despre mine acum =)))))) eu reprezint mult mai mult decat aceste intrebari but enjoy *hug*
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mxrxll · 1 year ago
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requêtes
si vous voulez un scénario particulier s’il vous plaît précisez un membre de treasure et un enfant précis et ce que vous voudrez voir
vous pouvez aussi faire des mélanges du genre ‘hyunsuk joue avec les enfants de junkyu’ ou ce qui vous plaît !
phrases
vous pouvez aussi choisir entre 1-3  de n’importe quelle phrases ci-dessous
rappelez-vous de spécifiez un numéro, un membre et un enfant!!
1. “Tu l’as senti tapé ?”
2. “Tu penses que je serais un(e) bon(ne) père/mère ?”
3. Regarde, je crois bien que le bébé s’amuses beaucoup là-dedans ! Donnes-moi ta main !”
4. “Hôpital, maintenant !”
5. “Fille ou garçon ?”
6. “On peut lui donner mon nom ?”
7. “Peux-tu monter le berceau !”
8. “Fais-moi un câlin !”
9. “Je suis enceinte”
10. “J’espère qu’il(s)/elle(s) aura/auront tes yeux.”
11. “Tu veux peindre la crèche de quelle couleur ?!”
12. “J’ai un truc à t’annoncer.”
13. “Oui, j’ai pris du poids, mais c’est parce que je suis enceinte !”
14. “Prépares tes ‘dad jokes’.”
15. “Là ! Là ! Regarde ! Un pied !”
16. “Il(s)/elle(s) est/sont en forme aujourd’hui.”
17. “C’est une main ?”
18. “Peut-être que tu devrais essayer de lui/leur lire un livre ?”
19. “Viens voir mon ventre, je crois qu’il(s)/elle(s) s’amuse(nt) !”
20. “Le haut de la tête du bébé est à peu près...là. Et un pied est juste ici.”
21. “Tu penses que le bébé sera plus cool si je mange des doritos ?”
22. “Le café est pas bon pendant la grossesse/l'allaitement, mais pu*ain, il m'en fait un.”
23. “Je pourrais manger de la pastèque avec du beurre de cacahuète là tout de suite.”
24. “Mes pieds sont tellement gonflés.”
25. “Mes vergetures sont horribles.”
26. “Le bébé ne veux pas arrêter de taper ma vessie, alors il est hors de question que je quitte les toilettes.”
27. “T’es enceinte, c’est tout, tu es magnifique.”
28. “Il/elle s’est encore réveillé(e).
29. “Je m’occupe du bébé, retournes te coucher.”
30. “Trop mignon !”
31. “Il(s)/elle(s) est/sont un/des mini(s)-moi.”
32. “On a encore plus de café.”
33. “Arrêtes d’être un petit cochon ?”
34. “Il/elle est magnifique.”
35. “Ce truc-là, être parent, c’est difficile.”
36. “Vous êtes tout(e) les deux précieux.ses
37. “Je vous aimes tellement.”
38. “Oh ! Y en a partout... je pensais pas que les bébés... avaient autant...”
39. “T’inquiètes pas je gère, retournes dormir.”
40. “Réveilles-toi, le bébé a besoin de toi.”
41. “Je peux pas changer ses couches sans être malade. C’est un peu frustrant.”
42. “T’es le bébé à maman toi, pas vrai ! Mais oui, tu l'es!”
43.  “T'es le bébé à papa toi, pas vrai ! Mais oui, tu l'es !”
44. “C’est votre fils/fille.”
46. “J’adore quand il/elle s’endort sur moi.”
47. “Il/elle veut pas s’arrêter de te réclamer.”
48. “Je peux le/la tenir.”
49. “Je peux choisir sa tenue aujourd’hui.”
50. “Le/la petit(e) garçon/fille à papa !”
51. “Le/la petit(e) garçon/fille à maman !”
52. “Il/elle n’aura jamais le droit de sortir avec quelqu’un.”
53. “C’était un mot ?”
54. “Cet enfant aura une meilleure enfance que moi.”
55. “Notre petit ange vient de jeter son jouet dans les toilettes.”
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christophe76460 · 2 years ago
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ÉTUDE BIBLIQUE~NÉHÉMIE 11-12
👉Néhémie 11:1-36; 12:1-30
Bien peu nombreux étaient les rapatriés de Babylone par rapport à ceux qui habitaient dans le pays avant la transportation.
Jérusalem, avec ses murailles reconstruites sur leurs anciennes bases, ne comptait qu'un nombre infime de citoyens : entre autres ceux qui avaient réparé vis-à-vis de leur maison ! On tire au sort ceux qui viendront repeupler la ville, et il s’y ajoute ceux qui sont volontaires. Leurs noms sont donnés.
Dieu honore en effet ceux qui, renonçant à leurs champs, viennent demeurer près de Son sanctuaire par attachement pour celui-ci : Ils ne seront pas perdants comme l’annonce le Psaume 122:6, «...Jérusalem, ceux qui t’aiment prospéreront ».
Des promesses sont faites au sujet de la Jérusalem du règne de mille ans (Zacharie 2:4; Ésaïe 33:20; 60:4 et 15). Mais des promesses plus belles encore concernent la sainte Cité, la Jérusalem céleste.
Dieu qui l'a « préparée » pour Christ (Apocalypse 21:2) l'a aussi « préparée » pour ceux qui Lui appartiennent et qui ont renoncé à posséder ici-bas une cité permanente (Hébreux 11:16).
Cette merveilleuse Cité n'est pas faite pour demeurer vide. Dieu y habitera Lui-même, au milieu des siens. Toutefois pour y pénétrer une condition est indispensable : Il faut avoir « lavé sa robe » par la foi au sang de l'Agneau (Apocalypse 22:14). L'avez-vous fait ?
👉Néhémie 12:31-47
La cérémonie de la dédicace de la muraille, qui commence au verset 27, se déroule au milieu d'une grande joie.
Deux cortèges formés de chanteurs et accompagnés de trompettes prennent ensemble le départ sur le chemin de ronde, chacun de son côté. L'un est conduit par Esdras, tandis que Néhémie ferme la marche du second.
Les deux processions se rencontrent à proximité du Temple après avoir accompli chacune la moitié du tour de la ville. Ils ont réalisé cette parole du beau psaume 48: « Faites le tour de Sion, et faites-en le circuit, comptez ses tours. Observez son rempart… » (Psaume 48:12-13).
Parvenus à la maison de l'Éternel, les deux chœurs réunis font entendre leur voix et de « grands sacrifices » sont offerts au milieu de la joie générale.
Le verset 43 nous apprend trois choses à propos de cette joie :
1°) Tout d'abord elle a sa source en Dieu : « Dieu les avait réjouis d'une grande joie ».
2°) Tous y ont part, les enfants compris. Ce qui fait la joie de leurs parents, fait aussi la leur.
3°) Enfin cette joie « s'entendait au loin ».
Le monde qui nous entoure peut-il voir et entendre que nous sommes des gens heureux ?
#BIBLIQUEST #PAROLEDEDIEU #JÉSUS
#PARTAGEZ_LA_PUBLICATION
#ABONNEZ_VOUS_À_LA_PAGE
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