#2) yes I am also humbled by the fact that I can't even learn to knit when a frickin MACHINE can do it

[cultivating-wildflowers]

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[woltourney]

ROUND 2 / SIDE B / POLL 6

Iris Opranta (@irisopranta) v. Lopu Rhaavuna (@mages-ballad)

Iris Opranta:

q. What is your WoL name and pronouns? a. Iris Opranta (She/her)

q. What is your WoL's species? a. Elezen

q. What is your WoL's class? Or classes? a. Dragoon/Astrologian/Weaver

q. What data centre/server are you on, if you want people to find you? a. Primal/Leviathan

q. Tell us a bit about your WoL! a. "Iris Opranta, Pleased to meet you. I am a seamstress turn adventurer when fate had plans to make me the Warrior of Light. While I never really wanted to go down this path in life, it did give her a lot of opportunities that I never had while living in Gridania. Despite all the hand I was dealt I'm still quite optimistic. In my free time, I do a lot of needlework. Also love having guess over for tea. I will be happy to have you over for tea anytime to share any stories of my adventures."

q. Why should YOU win? (Answer IC!) a. "Why should I win? Well I am capable of a great many things. I fell dragons and ended the Dragonsong War, liberated Ala Mhingo, even saved the star from the final days. I did this while being completely fabulous. If I learn anything from Gobert Manderville, you can be truly powerful even though you are a craftsperson. If nothing else I can stitch up my opponents of any hole I put through them."

Lopu Rhaavuna:

q. What is your WoL name and pronouns? a. Lopu Rhaavuna, she/her

q. What is your WoL's species? a. Keeper of the Moon Miqo'te

q. What is your WoL's class? Or classes? a. IC-ly her primary jobs are Bard and Dancer. Secondary to that, Sage and Reaper. (Note from submitter: CUL and BOT)

q. What data centre/server are you on, if you want people to find you? a. Mateus [Crystal]

q. Tell us a bit about your WoL! a. I took inspiration for Lopu's character and story from the mahou shoujo genre, with the core elements being that a seemingly-average girl discovers she actually has the capability for magical powers, and uses those to help spread hope and save others. Love is a major theme for Lopu, and its what gives her the strength and motivation to do what she does. Lopu grew up in Gridania, where she left and became the Warrior of Light at age 25. She's always had a deep feeling of wanderlust within her, and the events of the MSQ are what kickstart her into being able to get out and see the world. She's lived her life knowing there had to eventually be more out there for her, and her assumptions are proven right as she takes up the title of the WoL and makes herself known. She's no doubt had her ups and downs, but never once has she regret her journey. Others may call her a hero; but even after all this time she still considers herself just an adventurer that likes to help people. In her free time, Lopu has a few hobbies she likes to indulge in! She's very big on cooking and sharing the food she makes, gardening and growing her own ingredients, hunting, training, running Treasure Maps, and of course hanging out with the Scions. Outside of saving the universe, she's a very sweet and humble woman.

q. Why should YOU win? (Answer IC!) a. "Ah? Um…" Lopu takes a lock of her thick hair to twirl around and play with while she ponders the question. "I think I should win because… It would make me really happy if I did?" She laughs a little, giving a flash of fangs. "Truthfully, I can't really think of a good reason! I guess there is the fact I saved the universe, but I wouldn't want people to feel obliged to put me on a pedestal just for that." "Maybe… If I win, I'll bake a huge celebratory cake to share with everyone! That works, right? People tend to be more motivated to vote if there's food involved, yes?"

q. Anything else you wanna add? a. AS HER CREATOR I SAY VOTE FOR LOPU BECAUSE SHE IS SO CUTE AND HUGGABLE AND SILLYGIRL-CORE AND HAS THICK THIGHS AND I LIKE HER A LOT AND ALSO IF SHE WINS I WILL ACTUALLY DO A GPOSE OF HER AND THE CAKE AND EVERYONE CAN HAVE SOME!!!!! VOTE FOR LOPU #LOPUSWEEP #LOPUSWEEP #LOPUSWEEP #LOPUSWEEP #LOPUSWEEP

[lucysablefan]

lucysablefan 2023 review

also i didn't get to talk abt my top however many things that i've watched in 2023 and i'm probably going to have to make this into a thread but firdt of all revenant and celebrity are definitely Up There for me from the cast to the story and everything else i was completely into those shows and that's a lot for me bc getting bored halfway into a show is my number one (reluctant) hobby.

i definitely think revenant escaped that partly bc there was no obvious romance plot for me to get bored after they get tgt but even without it being obvious kim taeri and hong kyung tgt in that show was one of the best decision ever made in cinema. kim taeri stuns us once again with her amazing acting + shim dalgi moment s, that was great i'm still not done watching more of her stuff but i really do love seeing her in stuff i'm watching it's always a delightful surprise and she slayed that role like it was written for her so that was great. oh jungse was there too (ig 🙄) and it was nice he did his job and i was sold + yang hyeji moment ! always a blast seeing her in anything (will make another appearance when i talk abt sweet home 2 in this post eventually)

now celebrity,,, amazing drama, i'll be honest at first i wasn't too sold on the influencer plotline but it's a park gyuyoung drama and as a humble lesbian i just had to tune in + lee chungha slay once again, i've loved her ever since vampire detective and this character was amazing for her

anyways i loved the plot, loved the execution, one grievance i have is definitely the fact that seo ari ends up with that loser classist guy intead of yoon sihyeon which was??? like if not for homophobia ik they would have ended up tgt bc seo ari has too much respect to stay with hjk for sure

also one thing i absolutely Have to comment on is that one scene where seo ari ruins her dress and then she goes "i can just pay for it" or smth along those lines and when she realizes what she said she gets a little taken aback? ye that scene birthed me actually bc??? what amazing writing truly just art

also literally the whole cast in that show was just like oh ye i'm an amazing performer and here's proof so that was definitely a treat for the audience (me)

now smth that Didn't come out during that year but i finally watched bc of park sewan (i still haven't finished doona but when i found out she played in it i was like!!!! school 2017 actress moment, idk why i have this weird cast of school 2017 thing but i do and it simply can't be helped) anwz it's!!!! ultimate weapon alice or wth title that you know it by. now i'll be honest the ending? i wasn't thrilled but i also didn't care much for it bc this drama just felt like one where the ending really isn't that important like ye i used to study lit so having an "oh this is a tragedy (shakespeare war flashbacks)" moment is always nice but that's not what this is abt, the sound design (? eng isn't my first language so don't be mean to me) alone makes this show better than average, the writing? impeccable, those imaginary somewhat comedic scenes? right up my alley, every episode was just a treat after another i had a Great time watching it, the characters and their dynamics were truly amazing and the acting was just constantly delivering once again i just love park sewan and i will finish watching doona for her (mostly, i love suzy too ofc <3)

now smty else i watched that i lived this year : enigma. what a show, short but a masterpiece nonetheless and i can't wait for s2 although obv as i was forced to learn through being a cw nancy drew fan, i should always keep my expectations low when the first season is a little too good. also prim won't be there which booooo,, but i'll get over it and i can't wait to see the new charas.

one thing to know abt me : i love visually pleasing stuff and if you play around with format a little bit and add some great mixed media to your show not only am i sold but i'm also telling whoever is willing to listen to go and watch your show i'm easy and i'm not ashamed.

anwz brain no worky anymore so i'll add onto this eventually but don't hold me to that (just rmbrd i have to talk abt sweet home 2 so i Will be back for that hehe)

[chochote-sijali]

I want to take a crack at this list to find its faults in regards to myself.

1. Always being right: Most humans participate in this, but this can be a self-projection from other people who are so immodest as to believe they're always right and yet people like me can't be right at all (my family behaves this way a lot of the time to me)

2. Blaming: Another thing most humans do. But whoever blames others and don't take on blame, whether explicitly or implicitly, have as little self-awareness as I do

3. Disqualifying the positive: Okay, compliments are usually "undeserved" because they're also UNWANTED. Forcing a compliment on somebody is an invasion issue. Step up off people for once. I take plenty of compliments. I just don't try to attach them to my ego in case I become narcissistic. I'm trying my best to be humble and when people overdo the compliments, it does in fact bother me and depress me

4. Emotional reasoning: this only happens when emotions run high. I can't detect my own emotions nor do I really have control over them. They do impair my judgment. When emotional, I say "why am I so stupid?" But when not emotional, I say "well, that was stupid" and I disconnect and just make it a "whoops" situation. So it doesn't happen all the time.

5. Fallacy of change: Social control is basically like those signs you see that tell you "DON'T TOUCH: WET PAINT" and the idiot person who lacks respect towards others and the more mature disinterest in touching paint will ask "WHY NOT?" You're not a child. That's not curiosity. Curiosity is touching paint that is clearly trying to hide something. If someone tells you not to do something, ask "why not?" BEFORE you do the action

6. Fallacy of fairness: Yeaaaaahhhh, this is basically saying that presidents and cops get to do whatever they want because they're special and above the law. Rules are meant to be broken, right?

7. Mental Filtering: Actually, this is more so other people that I've come across rather than myself. I mean, I can do this and all but I don't think it's even under my control. Most people seem to do this anyway and then get angry at the other person for not conforming to their beliefs instead. They're forcing only one, right answer to everything when that answer may not even be correct. So why shouldn't I filter information out if they do the same with me?

8. Jumping to conclusions: lol how many times I've heard people jumping to conclusions with me and they're not even correct. They try to make you think so, but really, they're projecting an ideal of what's right or correct on you. I may jump to conclusions, but what's the harm when I do it to MYSELF and not others? And nah, my dude, I always came to exams and tests unprepared. I winged most of the tests in my life. Some I aced, many I didn't fail on, and a few I did fail. (But I sure didn't do my homework and that's what dropped my grade a lot.)

9. Labeling/Mislabeling: As I've said before, I'm egocentric, so I have indeed called people jerks for stepping on my shoe. I myself don't like justifying people's actions and mistakes unless I have good reason to. If someone gives me their perspective, I now have a perspective to work on and I would adjust my attitude. That's just how egocentrism works. And yes, I have called myself a loser for making mistakes. Because again, I don't like justifying mistakes just because. I should know how to do a certain action that others do and yet I don't. And that is because I never took the opportunity to learn or I self-sabotage. Those are my own faults.

10. Magnification and minimization: the brain is naturally wired towards the negative, my brain is no different. Mine is just...hypersensitive to the negative... Someday, I'll be a more humble person with confidence rather than a pseudo-humble person who treats herself with negativity. But for now, I'll be making mountains out of molehills and making people more positive than they actually are. (Lol I can't help but laugh at this a little.)

11. Catastrophizing: I indeed do this and this is a problem I have no argument against.

12. Overgeneralizing: I do this. But people don't understand. This isn't an overgeneralization. This is an overspecialization in my opinion, if I'm going to start making words up right now. Every single piece of experience I have, I log in whether it's positive or negative. Because I feel negativity more strongly than positivity, I filter out the positive in favor of the negative. I've been bullied. I never thought that I'd be bullied again. I never tried to predict unknown possibilities like that. But what I have done is figure out which type of people are more likely to dislike me; I simply can't figure out the people who WILL like me. Anybody who actually likes me is a freaking weirdo but I swear to God, I'll love them to death.

13. Personalizing: I didn't take my cat to the vet and we didn't take her to get euthanized (I don't believe in euthanizing animals, ESPECIALLY pets). And I felt the most love towards her in the house (to the point that I can almost hate the cat we have now, she's so annoying but I still love her, I guess lol). She died in front of me while I tried to help her with her medication. I didn't blame myself for her death, but I did wish I could've done more to help her. I was more angry that my family was more nonchalant about her sickness than I was. Like they thought I was exaggerating. So I naturally didn't blame myself for her death. It could've been anything that made her cancer worse.

14. Making "must"/"should" statements: Soooo, like, this list (and whoever created it) isn't subtly telling a person what they "should" be like? Or what they ought to do in contrast to what's on the flipping list? How else am I supposed to counter this point if the person who thinks it's unhealthy is subtly telling me I should do the opposite? Yeah, I use freaking "must" and "should" statements. I say someone "has to" do something. Like wash or eat. I also say they don't have to. But I always feel bombarded with that aching feeling that I have to do something just because someone says so. And that has depressed me because I'm of the belief that you should want to do it instead. And yes, I'd be the concert pianist thinking I shouldn't have made all those mistakes while nervous because other people are nervous and yet don't let it get to them to the point of unnecessary mistakes. A few mistakes are fine but if it gets to be too much, call me the mustabator.

15. Splitting (all-or-nothing thinking, black or white thinking, dichotomous reasoning): I'm not sure I do this or not. (Lol are there people out there who admire me? For what?) My actions and behavior may be black-and-white, sure. I'd be incredibly predictable. But internally, I don't have this black-and-white attitude at all. But that's because I don't know how to express an internal world out into the external. My head remains abstract without any way of translating anything properly. So I appear more black-and-white in my thinking, my words and my actions, but I simply can't see it that way. I just have no way of flipping the perspective around for others to understand it better.

Lol anybody here relate to this huge block of text?

Cognitive Distortions

Always being right: Being wrong is unthinkable. Characterized by actively trying to prove one’s actions or thoughts to be correct, and sometimes prioritizing self-interest over the feelings of another person

Blaming: Holding other people responsible for the harm they cause, and especially for their intentional or negligent infliction of emotional distress

Example: someone blames one’s spouse entirely for marital problems, instead of looking at one’s own part in the problems

Disqualifying the positive: discounting positive events

Ex. Upon receiving congrats, a person dismisses them out-of-hand, believing them to be undeserved, and automatically interpreting the compliment as an attempt at flattery or as arising out of naivete

Emotional reasoning: Presuming that negative feelings expose the true nature of things and experiencing reality as a reflection of emotionally linked thoughts. Thinking something is true, solely based on a feeling.

Ex. “I feel (ie, think that I am) stupid or boring, therefore I must be”; feeling that fear of flying in planes means planes are a very dangerous wa if to travel, or concluding that it’s hopeless to clean one’s house due to being overwhelmed by the prospect of cleaning

Fallacy of change: Relying on social control to obtain cooperative actions from another person

Fallacy of fairness: This is the belief that life should be fair and produces upset or angry emotions when life is perceived as failing to be fair and breaking rules to even the playing field that leads to long term ramifications

Mental filtering: Focusing entirely on the negative elements of a situation to the exclusion of the positive. Also, the brain’s tendency to filter information that does not conform to already-held beliefs

Ex. After receiving comments about a work presentation, a person focuses on the single critical comment and ignores what went well

Jumping to conclusions: Reaching preliminary conclusions (usually negative) with little (if any) evidence. Two types:

Mind-reading: Inferring a person’s possible or probable (usually negative) thoughts from his or her behavior and nonverbal communication; taking precautions against the worst suspected case without asking the person

Ex. A student assumes that the readers of his or her paper have already made up their minds concerning its topic, and, therefore, writing the paper is a pointless exercise

And fortune-telling: Predicting outcomes (usually negative) of events

Ex. Being convinced of failure before a test, when the student is in fact prepared

Labeling and mislabeling: A form of overgeneralization; attributing a person’s actions to his or her character instead of to an attribute. Rather than assuming the behavior to be accidental or otherwise extrinsic, one assigns a label to someone or something that is based on the inferred character of that person or thing

Ex of labeling: Instead of believing that you made a mistake, you believe you are a loser, because only a loser would make that kind of mistake. Or, someone who made a bad impression considers himself or herself a “jerk”, regardless of alternative, extrinsic factors

Ex of mislabeling: A woman who places her children in a day care center is thought to be “abandoning her children to strangers,” because she has violated the bond between mother and child

Magnification and minimization: Giving proportionally greater weight to a perceived failure, weakness or threat, or lesser weight to a perceived success, strength, or opportunity, so that the weight differs from that assigned by others, such as “making a mountain out of a molehill”. In depressed clients, often the positive characteristics of other people are exaggerated and their negative characteristics are understated

Catastrophizing: Giving greater weight to the worst possible outcome, however unlikely, or experiencing a situation as unbearable or impossible when it is just uncomfortable

Ex. A teen is too afraid to start driver’s training because he believes he would get himself into an accident

Overgeneralizing: Making hasty generalizations from insufficient evidence. Drawing a very broad conclusion from a single incident or a single piece of evidence. Even if something bad happens only once, it is expected to happen over and over again

Ex. A woman is lonely and often spends most of her time at home. Her friends sometimes ask her to dinner and to meet new people. She feels it is useless to even try. No one really could like her.

Personalizing: Attributing personal responsibility, including the resulting praise or blame, to events over which the person has no control

Ex. A mother whose child is struggling in school blames herself for being a bad mother, because she believes that her deficient parenting is responsible for her child’s issues. In fact, the real cause may be something else entirely

Making “must” or “should” statements: Making “must” or “should” statements was included by Albert Ellis in his rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), an early form of CBT; he termed it “musturbation”. Michael C. Graham called it “experiencing the world to be different than it is”. It can be seen as demanding particular achievements or behaviors regardless of the realistic circumstances of the situation

Ex. After a performance, a concert pianist believes he or she should not have made so many mistakes.

In Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, David Burns clearly distinguished between pathological “should statements”, moral imperatives, and social norms

Splitting (all-or-nothing thinking, black-or-white thinking, dichotomous reasoning): Evaluating the self, as well as events in life in extreme terms. It’s either all good or all bad, either black or white, nothing in between. Even small imperfections seem incredibly dangerous and painful. Splitting involves using terms like “always”, “every”, or “never” when they’re false and misleading

Ex. When an admired person makes a minor mistake, she or he renders the admiration as contempt