#*even during our talks about abortion in her automated caveat about tq+ people she mentions tims being affected by the abortion ban | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

radmista · 2 years ago

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jesus fuck i feel bad for your poor girlfriend. just tell her you're a radfem

My gf knows I hold radical feminist views. Even before we've dated, I've talked openly and loudly about female liberation and sex based oppression, abortion access, hookup culture making young teens think theyre abnormal for not craving sex at 15, my thoughts on shaving, etc. She's even told me that talking about these things has helped her not feel the compulsion to shave her arms anymore.

She knows I'm a feminist and that I have radical views. The only thing I've never explicitly stated is that I'm gender critical of the trans movement as well (bc in general, this is social suicide and I have a career I want to protect). I have spoken about my gender critical views, I just don't call them that in conversation. Like I've ranted about the usage of terms like "boy clothes" and "boymode" to describe comfortable lounge clothing and that clothing has no gender. We've even debated about single sex spaces and even talked about JKR's funding of Beira's place. Like shockingly, we can disagree on things and still be together.

Idk what the point of your message really was. Is it "your poor gf" bc I complain about her very gendie/tumblr-q***r viewpoints? Or do you feel bc I'm a radfem it makes me a bad partner and that my gf is suffering by being partnered with me? I love her and want the best for her, but it doesn't stop me from being frustrated when she supports a movement that infringes on womens rights. I feel like I'm allowed to complain on my personal feminist tumblr about that lol

#the thing I appreciate a lot about her is that she does debate and hold discussion about various topcs with me #but what bothers me the most and just demonstrates how cult like the tq rainbow+ community is is how anti debate she is on those topics #we can talk about sex segreated spaces and mostly agree but then she has to mention TiM's and holds a 'no debate they're women' stance #and her defense of them is always so robotic or comes off as her quoting a stanza every 'supporter' has to say. ev #*even during our talks about abortion in her automated caveat about tq+ people she mentions tims being affected by the abortion ban #like they're not. but including them in everything is the preprogrammed response. and that is at the core of my complaints abt her stances #they aren't actually hers. its just rhe most progressive thing to believe and regurgitate. it frustrates me bc she is v intelligent #but she in general holds many libfem-y beliefs. maybe in the long run our relationship won't be sustainable idk thats a bridge for later #ik eventually I'll have to lay out my thoughts i don't tell her now and see what happens #I've come to terms that she may breakup with me over my gc radfem views.#I've come to terms she may break up with me over my views on the trans movement as she's a big supporter of it. thats her decision #but again. its a bridge for the future. and i will be respectful of her decision. I'm not entitled to a relationship or her love #anyway just rambling at this point. time for my meds lol.#anon #like am i a bad person for not telling her how i feel the tq movement is regressive af. i dont get the angle of this message #sorry if I'm missing the point of what you're trying to say to me

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