#(we're our own category and if we need to take steps to define our own experiences)

[maslows-pyramid-scheme]

That post about bisexuals faking being bisexual or whatever was crazy because like. Even if she was genuinely concerned about how some women are so deep in the closet and want to cling into the bi label for whatever reason, this is not the way to get lesbians to come out. 😭 Like I’m sorry but her bringing up comphet was also uncalled for, considering the controversy over that term + there’s loads of militant gold star lesbians and gays who made it a point that anybody who even looked at the genitals of the opposite sex cannot be homosexual period so like ofc there’s going to be people (esp women) who will laugh over jokes like “ohhh i just think women are so much hotter than men because of cleanliness lol but i am bi!” because of all of that mess. I hope I’m making sense but it’s also weird that people can’t believe that there are genuinely bi people out there who just strongly prefer the same sex and that doesn’t mean they’re faking being bi somehow like 💀

The two types of bisexuals: the attention seeking straights and the self-hating gays/lesbians.

But, on a serious note, this is why I actually hate microlabels/descriptors like 'bihet,' 'febfem,' 'het-partnered,' and 'osa/ssa women' for bisexuals - it obscures the similarities in our experiences, making people think there are different types of bisexual (when, in reality, there's only one category of bisexual - bisexual).

[organizingsense]

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[addershade]

A Semi-Stuctured Rant on Antishipping, Fujoshi Culture and the monetization of Homosexuality in Japanese and American Media

Antishippers are homophobic and it's bothering me. But also so are fujoshis and that bothers me too

Part One: Antishippers

Where there sails a ship ship so to the antishippers let fly their flags. A common argument I see painted on the bows of their warships is 'This character hasnt been stated as gay yet don't ship them with them.'

This is such a problematic sentence I don't even know where to begin. The fact that people view the default state of sexuality as 'straight until declared gay' creates the stigma that being homosexual is in some way deviant or taboo.

As an example: nobody has a problem with Todoroki being shipped with Momo despite them having minimal character interaction and very little shared dialogue in the show. Yet because they have been seen together in one (1) episode it has even been assumed canon on the same level as Izuku and Ochako which it quite simply is not.

Compare this to Bakugo and Kirishima who have several scenes together, most in even more intimate settings than Todoroki and Momo (study date, walking home at sunset together, the money scene, the rescue, I could go on) yet since the creator has not OUTRIGHT stated that either of these two are gay they have been assumed straight. Antishippers never go after TodoMomo in the same way they do KiriBaku.

I've seen people go as far as to say it would never happen, the creator would never do something so radical as to include one (1) gay couple. Despite the already pretty strong LGBTQ+ presence in the show with characters like Tiger, Big Sis Magne and Toga. These three have their own problems (an issue for another time) but they are there and that's a big step forward that people like to forget about.

Also, is the concept of 'we don't get good gay representation in the media so we write our own' really such a hard thing to grasp? Because it shouldn't be. Gay representation in media is scarce and even if its there it might not be handled sensitively (cough cough banana fish cough) and people naturally would want to go out of their way to provide it for themselves. Because representation is important. Straight, cis, white men really wouldn't understand because they are represented in literally everything all the time so I geuss they can't really fathom not being able look at the main character and go 'it me.' Which is why they put up such a fuss about every single time a woman is cast as the lead role. In anything. But I digress.

My point is basically this: Characters with undefined sexualities are obviously going to draw people in and be used as a comfortable, familiar and interesting starting point to create someone you can resonate with on a deeper level. Especially if there's nothing contradicting your head canon. And even if there is, who cares? There's plenty of straight characters already, representation is not pie and also they aren't real people so thats an extra helping of 'it shouldn't bother you.'

Oh I forgot to mention this rant only extends to fictional character antishippers because I think shipping real people is icky and shouldn't happen regardless of sexuality.

Part Two: Fujoshi Culture

Yes there are straight gals and guys that fetishise it (the male version is a fudanshi at least get it right people) and that's gross and unforgivable please stop doing it.

I would argue however this epidemic is caused by the fact that media, eastern and western alike, refuses to normalise gay relationships. Which means they see it as this sick fetish thing and call it 'sinning.' The literal terms fudanshi and fujoshi are derogatory and paint enjoying 'yaoi' as a guilty pleasure, something to be ashamed of and ridiculed.

And I'd bet my bottom dollar that Japan would want to keep it that way because it does work to sell their mangas.

Nagisa really sums up the whole issue in 50 percent off here's the clip:

https://youtu.be/c_xwtbrXbZM

Part Three: Western Focus

I just want to point out how half hearted and overly subtle these relationships have to be, like you're sneaking it past the republicans like the producers dirty little secret.

Good examples from both sides are Bubbeline, KoraSami, All of Voltron and Literally Any Gay Man In Anime Except Yuri on Ice. Although Yuri on Ice is still pretty coy about admitting that their characters are in a gay relationship.

KoraSami, Bubbeline and Shiro x Shiro's flashback buddy are all western depictions. Being gay in western media is much less commercialised and much less marketable, which is why the main issue with all of these were the writers pushing for something that was then only really confirmed either in: a very heavily fought for kiss last episode or the love story told entirely in (two bros chilling in a hot tub style) flashbacks where said love interest dies in the same episode. None of these are good representation and I don't think I have to spell out why.

Anyway this is another video that sums it up better than I can

https://youtu.be/TOj4WfQPNlk

Part 4: The Bad, The Worse and the Ugly

tw: s*xual a*sault mentioned (part 5 is safe)

I'll be quick

Anime like Banana Fish and Black Butler really like to perpetuate the stereotype that gay men are only gay because they have been r*ped by sick, twisted older men.

As a gay man who has been s*xually a*ssulted in the way that they like to pretend defined my sexuality I can say that this is insulting, triggering and Never. Ever. Handled. Properly. Anime has some issues with sexuality as a whole but it really takes the cake when characters like Ash are abused in real time in the anime and then it's used to 'justify' their promiscuity with men moving forward.

Banana Fish in no way handles the sexual assault tactfully, no matter what people have said to me.

This is an extract I agree with heavily from a pretty well written article (Banana Fish spoilers) :

I mentioned earlier the finale sent an awful message to new viewers. Ash’s story was about survival so for him to easily give up, in the end, sent a horrible message to survivors of sexual violence because it not only told them a moment of vulnerability would get them killed, but the only way survivors could find any peace was through death. The fact that Ash gave up, told survivors they could never escape from their traumas and despite all their efforts, they would never be able to heal from their abusive circumstances.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/thatnerdyboliviane.com/2019/01/21/banana-fish-a-bittersweet-experience/amp/

'Kill your gays' is a bad trope in any case but really was an especially poor choice here.

Part 5: Sex Sells and Gay Sex Advertises

I've mentioned above how manga and anime likes to package gay relationships into problematic little bundles and sell it to straight women as a curiosity or oddity. But I really think that it needs to be talked about more. Things shouldn't be more interesting to you just because they're gay, and fetishising minorities is never okay in any context.

I think it's important to note that really the attitudes in both Western and Japanese media are actually the exact same. That being, Gay people are 'others' and should at all costs be hidden away into corners. The only real difference is that Japan is known for selling that kind of content, lumping it in the same category as tentacle hentai and... I don't know any other categories but the point stands. Whereas western media tends to just sequester it into a corner and hope it gets past censorship boards and Karen's. Money is at the forefront of both of these descisions.

It's a real problem that both sides of the anime culture are so problematic. One side is way too into it and the other can't begin to process it.

Here's a video by the same person that covers basically the same ground that's concerning me so much.

https://youtu.be/t3FKlqDocQ4

Part 6: In conclusion

I feel like this is something that is worth being angry about. I'm just sick of how being gay is treated at the moment in anime, tv and film, and how it's being received by straight audiences. The LGBTQ+ community barely seems to get a real say half of the time because people are too busy being head over heels that the author confirmed in an interview that a character is bi or gay but never follows through with it in universe. Or when you try and create content for yourself and get criticised like you were supposed to be happy about what little representation you get in mainstream media. Like shows do the bare minimum and then we're supposed to be happy about it. But I ain't. And I don't think many other people are either.

TLDR:

Gay people being treated like a taboo little secret on both sides of the issue is insulting and gross and never leads to anything good.

[my-deer-friend]

Words fail us almost immediately when we try to discuss any kind of human behaviour, especially when those words are trying to create artificial categories or oppositions. Still, we need terminology, however imperfect, to create a common basis for explaining what we're talking about. This is an especially tricky problem in "queer history", because both what has historically been considered sexually and romantically non-normative and how those things were named and understood has varied so much – even, as you say, within the last fifty years.

'Queer' is one of those modern words that is both useful and hazardous to apply to the past – useful because it's a good shorthand umbrella term for a range of non-normative sexual and romantic acts or desires, hazardous because it's vague and anachronistic and requires us to have a good understanding of the historical context before we can begin to apply it. It's not a word I think I would use in formal academic writing, but it serves me here as a contrast to "normative", and allows me to sidestep the problem we have both mentioned of rigidly structured social categories.

In the same breath, we can end up getting so tangled in nuances and definitons and ahistoricity that we devote all our time to trying to define exactly what we mean (trying, also, not to offend anyone - impossible) and leave less space and time to focus on the actual human behaviours we came here to examine.

At some point, we just have to choose a word so that we can move to the next step, and 'queer' is the imperfect word I've chosen (at least, for the purposes of this Tumblr post).

I really should have defined this earlier, though. I'm using "queer" to mean "same-sex romantic or sexual desire that fell outside the normative bounds of social acceptability in the 18th century". That's not the only kind of queerness that existed (obviously), but that's my specific focus. The most common other words for this are "gay" (which comes with its own package of contemporary characteristics that I find unhelpful to understanding, and masks bisexuality) or homosexual (which privileges the "sex" part and thus doesn't help my core argument).

Now, as for what I meant about inherent queerness versus homosexuality above...

Two soldiers sharing a bunk and engaging in mutual masturbation, or sailors taking part in consensual sodomy aboard ship, are performing a homosexual act without necessarily feeling any particular same-sex attraction or desire (just like your closeted gay man having sex with his wife is not evidence of his heterosexual desire). The act itself might be transgressive, or illegal, and thus one might say it's "queer" on that basis – but equally we could argue that some degree of homosexual activity in these contexts was tolerated, so long as it stayed within acceptable and understood bounds. There are many great analyses out there on, e.g., sodomy among sailors that could make this point much better than I can.

On the other end of the spectrum we have people like Thomas Gray, Johann Wilhelm Ludwig Gleim and Johannes von Müller, who cultivated wide homosocial networks, and formed male-male friendships that they expounded on effusively, in deeply romantic language. There's no evidence of them engaging in homosexual acts, but their written works and behaviours signal their yearning for same-sex relationships (sexual or otherwise) that bordered on the socially transgressive – even if they themselves never transgressed those bounds. Contrast, also, the letters between George Washington and the Marquis de Lafayette on one hand, and Alexander Hamilton and John Laurens on the other. Both sets contain expressions of romantic affection, but the former is generally understood to take the style of a typical, normative romantic friendship, while the latter is increasingly accepted to be indicative of more transgressive – queer – same-sex desire.

And of course, all of these examples contain a degree of speculation and invite exceptions. There were certainly many homosexual men who joined the navy because it provided an outlet for their sexual desires, and homoromantic people who hid one-sided or mutual romantic love within the conventions of "regular" friendship.

Since we can't ever know exactly what any of these people really meant or felt, this is the point at which historians must shift to interpretation and analysis. Interpretations are not all equally valid, can and should evolve over time, and are always a function of our own biases, knowledge and access to evidence.

I don't think it's perpetuating harmful or oppressive structures to study queerness in historical context, inelegant though our language sometimes is. What does seem harmful and dated to me is requiring at least a suggestion of sexual desire (homoerotic) if not proof of sexual consummation (homosexual) before a relationship is considered "genuinely queer".

I have now rambled at length, and I'm not even sure I've properly addressed your question! But thanks nevertheless for the impetus to frame my thinking in more detail.

Homosocial – homoromantic – homoerotic – homosexual

A lot of people who talk about 18th century queerness treat these concepts as existing on a linear scale of "straight" to "gay", or as a progression of increasing queerness.

But that kind of framing isn't accurate. There's no line that we can draw here beyond which things become definitively queer. There were homosexual acts that had very little queerness to them, and homoromantic relationships that were fundamentally queer without ever (to our knowledge) straying beyond the emotional.