#(chemistry and building the base of a friendship would be a must. I don’t auto ship)

[brokendreamscreation-moved]

Lucid & Lucifer

Recommend romantic candidates for my muses and see their reaction!

If Lucid can pale any further, he’s as white as a sheet. Feathers ruffle, words stuttering. “L-Lu-Lucifer?! I-I-I think he’d sooner kill me than be more than acquaintances! Or maybe friends?”

[gloriousxdarkness]

I have a soapbox to get on. And I hate to do it.

Despite already stating that chemistry is most important to me in my About page, I feel I must be more explicit. The following are my guidelines and boundaries regarding romantic ships.

Please read if you are interested in shipping with my muse.

This is a bit long, so in advance, thank you for reading. I appreciate it very much.

I want to state from the beginning that this post is not in direct response to any one person, but a result of many, many instances over the years of people pressuring me to ship. I am annoyed. I write a muse who is sexually active in canon. My other muse (that I’ve had for years) is also very sexually active in canon.

Despite circumstances surrounding their sexual history being specific and not at all random, especially with Elektra, this seems to lead people to believe they are “easy” women, and it is okay to immediately assume they will sleep with their muses. People have come into my inbox and roleplayed ripping off my muse’s clothes, and been sexually aggressive without any pretense or so much as a hello. I have had muns be shocked when my muse rejects a kiss when they have never discussed shipping with me before. I resent this.

I do not Auto-Ship.* I write chemistry-based pairings only.

This means if our muses have never interacted, and do not have a canon romantic history, we will need to thread before we ship. Our muses will need to get to know one another, you know, like people do in real life. Because while rping is meant to be fun and it’s fictional, in order for me to have fun, I have to play my character as genuinely as I know how to.

This is especially irritating when I see people claiming to WANT to write interesting, non-romantic relationships (friends, enemies, co-workers, whatever), but then only write ships, or never speak to me again when I am not interested in shipping. If that’s what you want to do, that’s fine. I get the want to ship, I do. But it’s also okay if we are not compatible partners because we want different things. It’s neutral. I would just prefer if you were upfront with me about what you want. This is me being as upfront as I possibly can.

Here are some things to know about Elektra if you want to ship with her:

She’s about 33 years old in a typical verse. She is not going to be interested in someone 18-29, except with strong chemistry at the upper end of that range. I realize this is the age range for many muses.

She doesn’t prioritize romance in her life. She’s been raised to value self-reliance and not let anyone become too important to her-- it conflicts with the Warrior Life. She’s terribly lonely, but she doesn’t pursue lasting connections.

She does have one night stands. However, if she has a one night stand, the odds of her ever wanting to see that person again are slim to none. And her motivations for doing this are not always healthy.

In the comics, when she does date someone, it’s often to kill time or to fill a hole in her heart. Being seriously interested in someone is rare.

Along with not prioritizing romance, she’s busy. She manages the business interests of the Natchios family by day, and fights a war by night. She’s got other things on her mind.

Elektra is not easy. She is difficult. She does not sleep with people quickly if she actually likes them (i.e. she gets to know them for a few weeks probably, like how people in real life usually do). Plus, she’s a dangerous woman. She’s an assassin. She’s easily bored and has particular tastes. Not everyone is her shot of tequila, and she’s not everyone’s cup of tea, either.

This might be the most difficult thing: In show canon, she is deeply in love with Matt Murdock.

It is show canon that they never get over each other, not even after 10 years of not seeing each other. He is the love of her life.

If you wish to rp with an Elektra that never met Matt, that is an option, but she will not be the same person she was after falling for him. I generally like to keep him in her backstory because he is so important to her development.

I have said this before, but I would love to write Elektra falling in love for the 2nd time, for Elektra to realize that she can love again, but that would take building a relationship with someone else, building trust and friendship, someone having compassion for her and treating her like a person. It isn’t a quick journey, but I think it’s a worthwhile and rich one.

I have verses in which they are not together and she understands they will not be together. I usually set this after 2x10, when Matt essentially breaks up with her and she goes to leave New York to get out of his life.

I am interested in writing a wide spectrum of types of romantic relationships. One night stands that never got a call back, or still have to interact with her frequently, or unrequited crushes, or a bitter relationship that she’s only one foot in, or two people mutually using each other. I’m very open to trying lots of things, I’m very interested in developing relationships.

But if you want an Elektra that is genuinely in love with your muse, it will take time for her to fall.

If you are only interested in writing with me to ship, I might not be the right partner for you. I am not offended by this and I hope you are not either. We just want different things.

Sidenote for Female Muses: I rarely (if ever) receive ship pressure from muns of female muses. I’m adding this because I think it’s already hard to get threads of any kind going between female muses, and that muns of female muses (like myself) probably feel less confident in asking for or pursuing f/f ships. I want to add this note to say that this is not directed at female muses so please do not think I’m vagueing about unwanted f/f ships. However, I don’t think Elektra is the type to think much about her sexuality, so f/f ships with her will likely include a lot of doubt and questioning on her part/her journey unless it’s in an AU.

TL;DR: I love ships, I do. But sometimes our muses are not going to be compatible. That’s okay, there’s other things we can do. If you aren’t interested in other things, that’s okay too. We just might not be right for one another. Just please do not assume Elektra is sexually available to your muse from the start. She gets treated like an object enough in her life.

*the major exception to Auto-Shipping is with Matt muses, because they have an thoroughly established romantic history (and because I make the rules of this blog). I am okay with Matt muses being automatically romantic with her even if we haven’t interacted ic or ooc yet. However, this doesn’t mean I’ll pursue it if I don’t think we vibe as rp partners, and that doesn’t mean I’ll write smut with every Matt, or even write romance with every Matt. They’re fun as adversaries, too.