#((but not my sister and BIL bc they can't come))

[daisywords]

long distance relationship would be so much easier if most of the rest of my relationships weren't also long distance

[frances-baby-houseman]

We are going to Atlanta this weekend for my sister's high school graduation, and it's becoming so... complicated. Always.

First, I was going to go alone, then just with Alice, then Adam said we should all go, so I bought tickets, then like 48 hours later when it was too late too cancel, adam learned he has a court date that can't be moved so he has to stay home and I have to fly with both kids alone. Which is fine, but like, annoying logistically.

Then, my stepmom this whole time has said that there were tons of tickets and we could all go, then she said there were only 8 so the kids couldn't come. But everyone we know is going to this stupid ceremony so we don't have anyone to babysit. And my sister told my stepmom that her husband (my BIL) would stay with Joe, and then Al could come with us. But when I thanked her for that, she said she was JOKING and that he absolutely had to come bc he was so sad about missing my sister's bat mitzvah, which is just absolutely bat shit. That's not a joke!!

So THEN, I was like, ok, I will schlep them over to my mom's at like 7 in the morning, bc this stupid graduation is at 8:30 (I hate these WASPs), except my mom has Parkinsons and keeps falling and I cannot leave her alone with the kids, so I have to find a babysitter for the babysitter. It's bad. And I called her and I kept saying, I need to know Larry (her husband) will be there, and she just kept being like, I can handle your kids! I'm not scared of them! And I was like, MOM, you keep FALLING, You can MENTALLY handle my kids but if you fall and are alone with them, which WILL HAPPEN bc she fell when she was here taking care of Alice!, they will not know what to do!! I feel awful bc she's the best grandma, truly, but she cannot be alone with little kids anymore. It's not safe for anyone. And I was like, I'll come get them after the ceremony! and she was like, no no I will drive them to your dad's! But like, I am not having her drive them! her feet don't work! But I have a solution for that which is just not give her the car seats.

It is just all very logistically stressful. Also I know that I will be forced into either sharing a room with my kids or onto the murphy bed in the office while my stepsister gets the glorious guest room bed. Which again is FINE but like, ugh. It just feels very much like we are an afterthought fucking up everyone's nice time.