#( i hope it is more or less what you wanted nonny b/c it was fun to make

[marthajefferson]

asoiaf + brothers and sisters, c. 280-283 AC

( request )

[lovecolibri]

In a complete normal reaction to the idea of having to watch B&L flirt on my screen... My stomach started hurting lmao.

I can't do that I'm not bi enough I'm going to strangle Kr*ten for doing this to me 🙃

Oh Nonnie, I absolutely feel you! The though makes me nauseous and also SO angry because it would have been watchable and maybe even a little fun IF Buck had already broken up with his gf. I am having some thinky thoughts about why we couldn't get the narrative satisfaction on that breakup (m*luca=bucktaylor breakup anon, I see you!! And I'm going to answer to you today, I just have a lot of feelings), but overall I think it comes down to the person in charge using these female characters as their beloved pet self-insert characters, and refusing to acknowledge that they are awful characters and actively thwarting the narrative to fit in what they want 🤷‍♀️ (Tina, I also have your C*rina=KR ask that I'm working on as well, I promise!)

It's just irritating because the "hooked up with some rando I met in a bar and now Woops! that person is my boss/bosses child/coworker etc etc etc" can be such a fun trope and as much as it would still make me side eye the writers for giving Buck a female replacement for Eddie that he's immediately allowed to make out with after a daring rescue involving a bomb, at least it would be watchable and could have some fun and funny moments. Now it's just going to be incredibly gross.

I'm trying to both hold out hope that this strong reaction will result in some changes, while also bracing myself for it to be...incredibly awkward and awful. Though I suppose I should be somewhat grateful because if they HAD gone that route, the GA might adore L and actually want to keep her around. As it is, literally everyone is tired of her character already, no on wants to see her anywhere near Buck, much less watch the two of them making goo-goo eyes at each other so I'm thinking the best we can hope for is that they change course and she's gone by the end of the season. But given that this is KR new pet project character and they already showed their ENTIRE asses with those 700 interview hyping her character up and shoving her down our throats, I'm not holding my breath that she's going to want to admit that she fucked up THIS badly. (seriously, this ep has a lower rating than Ghost Stories which was the worst episode by more than half a star to the next lowest-rated episode. It took 5x11 nearly a week to break 5 stars an most of the comments I saw stated that it was entirely due to b/l ruining the episode. So we shall see!)

[honeybomb4thebear]

hajime hinata nsfw alphabet? if u don't mind.......

I don’t! There is an anon who asked for Hajime too, so here it is, Nonnie!

HAJIME HINATA N//S*FW ALPHABET

A=Aftercare - What they do/act like after sex. ⦁ Careful with you. He is all blushy while taking care of you, but since he is a reliable person he is extremely good at it.

B=Bondage - Are they into BDSM, and how far they’ll go if they have a green light. ⦁ Vanilla boy. So vanilla it pisses him off. Lmao but one time I saw people call him a cuck, I can't really see it but maybe??? Just maybe???

C=Cum - pretty self explanatory. ⦁ It tastes... Sweet. Not too sweet, but kind of pleasant. He'd be pretty embarrassed about his cumming face though akjdfkjaskfj, it's cute I promise

D=Dom - Are they dominant, submissive, a switch? ⦁ Switch dom but only because of his insecurities, not because he is a pervert.

E=Edgeplay - Similar to ‘Kinks’ except it’s a lot riskier than usual kinks (knifeplay, breathplay, etc.). ⦁ He pushes himself to not be boring so he tries them, but he just isn't into them...

F=Fantasy - A fantasy of theirs (ex: a teacher/student fantasy). ⦁ Girl/boy/person next door??? Like y'know what a person next door is. A pure, angelic, sweet person that he'd admire afar. But then one day, two of them are alone in his house for some reason and one thing leads to other, that things making Hajime realize that the person next door isn't as innocent as he thought...

G=Got Caught - How they react when they get caught having sex. ⦁ He is a MESS. Omg he would be so embarrassed askfjksjfksjf....... His face would turn into a tomato's and he'd yell at the other person to get out, he'd be d e a d by that time

H=Hot Spots - A place that drives them crazy when stimulated (EX: neck). ⦁ I wanna saaaaaay... His chest? Like seriously if you play with his chest he'd be weirded out at first and also would be totally opposed to it, since y'know it's kinda weird for him. But then he'd like it so much when you pull away and tease him he would just be shaking while blushing madly, and would plead you to play with his tiddies more. Shyly, though.

I=Intimacy - How romantic they are, or can be, before, during, or after sex. ⦁ While topping, he is awkward and stiff, but he also blushes a lot. It takes a bit time for him to relax, and when he does he shows a side of him that you rarely get to see outside of bed, I mean, he IS a tsundere after all. He is his usual tsundere self as a sub.

J=Journey - Their ideal way of leading up to sex. ⦁ MMmmmm after a day of cruel teasing mayhaps? Like sexual tension is so thick it's making both of you go crazy, and he'd like it a lot if you were to actually address it... He may play dumb. OR if he is the one who addresses it, he'd want you to play dumb aksjdkjkajd this guy is a tease who likes to be teased-

K=Kinks - I’ll list a few of their kinks, be they the normalized ones or kinkier kinks. ⦁ PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE! Tell him how special and unique he is and just stroke his ego. He'll be over the moon and so turned on- ⦁ Accidental stimulation? You know, when you two accidently get into suggestive positions, like you ending up on Hajime's lap for some reason.... Yea instant boner hope you don't mind adjskjak

L=Location -  Where they like to have sex at, do they like risky locations, etc. ⦁ Mmm you have to push him to the edge for him to initiate risky situations. Like he is a shy boy but he gets pissed easily so it doesn't take much work but still. Hajime cares a lot about others' opinions about him (unfortunately) so if someone were to continiously talk about how spineless he is, he'd act all bold and kiss you in front of everyone- THEN pull you to a bathroom stall. Kinda pathetic? Yea. Do I still like him? A lot.

M=Masturbation - How they are when they get themselves off, what they get themselves off to. ⦁ Three times a week? I think Hajime gets off to porn videos, but I feel like he'd feel guilty if he already had a person that he was dating- which would eventually led him to think about you while doing it.

N=NO - A few things that they will absolutely, under no circumstances, ever do. ⦁ Don't degrade him he really feels bad- and seriously don't make fun of him. Pls his ego is so fragile show mercy-

O=On’s - Their top turn on’s that they have (things that’ll get them super horny super quickly). ⦁ Hnhfgh teasing him will get him going. Like seriously his sex drive is kinda high- so something as simple as talking about how you got yourself a new pair of lingerie that you liked a lot will excite him. Or maybe dirty inside jokes that only you two can understand, anything to remind him the intimate moments you two shared together. ⦁ AlsoooOO does tie pulling count? Yea? Do it in the public, he'll be extra embarrassed because he got kinda horny just from that-

P=Position -  Their favourite position to have sex in. ⦁ Vanilla ass mfer likes missionary or doggy style.

Q=Quickie - Do they like it, do they prefer quickies over actual sex, etc. ⦁ It's a guilty pleasure of his AKFJSDJKJASKJ he likes the rush of getting caught, he likes the thrill of it and he kinda prefers it over actual sex. It actually makes him feel less vanilla, so he might be lying to himself about liking them more but who knows!

R=Rough - How rough they are, or get, when in bed. ⦁ AAAAAA he IS rough!! It's as if he is taking out all of his insecurities on you. The way he squeezes you, holds onto you and thrusts into you is quite rough. He just can't control himself in bed, and will be lost in the moment quickly.

S=Stamina - How long they can go before they tap out. ⦁ I... I feel like he has a lot? 4 maybe..?

T=Toys - Do they use toys, do they own them, what kind, etc. ⦁ ...He has kokeshi dynamo but he doesn't know how to use it. Luckily, you are there to teach him how to do so.

U=Unfair - How much they tease you, how they tease you, etc. ⦁ AaAAAAAAAAaaah can be quite a tease. Quick touches while walking at the hallway, bedroom eyes in public all of a sudden, almost sensual massages that he gives your shoulders to "ease you up", and strokes on your legs when you expect it the least. He loves teasing and getting teased by you.

V=Volume - How loud they get when having sex, things they might say, etc. ⦁ Tries to not let out much, he is awkward during sex and is embarrassed by his voice so... Will keep it low. Unless you overstimulate him, though-

W=Wild Card - a random letter for the character of your choice. ⦁ He'd look so fucking hot as a crossdresser- like buy him a maid dress. It'd kinda difficult to get him to wear it but I feel like he'd like the attention he is receiving so he'd definetly get used to wearing some. Because wow, trust me, a skirt suits him so well

X=X-Ray - How they look with their clothes off. ⦁ Why do I have a feeling that his dick is exactly as big as average- like it's the exact number. But he is kind of muscular and has a good bone structure, though.

Y=Yearning - How often they need to have sex. ⦁ HE IS KINDA HORNY SORRY-  like he doesn't mean to but he will just be sitting in his room and all of a sudden he will think of... doing all sorts of things to you. He is really ashamed but this is just how he is-

Z=ZZZ - How quickly they fall asleep after having sex. ⦁ 30 minutes at most! Sex tires him out, after all.

[spaceorphan18]

Karofsky - Blaine - Kurt.

Kurt - he was previously bullied , sexually assaulted and harassed by him - the whole Dave/Kurt thing was creepy. He’s not a pleasant dude. Ok he had his issues, and we see him try suicide - do we ever see him after that until we see him with Blaine? So for the love of Kurt’s life to then have any sort of relationship/sexual relationship with Karofsky is really just offensive to Kurt - you wouldn’t see it happening irl. I wouldnt think??? So the writers knew making this a plot was just basically kicking Kurt in the balls again, and i find that offensive??

Blaine - well he hated Karofsky in season 2 - he actually pushed him and probably would have punched him. I don’t know what he thought about him after that, but would he really have had any respect or good feelings for him? Ok season 6, he was depressed and lonely and met Dave - but would he really have started a relationship with him? Again it’s just the writers trying to kick Blaine’s character in the balls - up to then a fairly inoffensive, sensitive , well liked guy? (let’s ignore the cheating for now). Also Blaine is supposed to be a reasonably intelligent guy, and wouldn’t have a problem getting any other guy. So the way they made Blaine date him us just offensive to him.

Even if Karofsky had learnt the error of his ways, I don’t think that he could be so drastically different and there’s no way I could see Blaine having a relationship with him?

Ive probably raised a lot of things for you to comment on here, hope that is ok.

Yes, absolutely okay! I wanted you to elaborate so I would know where you were coming from, Nonny! :) 

So, I’m going to throw a couple of things out there.  

1. You have every right to feel the way that you do - and nothing I’m about to say is in anyway trying to change your mind.  I’m just laying out my own opinions on the matter - cool? 

2. I’m guessing that it’s actually - you - who are offended by it.  And that’s totally fair! We all bring our own experiences to the table, and sometimes plot lines are just going to sting us in the wrong way, and it’s not an easy thing just to ‘get over’ for sake of the writers moving the plot in a strange direction.  I feel ya, hon, I do! 

But I don’t necessarily agree that it’s offensive to Kurt or Blaine.  Though, I do believe it was a choice out of convenience more so than anything else for the writers.  

So, back when Season 2 was on, I hated Karofsky.  HATED him.  Like, when Sue Sylvester Shuffle aired, I said if Karofsky joined glee club, I wouldn’t continue watching the show.  He was indicative of people I knew in real life who tormented someone I cared for, and encountering that in fiction -- that does stick with you.  It really does.  When I first heard about the season 6 spoilers, it kind of made me sick to even think about it.  

But, you know, I’ve had a long, long time to process it.  I’ve studied it and analyzed it on what I would call an academic level.  And while I think there are definite flaws in the narrative (mostly the gaping holes in Karofsky’s story to make it all plausible) I’m really rather fine with the whole thing now.  

A while back, someone asked me why Blaine would date Karofsky, and I have a rather lengthy answer to that here : Blaine and Karofsky Meta : which I do hope you check out.  I think it goes over a lot of the points as to why and how we got the narrative that we did.  

The tl;dr version is this ---  

A) Kurt forgave Karofsky thru seasons 2 and 3; and once he was no longer scared of Karofsky, he no longer hand any power over him.  But also -- if you notice in season 6, Kurt really does not give a flying fuck about Karofsky at all, and in fact, he finds the idea of Sebastian much more nauseating.  Kurt running off and crying in LLM is more because he fucked up his chance with Blaine, not that Blaine was dating Karofsky.  And mostly, Kurt doesn’t even really acknowledge Karofsky during season 6 -- he mostly focuses on himself, and is helpful to Blaine when Blaine needs a friend.  

As for the whole ‘kick Kurt in the balls thing’ (my god, I hear this phrase from you guys all the time, and I’ll be honest, I side-eye it a little) from the writers -- out of all the times I do think Kurt got short-shafted, I don’t think this is one of them.  I think Kurt realizing that he fucked up his relationship was actually a growing point for the character, and a way for him to learn that maybe he should be more understanding and less of a shitty boyfriend; as well as learning that grown up relationships are hard.  

You guys should know by now that I adore Kurt, and the sun doesn’t rise and set for RIB for me, but characters need conflicts, and they need instances that they need to grow.  And I think season 6 gave Kurt a fantastic, and yes heart wrenching, story on how hard it can be going from a kid to an adult.  

[This is also the aside where I ask -- what did you guys really, ultimately want? Because a character who is served everything ends up like Rachel Berry, and that’s not fun for anyone.  Kurt did get his moments of praise, and his moments of triumph, and they are in small ways, but Kurt Hummel won guys, he really did.]

B) The Blaine part of this is super complex, which is why I, again, urge you to read the original meta post on why Blaine dates Karofsky.  But let’s boil it down to this -- Blaine didn’t have the same relationship with Karofsky as Kurt did.  Sure, there was some aggression, but ultimately Blaine’s main drive  was to protect Kurt, it could have been anyone who was bothering him.  By the time five years pass (and yes between 16 and 21 a lot changes) Blaine is a different person.  Karofsky’s a different person.  Blaine doesn’t owe Kurt anything, and in a very weird and twisted way, this is Blaine’s way of not only healing his heart, but still remaining close to Kurt.  

Believe it or not -- this isn’t the writers kicking Blaine in the balls either, this is the writers’ way of letting Blaine heal and move on with his life post breakup.  Blaine’s actually in a pretty good place when we open in season 6, and part of that, shockingly, has to do with having a relatively healthy (rebound) relationship with Karofsky.  I know, crazy, right?? 

C) If anyone should feel offended, it’s Karofsky --- his story is the one that is ultimately short changed by the writers, as we did not get to see how he grew between On My Way and the opening of season 6.  But, between Born This Way through On My Way, there is a redemption arc for Karofsky, and after the suicide attempt, he’s already on his way to trying to become a better person.  We don’t really get to see what else he goes through, though, and his part in season 6 is really just there as a prop for the Klaine story.  And I think it’s pretty evident during season 6 that he’s pretty much a harmless goof as an adult.  

Does that excuse his prior behavior? No, it does not. If Kurt still felt uncomfortable around him -- that would be totally fair, but nothing in the narrative suggests that he does.   That said, I do believe people are allowed to grow and change and learn from their mistakes.   And that was what the writers were going for.  

Like I said, you don’t have to feel the same way I do; if Karofsky still emotionally upsets you, that is completely valid and I’m not trying to persuade you otherwise.  But just sharing my own opinions as to why I don’t agree.  

<3 <3 

[diindjariin]

tips for a person who has some strong anxiety and is about starting college?? lmao

hey nonnie! here are some thoughts of mine that are both personal and come from working in the academic success center on my campus (which is the center for all tutoring/disciplinary/academic probation stuff. i’ll keep them separated so i’m never trying to pass off things i’ve learned as a tutor/undeclared advisor as my own thoughts.

personal:

in most (not all!!) cases, the content in college isn’t harder than high school, but the amount of work is. because of the larger amount of work/reading, you have to study more. this, in my opinion, is why college is harder than high school.

students are much more collaborative/helpful in college than high school. in college things like study sessions, tutoring, sharing notes, etc is much more accepted and normalized. this can make your life SO much easier and help with the stress of academics.

i cried every night for the first 2 weeks of my freshman semester. this is not a joke. i sobbed every night and prayed that my roommate didn’t hear me and make fun of me; she was having the time of her life being away from home, but i was struggling. i missed my family and missed my hometown and missed my friends and was very, very overwhelmed. but that’s okay. lots of people feel this way. you aren’t alone. and you will adjust.

use a planner. use a big, monthly wall calendar for upcoming deadlines (essays due, exams, projects, etc). seeing it every day will take away the stress because you’re always aware of when it is.

make your dorm room feel like home. i think this is more of a guy problem, but i know so many people who bring barely anything to college. nothing personal: no pictures, posters, anything. for me, it is essential to have a space that not only feels comfortable and makes me happy, but that energy makes me much more likely to work. (i’m thinking of posting some pictures of my dorm room/desk setup so let me know if anyone is interested in that i guess)

professional:

most students will change their major once, if not twice. in general, most people will not graduate with a degree in the major that they started in. i’m sorry i can’t give you the specific statistics for my college (i don’t have them on me right now and i wanted to answer your message asap!) but what i can tell you is that the percentage is high. it’s really ridiculous to expect 17-18 year olds to know what they want to do with the rest of their life. so: if you’re nervous about knowing what you want to do with your life, don’t sweat it. you’re allowed to change your mind. most people do.

looking at an academic transcript, most students will have the worst GPA their first semester at college. this is because students don’t know what to expect from their professor, their classes, college in general, etc. even majors like engineering and nursing that get exponentially harder the farther into their degree they go, their first semester is generally the worst. again, i’m sorry that i’m lacking statistics, but this was one of the things that was stressed when i worked with undeclared majors last semester.

a “C” grade is a lot more normal in college than high school. in general, if you ask someone how high school was, if they studied, etc most will say “it wasn’t bad. i never studied and was still an a + b student.” obviously this isn’t everybody, but it is pretty common. when you get to college though, that isn’t going to cut it. an “A” really does stand for exceptional work. if you want an “A”, put in the work for it. a “B” is also really good and something you should be proud of. a “C” is legitimately average, and there’s nothing wrong with being average. work hard for that “C”? it’s not your strongest subject, and there’s nothing wrong with that. put in minimal effort and get the “C”? imagine how well you could have done if you’d put a bit more effort into it.

use a planner.

study everyday a little bit instead of waiting to cram stuff at the last minute. of course we’re all guilty of it (myself included) but it really doesn’t work like that. in high school we’re much more able to get away with it because there’s less content, but in college it’s a lot harder. also, short-term memory just won’t be able to hold onto it.

i really hope this helps! if there’s anything i didn’t touch on that you’re specifically worried about, let me know, and i’ll do my best to help!

[migleefulmoments]

Abby is the 1 who needs a reading comprehension lesson. An anonymous person said 'You're a narrow-minded fool if you actually put any stock in whether or not a married man is wearing his ring.' Abby's reply was 'Never once did I or anyone I know say that a married person has to wear a ring.' Am I crazy or is that totally 2 different things? Sometimes Abby is so blind it makes me crazy. Also, if u could do a follow up to her blatherings re her post it would be great. I'm just gobsmacked over it.

I see you wrote another post clarifying it was Cassie who made the comments you quoted but the entire coven’s comments after Cassie just get more ridiculous- “fact” after “fact” of lies and nonsense comparisons.  It’s batty that they believe any of the lies- but they believe them all! 

Anonymous asked: My grandpa doesn't wear his wedding ring because he used to work as an AC/heating repair man (he even taught college courses on fixing heaters at one point) and then was just not in the habit when he retired. That doesn't make his and grandma's marriage less valid. Rings are a symbolic thing that most cultures don't even do. You're a narrow-minded fool if you actually put any stock in whether or not a married man is wearing his ring.

cassie1022 answered: Oh yay, fun. (Cassie -always so charming)  My dear Nonnie, once again, reading comprehension eludes someone that believes in the Miarren myth. Never once did I or anyone I know say that a married person has to wear a ring (and yet Abby pops in below to claim the same but then argue that it IS the ring coming and going that looks suspicious. Let’s pretend that cc rings were real- he didn’t wear them every day regardless of what Abby claims.). Some people don’t wear them because they work with their hands, like your grandpa, and some just don’t feel comfortable wearing them. Let’s be real though. D has never shown an aversion to wearing rings. He’s worn them quite often, even while playing a show (yes, but he also took them off.  It’s his prerogative.  Until he says he’s getting divorced, it’s none of our business). There was a time when the only time he DIDN’T have a ring on was while he was in character (so what? He has had his wedding ring on most times we’ve seen him. You are counting individual photos as entire days and that isn’t accurate)

That being said, let’s examine. When was the last time you think D fixed a car, operated heavy machinery, or, like your grandpa, fixed an AC unit or heater?  (You have no idea what he does in his spare time.  This is a gross comment-some people do things with their hands -build things- because they enjoy it)  (Maybe if he could do that, people wouldn’t be making their own sweat gravy when they go to TSG.)(So now we start with the lies and mischaracterizations. FUN. There are two comments from TSG claiming A/C was broken. Since likely Mia doesn’t own the building, she has no control over the A/C being broken). 

As I’ve already said, rings aren’t for everyone, but I’ve also pointed out that D has been an avid ring wearer most of his life, and there is more than enough photographic evidence to support this. Also, most couples that exchange rings don’t usually stop wearing them in the first year of marriage.(And he hasn’t stopped wearing his now has he?) That’s when it’s usually a point of pride and you want the world to know you are someone’s spouse. (Does Darren seem like the kind of person who is worried about “the world knowing he’s someone’s spouse”? He’s pretty open about his relationship and taking his ring off for an hour or two isn’t indicative of anything).

You know what DOES make a marriage less valid? No legitimate officiant.(LIE)  There are only a handful of states where you can officiate your own marriage, and guess what? Louisiana isn’t one of them.(He didn’t, Joe did)  You need an ordained minister and in addition to that, the minister must register in the parish where the marriage is taking place.

So, if this makes me a “narrow-minded fool,” so be it. I’ve been called worse. (It definitely does).  

ajw720 I needed to laugh this morning, thank you nonnie.(I would imagine you need to laugh a hell of a lot more than you do Abby)  You people really don’t get it (Oh lord).  Also, it isn’t JUST the ring (which is very suspicious especially as he deliberately takes it off at random times, there one minute gone the next) (Here abby argues it isn’t the ring.... except it is the ring) , it is as @cassie1022 pointed out, no officiant (LIE) , weird wedding algorithm (the fact that Abby truly believes there was a guest algorithm says everything there is to say about Abby’s judgment and the cc nonsense)  is FAMILY HONEYMOON (a joke)  constant babysitters (LIE) d’s complete lack of enthusiasm (he practically said he was bored and realized at the last moment that that was bad) (Desperate Abby, you're so desperate) , talked about pooping exes as opposed to how life changed with his bride (and you don’t get that this is was keep from speaking about his personal life? How long have you been a fan? Joking about something to distract from having to answer something private is spot-on Darren), speaks more passionately about his jacket then his wedding (we done got hitched) (This means nothing Abby...NOTHING. He wrote a boring post about his jacket and you’ve been losing your shit over it ever since. IT meant nothing...it was a coat he wore to an event. You only like it because he was boring and serious. It was the farthest thing from Darren I’ve ever read.), announced the engagement using a reference to the wrong freaking franchise (I can’t...this is one of your dumbest arguments out of a lot of arguments. It was a JOKE Abby, a joke.  He used the franchise that made the joke funny. Darren doesnt’ own a franchise)   , FIVE FUCKING encagement rings (LIE), the last of which is an advertisement that she is paid to wear and they haven’t even tried to hide this fact (LIE), utter lack of chemistry (again desperate Abby) , the weirdness with his non-relationship but clear friendship of sorts with his ex co-star (It’s not “weirdness” it’s a nonrelationship-you said it yourself). , the way she is promoted that is beyond excessive for someone who isn’t famous (This entire rant is unhinged. Nobody is promoting her, he’s living his life with her.  Like we expect he would with his wife. There is nothing untoward with their behavior together.  The fact that you have to label it “promotion” says that it worries you a lot). the fact that the sold their entire wedding to about 100 sponsors )(LIE) (I am sure there are more than we even realize), the clear references to fandom at the sham mockery (OMG Abby, give it up. Nobody cares about you), and that this allegedly private couple also released 85% of their wedding for public consumption (They released 27 photos. That is HARDLY 85% of their wedding. You saw a lot of the same photos posted by their friends and it upset you but they didn’t release 85% of their wedding. It was a 4-day event and the wedding events started at around 3 pm and lasted until after midnight -27 is not 85% of 10-ish hours of celebration).  

If it was ONLY that he randomly took his ring off depending on how the wind is blowing, fine, that is evidence alone of nothing.  All of these things, and hundred and hundreds of other facts (which are ALL LIES). (inconsistent timelines (Darren doesn’t owe you a “consistent timeline” that’s asinine)   they don’t know where they met each other RC handshakes (You know that isn’t a handshake- they were photographed together right before the “handshake’ you won’t let go of and he’s heard introducing her as his girlfriend ), D running from her every moment he can, etc, etc)(Whatever you tell yourself to sleep at night), are clear evidence it is fake that is beyond a reasonable doubt (Bwahahahahaha you are conning yourself Abby) .  Him kissing her in her bar is his job.  I suggest nonnie you pay attention to the details (Which ones- your lies or the real details?) And please pay attention to the captain, he hasn’t even been subtle lately, he has been fairly blatant (Le sigh, he isn’t the captain.  He’s a dude who loves his boyfriend Will and writes children’s books that are not cc Bibles) .

Happy Thanksgiving Nonnie!  I hope you can tear yourself away from reading blogs you disagree with long enough to enjoy your friends and family! Cheers!

notes-from-nowhere What love are you talking about, anon? M doesn’t love D and she makes this clear every chance she get (LIE- there is nothing that suggests MIa isn’t in love with Darren). Do I have to remind you how she denied to D’s mom one red carpet to celebrate her son? (LIE Abby fabricated)  Or to D’s dad to be honored for his military past?(another LIE Abby fabricated)  But why listing all of her actions when you know very well this is only the surface.

Btw, I still have to know a singer/actor lost a finger because of a wedding band. Anon, try again, this attempt failed. (SMH)

leka-1998 You know what I like about this instance in particular? Apart from the fact that the ring isn’t off the whole time, he’s still wearing the other one here.

After 284719 years, she should also know what the language D’s mom speaks is called. Seems she doesn’t care enough. (Another LIE that Abby fabricated) 

Also, former platonic roomie says hello. (LIE) 

ajw720

They still can’t explain away B/enny, the man D just praised for his new album yet D hasn’t even mentioned his brother’s (I can’t explain it but it has nothing to do with Darren and Mia.  You’re the one making it a problem) .  The man that mocked fandom on his IG by referring to M/oulin R/ouge when posting about the fraud in NOLA (Nobody-especially Ben Hudson- gives a shit about fandom Abby. You’re a nobody)  The man who seemingly officiated the wedding (Again a LIE)  And the one who appears to have a dog (yes he does, he lives with his girlfriend, Joanna, and their two dogs) . Hey remember just a few weeks ago when PBB dropped her teeth in the dog’s bowl? Funny as we know she and D don’t have a dog (Nope, they clearly don’t- stop trying so hard).…

[yaz-the-spaz]

I've had this question on my mind for a while but I don't know how to properly phrase it. So it's no secret that the music industry is BRUTAL (Sony in particular). And we've had music artists with far less fame and success than the boys describe it as "signing a deal with the devil" and many people say that the artists are pretty much slaves to the corporation. And we obviously know that the boys don't have it easy in the slightest, especially because they had to make a decision as big as (1/?)

as the one they did at such a young age. And it honestly terrifies me what they must go through. Like people really act shocked when these huge stars have struggles with drug addiction, mental health, etc. So we know that you basically get screwed over in the industry. I just wonder how people like Liam can still put on such a happy facade for the media, like in the fandom he’s the “sunshine” and he’s always smiling and happy even though we know the BS he’s put through. Why do you think (2/?)

Liam can still be portrayed that way. Like such a happy, cheery dude. Yet for Zayn it’s the total opposite? We obviously don’t know how they are privately, but the official narrative for Zayn in the media is that he’s down in the dumps, doesn’t leave his house, mostly silent on SM, just generally not happy. Which is why everyone’s always more concerned for him than they are the other boys. Wouldn’t they all be feeling the exact same about the shit situations they’re put in? Yet, why is it (3/?)

only Zayn who gets that somewhat dark rep. That sort of depressed, sickly perception (which I can’t help but presume is also racialized to an extent). It’s truly concerning how these boys are portrayed. And it’s even more concerning that people are so blind to the absolute hell these boys (and their own freaking families) are put through by the industry, by the higher-ups. It terrifies me. And there’s nothing we can do as fans but just sit and watch it unravel.

hey nonnie! i don’t wanna make this long so i’ll try to keep it short and say this, you make some very good points and i wholly agree with you that it is very problematic the different ways they’re portrayed and likely very much racialized to some degree, but the short answer here i think just largely comes down to two things: 1) personality differences, and 2) the fact that we just don’t see zayn as much as we see the other boys. liam’s able to present this happy, bubbly image because we see him doing that. we see him smiling and laughing and talking in ig stories and performing and doing interviews/promo, etc. on the contrary, we see zayn’s actual face like 5 times out of the year (i’m exaggerating ofc but you get what i mean) and even then it’s mostly for stunts or promo so ofc he doesn’t look particularly happy. i think if we saw more of him, even if it was just little snippets on social media here and there and not necessarily out in real time, he’d have more of a chance to combat that public image/narrative and wouldn’t be seen so much as a recluse who constantly radiates darkness and depression. we don’t even really see him hanging out with other people outside of gigi or people who work for him, or mayyybeee the occasional relative, so that unfortunately also contributes this idea of him as someone who’s lonely and depressed and has no friends and never goes anywhere/has any fun. all of that could easily be combated by just a few pics here and there of him just outside hanging out with people or even if he’s alone at least looking mildly happy and not like he has rbf to balance out all the times we see him stunting or looking unhappy, but we don’t get that ofc (though whether that’s by his choice or not who’s to say cause he does have every right to privacy) and so the narrative gets continued. butttt, all that aside, there’s also personality differences to take into account and i don’t mean that to say that zayn’s not just as bubbly and goofy as liam is cause we all know he can be, but he’s also not quite as outgoing as liam is and tends to be a bit more on the quiet/reserved side and i think that difference also plays into the different ways they’re seen and regarded (by both the fandom and gp) as well, esp b/c that reservedness often comes off to people (those who don’t understand it/aren’t introverts themselves) as standoffish which ofc only contributes further to that negative image/narrative of him as the unhappy lonely recluse 

to the question of how liam’s able to keep that facade up i think the answer is he just does his best. i think it’s pretty clear that some of that cheeriness may be, or has been, played up/put on for our benefit and we can even see quite clearly sometimes when he’s faking it, but he pushes through b/c he knows he has to and b/c he wants to succeed in this industry. it sucks but that’s what it is, that’s what you sign up for with any kind of performative field. i think zayn is less willing to do that (to put up that facade i mean), and again, i think that comes down to personality differences. liam’s always come off to me very much as a people-pleaser and someone who works extremely hard to try and satisfy everyone and make everyone happy, even (sadly) at detriment to himself sometimes. zayn (imho) seems to care a lot less about that lol. not saying he doesn’t care about it all, cause i mean he’s human (and an artist to boot) and we all care what ppl think of us to some degree, esp those of us in the arts/creative fields, just saying he seems to me to care a lot less about it than liam and not be so concerned about pleasing everyone as long as he’s doing something makes him happy and that he can be proud or that makes those close to him/those he cares (and that includes the fans too) happy and proud.

andddd of course this got long anyway…sorry…but anyway hope this answered your question well enough nonnie!

[onlymorelove]

How do you get the inspiration to begin a story, and how do you get the motivation to complete it?

Um, apologies in advance, but this got long. Peer beneath the cut if you want.

Good morning, Nonny. :) Thank you for the ask.

How do I get the inspiration to begin a story?

My inspiration for starting any story is tangled up in the reasons why I write:

1. I write because it’s fun. I enjoy it. It rarely feels easy, but I love, love, love words, and playing with them is just plain pleasurable. The rhythms of certain sentences, a unique snippet of description, a snatch of dialogue that sounds just right… GAH. I love words and writing :)

One of the most recent fics I wrote, some words build houses in your throat, grew out of three things: 

a. A poem by Nayyirah Waheed. When I decide I’m going to write, I often read somebody else’s work before I try to put down some of my own words. Reminding myself how words can look helps me.

b. A Tony Stark Bingo square for “missing scene” that I wanted to fill. 

c. An anonymous prompt that requested SteveTony + confession. 

Anyway, I looked at all that stuff. So when I started that story, I knew I wanted to write Avengers fanfic that related to those three things, but I had no specific plot or dialogue or destination in mind. Then I reread that poem, and because brains are funny and like to make all kinds of associations when given just a bit of input or stimulation, I started thinking about Avengers: Endgame and things Tony might have wanted or needed to confess but didn’t actually confess in the movie. I knew pretty quickly what I wanted Tony to confess to Steve, but I didn’t want to start off with that. Then Natasha popped into my head, and I started thinking about her and Tony’s relationship. I put down some words and then put down some more before I realized where it was I was trying to go. Very little of what is actually in that story was stuff I consciously thought about until I started typing. 

By the time I got to writing the part with Tony and Steve, I had decided that I wanted to address, in some tiny way, the fact that Steve’s Irish, and his parents emigrated from Ireland to the U.S. Also, my DH and I talk a fair amount about how blatantly racist the Trump administration’s policies are…Anyway, stories are like icebergs: you’ve got the actual text that you see on the surface, and you’ve got all the other research, subtext, and author-brain detritus that’s submerged in the (dark) water beneath. ;)

Brains like to make associations or react to things; give a brain some input in the form of a word prompt, dialogue prompt, a photograph, song lyrics, a melody, someone else’s fic or novel, a smell, or a random fact on the back of a cereal box, and that brain will travel somewhere. Not all those journeys will take you somewhere that ends up being a good story, of course. Not all my writing can be traced to a direct trigger, of course, but prompts and triggers definitely help my brain start going somewhere if I don’t already have a specific idea I’m working toward. If you want suggestions for prompt sites, books, and so on, just let me know. Happy to share. 

Asking “What if?” also helps. What if this character made one different choice? What if this character said this instead of that? What if this character lived instead of died?

2. From Maria Taylor’s “Time Lapse Lifeline,” which is a great song:

“Oh we dreamed a life

It was just like that, was just like that

And just like that, and just like that it’s done”

From the moment we take our first breaths, we are dying. None of us will make it out of this alive. I say this not to be morbid but because it’s true. In 2018, I lost my father and brother in a span of less than five months. For months afterward, I couldn’t write. I wanted to, but I couldn’t. It was a terrible feeling. But I kept trying because I start to feel itchy and grouchy if I go too long without doing it. And yes, there have been huge chunks of time when I haven’t written much at all. But experience has taught me that writing helps keep me functional and mentally healthy. Different people process life in different ways. Some people talk a lot with friends or family. Some people draw. But we all do something with the things we see and experience. For me, some of that processing is done through writing. 

So I write as an act of living because I am dying, and I don’t know when my time will be up.

3. More song lyrics for you because I’m annoying like that. From The Smashing Pumpkins’ “Bullet With Butterfly Wings”: 

“The world is a vampire, sent to drain

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Despite all my rage, I am still just a rat in a cage”Life is beautiful, but let’s face it, it’s also fucking hard, and while the systems we are parts of may differ depending on the country, etc., to some extent we are all rats in a cage or cogs in someone else’s machine. Oh, there are so many things we HAVE to do. The system(s) want us to sit down, shut up, go to school, work, pay taxes, sometimes raise kids, and so on. 

Well, I do or have done many of those things, but I don’t want to shut up. The sheer act of writing, of creating anything, is both an act of hope and subversion. 

So I write to rebel, just a little. 

3. Western canon, at least, is filled with straight white men’s voices. My fic is just fic; it’s not Great Literature ™, but I’m not straight, I’m not white, and I’m not a man. Still, I want to take up space in the world, too, damn it. Writing is one way I do that. 

How do I get the motivation to complete a story?

Well, I have tons of unfinished stories. Many of them I will finish, but there are a bunch that have been sitting there for years, incomplete, and will remain that way. :) The ones I’ve finished thus far I’ve finished through sheer force of will. That’s it. I made it like work: I not only want to finish this story, I have to. Also, I want to get better at writing, and the main way to get better at something is to do it over and over again. By “better,” I mean that I want to improve at writing stories that entertain myself and anyone else who happens to read them, and that also illustrate SOMETHING about what it means to be human.

(I have read more “how to write” books and articles than any sane person should read, and the main thing I’ve learned is that they keep me from actually writing.) So I tell myself that with every piece of writing I complete, I’m learning something, however small, even though every time I finish something, I’m convinced that I’ll never be able to write anything else—or at least anything else that’s “good.” The longer I go without writing, though, the harder it feels to restart, so I do my best not to stray for too long, or else I pay for it. 

My personal solution? Less focus on writing “good” stories or poems and more focus on doing the work—just continuing to write—and trusting that in the process, the writing will improve, even if it’s not by much.

This video sums up what I mean, and it’s had a meaningful impact on my writing philosophy, hell on my life philosophy. Finished, not perfect. 

The act of creating something, whether it’s a story or a painting, can bring up all kinds of anxiety. What works for me may not work for you, but it helps me a lot to acknowledge that I’m anxious but I’m going to keep pushing anyway. What’s my other choice? Stop writing and then later ask myself why I stopped? The years will pass and eventually I’ll be dead; why not accept the doubts and anxiety and take some risks in the meantime?I hope I haven’t overwhelmed you; I’ve tried to be honest and specific. If you want to chat some more, please send me another ask or DM me. I wish you luck with all your creative endeavors. If you want to make something, just BEGIN somewhere. Getting started is often the hardest part.