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jattendschaton · 6 months ago

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Some people are very good at talking to a group and creating an environment where all of them feel very welcome and proactively making sure people are included in all aspects of the conversation and then some people talk to a group as if they are trying to keep everyone divided? Like they are using inside jokes that only one person understands or talk in a guarded way that suggests they are everyone's closest confidant but no one else is allowed to know each other. No real point, I'm just thinking about how much I would rather be the first type of person but how much more common I think the second is

#bean talks #this isn't @ anything that is happening now or has happened recently #i was just thinking about a friend I havent talked to in years and how good she was at this kind of thing?#she'd get everyone in a discussion together and yeah maybe there would be something shed bring up that I wouldnt understand #but shed always turn to the people who didnt know and be like 'oh joe played pippin in our high school production btw'#it was just so nice and especially when i was the new friend it really made me feel welcomed and included #plus it just made it easier to talk to the other people because shed just be like #'omg you should tell bren your quantum joke. theyre studying physics and have so-and-so professor right now'#like it just took away so much tension and gave people a starting point #whereas now i feel like i walk into conversations as the person who doesnt know things and isnt allowed to know things #and maybe this is just my perception but i feel like younger people tend to be the worst about this?#like it seems as though younger people want to be viewed as 'in the know' with everyone by keeping others out ?#i'm sure that's not just a older/younger thing #it's probably very different for people who view themselves as more extroverted vs introverted #and just a general maturity level #but yeah idk i was just thinking i wanted to be better about that ahh

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