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starpros-sunshine · 2 months ago

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You know. I'm part of the fraction "to each their own and let people handle their lives however they see best fit". But I do feel the need to say that I have seldom seen such an idiotic assumption as that breaking up with someone four days before someone's birthday when you also want that someone to do something for their birthday even though you know you and your soon-to-be-ex will both have to be there won't end with that person just not doing anything with anyone for their birthday. Partially because nobody wants that kind of awkwardness after a fresh breakup and also because the soon-to-be-ex has the lovely habit of wallowing in self pity and making everything about how they have it so bad. You know I just think in such cases you should've waited a week with the breakup. I don't care how much you want to fuck that other guy but I really think you should've waited a week.

#delete later #sigh why always me...#can't somdone else get the complicated people for once #annoying #the soon-to-be-ex complained today in the group chat that nobody wouod ever go to a pub with him #when that is literally not the case #we would all go? he just never asked? and anytime someone else wants to go party or jusz out 90% of the time the answer is no?#I've known that guy for 13 years now and somehow it just does not get easier #like? anytime someone else asks him it's always “no i don't want to” but then you complain about how nobody would want to do anything #the call coming from inside the house is all I'm saying #'' oh but I couldn't go anyways I wouldn't fit“ ''why? nobody cares about random strangers thats usually not how people work''#'' thats not true'' ''they literally don't care though.'' ''not when that person looks 13'' ''yeah no they still literally wouldn't care''#''they would'' ''they wouldn't. people never do. why would they make an exception for you?'' and then no answer to that #because you can't argue against that anymore without having to confront the fact you're wrong #but then I'm getting told im not empathetic enough #i know i lack empathy I'm aware but I do make an attempt for serious situations. i just don't think stuff like that is serious.#especially when i once mentioend i think my father thinks I'll end up living off of state wellfare and become a disappointment #and the only reply to that was ''how did he arrive at that really likely assumption?'' my brother in christ do not complain to me about lack #of empathy I'm not the one telling people their fears of becoming the family disappointment are well founded and realistic #I'm not even going to excuse that through some ''oh autism'' stuff like no thats just tactless and mean #or all the condescending comments whenever i go out to ''party''#it's just drinking with some people i know it's not really partying #but I'm not the one looking down on people for experiencing stuff #contrary to popular assumption I'm actually really cool and i know that. that's why people ask me to do stuff with them.#because i don't say no 99% of the time and then complain that nobody would ever want to do something with me when that's just plain wrong #i also totally get why she wants to break up #how do you actively refuse to meet your partners friends for half a year and expect that to not become an issue.#how do you actively say you're not interested in doing anything for your partner and expect that to last #how do you whine about being a bad partner but never attempt to do better #i wish i could defend him here but i can't that dude is a horrible boyfriend

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