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[wildskissed]

I think this is just a good time (as I'm seeing a lot of other people address it), that I also address some of my rules that I don't think everyone has read. I feel like it's especially a good idea given the amount of canons that I interact with, and just in general because I don't want anyone to be uncomfortable with anything. I want this to be everyone's safe space so...

I DO interact with some people that write triggering topics that I don't myself engage in.

I don't really believe that writing controversial topics automatically makes you a bad person, and I don't believe in what the purity police culture has become. I am very firm that I don't write r*pe or inc*st, but I do engage with mutuals that do that with other people within their other fandoms. It's not my job to tell people what to do, and since my boundaries have been respected, I choose to live and let live. However, I know that some topics can be extremely sensitive to people, so if that bothers you, it's very important that you curate your space for you so that YOU feel safe. If that means needing to block me so you don't see particular urls of people you don't want to interact with, then you should. I won't be upset about it. You matter the absolute most, and I need you to understand that.

I DON'T do exclusivity in any form.

My in real life romantic partner also RPs on here with me, and we RP together in just about every fandom we are part of. We decided years ago, that exclusively only shipping with each other was silly (it's just our personal preference to not), so we don't do it. Even when we're on canon blogs (this is not my only blog, just my main at the moment), we ship with other characters that aren't each other's characters because we're here to write. No one writes a character exactly the same. Another Catwoman they ship with, isn't the same as my Selina Kyle. Another Yennefer they ship with isn't the same as my version of Yennefer. I think because of that, I got used to just...letting chemistry between characters and other writing partners dictate the ships that I write. It's why I have always practiced "mains" instead, and given those people admittedly a little more attention than everyone else. My partner's characters would of course, get PRIORITY, but that didn't--and doesn't--at all mean I wouldn't/won't write with other people. Maybe RPing since 2006 has made me set in my ways or something, but that's just what is comfortable for me.

That's not for everyone though, so it's important that we all communicate. I'm okay shipping with multiple versions of the same character because I have always been okay with it in the past (again I practice mains, and I do this on my other accounts even as a canon), but I know that this idea of "collecting" characters has become big in the RPC now. That in shipping/writing with a bunch of the same character, that is immediately some faux paus now. I don't want you to feel that you are being disrespected, so I do try to make sure I'm acquainted with everyone's rules when we're writing together, but sometimes I miss stuff. I'm only human. I also go out of my way to make every starting interaction PLATONIC, unless it has been discussed beforehand, out of respect for not just auto shipping with every canon of a character I like--I wouldn't do that anyway, but I know the problem that I run into sometimes is that I'm also cool with things just being thrown out into the ether and us trying things out between our characters to see if they'd just mesh well. I'm in that way, very ship positive, and sometimes, that does end up with me shipping with two or three of the same canon and just prioritizing my mains, while still writing with everyone. I'm here to write, and to have fun, not to get stressed out--this is my HOBBY. I am too old to take this so seriously that it ruins my day. I work six days a week, so when I'm here, I'm here to create beautiful things with you guys, I'm not here for Junior High level drama.

Again, though, your comfort is always the most important to me. I'm honestly not just saying that. I think that boundaries are incredibly important, and I think that communication is KEY to this even though it's a hobby. We're all trying to enjoy this together, so if this bothers you, platonic interactions are still so important to me, and they can be some of the BEST threads, and the BEST relationships that our muses can have. Unrequited relationships and the like are also fun to explore, so it's not like we can't figure something out if my pointing these out from my rules has made you want to curate your space accordingly, and yet you still want to write. If we need to change our characters' dynamics, I am open to that, and if you need to cut ties completely for your own comfort, I'm open to that too, even though I really do appreciate all of you, and don't want to lose any of you.

For now, that's all I have to say, as this is already too long, so if anyone wants to talk about it privately, just let me know.

[wildskissed]

I do, do iconless threads.

Some of you already know this because I do them with you, but I honestly have no problem whatsoever dropping the icons. I made my icon template, and I swear I screencap Eve every five minutes when I play so I have icons galore, but I don't have to use them. I will probably always answer memes with them because I can, and I certainly use them for my opens and with partners that do prefer icons, but I'm honestly so flexible about icons. I care more about the INTERACTIONS at the end of the day, than I care about anything else.

[wildskissed]

Hey guys! I've got a couple of Anons in my inbox and I wanted to address them with a whole PSA. Starting with: I do not do callouts. I do not participate in them. I do not believe in them. I strongly stand by the RPC has been using callouts just to trash people they don't like for years, and I have yet to come across one in my actual interacting with people, that actually protects people. They instead just police people and who they interact with and what they write, and I'm not about that kind of censorship, especially not in 2023.

Now, you all have the right to be comfortable. You have the right to write with who you want, write what you want, etc...but you do NOT have the right to tell other people who they should write with, or what they should write. I understand that the Nonnie's in my inbox are just trying to "protect" me, and it's appreciated, but I'm much too old to police what people write and who they write with, and I'm far too old to be policed myself. I'm also too old to not follow people just because they write some things that I definitely don't. As long as people are respecting each other's boundaries, we shouldn't be turning into the other fandoms.

BG3 has been such a RELIEF, honestly, and I'd love to see it not become like the other RPCs, by placing the rot of this drama and having it grow to the point where everyone is miserable. I'd like to see a lot less callouts, a lot less DNIs, and a lot more living and let living happening. Again, by all means make yourself comfortable, but don't tell me what to do or who to do it with. I've been writing for decades--I'm actually a published author--and Fiction =/= Reality. People write for a whole manner of reasons and sometimes the stuff they write that would squick you or even I out, someone else is using to deal with trauma, or they just want to explore it. That does NOT make them horrible people, and just because you don't like what they're writing? Doesn't EVER give you the right to police them, their content, or the people around them just because you don't like it.

Unless it is life or death...or it would actually cause someone harm, we need to be better. So many of us here are like me, in their 30's, and we are too OLD for this. We're too old to be told what to do, and who to hang out with just because someone else doesn't like something. I honestly adore all of you, and I want to write with all of you, and yeah, I'm following a couple of people that write stuff I would never write...but they also tag things I can blacklist and vice versa. They're respecting my boundaries, I'm respecting theirs, and that's no one's business but ours, honestly.

So, again, I appreciate both Anons trying to protect me, I do, but I'm a big girl, and I'm not going to post what they said. I'm not going to cut off contact with the people I'm following just because you don't like who I'm writing with. I read everyone's rules before I follow, and as long as again, boundaries are being respected, nothing NEFARIOUS is happening, and everyone can chill. I'm not going to be part of the drama, and if that bothers people, then it's okay if you choose not to write with me. I don't mind. I'm just far too old to be dealing with this, and it would be cool, if anyone who is going to start stuff, could just choose to not, instead of turning this fandom into chaos like the others. No one wants that. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.