#{ASK MEME}「Step It Up」

[asthedeathoflight]

Still thinking about none houses left grief, and while I understand where people are coming from, "it took me out of the world" is just... Really not a relevant criticism here. Like, that line is SUPPOSED to be jarring. It is supposed to be kind of darkly funny, but the point isnt for you to laugh. Its not trying to be a punchline. The point of that line IS to "take you out of the world" because the point is that *this world isn't what you thought it was.*

[r0semultiverse]

[thedisablednaturalist]

It's awful when I'm on the job and an elderly person asks me for help bending over/picking something up especially when they ask so nicely.. I haven't been able to find a polite way to refuse. It's hard being the designated young person when you're invisibly disabled

[finniestoncrane]

I agree, 🐹

ok yeah let's get back to hamster chat, everyone put me in your pocket i am SENSITIVE and i need a NAP 💚💚💚

[samuelroukin]

Thinking abt how tdhmt has like everything anyone could ask for. Vampires, mind threesomes, rimming, pits, scenting, breeding, cum swapping like damn you’re feeding us well

lkdhdgsjdhs thank you, i aim to please 😏 well other than the piss thing..... but they had to get a little weird with it lmao

[fleshcarverfugitive]

"So. We're gonna need to have a talk about a fun little goddess with a portfolio of spiders and chaos by the name of Lolth...."

four bingos is CRAZY ))

[bumblingbabooshka]

T’Pring Memes 

[ekingston]

For the WIP game!

Robe

how is there only a SINGLE instance of this word across every single one of my drafts, and it’s one that’s no longer a WIP?

from the jury duty AU

[polysyndetonaddictsupportgroup]

Not gonna lie Frank is looking mighty dad shaped at the moment like I know Peter would not allow Frank to be his uncle because that title belongs only to Ben but rereading the kintsugi the part which Frank tells Peter to call him Pete and Peter thinking people will make assumptions of Frank being his father got to me.

Frank is absolutely becoming an important figure in peters life. I think I would respectfully disagree with any like, genuine attempts to analogue him with peters father though.

Spoilers for punisher seasons 1 + 2 below.

As a like, disclaimer, I’m soooo aware that being a dad is more of a meme in fandom than genuine attempts to say someone is the functional father of someone, but also it does crop up in genuine contexts too, and I don’t know if you mean in more of the general like, vibes sense or in a more literal “Frank is becoming his father as an actual relationship development” kind of way. I built my brand on taking things way too seriously however, so I’m gonna like, delve into this as if it were.

Frank is the most stable adult influence in Peter’s life right now, and I’m going to somewhat include May in that. That’s not because May is somehow failing to be a stable adult for Peter, but more because Peter has purposefully cut her out from access to parts of his life in a misguided attempt to protect the last family he has left to him. And that’s a decision that has pretty severe consequences for Peter’s mental health.

The decision to sort of phase May out of full involvement in Peter’s life predated Spider-Man; however, Spider-Man turned this from a sort of gradual decrease of information he shared to an extremely abrupt stop. We know that, for whatever reason, Peter did not tell May or Ben when he first got his powers. If it was physically painful or even just noticeable, he did not tell them about the probable medical emergency, but even if we just assume he went to bed normal and woke up with abs, he did not walk into the kitchen the next morning and announce he could stick to walls now. Ideally speaking, kids should be going to their parents about that kind of shit. Peter didn’t. So we know something’s just not exactly right with Peter’s relationship with May and Ben.

Usually, that’d be a bit of a red flag with abuse. Frank actually had a moment where he suspected as much, and Peter flipped his shit on him, so he knows it's not that. But whatever the cause, Peter's been without an adult influence to rely on for a while.

And, psychologically speaking, that's fucked him up pretty thoroughly. Peter's been taking on stresses that are way worse than most adults ever face, and he's been doing it without having the support that kids really need. That's compounded by the fact that he's still reeling from one of the biggest pillars of support in his life, Ben, just got ripped out entirely.

Frank's relationship with peter has developed on an incredibly quick timeline because he's been able to occupy that empty space that parents usually are meant to be in. In that respect, he's acting in a lot of the ways a dad is supposed to, by being that sort of adult figure Peter can go to as a reliable source of support. Peters finally buckling under the pressure now that he finally has someone who can help take some of it off of him, which quickens the development of their relationship.

But at the end of the day, that does not change the fact that it’s only been two weeks. Peter hated him for the first week of it. They’re very much in the infancy of their relationship, so like, genuine fatherhood is a good long way off.

I’m a big believer in the fact that there’s no substitute for time in relationship develop. That’s not to say that relationships can’t develop on different timelines, but there’s a very practical reality that figuring out the boundaries and dynamic of a relationship is something that develops over multiple interactions and needs time to do. Peter and Frank are still at the stage where Peter’s struggling to figure out if he can ethically have Frank in his life and Frank is struggling to figure out how to be in Peter’s life when his objective goal is still to get peter to stop being spider-man. They need a lot of time still to figure out who they are to each other.

The other thing about time in a relationship is that it’s really going to be the thing to build trust. Trust isn’t exclusively built by time, but it’s still important. Frank and Peter have started to build some trust between them, but it’s still young. Frank, specifically, only got peter to start to trust him when he helped out with the Calloways. Peter only started building trust that same night when Frank started to understand why Peter did what he did.

When you’re in someone’s life, especially to the degree that a father and son would be, then you’re going to get into conflict with them. You’re going to disagree, fight, cross boundaries. Or you’re going to need to be vulnerable to someone, and you have to decide if they’re a safe person to do so with.

Time where you can build up a consistent basis of trust and understanding is what helps you weather that. There’s going to be fuck ups. That’s part of being human. If you have spent a long time developing a relationship, people are going to have a better time grappling with those fuck ups, figuring out how to navigate it, and then moving towards forgiveness. If you really trust someone, then there’s more stability and reliability to fall back on when they do something that hurts you. If you haven’t had that time? Then it risks destroying the relationship entirely.

We’re still seeing that develop with Frank and Peter. We have yet to see if they can even last, let alone make it to father/son.

I don't want to say that I have compunctions with how fandom treats relationships, because that is suggestive of like, a higher degree of dislike than I actually have. It's just not my style. A lot of fanfiction or fanon has people going from 0 to 100 really really fast. You go from just having met to being the most important and trusted people in each other's lives in a few days. You're madly in love in the span of a few interactions. Characters hand out trust that isn't really earned yet and act more comfortably with people than they objectively should. With Peter especially, you have him like, calling people 'Dad' or being like, really comfortable accepting physical affection from them almost immediately or he's like, really quick to seek comfort and support from whatever adult is around. It just all happens on a weirdly fast timeline.

And I want to be clear--there's nothing wrong with liking to write that or read that. It's fanfiction. We're all doing this shit for free, and sometimes you want to get to the found family part everyone's showed up for without trudging through 100k words of boundary negotiations and relationship development.

It's just not how i like to write? I'm a slow burn person. I need a bunch of build up or i'm not satisfied in the pay off. toy rosaries is 45k words and counting because i wanted to write one fucking scene. i'm holding myself hostage. I could not bring myself to write frank and peter as father/son on this timeline even if i wanted to.

They also have the added hurdle of their own trauma around parents and children.

With Frank, it's pretty obvious--he loves kids, it's undeniable. He was great with Zach and Leo, would die for Amy, and even had a cute moment with Rex in the diner. He gets attached to his kids, acts parental with them, and would straight up die for them. Peter's well in that same territory now.

I think we still have to ask if he would be able to be an explicit father/son relationship given his lasting trauma around his own kids.

It could go either way, honestly--it would depend on how someone wanted to take their relationship development. The thing is, Frank wants to be a dad--but he wants to be his kids' dad. The debilitating loss he feels from his children's death is absolutely central to his character--and it's pretty clear he's not even close to getting over it. First off, he's living like a fucking goblin in the seedy underbelly of new york. that's not an emotionally healthy decision. But secondly, he's established time and time again that he's not ready to really heal from his family's death. He picked the Punisher over going with his family when he went up against Agent Orange. Season 2 opens with Frank's revenge complete, experiencing that great, peaceful family dynamic with Beth and Rex--and then he's killing a room full of people by the end of the episode. Undeniably, he loved Amy--but he still sends her off to live in Florida with someone else. He could have gone with her. He had finished his newest war entirely. There wasn't any immediate danger of staying with her. He could have asked her if she'd like to set up shop somewhere new, with him, new names, new pasts, new lives, as father/daughter. Instead, he ships her off and fully becomes the Punisher.

The Punisher is a part of Frank, and it's not exclusively a product of what happened to his family. But it's impossible to remove his grief from who the Punisher is. Being a dad means putting the kid first, picking the kid first, and it's not really clear what would win if it really came down to being a stable influence for Peter and giving up his war or staying with his mantle.

It's particularly difficult when you consider the parallels between Peter and his son. Frank didn't really have regrets around Lisa, save that she died and that he did not read the book to her the night before. He didn't visibly regret the state of his relationship with her when she passed--in fact, most of how he talks about her suggests their bond was incredibly close.

His son, though, is almost exclusively shown in canon to be in conflict with Frank, and it's something that Frank displays visible regret over. He seems to constantly wish he could have been a better father to Frank Jr.

Peter, like Frank Jr, spends a lot of time in conflict with Frank. They don't see eye to eye. They bump heads. Peter disobeys him every chance he gets. And Frank's really, really trying not to repeat old mistakes, but it still begs the question whether he could bring himself to be the kind of father to Peter that he never could be to Frank Jr. How would that feel? Would it feel like a betrayal of Frankie? Would he be haunted by the fact that he couldn't be like this with his own son? It'd be a long, painful road to figure that out.

Is it possible that Frank could be someone's father again? I think so. But he needs to do a lot of healing that he's just not done yet.

Peter, likewise, is in a state where he'd need an enormous amount of healing to have another father.

I think with Ben particularly we need to distinguish from Dad as a title and Dad as a role. Peter Parker, whatever universe he's in, does not call Ben "Dad." He calls him uncle--but calling someone "uncle" does not dispositively indicate that that's the role they fill for you.

And there's no real definitive right answer as to what Peter considered Ben to be. Life is messy. Peter's relationship with Ben and his father is honestly fascinating. Peter went to live with Ben at a young age--but not so young that he didn't have defined roles of "Mom" and "Dad" already filled. He never tried to call Ben and May mom and dad. But it's indisputable that the larger influences on his life were May and Ben. He's spent more time with may and ben than he ever did his parents. It's their moral code that defines his character. By every functional sense of the word, Ben and May Parker are his acting parents, but they never cross into parenthood by title.

If you lean into the comic book death of the Parkers, it's especially interesting when you take in Ben's likely confused feelings on this. His brother died in the most obvious cover-up known to man. They were murdered, their plane was sabotaged, and Ben can't do anything about that except raise his brother's son. His brother won't get the chance to be Peter's father throughout his life. He won't get to be there for Peter's graduation, birthdays, wedding--all those things Ben thought he'd live to see. Richard's death is this horrible source of constant, aching injustice, and instead of getting that justice for him, Ben gets what Richard should have gotten to experience--would he have felt guilty taking the title of Dad too? At the end of his life, did he regret never telling Peter that he was his son?

Does Peter regret never telling Ben that he was his father?

Ben is meant to be this horrible, aching space in the narrative. The death was recent and the pain is fresh. Peter lost someone who was one of the biggest if not the biggest influences in his life. Could he want another father figure one day? Honestly, I have no idea. He's already lost two. But he definitely would not be ready right now. If you offered him a new father figure right now, he'd say he doesn't want them--he wants his uncle, and that's the person he simply cannot have.

This isn't to diminish Frank and Peter's relationship--it's just that it's very messy, fresh, and has a lot of space to grow. Are they important to each other? Absolutely. Is Frank Peter's father right now? No, and they both would need a lot of character development and healing if they were ever to get to that point.

[hedgehoghavoc]

Hi, I'm Missile (25 y/o and EST based). You may know me from such RP blogs as @scumbag-the-hedgehog, where I write a canon divergent iteration of Sonic's evil double, Scourge.

You can find all the relevant tags on this post for your navigational purposes. Looking forward to roleplaying with you!

[venacoeurva]

19 and 23 for Teldryn/Wren

Long so gonna go under a readmore

19. What values do they not share? How do they reconcile those differences?

There's a lot. But because both are stubborn and opinionated but not forceful in this sense, so this often just involves them shrugging and knowing the other won't compromise certain major things. Neither are great at talking about their feelings until it's extremely necessary or very emotionally charged. I have a feeling that's just what they do in general.

Aside from Teldryn growing up involved in and surrounded by Dunmeri culture, rhetoric, and traditions whereas Wren never really did (aside from Cyrodiilized versions, which he hardly saw anyway), Wren is significantly more jaded with the gods and princes after the events of MW and the whole prophecy thing was a point of anxiety with him, as it always is. Religions differ with them, but are willing to get involved with one thing or another without going full worship or praises and tweak some things for the others' comfort. Wren generally doesn't care what Teldryn does on a religious front, but obviously the werewolf thing is a little more dangerous and risky so he takes extra precautions, if nothing else for Teldryn's peace of mind. While this could be a major dealbreaker for some, I don't see either as being more pious than the average denizen and they know they're definitely not saints and curiosity plays into it, I'm sure.

Generally, they're pretty adaptable but let each other do their own for the most part.

23. What was their first impression of each other?

There's two instances of this, but the first time was very brief. During the fallout of the Red Year, they were both on the mainland of Morrowind with rescue/restoration efforts and mercenary work. Wren was there on a contract as well as acting as a restoration mage. He "coincidentally" ran into Teldryn in a bar one evening and watched some drunk people start beefing, to which Teldryn made some dry remark about them and Wren decided to keep the conversation going...because Teldryn looked extremely similar to his target, so the goal was to get him alone and somewhere private. Fortunately, Wren realized pretty quickly he wasn't the target so Teldryn didn't get a blade through his windpipe, but they were at the getting their clothes off stage so it was a close shave.

Wren thought he was street smart albeit a bit sheltered and a faking til you made it type confidence at the time (though, granted, they were in the middle of a goddamn ecological disaster) and saw no point in going through with the kill to avoid witnesses, and let it just be a hook up. Teldryn thought Wren was intriguing but clearly closed up and reluctant to actually socialize--he did think Wren's throat scar was really cool, though. Other than that I'd imagine they just faded from each other's minds as a random hookup in the middle of some bullshit to get some stress out of their system and have a warm body next to them for a night.

They didn't recognize each other until a bit later after a few "don't I know you?"s back and forth while they went about their business, but in 201 was when they had continuous interaction with each other after Dusk recommended Teldryn to Wren for some quick work of getting Dwemer metal out of a ruin to make his leg with. Wren felt kind of bad because that shit's heavy and his leg was getting worse so he wouldn't be carrying as much as he normally would, so he tripled Teldryn's pay and gave him some strength potions and half of whatever gold they found. Teldryn was, naturally, very happy with this compared to his regular rate lmao. Wren was pretty neutral about him in general with no real strong thoughts about him, but figured he must be cool if Dusk liked him, if a little obnoxious (which he is, but now Wren just finds it endearing). Initial combat impressions was both were impressed with each other and wouldn't mind sparring in their spare time, but Teldryn didn't expect Wren to go full parkour with knives levels of combat later once he got his prosthetic done and on him

[themissilesilo]

Temporary Pinned!

Until I get a proper promo set up, this is going to be my pinned. Finally have the rules and muses page set up, so feel free to peruse! Fair warning, activity is sporadic.

Rules + Muses

[silversiren1101]

"💎💎💎"!!

[Diamonds time!]

Kadira

Bright joy widens Minovae's expression. "Kadee! Oh", she lays a hand over her breast. "'Big Sister Kadee', so brave and strong and kind, ready to lower her chin and butt horns with whoever's messed with her flock. Bless her heart."

She clicks her tongue, and grins a little devilishly.

"Because Hells does she need it. It's a miracle she hasn't started going grey yet with how much pressure she puts on herself to keep everything going. It's like looking into a mirror sometimes, you know? Like a reminder to take a break."

A shake of her head and coil of her tail conveys her affection... and a sense of exasperation. "She's wonderful, and I love and trust her dearly, I really do. I've also thought about knocking her out and making her take a break through less diplomatic means but that'd just make her more stubborn, I'm sure. Anyway, it's nice to have a Shelynite in the company that has a bit more sense and realistic expectations about them. Probably because she's also a right genius--intimidatingly so, even. I've tried to read a few of her books before and I was only reminded of how poorly educated I am!"

She laughs. It's genuine.

"She never makes anyone feel bad about it, though. It's refreshing. Most learned spellcasters of her caliber tend to have chip on their shoulder about their combination of effort and talent. She's humble, though. Maybe a little too humble, since she hardly accepts a compliment and seems to think herself a nuisance and a bother despite being-" she gestures "-everything that she is. Her self-doubts are neither here nor there though. Bottom line is we get along."

She sucks at her lips a second, hesitating.

"Mostly. Sometimes we disagree about... the law... the gods... justice... lots of things actually. It's never fights but, woof, let's just say we both get a little passionate about the things we believe in!"

[hourcat]

piarles! butt plugs 🔌

THE PLUG EMOJI LMFAOOOO

anyway. YEAH you're right. conventionally, pierre just wants charles to be ready whenever he asks...but also. maybe. perhaps. charles, for his birthday, asks pierre if they can try something...and it's pierre and a plug....charles doesnt even necessarily want to fuck him, he just wants to...get inside him

[fleshcarverfugitive]

Did it for the lolz, I'm surprised how she's scoring high in every bingo I've seen so far lol @harpershigh

"So your limit, beyond siblicide and destroying a House of noble Drow, is trace amounts of poison. Good to know, crow."

she loves you jaheira i promise i'm just giggling at that being one of Two squares left unchecked LMAO ))

[oflights]

Ask game:

Healer draco and wandmaker harry! Also, fics with the kids included!

*i love your works!*

thank you, dear! that's super sweet.

for healer draco

A: Love it. Spend my time combing AO3 for it.

looove this, it's such a fun career path for him (and harry, for that matter!!). my toxic trait confession is that years ago i wrote a long healer draco series that i took down for various reasons, partially because i was like. 20ish and still figuring my writing shit out. it's still passed around online from time to time. ANYWAY, my point is that i had a lot of fun building a whole workplace world and cast of characters for st. mungo's and so i really enjoy reading healer draco fics where that world is well-developed!!

for wandmaker harry

A: Love it. Spend my time combing AO3 for it.

again, such a fun career path!! i'm pretty easy for virtually any fic where harry's not an auror and i love stories that center on him building a post-hogwarts life that still involves a fascination and wonder with magic, that allows him to keep learning too, so wandmaker always fits that nicely!

for kidfic

C: Neutral. A good author might be able to sell it, but a bad one will kill it deader than dead.

the only reason this isn't an A or B is because i tend not to love next-gen centric/epilogue compliant fics (or namely, fics where the epilogue setup is centered). which is not to say i never like those and absolutely do enjoy some of them, but they're not my preference.

however, kidfics that exist outside of the epilogue dependencies are my absolute jam. harry raising teddy is a personal fave, and i also really love a good draco + kid (EWE scorpius or otherwise) + stepdad-ish harry dynamic, that just hits me where i live every single time!! hjp as the dad who stepped up meme?? that's the stuff right there.

if there are any other tropes you're interested in, ask me to grade tropes! (especially big drarry ones)