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fucking-relax · 2 years ago

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for those ready to level up in their journey to fucking relax (i'm still working on learning the first bit, so i understand if you're also not there yet):

also, boundaries are good

and boundaries are necessary

clearly communicating what you will do in a Situation... 👍

it is alright to have boundaries

it is alright to say no

it is alright to keep boundaries

#gods i dunno how to word that last one other than a thumbs up;;;;; as i said. im not there yet #but i woke up to see some additions from folks elsewhere on their social learning journey and figured i may as well generalize it #and perhaps define it a bit too. like i guess the next step after this is to learn how to establish boundaries #which is like Extremely context dependent i think. all tho is a form of communication #specifically what *you* are going to do #WHENEVER I ESTABLISH THESE BOUNDARIES THO!!! i cant help but think 'wow this is awful i am mean'#You Are Not Mean. This is Not Awful. it is alright (easier to accept). it is good (hard to accept). it is necessary (makes sense ngl)#some boundaries ive set before is like: 'i will answer work correspondences during work hours'#and 'if you refuse to use my pronouns then i will refuse a relationship with you'#and 'please ask first before hugging me and dont get mad if i say no'#ya know. ''mean'' stuff like that...... sigh #ah that last example doesnt have a What i Will Do cause honestly i have no idea #i haven't really had unwanted hugs since ive left the Community That Constantly Hugs Everyone Even If They Dont Know You #so i havent HAD to think about it nor even wanna share how my brain/body bundle reacts to it. we can burn that bridge if we get there?#as i said. im still working on it akxbajxb #<- there some 4am oversharing for y'all

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