#/nbh for the disclaimer bit i feel like that came off as more aggressive/targeted than i intended it to

[mx-misty-eyed]

under the cut cuz this is prob gonna be long

when i first got into fandom spaces i didn’t tell people my gender, which i convinced myself was because of privacy/internet safety lmao. but some people would assume i was a girl which felt really weird/uncomfortable for me. so then i started telling people i used they/them and it just felt better than being referred to as a girl

for a while i id’d as nonbinary; i didn’t think i was a trans guy because i guess that was harder to accept right away. when i started coming out to people (in particular teachers/classmates) i told people they could use he/him if they didn’t get they/them, because some people wouldn’t and i figured id rather people call me he than she. over time i started to realize that i actually really liked it, so while i’ll accept they/them if someone insists on using it for some reason i typically only tell people (especially people irl) that i use he/him these days.

looking back, it was quite obvious lol. i stopped wearing dresses when i was two, when i played games with my brother i would always be a boy, and i wanted a short haircut like my dad’s when i was a kid. i was never into ‘girly’ things and most of my friends were guys.

however, these are my personal experiences and are not necessarily universal. id like to emphasize that if someone identifies as nb, you should take their word for it and refer to them as such. being nb is not always a gateway to id’ing as binary trans (and, sometimes, it can be the other way around. or you could get it right the first time. who knows, it’s been years and i still dont think i’ve gotten it right). also, i suppose it’s worth mentioning that while i refer to myself as a trans guy the label that most resonates with me is just ‘transmasc’ + i also do id as genderqueer/queer/etc

in addition, it’s not necessary to have had childhood experiences like the ones i described to id as trans. while some people (including myself) may try to express their gender identity the best they could as a child w limited vocabulary/understanding, others may try to almost repress(?) it by leaning more into their agab. or you could just like painting your nails or having short hair or whatever; personal preferences aren’t necessarily an indication of your gender identity

obligatory disclaimers out of the way, id like to close out by saying that labels don’t have to be permanent. if you’d like to id a certain way for now but then later decide that it doesn’t fit you anymore, that’s totally okay and, based on ppl i know irl, happens as much as (if not more than) not. experimenting with pronouns/names is just what it sounds like—experimenting. it’s meant to help you better understand yourself and doesn’t have to be (and imo, shouldn’t be) taken seriously or like it’s something permanent

Hello funny little trans people in my phone

i recently started questioning my gender. if its not too much to ask i would like to know how you came to the realisation as i think it would benefit me, If you dont want to share thats fine and completely understandable, if you do end up answering please do it via reblog or comments and not through my DM's

Thank you

emo