#//without me butting in

[sheepgirlmaidtummy]

for an extremely long time i couldn't get into fantasy as a genre because its so very racist and i wish i could say that its different now but. if anything its just easier to see than before

[deoidesign]

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[cerealbishh]

"I'm gonna help Olympia!"

[kuroo-hitsuji]

(Minor?) NB Spoilers (lesson 35 (normal))

I'm losing it over the fact that I spent literally the Entire beginning of the train dinner situation telling my partner that I was gonna throw Lucifer out the fuckin window

And then Mephisto shows up and Lucifer says something about fucking throwing him out the window--

Please this Keeps happening fjsjgdxj stop stealing my lines, asshole

[eccentricmya]

tfw your parent declares "you're never gonna find anyone with that attitude of yours" because they cannot bring themselves to love you unconditionally, so they think nobody else will

[skylark325]

taking make up off after a long day is way harder than it should be

[longstoryshqrt]

i cant believe mike wheeler is played by finn wolfhard and people are still wondering if he kisses boys or not

[loverofallthingssmart]

oh they weren’t kidding..those lofi study beats really can study

[heybaetae]

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[youremyonlyhope]

Hey universe, can you stop putting me in situations where I notice a miscommunication between two people and have to make the decision about pointing it out and possibly inserting myself into drama that doesn't involve me, or not telling them and letting it play out possibly badly for someone I care about? Please? Because this happens way too often.

[gregmarriage]

one thing that’s always confused me is identity policing and all that shit. i’m a nonbinary lesbian and people probably think that’s confusing and contradictory or whatever. babe, you’re literally just adding to the shitpile i had to wade through when i was a kid and thought i had to be a certain way to be a lesbian or just be in the lgbt community in general. you’re making it soooo fucking hard for kids/ppl starting to figure things out to understand themselves and it PISSES ME OFFFFF

[navramanan]

I go through these short periods of time feeling very okay and good even only bc i distract myself from what pains me until it catches up again and the cycle repeats itself

[globby]

A maybe insane habit that i have is that the only way I can pick out what book to read next is to like dowse with my arm or feel the energy with my hand to see what book feels right otherwise it’ll take me weeks to get through

[comediakaidanovsky]

okay i might have to create a supercut of all cm punk chants from the past month or so because it’s driving me insane

[the-dragon-folk]

I’ve always kinda visualized Partha giving a lot of affectionate head butts. Where I think Partha exiled princess Dog Girl of orzammar got it from was her Mabari. Starts with her and her dog head butting each other, then she just starts doing it to everyone.

By the time Rat Pack rolls around, Parsley is doing it too because she learned it from Oghren, who learned it from Partha, who learned it from a dog. And I think that’s beautiful.

[supercomplicatedperson]

I'm definitely not taking away from what youre trying to say, but I do have to point out how its not exactly fair to have site-wide statistics be the evidence for your argument when they can be used to show how most of the mysoginy can be rooted on the creators of the original media.

When you look at the stats and you see the most popular fandoms listed, most of them have a mayority male cast and don't exactly do a great job at developing their female characters well enough. So of course most of the ships are going to be between men.

It's not an inherent problem of the fans, if you take a chance and look through the fandoms of more recent media that have a more even split between genders and actually treat their female characters like people you'll see that the writters actually love writting about them. A good example is the Steven Universe fandom, where most of the characters identify as female:

This is from around 22,500 fics and around half of them have a f/f as a main pairing.

Or another show famous for having well developed female characters with a fairy even gender split. Buffy the Vampire Slayer's 41,800 fics:

The ships seem primarily het and pretty even on the queer end, and when you look at the number of times the characters appear, female characters appear just as often as male ones.

So when looking at the stats and you consider the fact that the biggest fandoms in AO3 are for media like the MCU, Harry Potter, Sherlock, Supernatural, Stranger Things, BOY BANDS. All of them are media that has an overwhelmingly male roster of characters and are famous for treating their female character's development badly, that and the fact that a huge chunk of their work is not exactly recent just does a lot to skew the statistics every year.

I'm not taking away from the various amounts of mysoginy you will find in a lot of fandoms, and I'm not trying to dismiss or pretend that there isn't mysoginy on the fandom's end, but a TON of people are in fandom to explore and play with already created and developed characters. So you can't blame them for not wanting to go through all of the work of actually creating one because the writers didn't.

every year the ao3 stats come out and every year people insist that the lack of women isn’t misogyny but because ‘most fic writers are female and therefore enjoy writing about men more’ and every year they don’t seem to understand that they themselves have just described a version of misogyny