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shout out to the people who DO look autistic

to the people who have different facial features from autism or conditions that often occur with autism

to the people who need padded equipment, gait trainers, or other highly noticeable aids

to the people who are ignored in favor of talking to their parents/guardians/carers

to the people who have been told they shouldn’t be seen in public because of their autism

to the people who are told they don’t exist by low support needs autistics

there is a place for you in the autistic community <3 [heart]

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autism awareness & autism acceptance not either or. not mutually exclusive. can coexist. need coexist.

“there enough awareness for autism already 🙄 we need acceptance”

ok. you aware of high support needs autism? aware what that even means? not “need reminder take meds need remind take shower” “high” support needs autism, but “need full physical help do bADLs lack danger awareness may accidentally hurt self or even kill self without support” high support needs autism? not just higher support needs people who can be independently online do advocacy, but those who need help from others even be online, or those who cannot be online at. all.?

aware of nonverbal nonspeaking people? not just nonverbal nonspeaking people who can write grammatically correct cannot tell apart base on writing. not just nonverbal nonspeaking people who can be online who can advocate online.

aware of nonverbal nonspeaking people who cannot communicate in way that easily understood, either for now, or ever? aware of nonverbal nonspeaking people without functional communication, aware of how without functional communication, how that drastically limit communication, even though behaviors are valid communication? aware of nonverbal nonspeaking people who may never use AAC fluently even with best support?

aware of technically verbal but very limited verbal autistics who may only able say wants & needs but not other things and certainly not online advocacy, “despite being verbal”?

aware of just how much our life depends on caregiver/carer/PCA/etc? aware how vulnerable that make us? aware of abuse from caregivers? aware of caregiver burnout from lack of support for caregivers, & how that impact our care we receive? have you even heard of term respite care? aware of those of us who cannot separate ourselves from caregiver? aware of those of us who cannot participate in autism community without caregiver?

aware of visibly autistic people? aware how we not automatically believed? aware how we often bear blunt of violence because we most easily identified target because we visible? aware visible =/= get support, aware that many those diagnosed severe who now adult so no longer qualify for services under 21 year old, languish in hospitals because nowhere to go? aware how long life saving necessary waitlists are? aware that even to this day parents have to fight school fight day service fight government fight insurance for them give their nonverbal nonspeaking child AAC & be properly taught how use it? actually, are you aware of how properly teach AAC to nonverbal nonspeaking, developmentally delayed child who may or may not have intellectual disability?

actually, aware of autistics with (correctly diagnosed) intellectual disability & how they make up big amount of autistic? aware of institutional systemic & legal impact of mental [r word] right & the human rights abuse justified using r word right? wait, you aware that r word come from old term for intellectual disability, that, actually, still in many laws because no one bothered updating, right? aware of what severe profound ID look like? and aware they real and they still human deserve education deserve life deserve care, yes?

aware of early diagnosis 20 30 or even 10 years ago, not same as now, even less resources & knowledge about autism now? aware that while gender race class 1000% impacted diagnoses, a lot of early diagnosed people early diagnosed because… they die without support unlocked by diagnosis, right? but also, aware that in old times, early diagnosis often did mean doom, not because autism bad or anything, but because severe lack of support & diagnosis can literally bar you from so many things including basic education?

aware that for many people in special education, which impact specific group of autistic people, they not get degree when graduate high school, they just get certificate, which limit their educational & employment opportunities & others?

aware of life saving importance and necessity of masking for autistic of color especially Black autistic people, despite stress inducing traumatic? aware that live in broken system be victim of hate crime & police brutality just as traumatic often even more traumatic than masking? aware that many Black & other parents of color forced to teach their child masking because of this?

are you aware of most marginalized autistic people? aware of leadership of most impacted?

aware you can and need to care about autistic experiences & form of autism you not experience? aware that you can and need to do that without try twist your experience into our experience into our words our community?

aware that advocacy goes beyond about you?

aware that you can’t speak for all autistic? aware that you shouldn’t speak for all autistic?

are you aware of when you need to stop talking & listen & amplify others? aware of when and how to decenter self?

aware that even this long post, barely scratch surface? still so much to say?

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I don't think so many fully verbal and semi verbal people understand how truly bad the "going nonverbal" thing is. It's not just about being incorrect. Our hashtags have literally been taken over, we literally find it hard to find others like us, in spaces FOR US.

Being nonverbal is such a huge thing it makes people so much more at risk of being victimised, this needs to be heard about more but no the hashtags full of just people saying they go nonverbal???

You do not realise the severe harm you have caused the nonverbal community. Millions of people thinking going nonverbal is a thing then saying it themselves and using OUR keywords and hashtags we could be using to find others like us. I literally am misunderstood by people when I say I'm nonverbal I have sometimes in the past thought I made a friend who is nonverbal only to find they aren't they just experienced verbal shutdowns. I and people like me deserve a community.

The damage that has been caused by people saying they go nonverbal and saying their moments are called nonverbal will take years to undo and take back our hashtags and keywords and word fully. and thats if people actually start listening.

And before you say "well I would but I have no alternative to it" STOP MAKING YOUR SUPPORT FOR MY COMMUNITY CONDITIONAL. YOU CAN STOP DOING A HARMFUL THING AND FEEL DISCOMFORT IN NOT BEING ABLE TO LABEL A SHORT AND TEMPORARY THING. I am tired of people saying this EVERY SINGLE TIME I call you out. And then, the alternative is "verbal shutdown". But even if there was no alternative, I do not owe you comfort, I do not owe you an alternative, to get you to listen, the first thing you think about should not be yourself, it should be thinking wow I am sad this is so much harm to the nonverbal community.

And also. No, "nonspeaking" is not an alternative. Do not take more of our words.

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the whole idea of “stay in school!!!!” is great and all but hard to hear when you’re someone who couldn’t stay in school

so here’s a post for every person who’s had to drop out of school. whether it was due to illness or money or just because you didn’t want to be there, you’re no less of a person for dropping out. you own your own life, and you’re just as important as people who were able to graduate 

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Try two. - DO NOT VOTE ON THIS IF YOU ARE NOT SEMIVERBAL/SPEAKING

[pt: try two. - do not vote on this if you are not semiverbal/speaking]

(can vote if was previously semi speaking but regressed to nonspeaking.)

Please rb for bigger sample size , even if ur not semiverbal!

if you voted on the original post please vote again on this I'm so sorry for the screw up T^T

also I cannot respond to comments for some god forsaken reason, if you have questions please put them in a rb and I will answer them

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ii have tgat punchable/stabbable face bros

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me when i realize a paracetamol overdose could cause liver damage and liver damage can cause weight loss and death B)

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OOHOMY ITS THE PUPPYBOY YAYAYAYYA

₊˚⊹ 𐂯🪽🐾 ₊˚⊹ 𐂯😈🐾

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yes it’s 4:30 am no i don’t want to talk about it

bonus if you guess what jason’s shirt is referencing

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KITTIEEEIEIE

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what else would u be lmao

still shocked that some of you see me as a woman

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aYipPIE!!

Snugels adn feelssafe yay:3

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kinda paints ur nails affectingataly

Puts on lap stroekes head

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thank u felix

urso preciosu yuanno tjat kido

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(late) birthday gift 4 @burning-sol

completed : 12-4-2024 made in : Microsoft Paint

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ii could hold them for a little bit (platonically)

boobshurt

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That Ghost has nightmares isn’t a secret….. when he told Soap, he began to read to read to him.

At first it was books, lots of peaceful fairy tales. Then it was specialist books, then just magazines or newspapers. Now it's enough if Johnny softly talks him to sleep.