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Hello, No.

Hello, No.

No is the absence of consent.

No reaches out

No Reaches through

Regardless of the well planned future.

It lies exposed.

It stands determined.

The short of it’s skirt.

The red of its lips

The soft sheen of skin

The luxurious tumble of hair.

Sweet cloud of perfume.

Still cannot disguise No.

No stands before the throng

Of onlookers

Of commentators

And resists the soft, cajoling,

“Seeking- to-charm” mannerisms

Aimed at diminishing No.

No is unbending

Inflexible, immovable.

It bears the skewed perspectives

The cross examinations.

The alternative facts.

No resounds.

No attempts to resist shaming.

But no one is listening.

-tcabiles 6/26/17

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“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

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sometimes u need a little alone time to re-build urself and remember who the fuck you are and that’s okay

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Dead to Me, 2019- Netflix

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Last night, at the The Hollywood Reporter’s 2018 Women in Entertainment Gala, the stand-up comic called out “good men” — who she calls “the Jimmys” — that distinguish themselves from the Harvey Weinstein’s of the world.  The Jimmys often insist that other men should just stop being creepy.

“As if that’s the problem,” Gadsby said. “Men are not creepy. Do you know what’s creepy? Spiders, because we don’t know how they move. Rejecting the humanity of a woman is not creepiness; it is misogyny.”

Gadsby clarified that she still believes men can take a stand and help fight against misogyny, however, these seemingly “good men” are seldom consistent in their stances when it comes to their interactions with women.

“We need to talk about how men will draw a different line for every different occasion,” she said. Especially when their behavior is revealed to be anything but “good,” these men seem to always have a well-rehearsed line, ready to go. “They have a line for the locker room; a line for when their wives, mothers, daughters, and sisters are watching; another line for when they’re drunk and fratting; another line for nondisclosure; a line for friends; and a line for foes.”

The comedian continued, “You know why we need to talk about this line between good men and bad men? Because it’s only good men who get to draw that line. And guess what? All men believe they are good.”

This allows for good men do bad things and still believe that they’re good, because they haven’t crossed the line, since they, themselves, moved it.

“Women should be in control of that line, no question.”

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Say it with me:

I’m doing this for myself. I’m not doing this to impress anyone else or live up to someone else’s standards. I’m doing this for me.

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What the fuck is the universe trying to teach me right now

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“People, I have discovered, are layers and layers of secrets. You believe you know them, that you understand them, but their motives are always hidden from you, buried in their own hearts. You will never know them, but sometimes you decide to trust them.”

— Veronica Roth

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trauma culture is craving human contact but also wanting to turn inside out at the thought of it lmao

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I find comfort in knowing that people who I’ve cut out of my life are left with this version of me that simply doesn’t exist anymore. The memory and image of me that they have isnt who I am, and I’m happy that it’s that way. I’ve changed and grown and they wont ever get the chance to know the better version of myself that I’ve become during their absence.

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“You just have to say to yourself “I’m not willing to accept anything less for myself than what I deserve. I am smart. I am beautiful. I am a good woman, and I deserve to be happy.”

— Amari Soul

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Exactly. 

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“Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it.”

— Rabindranath Tagore

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“Keep a light, hopeful heart. But expect the worst.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

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YES, Jameela Jamil! Women are strong and women are powerful 💪🏽