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sometimes i think about how i thought i was going to lose it to tsmwel and instead ended up having a mental breakdown to waolom during the ttpd set like the levels of therapy i would need to unpack that reaction

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everything in this life is temporary. except that fandom hyperfixation from when you were 14. that thang will be with you forever there's no escaping.

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I realized that asking myself why am I doing something often makes me see and understand my possible triggers and issues. Whether is eg. commenting on something in a certain way or behaving in another, especially to please/follow others (without realizing, we do search for confirmations/validations, acceptance, salvation and love more often than we realize and in the smallest things; it's not bad per se at all, it's human need, but we have to be aware of it all and accept it, so to search for it in the right places while not neglecting too much our own beliefs and values or at least, we need to know that we're just momentarily saving ourselves by acting that way on our triggers/fears and not entirely renouncing to who we are and forgive ourselves). And this is helping me change my perspective on myself too, on how I can help myself more in particular. I'm not doing this to criticize myself more, at all: that cannot be the point. I'm trying to be kinder with my younger self as they only wanted to feel safe and loved as much as I do now. I only want to accept myself more, even the so called "bad" sides (they're just hurt sides, and they cannot feel better if I keep pushing them away).

Ofc done too often and too much only leads to stress and hyper vigilance which is not good, therefore I ask myself this question when I find out I act on autopilot, when I get stressed out, when I have a sudden *emotion-based* reaction that soon after I don't agree with or leaves me confused cause yes, triggers yk... And it often works looking at others too, seeing their triggers and reactions. And removing from those any possible meaning about me, just in case. Anyway, this way I am learning more about *my* emotions too and how I can accept them and feel them, allowing them some space to just be without judging them (and myself) too harshly. There's no perfection, no perfect way to act or be, and no way we can close off our emotions (and all the triggers) from our life... so we may just live, try to not worry too much and hug ourselves often and well. We're doing our best, and that's enough. The world is already harsh, let's be a bit more forgiving... with ourselves at least.

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Two job-hunting resources that changed my life:

This cover letter post on askamanger.com. A job interview guide written by Alison Green, who runs askamanager.

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Reblog to give prev a fucking break holy shit y’all

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Are YOU gonna let THE GOVERNMENT tell YOU what YOUR GENDER is? That doesn't sound like Life Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness to me! PROTECT your individual FREEDOMS and call your senator: we want the GOVERNMENT to stay OUT OF OUR PANTS! GENDER FREEDOM NOW!

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Something about a 'nativity-themed escape room' is so very strange to me.

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OMG I FOUND THE HOODIE HERE!!

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people clowned on this line but then act shocked when no one lasts an hour in the asylum where they raised her 🤷🏻‍♀️

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It’s weird how everyone hating you when you’re nine years old still affects your self esteem when you’re 26 like yeah nobody came to my birthday party but that was like 17 years ago why is it stopping me from going to a gay bar

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The people who police your gender will police your gender even if you're cis.

Eat them.

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i think "it takes a village" shouldn't be just "to raise a child". we should understand it takes a village to do literally everything we do. all day every day. without our communities we would not have drinking water or electricity or clean streets or food or shelter or anything. we cannot do any thing alone. we just can't. and with that comes the fact that you are not alone. you already have a community, seek to be an active part of it, you will feel better. reach out and thank them, they're happy to have you too. i promise. it takes a village to live.

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if something doesn't go the way you wanted it to it's because you didn't do enough obsessive mind rituals about it

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Some days I remember Taylor wrote the 1 and hoax on the same day and then it’s all I can think about

link to the interview with Aaron this quote is from

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The way the conversation about men and boys feeling left behind by the culture keeps being presented as a result of a cultural push to uplift girls and women and the fact that women now perform so well in school & the workplace is genuinely scary and deranged why are people allowing this framing to persist